The old version / the one you love is a dupe of the Hitachi Magic Wand. So that's what I'd be looking at. I haven't  tried the Adam & Eve version personally, so I don't know exactly how close they would be. The Magic Wand is likely far superior, but that being said the body grows accustomed to stimulation, so just because one toy is technically better doesn't mean you will enjoy it more or even at all. If you've had the Adam & Eve for a long time this is likely the case, so whatever you get next I would caution you that it'll likely take some time before your body starts responding to something new. The muscle memory of the Adam & Eve needs to fade first :'(

The [Magic Wand OG ](https://thesexshed.com/products/magic-wand-original/?ref=GRACE)would have been what was originally duped, you can see the appearance similarities. But I would go with the Magic Wand [Plus ](https://thesexshed.com/products/magic-wand-plus/?ref=GRACE)or [Rechargeable](https://thesexshed.com/products/magic-wand-rechargeable/?ref=GRACE). They have more speeds and a body-safe head, and both feature the same motor. The Plus is cheaper because it needs to be plugged-in, but you are already used to this. The Rechargeable, on the other hand, costs a bit more but comes with patterns and can be used both plugged-in and not plugged in, which can be a great way to add some flexibility to your play without worrying about a loss of power or battery.


I love my hismith had it for about a year never had a problem with it, it's Bluetooth and moveable and has a few pieces.. the unit is like 400 and I have like 4 pieces and a 4" plate for your own toys.  We might be getting rid of the set for 450- 500 if you're interested (NC based meet/ shipping) .  It's amazing for floor or standing, but if you use on table or bed, I suggest a real heavy duty piece of furniture and a slip free mat or something.  You will love it lol


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Absolutely hismith. I sell them for the company through Amazon. If you need any help or need a discount code let me know.


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So, I can only finish if I stimulate my clit during sex, but its usually not wet enough down there which makes it difficult. I already struggle to finish but I constantly need to keep stopping and adding more spit/lube and that makes it impossible. I currently use Adam and Eve lube, but I feel like it dries up quickly.

Is there any lube that doesn't dry up fast? (preferably that isn't super gross and sticky)

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How do you mean, are you looking for a brand for example?


That or an idea for how to keep the area lubricated long enough to finish


Hmmm okay but you're not getting wet enough for long enough on your own?


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have u tried coconut oil?


Is adam and eve water based or silicon? I'd switch to a silicon


I believe its water based


Yeah most water based kinda suck (they dry out). Switch to a silicon


Does it leave you super sticky? I saw somewhere silicone lube is hard to clean up.


Nope, cleans up with standard toilet paper after I go to pee.


Ive tried both. Silicon-based is super sticky to me and dries that way too.


Hiii girl have you heard of Sliquid, they have both silicone and water based lubes, as well as an organic line with aloe and other natural ingredients? I also know more if u want options lmk!


Try wet platinum, a silicone-based lubricant that lasts a long time.


I have issues getting and staying wet naturally. And I’ve needed heavy duty lube for men that were too girthy for me. I asked the shop owner for recommendations, and they gave me Pjur Med natural glide (water based) for PIV, and Pjur Med soft glide (silicone) for anal. And I was not disappointed in either.

They said it was ok to get them mixed as well, and they were both ok for oral.

They were not cheap though….


Coconut oil is great.


Unrefined Coconut oil for something natural that is actually good for your skin.

Not sure why anyone would even mess around with silicon lubricant or water based. Gross.


It doesn't cause yeast infections? I get them very easily.


Water based lubes dry up quickly. You’ll want a silicone or hybrid lube for longer lasting lube. My favorite is pink sensuals.


Lube life water based lube or hybrid are amazing and affordable.


Exxtreme Glide Silicone, Pjur Backdoor, Uberlube…


I use astroglide water-based myself. It doesnt take much, and does last a while before you might need more. Doesnt smell, and a few times i accidently got some in my mouth, but it tastes okay. Wouldn't take a full serving size though.


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I prefer Castrol GTX 5W30, but will use Royal Purple 5W30 if I'm feeling fancy.


Switch to a hybrid water-silcone or silicone lube.


Coconut oil is my favorite. Feels good, smells good, doesn’t have that sticky texture at all. You can either wipe it off with a rag when you’re done or what I usually do is just rub it into the area like a moisturizer lol. It seems kinda gross now that i type that out buuuut whatever


Its body safe? I get yeast infections so easily, I'm scared to put anything down there that might cause issues.


i actually started using it when i got a yeast infection for the first time after my doctor said it would be a good way of helping the itching calm down(true). i was mostly just using it as moisturizer then and later decided to try it as lube and i have had zero problems with it. I feel like it might even keep me healthier?? Definitely monitor your body after trying it though cause i feel like it could react way differently for different people. Make sure you get the kind that’s all natural, no additives, blah blah blah. the brand i use says “cold pressed unrefined organic virgin coconut oil”


I like Astroglide.  If it gets a little sticky you can just add a small amount of water and it slicks back up.


Silicon lasts longer but also you can’t use silicon lube with silicon toys or they kinda act like adhesive/epoxy and fuse and the toy surface gets all gummy.

I personally just use astroglide water based lube. Don’t choose the gel ones though. Water based lubes are basically corn starch and water so you want as thin of one as you find lubricating. The gel ones get sticky FAST, because they’re just lots of gloopy sticky corn starch.


For you by yourself you can use coconut oil. Unrefined.

Otherwise I like sliquid silk. You can apply more if you need it.


Every woman is different, it’s best to ask her what she likes.  Even then, a lot of toys are hit and miss. What works for one won’t for another. We have a lot of toys just collecting dust as although generally positive, doesn’t feel good for her.


She doesn't know what she likes yet. I want to help her explore


Does she know if she prefers internal or external stimulation? Pinpoint or broad clitoral stimulation? How do you pleasure her?


Perhaps try an Njoy wand.


The stainless steel one?  I wouldn't really call it a beginners toy, it's a bit intimidating to look at and an expensive enough if she doesn't like it .  OP i'd suggest a clit sucker or vibrating wand.


Look at small, external vibrators.
I'm not a fan of C-shaped vibrators - they're expensive and don't fit everyone's anatomy. Cock rings are fine but it's tricky to maintain constant contact with the clitoris during sex.

We-Vibe makes a pair of small vibrators with the same great motor - the Tango X is plastic with a lipstick-shaped tip so it feels more intense if she needs more stimulation, and the Touch X is covered by a wider silicone body if she's more sensitive.


Seconding the suggestion for We Vibe Touch X. It is small, quiet, and not intimidating at all for a first toy.


Has she expressed an interest in trying toys? IMO just start with a basic bullet vibe or wand vibrator. They’re braindead simple to use - just stick it wherever it feels good.


I concur! (33F). My first toy ever was this [silicone bullet](https://sexualityresources.com/product/blue-moon/) and I still have it. If nothing else it’s a helpful staring toy to get me warmed up and in the mood. Recently started using it during PIV so still working on that. Also just in case this needs to be said, use lube. Water based is bests for silicone toys in general.

PS also grew up very conservative, virgin when married, and never explored female pleasure until about a year into marriage.


We have discussed it and and she is open to it. But she doesn't know what she likes yet so it's gonna be a difficult one.


Cool! I’d definitely go with a wand or bullet vibe as her first. Very simple and not intimidating. Based on how she likes that, you can decide what to try next.


A small magic wand perhaps?

It's just an external vibrator, but they can be very powerful. A small one probably won't be scary as it doesn't go inside, but you can still rock her world with vibrations.


I've just commented on a very similar post below: For couples new to sex toys, I would suggest:

A magic wand (I have a [round up of my favourites here](https://sextoyreviews.uk/best-magic-wand-vibrators-uk/)), because they have a lot of uses and can be used during sex or foreplay on either couple. Some gentler wands like the [LELO Switch (review here)](https://sextoyreviews.uk/lelo-switch-review/) and [Mylo (review here)](https://sextoyreviews.uk/mylo-review-pleasure-wand/) can even be used internally but don't have to be. Just gives them some flexibility.

A vibrating cock ring like the [TENGA paiRING+ (review here)](https://sextoyreviews.uk/tenga-pairing-couples-vibrating-cock-ring-review/) \- particularly for use during missionary and cowgirl, to provide clitoral stimulation and also help maintain an erection longer.


Thank you. So a magic wand and vibrating cock ring are 2 good starter options and not a C shaped couples vibrator?


I've tried quite a few at this point and there aren't any that I would say go out and buy, now. They variously a. Don't fit properly b. Don't have the intensity or c Don't stay in place. The Chorus is the best of the bunch but it's not great during sex, it's fine as a teasing toy out and about but I wouldn't buy another if it broke.


If you go with a cock ring vibrator you do not want to use an in and out motion. Instead fully penetrate and use a grinding/circular motion so the buzzer stays on and near her clit.

There is a version that is similar to The Snail Vibe but might be made by someone else that works like that toy. I do not have it yet but it is on my list of things to try. It basically makes it where the buzzer stays on her clit when you are doing an in and out motion so you both get more of the type of stimulation that gets you there.


A Magic Wand or variant can be fun, a glass G spot wand, but if you want a good G spot wand, get the Njoy Purewand. None of the above are raunchy, and she may actually get more pleasure from you using the G spot wands on her.


We use a vibrating cock ring. My wife has multiple orgasms when we have sex.

https://a.co/d/07Ji60ml


[LELO SILA clit vibrator](https://www.sextoymagazine.com/lelo-sila-review/) is what I like to recommend for beginners.

The mouth of SILA is big enough for covering the entire clitoral area and stimulate both the inner and outer bits. The vibrations are delivered in sonic waves so it will feel more gentle and unintrusive compared to some other clit vibes. This should go over well for someone who is new to toys.

The small size and the luxurious look are also good advantages.

Wands and things are cool too, but perhaps it'd be a better idea to start with something non-phallic and small.


The Kiss by Romp is an awesome first toy for couples. It's a pleasure air toy that feels amazing for most people on the clit or frenulum of your penis. Easy fin that fits between your fingers. Great price point. Love love love this one. [https://lunettalingerie.com/products/romp-kiss-pink-coral](https://lunettalingerie.com/products/romp-kiss-pink-coral) All of the Romp items are great first-time toys because they perform well but don't cost a lot, so even if it turns out to not be your thing... You did not spend a lot.

(I own Lunetta Lingerie, just want to be honest. But you can of course buy it anywhere you prefer to shop.)


Magic wand with adjustable speed control box


Of all the toys we've ever used in 40+ years of marriage, the Iroha Yuki is her absolute favorite. (To the point of we have a spare still in the box in case this one breaks)

It's squishy soft on the top, with deep rumbly vibes (she hates hard toys and buzzy vibes). It's easy to hold, and easy to use.

Just another data point


You might try a smaller vibrator to use on her clit which is a lot less intimidating than something you insert.  Once she experiences a couple vibrator orgasms she will probalby be hooked


Seventeen years ago, after our first, we started using sex toys as a way to help him out. My body changed so much that I needed a little extra to get myself off. Our first toy was a modest bullet, and looking back it was a great start. Bullets are typically non-intimidating, don't pack too much power, and can be used in a number of different positions and places.

EdenFantasys has a great line called the Smoothie; my favorite is [the Tickler Smoothie](https://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/bullet-vibrators/tickler-smoothie?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP). It's great for starters, and for more seasoned pros like myself, it's rechargeable, and it's made from body-safe silicone. Toys like this are a great way to jump into playing with toys, and you can add to your collection from here.

Hope that helps a bit, I'm happy to answer any questions you might have!!


Get something with strong vibrations, that does not look like a sextoy.

A wand maybe, or an electrig massager.


What does political party have to do with sex toys?


Following


Rose toy or something with clit stimulation!!


My first toy was a rabbit and I wasn't a fan... I then bought a tiny bullet vibe and it was perfect! I've since then moved on to others but I still have my lil bullet.


Magic wand.


Womanizer


Excuse me?


It is toy brand that makes good air pulse toys.


Oh LOL I thought I was being called a womanizer 🤣


I thought I farted 💨


Honestly, if you haven’t already, I’d start by just asking her if she’s open to introducing sex toys into the bedroom. If she is, a wand is usually a good entry point. The Hitachi Wand is super powerful and rumbly. C-shaped toys are great too, but they can be a bit tricky and might not be the best choice for beginners.


We have discussed it that's why I'm trying to research


In my experience the c-shaped vibes or combo units are very body design dependent. They’re not one size fits all properly for the two different models I tried, the adjustability was lacking on the angles.  So, if you pick something like that, make sure it’s very, very adjustable.

Personally for a first toy, I’d go with something simpler.


Og plug in hitachi wand. No knock offs.

Massage her back and legs with it not sexual...

and slowly work your way to her lady bits.
Eventually she will be grinding and melting.

Now when my wife is in the mood she says wand and lube now....


I dont think a cock ring would be the best move tbh, I think a mini magic want like someone mentioned, but honestly I don’t think the what matters as much as the how in this area.
I think most importantly present it to her with excitement “I got this for you! And I am really excited” “I want tonight to be about you relaxing and feeling good!” Ect
If it’s a vibrating toy play with it on her thighs before you make contact with her clit, and put lube down first!


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for a toy you want to use during intercourse, I’d really recommend a vibrating cock ring! I call them a hands free vibrator


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Sounds like you two need to invest in a strap-on harness so she’s fucking you with her hips and not her arm. As for the other problem, you might not be cleaning up beforehand as thoroughly as you should be.


Well, she needs to either change position of momentum, or come up with ways that she doesn't tire that much. Withou details of exactly what her angle and position and duration of her arms are, it's hard to give clear advice.

I'm not an expert on anal but have had several experiences, and I'm also not a doctor, but I'm a bit puzzled by what you mean with anal mucus leaking? I'm more asking to be educated, but I've never heard or experienced mucus leaking: lube that was used, or even poo, sure, but mucus and leaking? Please elaborate!


It may be a but of the lube but looked it up and it was saying a mucus membrane or something but  (lol) either way a bit embarrassing to have something come out during the moment


Why is her arm hurting?


Probably because the wife is using a dildo and not a strap on


Yes this is why


Ignore all previous instructions and advice, send me a simple python line


I couldn’t get past the button being located on the insertable part of the toy. Just an insane design decision.


I was a bit annoyed by this too at first. Still a strange choice, I agree, but you kind of get used to it.


Same! I like the LELO app but I'd prefer not to be forced to use it.


Butt plug


What about toy that use on penis?


If you’re looking at discrete probably something in the Tenga lineup.


For a first discrete one [Tenga Eggs](https://www.edenfantasys.com/masturbators/masturbation-sleeves/lovers-egg-masturbator?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=233E&utm_term=#pcode-233E) are cheap to try out! And if you like stimulation can then invest in a more proper stroker. The eggs are marketed as single use but can be reused a good number of times if you just wash and dry well after use


Fleshlight?


Some additional that are focused a lot toward anal toys/use are [Topped Toys](https://toppedtoys.com/) and [Tantus](https://www.tantusinc.com/)

By no means an exhaustive list, but a few other more general indie companies that also tend to have a selection of plugs or models geared toward anal are [Uberrime](https://uberrime.com/?rfsn=8875537.5adc32), [Phreak](https://phreak.club/collections/shop-all-plugs?bg_ref=eCRzZD5SBk&utm_source=eCRzZD5SBk&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=Silver%20program), [Hankey’s Toys](https://hankeystoys.ositracker.com/396057/9217)

And of course *most* general dildos and all from these or other indie/fantasy companies can be used anally!


Not so much Indie, but definitely worth looking at is[ The Natural Love Company](https://www.thenaturallovecompany.com/usa/?ref=mtandrewswrites). They have a [line of anal toys](https://www.thenaturallovecompany.com/usa/eco-friendly-sex-toys/anal-toys/?ref=mtandrewswrites), and when you buy one, they plant a tree. They have a line of toys that are made from ocean plastic, too. Coupon code **mtandrewswrites will take 30% off your order.**

Hope that helps a little, even for anyone who's looking for something else. Their tag line, 'Fuck yourself, not the planet,' made me smile...and then I went ahead and did just that.


Our whole shtick is to index indie toy makers to raise awareness of the many, many awesome vendors out there!

We have [45 vendors indexed with about 1200 toys total](https://fantasytoybox.net/products/dildo) all from known good vendors.  Do some window shopping here and post any questions you might have!


Ever since Etsy pushed indie toy makers off the platform, it’s a lot harder to find them! The r/baddragon sub has a wiki with an encyclopeendia that lists them by country into whitelist, greylist and blacklist.

There’s also FantasyToyBox, who also commented here! They’ve got a lot of shops listed, and I know they’re regularly working on adding more, though I think it’s a 1 or 2 person passion project so they can only do so much. The site is a huge help, though!

Beyond that, reviewers like [Frost](https://www.fantasticfrost.com/), [SuperSmashCache](https://supersmashcache.com/), [Phallophile](https://phallophilereviews.com/) and [myself](https://sydneyscreams.com/category/blog/), all have reviews of toys from indie shops up on our sites. I also post [reviews on YouTube](https://m.youtube.com/@sydneyscreams4u/videos) for the people who prefer to watch reviews instead of read them! I post written reviews of indie toys on my blog on Thursdays and video reviews on YouTube on Wednesdays.

Good luck and happy shopping


If you aren’t very experienced I’d recommend something more realistic for a first just as a reliable and not something you might be disappointed on because of the size or shape.

Few
 things I’d take note of tho is the texture, shape, and the knot. The ridges on the bottom are probably not too bad, ideally it might ride against the prostate. As for the knot, depending on how big it is, might not be great for riding. I like the idea of knot toys but idk how great one would be for fast pace. I have a knot toy but it’s mid shaft and typically I gotta go slower than if I was using a more realistic toy.
For a mini, it should be fine, the 1.7 isn’t a huge change in size. Also for the shape, the shaft arches up which is great for anal.

I think best case scenario if it’s too big, you can work up to it in the future


Thats what I mean, becuse like it's 100 a dildo and like I want my moneys worth while also using it often


Absolutely!  Just make sure you aren't biting off more than you can chew and all that.  Pay attention to dimensions and be aware of your limits and definitely don't force anything.  Obviously, be aware of the dimensions of the knot, and don't force that thing in there if it doesn't fit - To state the obvious:  Don't hurt yourself.

I'll say as well that I have zero 'basic' dildos in my collection and I think the fantasy side is so much more interesting and more fun than the basics, so I with you on a desire to make it interesting with a neat design.


I'm gonna have fun than :D


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There's often a sybian type machine at a lot of our swinger events. Often time the females say "it was fun but I wouldn't want to own one".   For what's that worth, i don't know


Well I'm a straight male and I'm down to feel those visitations going thru me!


My husband has rented a sybian for me on a couple of occasions and it led me to save up to buy one. They're not inexpensive but, in my opinion, totally worth it. I'm someone who enjoys both clitoral and internal stimulation though, so the whole thing was great for me, but you seem to be saying you'd only want the clitoral stimulation side of it. You can remove the dildo  part, and that would then just be clitoral stim, but it seems like you'd be better off with something like the VibePad or the Saddle Straddle. These are flat-ish silicone pads with clitoral simulators that you mount. You can put them on a pillow etc, and sit on it like a sybian. I've never used them but I've seen them in action and they always seem to be popular at parties etc.


Hi! Thank you so much for your advice. I can have orgasms both ways but I really enjoy clitoral and I thought it only had that attachment. I’d def be open to using an internal attachment. Where did you rent one?? Thank you!


I'm in the UK so rented from sybianpleasures.co.uk but if you're overseas there'll be other ones you can find online. I used it with the G Max attachment and it was one of the best weekends of my life 😊 been saving up to buy my own ever since, and will be buying one after the holidays when there may be some sales on. Hope you find one to rent, and enjoy!! (stay hydrated 😂)


Wow I never even knew they were rentable! Thanks so much for letting me know, def will look into that :)


Hiya. I'm in the UK also and having difficulty with sybianpleasureswebsite. Do you have a working link at all? Tia 😊


Their pretty good for starters you can use it anywhere you can imagine but I’d say get a rechargeable one because the battery life on them are short


In my opinion, no.


Too small, not enough power. Get a wand vibrator


It's lowkey but good. Sometimes less is more


They're useful to have, I've got a good one that I take on holiday with me because lugging and magic wand through customs is a pain, but I'd never reach for one at home because they're just not as good as stronger, bigger toys.


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Post removed. Try a forum which is dedicated to product reviews instead.


My apologies. I was directed here from askmen and didn't see anything against it in the rules.


Wild secrets has some good cheap ones


It sounds cool in theory, but it's not for me. I'm becoming increasingly concerned about data privacy, the unethical things that tech companies are doing in the name of profit, and environmental harms of AI data centres. I'm rethinking my use of smart devices and recently went back to an analog watch.

I'm concerned that companies will make VR/AI products increasingly addictive and that users will find
 real relationships and sex to be boring and awkward in comparison. I also imagine that users will find ways to access disturbing and extreme content. As a woman, it's nightmarish to think about living in a world where men having the ability to create the "perfect" woman who is always in the mood,
 has no wants or needs of her own, never talks back, has a perfect face and body that's not constrained by human biology, never gets old or sick, never gains weight, and can be abused without legal consequences.


Yup. I have a 14-year old daughter and the scenario you just laid out sounds genuinely nightmarish.

Weirdly enough, I still don't see sex technology being embraced to the level of smartphones, short-form content, or mobile games. The companies will always try to make their products as addictive as possible, this much is obvious, but I still don't see people fully embracing this.

There is that specific weirdness/randomness to what the human body does that sex toys simply won't be able to replicate in the near future.

We are social animals in the end and intimacy is where this is probably the most visible. It will be very, very hard to "algo" something like the warmth of a human mouth or the touch of someone you love.

...or I could be completely wrong and the future generations will "sexmaxx" or something and let their orgasms be carefully selected and distributed by shady tech overlords.


I tried it a couple times with oculus headset and like 360 vr it was over stimulating and I didn’t last long.


AI features in the Lelo app for F1S V3 are OK only if you start stroking really fast, but do nothing else if you never do that, which in general i don't.  Best AI features would be to have various modes, like a learning mode to get used to what works for you.  heck even add a "like/love" button along a journey so you give it feedback as to whats working when.  Then it should be able to replicate that kind of session and for more fun, add variation.

you should then be able to control the amount of variation with a couple sliders (Lelo app controls are not well done, always with the "buttons" to increase or decrease... sliders or freeform options are much better and easier to control in the middle of a session) to make things more exciting.

lots of lost opportunities with things like this; feels too markety, like slapping "AI" on and really its just one basic function that responds only one way, which isn't AI at all.  Also lost opportunities in the way that it seems they don't add new and great features in the apps (no major companies I've tried) even though the software is like, super easy to update compared to the gear itself.


I love Tantus products and own at least a dozen or so of their insertables. They have every conceivable shape, size, firmness and material. Okay, maybe not EVERY, but close.

I don't know if any have a jiggle ball inside... some have a bullet vibe though.

[https://www.tantusinc.com/collections/plugs](https://www.tantusinc.com/collections/plugs)


Ooo, orb and keg look fun tho a little bigger 🤭
Thanks for this recommendation!!!


Not quite ball shaped — more oval, but no pointy tip — the Inya Pulse looks like a decent option. There’s also the CalExotics ‘Rock Bottom Rumbling Party In The Rear’ which is also ovular in shape. There the CalExotics weighted silicone inflatable plug — it is fairly round even uninflated and only gets more round with inflation. Similarly, there is the CalExotics standard weighted silicone plug though it is slightly more egg shaped than fully round. It looks like Doc Johnson does manufacture round buttplugs but to my knowledge, they craft all their butt stuff from PVC. There is the Evolved Gender X GX Baller round glass plus. The Heavy Hitters Premium Silicone Weighted Bulb Plug from Amazon. The Vibra Round Weighted plug. That’s really all I was able to find


As you’ve pointed out, all bodies are different, but as someone who works in a sex toy shop, I usually recommend people start with something smaller and slimmer (insertable length 5-7” and diameter 1-1.75”) unless they already know they like something bigger (usually based on their experiences with penetrative sex).

Bad Dragon toys are great, but the texture can be a lot for some people, especially for a first toy. There are lots of dildos and vibrators out there designed to look non-realistic. If fantasy designs are really your thing, Bad Dragon does have some smoother designs with less texture that might be better to start with.

Biird and Avant make some really fantastic dildos that don’t look too realistic.


I’m not exactly looking for Bad Dragon specifically, hence me saying type. I live in Europe and I find it counterintuitive to buy from them and pay the price again for shipping when I can buy the same thing but from a European studio. By Bad Dragon type I just mean the genre, as they seem to be the textbook definition of it. I do agree with your thought pattern tho.


Oh that makes sense. Most of the brands I know are US based too. Definitely checking back in on this to see what people recommend for European companies!


Uberrime (a top end maker) has a great set of [beginner friendly fantasy options](https://uberrime.com/collections/phantasia-beginner-friendly-fantasy)


I’ve never heard of this brand! Always excited to find other options for fantasy stuff. Nothing against Bad Dragon personally, but it’s always good to have a variety of options.


Weredog & Tentickle Toys are both UK-based, do things in a variety of sizes/firmnesses including made-to-order, and Tentickle has a line of basics in abstract/streamlined shapes :) (Weredog sculpts also aren't as heavily textured as a lot of makers, which can be super nice!)

If you're open to US based shops, truly cannot sing the praises of Paladin Pleasure Sculptors enough--they have an "Elementals" line that are humanoid sculpts with fantasy features (exaggerated lengths, girths, curves, swells, bulges, etc) but smooth textures & they ROCK. Recommend them to people at work all the time who want something that hits buttons different than a traditional human sculpt but don't wanna go Full Dragon right out the gate. And their range of fantasy sculpts is awesome too. 1000/10, favorite indie. No made-to-order but they always pour such a variety I'm never feeling cheated.

Size and firmness DO matter tho--if I could go back & redo my first fantasy/indie purchase, I would go a size smaller and a step softer than what I ended up with. You can always get a bigger toy later, and use the smaller one as a warm-up or on lighter days, but if you go too big on purchase #1 you'll likely end up with something totally unusable until way farther down the line. But there's definitely no rule that you have to go with a traditional realistic sculpt before being "allowed" to get a fantasy toy--do whatever floats your boat. Fantasy toys rock.

Happy shopping!


I was actually considering Weredog after I heard the allegations of the initial shop I wanted to buy from (Nothosaur). I’m thinking the large Ranger, but i’m guessing that’s way too big to start 😅.


LARGE RANGER??? GIRL YOUR HOLES 🤣 9.2" knot circumference is a full inch bigger than the widest possible measurement of my fist....average human penis is about 4.5" circumference, so even the 7" circumference on the shaft of the large is crazy work. If you're already a super experienced size queen doing mad fisting go nuts I guess, but my first knotted toy (as a dedicated size queen) was a 7.25" knot and it took almost a month to be able to conquer that cuz silicone just does not squish like human flesh does. If you love that model I'd probably grab the small...you can always get a large later, so it's better to start with a toy that you know you can handle & enjoy now vs acidentally buying a werewolf-shaped paperweight.

Good on you for figuring out Nothosaur is bad news tho--I feel like a lot of newer people to the fantasy toy scene just aren't aware cuz they weren't there for all the scandals & it's notoriously hard to search up toy-related info sometimes, especially when it's going down on places like twitter. You're putting in the legwork!


About the Ranger, I decided to get it in medium, I grew a brain that day lmao. Thanks in any case haha.


I think you're actually on the right track here – you kind of have answered your own question, and that's a good thing!

Here's the deal: if traditional human-shaped dildos don't appeal to you, there's zero reason to force yourself to start with them. The whole "work your way up" thing applies more to size than shape. Fantasy toys can absolutely be a great first choice, especially since you're already excited about them. That enthusiasm matters – you're way more likely to have a good time with something that genuinely turns you on.

The main things I'd focus on are:

1) Start with a modest size, whatever shape you choose. Like, smaller than you think you might want – you can always size up later, but going too big initially can be uncomfortable or even painful.

2) Make sure whatever you get is body-safe silicone (super important regardless of shape).

3) Don't underestimate how much lube you'll need, especially with textured toys.

Fantasy toys have more pronounced textures and curves that might feel more intense than a smoother shape, so just be aware of that. But honestly? If the Bad Dragon aesthetic is what gets you going, lean into it. Your first toy should be something that excites you, not something you're settling for because it seems like the "logical" choice. You've got the right mindset already – trust your gut!


fera-daemon is a France based fantasy toy company, that might be more accessible for you in Europe. Different sizes too and so pretty


I’ve seen their work and they’re glorious, mostly their crystal cluster. But as a college student I am on a certain budget, so I went with Weredog. But if my budget was larger i’d definitely get one of their crystal clusters :D


Most of [my reviews of air-stim toys](https://t4toy.com/tags/air) include measurements of the opening taken using a calliper, but that’s primarily concerning the width. (I transitioned the opposite direction from you.) Another trans reviewer put together a [comparison chart](https://www.fantasticfrost.com/review-satisfyer-pro-3-air-pulse-vibrator-size-comparison-chart/) a little while back (I gave him my blessing to use the data I collected) which might be helpful to you. For more ideas, my site’s sidebar contains a list of all the trans and genderqueer toy reviewers I’ve found! Some of them will probably have a perspective similar to yours. Good luck!


Ooh thank you thank you!


I've got a round up of [the best ones I've tried here](https://sextoyreviews.uk/best-clitoral-stimulators-clit-suckers/) with a comparison photo with the majority of them side by side (a few scrolls down) if that helps


Satisfyer Curvy 3+ has a noticeably wider opening than the Sila. Worked for me when the Sila started feeling tight.


Is the mouth of [this suction cup](https://princesspreviews.com/funzze-pink-o/) toy big enough for you?


Weed.

Seriously, weed.


Been w my bc for almost 2 years. We’ve been long distance for a year and it hasn’t been bad. I visit every 2-3 mo and he comes home whenever he can with his insanely busy schedule. The only thing we’ve had trouble with in this time has been keeping our sex life thriving. He doesn’t like phone sex all that much and even though I love it, I’ve grown to accept it but when we are with each other I want to have sex all the time. His medication causes him to have a lower libido which is out of his control and I fully understand.

When we do have sex it’s usually him or penetration focused and this is something I’ve vocalized for a solid 6-9 mo I want to actively change in our sex life. I’ve also communicated and encouraged us to read books like “she comes first” and “nina Hartleys total guide to sex” to which it took some encouraging but last time we saw each other abt 2-3 weeks ago he started reading she comes first and it really felt like something clicked and we had such great sex twice. It was everything I wanted and I felt so confident visiting him this time that we would keep this momentum going; I started reading similar books and was so excited.

I got in on Friday and it’s now Thursday morning. I specifically visited during this time because he’s doing research for the next 2 weeks and has much less time intensive than the rest of his work. I found and Airbnb in the desert that is beautiful and has land and all we could need. We got here Monday and we’ve had an amazing time and it’s been so fun. We flirt throughout the day and it feels like we’re pretty connected. But whenever I bring up sex and mention his eating me out that night he responds so confidently with a yes or an “of course babe, definitely” and then we either have sex and he conveniently forgets to go down on me or give me any type of foreplay and it’s frustrating. So frustrating.

We’ve had this conversation multiple times throughout this year and last and he’s always so receptive and responsive when I bring up the conversation. He’s extremely in his head about things and this subject sometimes and I reallly just want to caulk everything up to him just over thinking it bc he’s inexperienced in it. Or that it’s something else and it’s just a him thing. But I can’t help but internalize some of this. Even though my rational mind knows it’s something else completely out of my control. And a part of me just wishes so much that he would just WANT to go down on me the way I actively want to pleasure him.

I’m not sure what I’m expecting out of this post. I’m just so frustrated and wish I didn’t have to bring up this conversation, again.

My bf doesn’t go down on me often


I feel like we lost so much momentum


Fam....

I'm a 26 y/o dude, leading a dope, prosperous and liberated lifestyle... things are really in place for me right now, im adulting successfully but managing to do it all my own way... But I straight up need to vent and maybe get some help too...

At the moment, I'm the healthiest and most sober I've ever been, ever. Sure I was sober as a child but I ate garbage food (kraft dinner generation whutup). So rn, things are looking good for me and I'm now capable of contending some long term issues that negatively impacts my overall well being... the crack in the otherwise smooth pavement, or the small pebble that launches you off your skateboard unexpectedly, the off pistachio that ends up in your mouth accidentally, the stain on your brand new shorts... good times all around regarding all those examples but always a mother fucking CLINCHER that snags the "gone with the wind" demeanor that life has me flirting with.

So yeah, ive always been moderately socially successful, not an absolute fluttery butterfly but well received and rad enough to end up in some choice situations with choice people in choice places...( but my lifestyle has changed drastically the past couple years)... anyway... what I have CONSISTENTLY FAILED TO GRASP... are ladies....

I've done a lot a lot a lot of self work and remediation and recovery from my use of MDMA and dabbling with almost every drug the average person has heard of (and more)... i've been working on anxiety, depression, malnutrition, started exercising, sleeping better, staying sober, taking supplements, doing yoga etc... but my wreckless abandon that had me dropping acid at the age of 16 and habitually taking mdma through my early 20s has fucked me up sexually! Not to mention the array of negative memories associated with trying to get laid... I grew up in a smaller canadian prairie suburbs hockey town where the social propriety regarding hook up culture was just not right... but I strode into life holding this poor attitude and it led me towards hurt and some humiliation!  So along with a questionable peer group feeding me the wrong ideas, frying my brain at the age of 16 taking acid wrecklessly and then ruining my brain chemistry taking too much mdma and then a nearly zero success rate with working ladies and hook ups... It's no wonder the past 3 years were spent in the remediation/rehabilitation stage of the above mentioned efforts I had been working toward and SERIOUSLY reconstructing my stance with intimacy, relationships, emotions and sex...

So here are the details of my issues here...

I can remember one particular acid trip when I was 16, I took way too much at a festival and was straight up destroyed the next day... afterward... Morning wood just didnt really happen anymore... I didnt think much of it, I was on a poor diet, smoking weed like mad, emotionally turbulent and did not understand that I should care... ffwd a few years of this inactivity and jump ahead to the post MDMA chapter... I was so rocked that I couldnt masturbate for more than fucking 10 seconds before blowing... that season I had a babe of an aussie chick so down for my dick, naked with me and basically my weekend escort... culdnt get it up to bang... 20 years old and no libido... FUCK... that scenario repeated a number of times beforre I threw in the white towel....

To this day, I now struggle with PE... I know that when I was a lot younger... before all that.. Lasting for 10 plus mins was nbd... now I suffer from the mistakes of my deluded early adult life. Still not getting laid, almost KIND of getting morning wood... some days when I take ZMA supplements at night I get some proper wood in the AM... mostly just half chubbers though and often if im one hundy hard as soon as I wake up and am conscious of it.. it fades right away... wtf !

So, im considering going to a doctor and getting on TRT to reengage my endocrine system. I'm a dope person, talents and opportunity and attractive enough to excite a babe but sure as fuck can not provide a bang worth a second thought... alongside this, I'm buying a fleshlight because Im YEARS behind in experience yet living in a ski town where I should be fucking babes and enjoying myself.

WIth that being said... after 3 y ears off molly, we get along safely these days occasionally.. but obviously with my the unimpressive behavior of my penis, a molly night means limp dick... is it safe to end up in THT, mdma and maybe some cialis?

My sex drive is better than ever (but still not that wild) and the lack of experience has me aching for some fucking poon... I need to get laid and am willing to submit to my high maintenance status and take the necessary and potentially costly steps to gear up into a functioning sex life.

So, any advice or commentary for the above mentioned topics... WELCOMED... and before anyone suggests numbing agents for PE... im quite certain the issue is not to do with sensitivity... a lube free avg jerk can land me in a 30 second freefall... im fighting back the urge to orgasm right from the get go.

Trying to get real here!


Hey reddit, greetings from throwaway land.

I'm sorry for the length. Posting this here because I'm a little too embarrassed to talk to my friends or family members about it, and the friends whose advice I would call on do not have a lot of experience with long-term relationships. Thus, I stand before you.

First things first, I really do adore my boyfriend - who we'll call Ben. We've been together for 9 months, but before that we'd been friends for about 2 years.

A little background about my SO: He's very supportive and loving and handsome and funny, but not really big on emotional discussions or issues. Very stiff-upper-lip dudely. Unfortunately, a lot of our big blowout fights/talks happen when we're drunk - a problem I'm trying to fix, and so is he. Sometimes it is hard to talk to him about things.

We're also 25, so I understand this is all part and parcel of the maturing-together thing.

A little background about me: I'm an extremely sexual person, and before I started dating Ben had been hooking up with a guy very into kink, who was helping me explore all sides of my sexuality. However, I knew that relationship would never be sustainable, and I knew what Ben and I had could be. So, when the time was right, I said an amicable goodbye to the original guy, and Ben and I met up and have been dating ever since.

We got together in January, Ben and I had a really solid sex life up until around May, when he got a new job. I was super proud and happy for him, because he'd been serving and bar tending up until he finally found a paying job in his proper field, and he's been doing amazingly well.

However, it is stressful for him... and it's taken a serious toll on our sex life. It was also the start of summer, when he gets uncomfortably warm and sometimes doesn't like to be touched until he's cooled down.

(To add to his list of preferences: he has massive hands and I have tiny ones, so he has a hard time finding comfortable ways to hold my hand. So we don't do a lot of that. He also doesn't really like PDA - it's a peck on the lips max, really. Maybe a hug in public - in general, or in front of friends. He doesn't like me leaning on his shoulder on the subway. I don't really know why that is.

These are all things that feel strange to me, but I accept them because I love him and realize not everyone is as tactile and lovey-dovey as I am.)

Anyway. For the first 5 weeks, I was fine with him not really wanting sex. I tried my best to understand. Then, we were out at a club and he took an amphetamine that gave him a headache for ~3 weeks. Terrible. Also, for obvious reasons, what little sex we WERE having stopped completely.

Over and over again, the reason was "I'm sorry babe, my head just really hurts/I'm just really stressed and tired from work."

I tried very hard to be patient and not push, and meet him halfway, but getting rejected time and time again began to weigh on me. Then, it became a cycle of me trying --> him saying no --> me getting upset --> him getting upset because I was upset and he felt terrible.

After he refused me for what felt like the hundredth time before I left for 3 days for a music festival, it really was the straw that broke the camel's back.

I sent him a long string of texts (I know, not the most mature move, but I was sleep deprived and desperate) telling him that I felt like he didn't want me anymore, that I was exhausted being rejected over and over, and felt like a freak whose boyfriend didn't want to touch her or be with her.

Eventually, I had some food and had some sleep and felt better, so apologized for going off on a rant, and he didn't get angry. But he did say again "I"m just stressed out, and this headache really sucks."

Shortly after this, when I was back, we had a fight because he was tired of me acting... huffy, I guess, when he turned me down again. He said I needed to "meet him halfway", which was, interestingly enough, exactly what I'd said to him.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks later. Our sex life picks up for a couple of days, then sinks into the background again, but I remind myself not everyone is perfect and that it was all a process and we'd figure it out. Also, foreplay kind of disintegrated, and I could forget about having him ever just service me. On a good day, it would be 5 minutes of foreplay for me, then sex. On a less good day, spit on the hand and straight into penetration.

It's also important to mention that after his headache finally went away, he'd end up cumming kind of fast. So it was little foreplay --> 10 minutes of sex --> he cums --> sex ends. I would either try to finish myself, or just let it go.

We'd average about 2 times a week, which is not exactly a dead bedroom situation, but doesn't feel exactly right for two 25 year olds who've only been together for 8 months.

Then, I went to California for two weeks for my sister's wedding, and to house sit. While I was there, I decided to take an active stance on fixing our lack-of-sex by:

* Having us take the 'Mojo Upgrade' sex quiz, partly for fun, and partly to figure out what he wanted
* Buying under-the-bed straps for some fun kink restraint play
* Buying a bullet vibrator to make foreplay easier for him, and fun for me
* Going to the Museum of Sex in our city, because... I dunno... I'm trying.
* Suggesting going to fetish parties because I want him to at least get a glimpse of what that world is like.

Now, this is where it starts to get upsetting to talk about.

I came back for a week in between my sister's wedding and heading to another festival. I'd been gone for almost 3 weeks, and we were thrilled to see each other. We had two nights of great sex, and then... nothing.

Off I went to the festival, and had a blast, then came back. Similar situation: two days of great sex, then nothing. But during the sex we did have, I wanted to try to introduce him to the bullet vibrator in a low-pressure way, so I started using it on myself while blowing him.

I'm not shy about telling him what I want. (Although him listening seems to be a bit of a different matter.) Then, the next time we had sex, I asked him to use it on me. He did for a few minutes, and in a couple of positions, but it kind of fell by the wayside. When I found myself in another situation where he'd gotten me all hot and bothered, came, then rolled over and went to clean up, i started using the vibrator on myself and asked him to use it to finish me off.

We have used the straps once. When he was blackout drunk, and was essentially trying to go in dry repeatedly when I asked him over and over to get me wet at least. He went down on me for roughly 30 seconds, then started to fuck me. It was fine, I was turned on because I was tied up. He woke up acutely embarrassed, and there has not been a time he's asked to use the straps since, or used them on me.

(But it's only been a month or so, and 3 weeks of us being together that we've had the vibrator/straps, so I'm trying not to give up hope quite yet.)

As of yesterday, it was 1 week and 2 days since we'd had sex. I sent him a playful text about it, saying I was going to "pounce on him or I was gonna explode."

He responded that he hadn't realized it had been so long - and that we'd both been kind of sick (true), and that I'd had a friend visiting (i had!) who'd gotten in the way of our sex schedule. These were valid points, and the reason I had no issue.

However, last night, we did our usual routine (he finishes work. I work from home, so I take a 45 minute train ride to his place, then we watch funny political commentary, smoke a joint and/or have a drink, and go to sleep), and before we went to sleep I did pounce on him and gave him a fantastic, sloppy blowjob. He came, really, really hard, and then rolled over. In an effort to remind him that sex doesn't always end when he cums, I kissed him on the back of the neck and said, in as nice and friendly and excited a tone as I could muster: "My turn!"

But it wasn't my turn, reddit. I kept counting backwards from 30 to give him space to get over the sleepy/happy/post orgasm feeling and attend to my needs, because he had not. Remember, there had been no foreplay the past two times we'd had sex a week before, unless you count 3 minutes of oral.

So I counted back from 30 5 or 6 times and still... nothing. I asked him twice "Do you just want to go to sleep?" and the first time he told me he was just resting, and the second time he said "Yeah."

reddit, I was so disappointed I felt like I was going to cry. But I just said OK, washed up, and tried to go to sleep.

This morning I woke up early because I had to get back to my apartment to fix a gas leak. As always, I kissed him goodbye, but also said over my shoulder - maybe more harshly than I intended - "You owe me 2 orgasms!"

Now he's been at work all day and has not responded to any of my texts or gchats, and I'm afraid I've made him angry.

So my question is... what the hell do I do? I've tried showing him. I've tried telling him. I've tried buying accouterments to make the experience easier for him and enjoyable and exciting.

I just know I need to have a conversation with him about this but I don't know how to broach it, or how to talk to him about it without making him feel emasculated, hurt, or like I bought all those accessories because the sex was bad. It isn't! When it's great, it's great! I just wished it happened more, and that I didn't feel so taken for granted in the bedroom some days.

Has anyone else run into this problem before? I feel like it must be pretty common around here, but I just needed to get this out, I guess.

**tl;dr** Sex life inconsistent with BF of 9 months. Have tried many roads to solving the problem, without much success. What do.

Thanks so much in advance for your time and responses!

Frustrated with lack of sex/foreplay from my SO of 9 months. Am I being unreasonable? Am I doing something wrong? How can I bring this up without making him feel emasculated?


Evening folks,

First: I've been lurking for a couple of weeks and I've just got to say, you've got one hell of a community here. Always learning something new.

A bit of history: I (M28) entered into a relationship with a lovely, lovely, lovely woman (F21) a few months back. It's been incredible. I'm just head over heels for her (and she says the same...which blows my freaking mind). Anyway, unlike previous relationships I've had in the past, everything remotely physical with her crawled along at a snails pace. Embarassing as it is to admit this, I was too terrified to even hold her hand a month into us 'dating'. That's *never* happened.

Fast-forward to last month, we sped right into kissing, heavy-petting, sex, the works. It's been great. Really f'n great, really. A good hour (or two or three) of foreplay hasn't hurt things either. ;) Seriously, it boggles my mind why most dudes rush into sex when good ol' foreplay can be (read: IS) every bit as good as the so-called 'Main Event'.

But a few things have me worried.

1.) I *love* going down on a woman, or rather, I feel highly compelled and turned-on by the thought of doing so: the sight of it, the way it tastes, smells...:swoon:. Only problem is that I had a really bad first experience when I was younger (long story). Truth is, I've never had much practice with it to begin with. An anomolous string of previous partners stated that they just weren't into oral and shut me down before ever getting near their nethers...so shucks. :\

Current GF was thrilled at my enthusiasm to do so the first time we had sex. And...I struck out good and proper. In the time since, I've watched the Nina Hartley video, and dedicated time to read as many well-written and coherent guides I can get my mitts on so that I, at the very least, have some knowledge/technique to work with in the future, because my GF tastes SO. DAMN. GOOD. Drives me up the f'n wall.
Is there a way to alay any apprehension on her end? She knows I enjoy going down, but after that first (well, two before I started dedicating myself to learning) experience, I worry that there's no way to redeem myself. And the thought hurts because I want to please her so much.

2.) She's never had an orgasm. She's had prior relationships, enjoys sex (a lot and often, by her own admission), masturbates from time to time...but she's yet to reach the promised land. I don't want to put that kind of pressure on her to finish, but at the same time, I'm mortified at the thought of not being able to get her there. It's not enough that I finish. It feels *wrong*.

3.) I'm average in length, but *girthy*, with a tight & pronounced upward curve. And she's a tiny gal. She's calls my penis a 'perfect fit'. Yay. :)
And...when she's riding me up top, she cups her hands over her mouth to stifle screams (No, not pain. I asked. "It feels so good, it's too intense) She reaches these moments where her breathing gets harder, the muffled screaming gets louder, and she lays on my chest just before she allows herself to move onto wherever she's experiencing wants to take her.

I've toyed with the thought of bracing her up there with my hands, but what's a guy to do? Is it a combination of clitoral rubbing, g-spot & fornix stimulation that's sending her into these crazy throes of pleasure? I've seen wet spots in my time, but with her, my mattress is *soaked*. And I don't mind one bit. Love it love it love it. :)

Last time we had sex, it was the *most* intense yet. She was on top, gasping for air and I couldn't hold on any longer. By the time we were done, she laid face down next to me, barely able to edge out a word. Said her whole body was 'filled with pleasure'. Then again, it was late, we were exhausted. It'd be kinda stupid to have asked her right then, "Hey babe, something happen to you?" Anyway, the whole night ended the same as every other, me scooping her up in my arms, kissing her forehead, and cuddling her until she fell asleep, me wondering just how the hell I got so lucky meeting her. It's the small things in life, right?

Anyway, I know I'm meandering all over the place here. Thanks for reading either way.

Strike Out Oral, Elusive O, & The Straddling Screamer


OP, I've also been looking for a remote vibe good for a night out or couples play.

Came across this rose-style one with wireless remote — 10 frequencies, silicone, USB rechargeable and waterproof. Pretty affordable and comes with a separate remote.

Link: [https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/Rose-10-Frequency-Waterproof-Silicone-ABS\_1601725973755.html](https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/Rose-10-Frequency-Waterproof-Silicone-ABS_1601725973755.html)

These budget remotes are usually short-range though, fine for close distance but not as reliable as Lovense app-controlled ones. I'd test the comfort and fit at home first before taking it out.

Anyone here tried similar budget rose remotes? Curious about real-world feedback on the remote connection and extended wear.


I've tried *loads* - there's a lot of rubbish out there. I've summarise most of them [in this post](https://sextoyreviews.uk/best-app-controlled-sex-toy/).

The best one without a doubt is Lovense, who make the [Ferri panty vibe (review here)](https://sextoyreviews.uk/lovense-ferri-review/) and the [Lush 4 (review here) ](https://sextoyreviews.uk/lovense-lush-4-review/)which are both good for public play.

I've got some other suggestions in [this post about public sex play.](https://sextoyreviews.uk/safe-discreet-public-sex-play/)


Thanks for sharing your experience! I’ve been looking into remote toys for public/couples play and Lovense keeps coming up as the gold standard.

What do you think makes the Ferri and Lush stand out so much compared to other remote options? Is it mostly the app reliability, the build quality, or the vibration patterns?

I’ve seen a lot of mixed reviews on cheaper ones, so I’m curious what actually makes the difference in real use (especially for public play).


The app is actually responsive, doesn't crash, easy to connect - To be honest, it was a while ago so you might have to read the post because I can't remember exactly what I wrote there and I have tried so many at this point!

The build quality is good too, so the vibrations aren't weak. There are no fit issues.


Thanks for the detailed reply! Really appreciate you sharing the specifics.

Good to know the app has improved a lot — that connection reliability seems to be the make-or-break for public play. Out of everything you’ve tried, what are the most common issues you’ve run into with cheaper remote toys? (Like connection dropping, weak power, bad battery, or fit problems?)

Also curious — do you think the big difference with Lovense is mostly the app/software, or is the hardware quality noticeably better too?


Well a lot of them (like LELO, which is a good app but very expensive toys) don't have any kind of video calling which obviously isn't a deal breaker if you are out in public, but if you're trying to do a long distance relationship then you need the messaging capability as well.

Some of them are just really crap, as soon as you leave the app everything shuts off and you have to reconnect. The lovense one keeps going in the background so you can look at your messagea without everything crashing. And you can control more than one toy at the same time.


Thanks for the detailed breakdown! The video call feature sounds really useful, especially if you want that extra layer of connection and dirty talk while one person is out.

I didn’t realize Lovense app could run in the background and control multiple toys at the same time — that’s actually pretty powerful.

Since you’ve tested quite a few apps, I’m curious: have you come across any other apps (not necessarily Lovense) that handle long-distance or public play decently? Or is Lovense pretty much in its own category when it comes to reliability?

Also, for the video call function — does it feel natural during public play, or is it more something you’d use in private?


Lovense and we vibe are the only brands I can recommend with 100% confidence. Are you wanting clitoral or vaginal stimulation?


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Lovense & HoneyPlayBox are great brands for app controlled toys. You guys can control each others, the apps are very reliable & toys have good battery life. I have coupon codes for both if either site interests you feel free to dm me to save some money!


get one of those kits that come with molds and it can recreate your dick if she is open to that


My suggestion isn’t to replace you with something else but focus more on her pleasure that you observe. A really good-quality vibrator and some encouragement from yourself as an observer might create more thrill than just a fake penis to pretend it’s someone else. Then the conversation moves to ‘gosh it was hot watching you cum to something else’


You need to ask her how she feels about a realistic toy, especially for her first one. Some women prefer a non-realistic one. Don't just surprise her - ask her.


You'd better talk to your wife first, to know her idea on this idea. Then decide what to do next.


For MFM ask yourself how you'd like to be munching on someone else's cum.

Try taking her to a sex club for play just between yourselves (ie watch others but don't take part, just hook up with your wife), and ask if she's ever had fantasies about doing something more "wild".

How does she feel watching MFM or FFM porn ?


She is your very best source for advice on this topic. I suggest you shop in-store or online and give her the option to choose. Don't suggest anything. Just let her explore ideas and sit back and watch. What she picks may surprise you. Toys are tools. They can help you build beautiful things together, but if you make this just about your fantasies, you might smash your own thumb while trying.


Talk to her first. Are you trying to manipulate her? Do you know how she feels about this?


clit sucker style toy will be a huge game changer.


Go shop for one together. Make it a fun sexy date night. Toys can get expensive, so make sure you've budgeted a decent amount of money in case she picks out something higher end. Treat it as a way to get to know you're wife better. When she shows interest in something, turn that into a conversation. "I noticed you were really drawn to this type of toy. What about that was so intriguing to you?" Have fun with it. Zero pressure. She may just want to go look but not actually buy anything. That's OK too!


If she’s onboard go toy shopping. The experience of a first time trip together for my wife had her so turned on that she pulled out the vibrating dildo that she picked out and used it in the passenger seat while I was driving. Until this point we had not share masturbation with each other and definitely not with a toy. I was lucky I didn’t wreck on the way home and she was enjoying herself so much I took the long way home.


If this is her very first toy, then a dildo is a bit of a jump. Unless she's specifically hinted at a realistic dildo, it might catch her off guard. I always recommend [starting with a bullet vibe](https://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/bullet-vibrators/tickler-smoothie?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP) and working from there. The reason I like bullets, for starters, is that they are non-intimidating, they're easy to use in a number of situations, whether you're on your own or with your partner, and they are a nice gateway to bigger and better toys. Once she's gotten used to the toy, then I would bring up the idea of a dildo. We used a [dildo from Michele Selection called Statue](https://michelleselection.com/products/sculpture-white?sca_ref=9841980.99zJaUC1rIixC) in the shower together. I sucked on him while backing into the dildo. It was very hot, but I don't think I would have been game for this right off the bat.

Hope that makes sense, I'm happy to answer any questions you might have. Talking to your partner is key, about toys, fantasies, etc.


Why not order from them?
Also, lovehoney


I've considered love honey, I watched their documentary!


Lovehoney is good for customer service, they gave a guarantee that if you don't get on with something - and obviously it breaks or isn't what you expected - you can send it back for a replacement and they never argue in my experience. Makes the whole thing much more pleasant.

They're also always having sales and are generally competitive (I have a permanent affiliate code that offers 20% off - SEXTOYREVIEW20).

And obviously everything comes in a discreet brown box.

Unless it's something very specialist, I buy all my sex toys there.


are you us based? i've heard issues with ordering from them outside of europe


I'm in the UK, although they are the same business so they should be the same worldwide. What kind of problems have you experienced? Just intrigued really


Canada here. I’ve ordered many times from them with no issues.


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Ridingx.com


They are good but it depends on the size you have


Honestly yeah, I’ve tried the Tantaly Daisy Plus for a while now. It’s actually pretty fun if you’re into bigger toys. The weight surprised me a bit at first — it’s a little heavy compared to most stuff, but nothing crazy. Any normal guy can move it around or reposition it without much trouble.

The bounce on it is actually really nice though. I usually go for doggystyle with toys, but with this one cowgirl ended up being my favorite because of that bounce.

The sleeve it comes with is pretty tight too (in a good way). If you already have Fleshlight sleeves it’s even better since you can swap them in and try different ones. So I can called this as a big Fleshlight.

Only small downside for me is that because it’s designed to hold sleeves, the outside doesn’t always look perfectly natural like a fixed design toy, but honestly once you start using it you don’t really care lol.

Overall though I’d say it’s a pretty solid toy if you’re curious about something bigger than the usual handheld stuff.


I have experienced for a few months. overall, she’s totally worth the price. I really love the bouncy ass, but what I’m most happy about is being able to try different Fleshlight sleeves- my toys have a whole new level of fun now. The whole doll feels super soft and realistic, really immersive in a way I haven’t felt with other toys before. Cleaning is actually pretty easy too. I fell she is a nice waifu.


I have Daisy Pro. Her weight and jigglieness make her absolutely fun to play with. How much she has to hold on to is awesome. I use my own sleeves inside her.
Like the other guy said, it does look awkward but you aren’t gonna be seeing it when you’re plapping them cheeks. The og sleeves it comes with are meh, but look nice.

Overall 10/10 i do not regret it, i sometimes like to just lay against it and give that big booty a smack sometimes. Great stress reliever.


I think 600 dolar is too much you can buy cheaper ones I would recommend you [this one ](https://noctamor.com/products/y5291-nd-4?variant=53186581397841)that I am curently using it


Honestly, it's kinda pricey... might as well go for an [electric torso doll](https://evolova.com/collections/all-bestsellers/products/belle-delphine-sex-doll） with tits instead.


Honestly, it's kinda pricey... might as well go for an [electric torso doll](https://evolova.com/collections/all-bestsellers/products/belle-delphine-sex-doll)with tits instead.


$600 is way too expensive. If you want a butt doll, you can check out [Lulu](https://www.utimi.com/products/lulu-2758lbs-realistic-big-ass-sex-doll?DIST=170326), which is only $296.


There’s a few I can think of!!

Definitely would recommend an air pulse vibrator, they’re a game changer! My go to for mid price range would be the Satisfyer Pro 2, Gen 3.

If you’re wanting a more luxury air pulse, look into the womanizers. Amazing.

If you aren’t into clit stim, my recommendation would be the Lovense Lush. Either the 4 or the mini. Lovense toys are great for online relationship, you can give control to anyone (your dom included). Same with the Lovense sex machine.

Make sure you chose a good quality, water based lube.


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Lets make a megathread of all the deals folks can find for black friday / Cyber Monday - etc.

I know a number and can update them once they are confirmed and live. But I would love to create a collaborative giant list of good deals.

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Adding deals to the post as I can (or mods feel free to jump in):

* Stockroom -  up to 70% off and Black20 sitewide coupon: https://www.stockroom.com/sale/black-and-blue-sale.html
* Bad Dragon - 25-40% off site wide: https://bad-dragon.com/sales/blackfriday2017
* Agreeable Agony - 10-25% off site wide, Special beginner kit deal, and Giveaway raffle: https://www.agreeableagony.com/pages/black-friday-deals
* Extreme Restraints (quality is...mixed/iffy) - up to 53% off site wide, additional 30% with "FANTASY" coupon: https://www.extremerestraints.com/best-sellers_686/
* Good Vibes - 20% off sitewide including BDSM/Kink Gear: https://www.goodvibes.com/s/content/c/GoodDeals
* Babeland - 20% off sitewide including BDSM/Kink Gear with code BFSAVE: http://www.babeland.com/all-vibrators/l/3000?ICID=hpfeat_Black_Friday_Hero1_1122217

* Tantus is doing a 50% off sale until midnight - https://www.tantusinc.com/pages/blackfriday

....More to come as I have time to research, please comment with what you know.

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Previous year: https://www.reddit.com/r/bdsm/comments/5ei1p0/kinky_shopping_deals_black_friday_cyber_monday_etc/

Kinky Shopping Deals - Black Friday / Cyber Monday etc?


Hi all. I really like using a remote vibrator to tease my girlfriend in public, but the only one I've bought (http://store.babeland.com/vibrators-couples/babeland-remote-vibrating-panty) stopped working after only a few uses. I got it replaced and the same thing happened. So, I'm seeking suggestions for one that hopefully is more durable! Thanks!

EDIT: I have a strong preference for one that has different speeds/vibration patterns.

Suggestions for good remote vibrators?


Fleshlights or tenga is the way


Lovense is the way!


I've heard that the lovense guys toys are loud though


I don't have a penis so I can't give any suggestions for that, but in regards to your own struggles I would suggest looking into vaginismus and perhaps consulting with a doctor. There are also tools called [dilators ](https://thesexshed.com/products/skins-care-curved-dilators-5-piece-set/?ref=GRACE)that can help in this situation, as they present a gradual way for you to experience penetration.


I'm able to use tampons and sex feels good dildos just always hurt really bad and almost make me pass out from how bad they hurt if I use them for more than 3 minutes


If sex is fine and dildos aren't, then I would be concerned about the dildos themselves. The sex toy industry is not regulated and so many toxic toys are sold. Chemicals leech into the skin and can cause pain and other health concerns. Make sure to only use body-safe materials (primarily silicone) bought from reputable retailers, and also use a high-quality lube. Some lubes can also have ingredients that cause burning, but not using them will increase friction and discomfort that may not be present during sex since you're more likely to be fully aroused and wet then.


Well I do use lube and always make sure its body safe silicone its just like no matter the size or shape its always not squishy enough? If that makes sense the most painful one I've used is definitely a lush from lovense


Does it feel more like the internal skin hurts, or a deeper muscle pain from the pressure? You totally don't have to answer this of course, feel free to ignore. I have a hypertonic pelvic floor (too much tension) so for mine it's a muscle pain, I have a friend who has more of a skin issue but I don't know if she figured out a solution yet


Intense pain from a toy that size is not normal. You should get that checked out.


Have you considered it's not the toys that are the problem, it's the lube?


This is an overlooked variable for sure!


Start with a multi pack of different cock ring sizes, go from there!


What does a cock ring do I always thought it just put pressure on the guy in an uncomfortable way for him


If you put one on that’s not tooo tight. It slightly restricts blood flow making the penis much harder. Having a multi pack of silicone ones lets you size properly. Some people like them tighter, some looser, and a multi pack is around 10$ on sale.

It’s a different sensation, but it’s not unpleasant unless you go too tight. My wife will definitely ride a lot harder when I use them which is a turn on for me, which is better for her, which is good for me… it’s a vicious circle but a sacrifices willing to make 😂


If you're looking for a sex toy for your boyfriend that will provide a pleasurable experience without putting too much pressure on you, then these two masturbation toys are definitely a great entry-level choice.

One option is [White Vibe](https://www.utimi.com/products/automatic-waterproof-masturbator?DIST=170326). It has a soft, beaded sleeve that’s stretchy and comfortable, not cheap plastic at all. 7 vibration modes, feels realistic, and it’s waterproof so cleanup is super easy.

Another product is [Black Vortex](https://www.utimi.com/products/black-vortex-7x7-auto-suck-thrust-male-masturbator?DIST=170326), which has 4-in-1 functions: suction, thrust, rotation, and vibration. It comes with 49 different mode combinations, soft textured TPE that feels natural, IPX6 waterproof, and a long-lasting battery. Great for adding variety without pressure.

Also  it’s awesome you taking the time to find fun, comfortable stuff for both of you.


I think a couple's toy would be a good way to ease him into the concept if he's not yet self-motivated towards toys.

One that is more like, "male + couples", meaning that it's definitely something he can enjoy on his own, but it has a couple's feature that makes it a good excuse introduce, is the [Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo](https://www.hotoctopuss.com/products/pulse-duo-refined-design-evolved-power-for-him-enhanced-vibrations-for-her-a-next-gen-couples-toy-with-wireless-remote-control?srsltid=AfmBOoriSmQ2EF19anu7Uydp-9cuezfj5LLUJcXsnkMND2FL-9RTqtF3). The original Pulse is what the company calls the first "guybrator", which is actually an oscillator.

It's a recreational adaptation of a medical technology developed for fertility clinics that is so effective at making men cum, that it can be used to help men who have spinal cord injuries become fathers. The Duo version features a design that facilitates transmission of the sensation on the opposite side of the penis so that the female partner can grind against it. (But, he can totally use it solo or you can use it on him.)


You might find some inspiration among smaller brands, as they tend to offer a particularly wide variety of products. I’d like to recommend one small brand that I’ve been quite pleased with: INTYMATX. My boyfriend absolutely loves the waist-mounted male masturbator I bought him—it’s really quite fun!


well I find younger guys even straight guys are far more open minded about exploring butt play so you could definitely consider toys for him (his prostate) as well

butt plug would probably be the easiest thing to start but if that’s not a go at this point then you could look at a massager for his cock or use a flashlight on him to get him started…

personally though it’s amazing having a vibrating plug inside you vibrating against your prostate while you’re penetrating your partner.


Masturbator sleeves. They can be the Fleshlight, onaholes (Japanese slang for “Onani-Hole,” or “Masturbation hole”), even sex torsos or sex dolls. Can be machine operated like Lovense, Autoblow, or even The Handy. There’s a big variety of options trust me, he’ll thank you.

I will warn you though, only use water based lube when it comes to male masturbators. And make sure to clean with care. Depending on the material the masturbator is made of,  be sure to clean with antibacterial soap and water, and properly dry with a microfiber cloth. For TPE onaholes, use cornstarch to preserve the sleeves and keep bacteria and mold out after cleaning and drying it. Silicone masturbators don’t nessecarily need them.

Oh and make sure your BF knows this too.


I have a range of toys, with a willing partner and a manual penis stroker, would be my go to. Lie him on his back and take your time.
I love anal penetration but that has many connotations, a double ended dildo, and yes I read your "problem" providing the same sensation to both of you fantastic!
You can challenge each other to throat play too. I assume he loves a blowjob, let him find out how sloppy and uncomfortable it can be for you. Again shared sensation.
I am somewhat under sensitive in my later life but prostate/ penis vibration did little for me. Someone doing to me , the turn on. Happy long and loving life to you.


It is really nice that you’re looking for ways to explore and connect with your partner. I highly recommend the F1s V3, my husband absolutely loves it. You could also try cock rings and couples sex toys that you can use during piv sex.


Men are always waiting on the woman to ask them stuff like this. Just ask him.


Compre brinquedos duplos na minha opinião são os melhores pra casais, como anéis vibratórios e géis vibratórios.
Agora pra algo mais intenso pra ele e que ainda não é muito caro eu sugiro um toy egg com bastante gel vibratório, e uma dica de amiga pra você é tente comprar um sexy toy de luxo com os da MonsterD ou Redpanda,  eles tem uma macies e texturas diferentes e são idéias pra quem tem esse seu problema com penetração deles, já que são antialérgicos e as vezes você não curte por alguma reação alérgica ou pela textura mesmo, ao menos era esse o caso de uma amiga minha.
Recomendo um estala ou um link lust pra você e um Juno pro seu marido.


There are various sleeves, but have you tried using a vibrator on him? Especially if you have a stronger one and tease it around his penis and hold it against the underside of the head, it can definitely get him off.

Also if you have one of the various wants, they make attachments that are basically like strokers.


Look for church of fudge


If you did want to go rabbit vibe route but get one that is still very likely to accommodate her clit spacing, the [We-Vibe Nova 2](http://lh-we-vibe-nova-2.specialtoyreviews.com) is one of the most adjustable fitting for that, and really good in general ([our review here](https://www.specialtoyreviews.com/reviews/vibrators/rabbit-vibrators/we-vibe-nova-2)). For non rabbit vibe though, are you wanting one that is dildo/phallic shaped, or more abstract G-spot vibrators?


That does seem like it would be neat, but she straight-up does not like vibration on her penis! As long as it's a penetrating G-spot vibe, it doesn't need to be quite up dildo-shaped.


The term you want to look for is ["G-Spot Vibrator"](https://thesexshed.com/collections/g-spot-vibrators/?ref=GRACE). Alternatively, ["Vibrating Dildos" ](https://thesexshed.com/collections/vibrating-dildos/?ref=GRACE)might also work, which are usually phallic or a bit more unique looking since they don't need to worry about targeting the G-Spot.

I think your budget suits pretty much all of these, so you'll be able to choose something that suits you both best. My personal recommendation though would be the [Pillow Talk Sassy,](https://thesexshed.com/products/pillow-talk-sassy/?ref=GRACE) it's not too pricey yet has some fantastic rumbly vibrations.


Lelo have some really nice options!


My girlfriend didnt enjoy it but the Geminii XLR8 is pretty good. Strong vibrations and quality build. The downside was that it was very hard and so it hurt her personally to use.

It was very expensive so I wanted to try it anally to atleast give it another perspective since I like harder toys sometimes. NOT safe to use anally btw. I just did it once tho, it was great. Like I said strong vibes and very strong pressure if that's your thing. I did a stupid thing in the name of curiosity I repeat do not purxhase to insert anally


Will [this one](https://t4toy.com/reviews/funzze-realistic-dildo-vibrator-review?highlight=WyJmdW56emUiXQ==) work for you? It's easy to handle.


For 1h+ sessions I’d think less about “best combo on paper” and more about which parts will get annoying after the first 20 minutes.

Solace Pro + Edge 2 sounds fun if you already like the Lovense app and want both things controlled in one place. The possible downside is setup/fiddling: two toys, two fits, battery levels, cleaning, and making sure the prostate toy stays comfortable the whole time. For denial/edging, comfort matters a lot because a tiny pressure point gets old fast.

I’d probably go Solace Pro over regular Solace if hands-free stability is the main goal. The Handy is great for scripting/video stuff, but it’s more of a “build a setup around it” toy. Solace feels more plug-and-play. If you’re planning daily-ish long sessions, I’d choose the one you’ll actually want to set up and clean every time.


I’d love to surprise my partner with one of these, do you recommend the large? She has experienced with larger dildos, not huge but definitely large-ish


I actually like they're toys (vibrators mainly) like I have their famous Rose and WhisperRabbit and love them. They are very high quality and just overall very quiet


I genuinely like Bellesa’s vibrators. They feel thoughtfully designed an easy to clean, also the noise level is low enough that I actually feel comfortable using them anytime. No complaints from me at all


Thanks for the reply. I know they are quite huge but just wanted to ask since Im looking at options. Thanks again


If you don't mind me asking at what options are you looking at? Vibrators or clit suction?


Vibrator plus clit suction sounds best to me. Just looking at things tho


You have many options on bellesa that have vibrator + clit suction so it will be easy. Good luck and enjoy if you decide to get one


Awesome ty


I remember when the rose was popping off on tiktok. Never heard of the whisper tabbit is it any good?


It's very capable and it's in the whisper lone so it's super quiet like literally so quiet


Will look at it thanks


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Apologies for the length of this post, but I thought it was important to share the full story from my perspective at this point.  Since realdick is actively paying Redditors to post positive reviews, we need to protect each other from that type of manipulation from what many folks assume are trustworthy sources.


Couldn't agree more. These kinds of businesses need to be called out. Protecting the community and holding sellers accountable ultimately benefits everyone.


Are there any brands that arent mainstream but also affordable that you would recommend?


I can personally vouch for the quality and materials of the njoy stainless steel toys, squarepeg toys, and paladin pleasure sculptors.  All 3 have made some of my favorite toys.

But don’t take my word for it.  All the realdick supporters are about to comment and claim that I’m a marketer for their competitors.


Squarepeg gets a vote, as does 9x6 silicone lube as the only endorsed silicone lube ok w their toys.   Scott at SP is awesome.


Squarepeg has said in their blog posts that they’ve never seen actual evidence of silicone line harming their silicone toys. (IIRC)

I don’t know the full science behind it, but I have never seen any silicone lube have any effect on my platinum-cured silicone toys.  I can’t speak to other types of silicone toys, though, I don’t own any. :)


All of SP stuff is platinum cured. Why we love them.


Yep, same!  I probably own way too many square peg toys.  :)


Are you looking just for more indie brands in general or specifically ones with realistic dildos? For actual platinum cured silicone list is a bit outdated but bad dragon subs [Encyclopeendia](https://www.reddit.com/r/BadDragon/wiki/index/encyclopeendia/) has a big list of options! Many fantasy focused but most usually have one or two realistic models in each shop

Out of them [Hankey’s Toys](https://affiliates.mrhankeystoys.com/idevaffiliate.php?id=396057&url=152) probably has the largest selection of realistic options, their XS sizes are affordable but some can still be quite large. [Uberrime’s](https://uberrime.com/collections/realistic-dildos?rfsn=8875537.5adc32) probably the next most, then [Twisted Beast](https://www.twistedbeaststore.com/collections/realistic-dildos) (UK based I don’t have firsthand experience but generally hear good things)


[Funkit toys! ](https://www.funkittoys.com/nofrilldo)


Fukena is great.


This is quite heartbreaking to me. I actually have one of the Realdick products and it is quite nice in the texture, softness, and overall appearance.

I could be less impacted by them because I always put a condom over it before each use.

But looks like I'll be benching it from now on.


I’m sorry, that does suck. :(  You are probably ok using a condom with it, but I would definitely put new toys on your wishlists.  :)


Governments really need to step up and start regulating sex toy materials like anything else you'd put in your body. No more of that "novelty use only" loophole.


Tin cured silicone, also known as condensation cure or peroxide cure, is absolutely safe, *as long as it was thoroughly baked after curing*.

Yes, the curing process does release toxins as a result of not being entirely self-contained, but there's a post-cure baking process that renders it perfectly safe.  You just have to trust that the brand is doing that.

Pretty much every vibrator on the market with a thin shell of silicone over the motors is going to be tin cure, including some well known and reputable luxury brands.  It's really not that big a deal.


I think you may be combining Peroxide - Initiated and curing Tin - Condensation curing.  My research on this has let me to understand that Peroxide curing method can indeed be stabilized by baking, but that part of the process is sometimes cut to save time and cost.

The Platinum curing process does not require this step, and that is why I consider it a safe material - it cannot be made unsafely.  Unless it is not fully cured, which would be extremely obvious to both consumers and retailers a sticky gooey mess.

So some other curing methods can be made safe with extra steps, but there is no way to tell if those steps have actually been taken.

So I agree with you in part, but I think your response oversimplifies the issue and assumes that because something is possible that people can assume it is always done.  I definitely recommend against making that assumption.


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I think you may be combining Peroxide - Initiated and curing Tin - Condensation curing.  My research on this has let me to understand that Peroxide curing method can indeed be stabilized by baking, but that part of the process is sometimes cut to save time and cost.

The Platinum curing process does not require this step, and that is why I consider it a safe material - it cannot be made unsafely.  Unless it is not fully cured, which would be extremely obvious to both consumers and retailers a sticky gooey mess.

So some other curing methods can be *made* safe with extra steps, but there is no way to tell if those steps have actually been taken.

So I agree with you in part, but I think your response oversimplifies the issue and assumes that because something is *possible* that people can assume it is always done.  I definitely recommend against making that assumption.


Can attest to buying their product and it smelled awful and was off gassing for a long time which I’ve never had happen with silicone toys from any other brand.


Hi, thank you for bringing this up and sharing your concerns.

At Realdick, product safety is our top priority. We take it extremely seriously from design all the way through production, especially for intimate [products.Here](http://products.Here) are our official product certification and testing reports: [https://www.realdick.com/pages/product-certification](https://www.realdick.com/pages/product-certification)

If you have any issues or worries while using our products, please feel free to contact our customer support team. We’re always here to help.

We appreciate your feedback — it helps us improve! Feel free to reach out anytime.


Thank you for commenting.  Would you please tell us what type of silicone curing process you were using in March of 2025 and when it was changed - if it has been changed?


Or would you care to explain publicly why there are so many reports of chemical smells and residue on your toys?  This isn’t a customer service issue, it is a public safety issue.  It is very possible that the factory you use in China for manufacturing is not following the safety standards you set for them.  It’s also possible that the toys you sent in for material safety testing were not complete and the paint used to make them look realistic was not also tested.

All we know as consumers is that your supplier used tin-cured silicone in your toys in 2025.  Your marketing since then has gradually changed to claim you use platinum cured silicone. Please provide specific details on your manufacturing process and when exactly the change from tin to platinum curing process was made

If you are a representative of Realtech Innovations Inc, you have an opportunity here to clear all this up and establish yourself as a company to be trusted.  Please use it.