Sex with my (30M) girlfriend of 7 years (30F) has become very sporadic—maybe once every couple weeks for the last year and right now not for almost two months. This was initially caused by living in close quarters with friends, my girlfriend’s depression, and birth control issues a couple years ago.

Unfortunately, during that initial drought I probably masturbated too much and started cumming way too quickly, and we both basically became bad at sex, with very little communication. I had always cum pretty quickly, but usually made up for that by going for round two, or stopping to give head. When things went sour though, it got to the point where she didn’t want to stick around long enough for that to happen. Anyway, the point is I want to get better at sex and make it a fun and open experience for both of us again, as it was in the first couple years of our relationship.

My girlfriend usually cringes slightly to talk about sex, but more recently I’ve been making an effort to casually let her know that I’d ready to start making more of an effort in the bedroom department and we briefly discussed getting her a vibrator (for us to use together) after watching a bunch of Sex Education on Netflix.

So! I’ve ordered her a little LoveHoney pebble vibrator which I think is her vibe and shouldn’t scare her too much. I’m going to give it to her as a thank you prezzy for looking after me while I was sick this week. When it comes to actually using it though, I’m not sure how to play the whole thing as I’m so out of practice.

So my question is this:
1. Given we haven’t had sex in a couple months, would it be better to have sex and try to get more intimate again before giving her the pebble? I know this is subjective but perhaps some of you have had similar experiences when trying to rekindle things.
2. When I give her the pebble, should I suggest she goes to try it out and report back? Or just jump right in together?
3. When using a vibrator, what steps and how much time do you take from lying down, kissing and touching to actually putting the vibrator on her clitoris? It has dawned on me that I’ve always been way too quick with foreplay, which was never my intention.
4. Any other tips for instigating sex again when it’s been ages? We cuddle and kiss a lot but they’re rarely very sensual kisses.

Bringing back the magic (and a pebble vibrator!)


Lovehoney website has a fair few options. I'm thinking take ginseng every day, pop 25mg Viagra, use some metal cock rings and a vibrating ring and let festivities commence. Appreciate any advice/recommendations.

Based in Ireland - please recommend vibrating cock rings - my lady is dying for us to try it!


I need a gag that will force my gf to keep her mouth open so I can put it on her and fuck her mouth. That is, it needs to stop her if she tries to close her mouth.

I’ve seen some like “o ring” gags on lovehoney, do they work? Can I get some links to stuff that definitely does what I need?

Need a gag that holds her mouth open


So I'm still fairly new to anal penetration, and thus far have only incorporated it into masturbation and not done it with a partner. However, whilst it can be really enjoyable, I still find it somewhat difficult and haven't yet really felt like I've gotten to a point where my current stuff is entirely comfortable or where I could move on to more ambitious stuff.
I started out just with fingers and immediately found one finger to be both comfortable and pleasurable, but I still haven't been able to add a second, even after using a lot more lube than I would require for just one. In the way of toys, I have one set of three plugs, the biggest of which is still only a little over an inch in diameter at its widest. I find inserting the plugs easy enough with their tapered shape and wearing them pretty comfortable, but removal is often a bit uncomfortable or even sometimes painful with the largest one. Finally, I have a small dildo (it was the smallest regular Lovehoney one, with about 5 inches insertable length and again a little over an inch in diameter), but to be able to use it I typically have to warm myself up a *lot*, usually by wearing a plug for a couple of hours beforehand and then moving on to some gentle fingering before finally doing so. Even at this, the dildo still feels like a real stretch and whilst I've had some real pleasurable experiences with it, it often does take quite some time to get comfortable and I'm only really comfortable with certain positions (generally on my back) and thrusting styles (generally keeping it pretty deep in me the whole time rather than drawing out and in again in longer strokes), and I definitely don't think I could manage anything any larger at this stage even with more prep.
I do admittedly often not get the chance to do anal play very frequently, but even at times when I've been able to do it more often this has still persisted. I want to ask if this tallies with other people's experiences of getting into anal, and how I might go about getting more comfortable with it so I can explore further. Can anyone offer any advice from personal experience (beyond the obvious of relaxing and using more lube, which I have tried)?

Questions on comfort whilst receiving anal penetration: size, time and preparation


After many years my wife has just gotten into sex toys, it started with a joke but I seized the opportunity and ordered a couple of things from LoveHoney (a clitoral vibrator and a “rabbit” style vibrator).

Yesterday she heard about the concept of moulding a dildo based on my penis and it seems like something which would be fun (both the creating and the playing). I just wondered if any of you ladies had had your man moulded and what you make of it.

She says she likes the length, girth and the uneaten (knobbly 🤣) feel of me versus a toy so for times when I’m not so much up for PIV (or she just wants a play on her own) I thought this would be fun.

Ladies - moulded dildos yay or nay


i (19F) bought my first toy, the 5.5 inch suction cup curved dildo from lovehoney.  i tried playing with my clit and nipples like normal and used a lot of lube (sliquid h20 water based) while trying it but it stung pretty badly putting it in i didn't get very far. i thought there'd be blood from how it felt but i was just overreacting lol.

my new meds have made me so horny clitoral stimulation doesnt feel like enough. i want a toy that i can put in my vagina idk if this one is too big for me. i dont think id like vibration but ive never tried it. i can fit 1-2 fingers in my vagina with lube and when i orgasm clitorally i put my fingers in my vagina after/during. im a virgin and not that im having sex anytime soon but i dont want to be hurt during it or to not be able to have it at all.

 i cant focus my hands on 2 things at once for some reason so havent been able to try nipple stimulation while orgasming. also sliquid drys insanely fast on my nipples maybe thats all water based lube idk. nipple clamps would probably be too rough for me but the more beginner things like the silicone nipple suckers look like theyre too small for my boobs and wouldnt stick.

will dildo stop hurting after more use or is something wrong with my vagina?


I want to get into sex toys but nothing seems to be working :(

Vibes I have tried:
- Ignite finger vibrator
- Air suction toy
- Lay on (broad and rumbly)
- G spot vibe x2
- Happy rabbit bullet

Dildos I’ve tried
- Double ended glass dildo

(All toys were decent-high quality and highly rated on lovehoney)

I couldn’t really feel much/anything from the vibes (apart from the air suction - but found this way too intense)
The dildo doesn’t seem to hit the spot, it just feels awkward and impersonal

The only way I can get off (and the way I’ve been doing since I was 13) is:
- Read/watch/listen to things online to get me turned on
- Lie on my front (prone) before repeatedly digging my fingers into my vagina (over my pants).
- My fingers don’t need to go inside or touch my clit in order for me to orgasm (am I somehow stimulating my g spot externally?)

Is this an unusual way to masturbate? Does anyone else masturbate a similar way and have had success with toys? If so, which toys?

I was just excited to graduate to adult toys, since I’ve been using the same method for nearly 10 years and it’s getting a little boring and my orgasms aren’t as strong :(

Want to get into sex toys but nothing seems to be working :(


I have a new toy called a Lovehoney bunny royale rechargeable mini rabbit vibrator and it won't turn on. I even charged it for like 2 hours and it won't turn on. I can press on it for a long time and it won't function correctly.

My new Lovehoney toy won't turn on after being charged


Throwaway account bc i’m fairly active on my main and don’t want friends seeing this post.

I want to start by saying that I’m not a virgin, I’ve been having sex since I was 15. I’ve searched Reddit for some answers but the posts I’ve found were mostly for people who hadn’t had sex yet, etc.

I’ve owned a lot of sex toys but mostly vibrators/external stimulation with the exception of two that had a small rounded part for internal g-spot fun. I recently bought my first dildo since I haven’t had sex in 2 years (with the exception of one random time that HURT), but when I tried playing with it, I couldn’t get it in. I was definitely turned on, had lube, etc but it wouldn’t go in past an inch or two without being painful. It kept feeling like I was just hitting a wall couldn’t get past it. I got [this](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/dildos/realistic-dildos/p/basics-suction-cup-dildo-6-inch/a24629g36729.html) one because I figured it wasn’t too big, but seeing it in person made me realize it’s bigger than some past partners.

Does anyone have tips or advice on what I could do to make this experience better ? I haven’t had anything inside of me in so long and a girl needs some fun 😭

I [33F] bought my first dildo but having trouble getting it in


Something like [this](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/butt-plugs/non-vibrating-butt-plugs/p/basics-beaded-slimline-butt-plug/a36683g67911.html)

I know they’re generally used for the in/out sensation, but curious if it would feel different from a normal butt plug / dildo to the partner. Anyone tried this?

If you use a beaded dildo in your ass during PIV, would your partner’s penis feel the bumps?


So I just got a two set buttplug and dildo off lovehoney and I'm wondering how do I go about using them?

I lubed up and slowly put in the smaller buttplug (5.5 inch circumference at widest part and 3 insertable) but it got to the point where it was too painful to put any further so I stopped. I've been trying again slowly but Im worried I'm gonna tear something.

With the dildo (6.5 inch with a bulbous head), I can get that in but don't really obtain any pleasure at all until about halfway through where it feels kind of uncomfortable before getting really uncomfortable (but not.painful but I feel like I should stop)

Using plenty of lube but maybe I'm missing something?

Anyone have any advice on how to use a buttplug as a man?


I first noticed that butt stuff feels good months ago by lubing up, massaging the perineum, and jacking off. Feels great. However, when I try to insert my fingers it just feels like I’m pooping because I can’t seem to get my fingers in far enough. I’m a slender guy and I feel like I’ve tried every position possible to get a better angle, but I just can’t seem to get far enough in to really probe around in there. Is this issue shared by other men? Am I just not able to do butt stuff, or are my fingers just too stubby? I haven’t asked my wife very directly to help me out here, but I get the sense that she wouldn’t be very comfortable helping me out here anyways. Plus, she constantly has a set of acrylic nails on, and the potential for injury there gives me the heebie jeebies. Do toys make this easier? I’ve ordered [this guy,](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/prostate-massagers/p/lovehoney-deep-p-diver-rechargeable-vibrating-prostate-massager/a40798g74386.html) but the 1 inch diameter scares my asshole a little lmao. Any tips here?

Having difficulty with butt stuff as a guy


I'm going out in a couple of hours and was wondering if wearing a metal butt plug for the whole day in public is okay. Has anyone gone out in public wearing a metal butt plug? My boyfriend suggested it because 'kinky' but now I started thinking will it be okay? Because I'll be going out to the cities and I just wanted to be sure. Any tips or anything I should be aware of in general when I wear the plug?

This is the plug I am wearing:

[https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/butt-plugs/jewelled-butt-plugs/p/lovehoney-jewelled-heart-aluminium-butt-plug-2.5-inch/a40367g73770.html](https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/butt-plugs/jewelled-butt-plugs/p/lovehoney-jewelled-heart-aluminium-butt-plug-2.5-inch/a40367g73770.html)

\^

Is this plug okay to wear? I heard silicon is bad (not like I have them anyways)

Is it fine to wear a metal butt plug all day?


Soo I’m 18 but still live with my dad and I ordered the rose toy, sex toy cleaner and anal lube for my bf and I. Ik they say discreet packaging but I wanna make sire they aren’t bullshitting. Also Im gonna have to pick up the packages from my dad and he might ask whats in them (he never actually looks tho) so whats a good lie lmao. I’m thinking of just saying its underwear instead of something like a video game so he won’t ask any more questions. Does that seem like a good lie?

Update: dad just texted me, “You received a package. Box did say sender. Looks like shoes? Idk” and I told him its face care and makeup and to put package in my room. Lots will be coming (which is true I ordered a bunch makeup lately). We good!

Is Lovehoney always discreet?


About to buy my first sex toy from Lovehoney, was recommended to be by someone here. Is it a trustable site? I never heard of it. Did anyone here buy from it?

is Lovehoney a trustable site?


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If lovehoney package goes fedex do they allow you to redirect to pickup at a fedex store?


My (27F) girlfriend (29F) has a medical condition which (among other things) makes her vaginal entrance unusually small.  I can get two fingers inside her, but it's a pretty intense stretch and I think any more would hurt her – *in a not-fun way*.  We've talked about me fucking her with a strapon, and I'm super into the idea... but I need to solve the dimensions question.  I'm pretty sure the maximum safe diameter is about 3 centimetres (a little less than an inch and a quarter), which is ironically a super normal size for a human Richard but smaller than any dildo i've been able to find online.  I'm thinking about doing some arts and crafts with [this clone-a-willy kit](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/dildos/willy-molding-kits/p/clone-a-willy-vibrator-create-your-own-penis-molding-kit/a2448g2448.html) and some kind of clay or papier-mâché template, but I'd rather not have to do that many *steps*.  Can the internet sell me a suitable rooster?

Also I don't know anything about the technical terms for any of the parts of a strapon/types of strapon lmao, but mine is a harness with a rubber(?) ring which you can use to hold & swap out different dildos – essentially, any aubergine works as long as it has a base.

where can I buy a smaller dildo?


I, recently got a cock ring with a rechargeable bullet with it to have some more fun and try something new out. I like it but sometimes the vibe feels weird, kinda a numb vibe sensation or something similar. Idk vibes well so I’m mainly wondering if there is something I could find that is more rumbly or deep, don’t know how to describe properly.
My main things I’m looking for is to be usb rechargeable, decent battery, cheap (under 40, max €50), waterproof would also be nice so I could wash if it gets messy.
[current cock ring](https://www.lovehoney.eu/sex-toys/cock-rings/vibrating-cock-rings/p/tracey-cox-supersex-rechargeable-vibrating-love-ring/a31172g53326.html)

Looking for a rumble bullet vibe


TL;DR at the bottom

15 year long relationship, and two kids later, and still having a great sex life for the most part.
Obviously kids do tire us both, but otherwise we’re doing great guns.

We’ve got a little two night stay booked at a hotel without the kids. Toys ahoy will be packed.
I’d also like to buy some lingerie…. However….

A few weeks ago I cheekily suggested my wife put on some lace as a birthday treat for me. She obliged, much to my delight. However despite my hootin and hollering. She asked which set, I told her

“Whichever you feel the most sexy in.” my wife remarked, exacerbated

“None of this makes me feel sexy.”

No level of positive feedback helped her love the position I’d put her in.

Now from what I’ve read, lingerie should be empowering, and that’s my hope. To be honest, the lingerie I’ve bought has generally been on the cheaper side, and I understand that tacky isn’t sexy. It’s a bit of “don’t spend a lot of money, in case she hates it.” Turning into “none of it is truly high class, so maybe that’s why she hates it.

My wife is size 10-12, and a 32 D bras. I find her incredibly sexy and find any opportunity to tell her, yet she feels like a fraud in lingerie.

TL;DR: How likely/common is it that no lingerie will ever be enjoyed by women? I want my wife to feel sexy. Is it lingerie in general, or were my past choices just cheap and tacky?

For reference: a bodysuit I’m considering buying for our raunchy weekend: https://www.honeybirdette.com/collections/bodysuits/products/whitney-princess-blue-playsuit
Vs things I’ve bought in the past: https://www.lovehoney.com.au/lingerie/babydolls-chemises/babydolls/p/lovehoney-bombshell-red-lace-babydoll-set-/a44344g79937.html

They’re certainly marketed differently. Do you get what you pay for, or do I give up on lingerie as an empowerment tool for my wife?

Buying lingerie as a gift.


I've recently been experimenting with stimulating my prostate during solo play but it's really hard for me to get to it. I have to basically lay on my back and crunch in half with my butt in the air. No other positions let me reach it. Either my fingers are too short or it's hughr than usual 😅

Anyway, I'm wanting to get a prostate massage toy to use instead so that I don't have to double over all the time. Any recommendations?

Edit: I'm in the UK so will be probably purchasing from lovehoney UK or bondara

Recommendations for prostate toys?


Gonna be buying sex toys for the first time soon and I'm planning to do my own research anyway (have done some already) but I'd also like to get some recommendations from people here so that when I make a decision, I'll have a range of options to pick the best from.

I want to buy a suction dildo, a vibrator and clit suction toy, and so would love to get your LoveHoney recommendations.

Some things to know:

* I live at home unfortunately so vibrators would need to be quite quiet.
* I don't want to spend too much per item so I'm looking for the cheapest but quality products on the site.

Questions:

* I'm a virgin so what dildo size would be good for a virgin to get used to but will still be large enough to feel pleasure?

That's all, thanks!

Recommendations for best, reasonably priced toys from LoveHoney?


Hi first time post to the community, long time lurkers. I’ve been trying to get out of my comfort zone when it comes to sex, esp since I’ve never had PIV sex (just oral, rubbing, clit stimulation).

I decided to spice things up by buying a liberator bonbon sex mount/pillow to help me learn how to ride a dick/ enjoy penetration.  It’s been frustrating because I don’t mind fingering while getting clit stimulation, but putting toys inside (mostly unrealistic/stylized toys) never feels good

 I don’t know what dildo to get as I’m in a bit of a Goldilocks situation-I bought the vixskin realistic bent small dildo but it’s  too girthy: https://vixencreations.com/products/small-realistic-bent

 (I mean tbh I also can barely wear a tampon as they always hurt/feel like it’s taking my back out :/)

and then I have a smaller skinnier dildo that was a freebie from lovehoney that is so thin I can’t even feel it inside me.

Does anyone have any suggestions for a first time dildo girth-wise or way too train myself to take bigger?

Also what to do if your mount is too tall that you can’t really ride it on the bed but the floor hurts after a while?

Thank you!

Sex toy help- dildos and mounts


Hi! I've got a bit of an odd issue when it comes to using plugs. I have this plug [here](https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/butt-plugs/glass-butt-plugs/p/lovehoney-pure-pleasure-sensual-glass-butt-plug/a32887g58338.html) which has been amazing but I'm used to it now. Also, if I wear it with a thong the base goes inside me. It also falls out during sex if I'm not careful.

Instead, I got ([this](https://www.bondara.co.uk/glacier-glass-aura-classic-butt-plug-5-inch)) which is bigger and omg it feels amazing. Problem is, when it gets to the widest part and I feel my ass stretching, I get this "OH MY GOD" moment and it almost feels like a panic. It feels like the runner's equivalent of hitting a wall. Does anyone else get this and, if so, how do you deal with it? I want this plug all the way in me because it feels unbelievable, but I just cant get over the last hurdle. It doesn't hurt or anything, just feels like a really big stretch. Any ideas?

Edit: typo and grammar

Issue with Butt Plug


Hi so I’m not that experienced with toys and would like a good toy for clitoral stimulation. It also needs to be affordable as I’m a student 😅. I have used Lovehoney before so a toy from that site would be nice. Any recommendations? Thank you in advance ☺

Looking for affordable sex toy for clitoral stimulation


[Orgasm balms.](https://www.lovehoney.com/lubes-essentials/better-sex-for-her/better-female-orgasms/p/lovehoney-oh-cherry-orgasm-balm-0.25-oz/36649.html) Do they work? Are they worth it? Safe for sex toys? I'm curious but I don't want to drop monkey on something that's going to be a dud, or worse hurt my/my partner's bits or ruin my toys.

Orgasm balms and the like -- worth it?


Looking for couples and people with a clitorus advice on the best magic wand a European can buy?

Me and my ex had a magic wand that brought us great pleasure. But it was not without it faults, it was a little small, and the vibrations carried through the handle, which was not ideal. i would like something big, but not like the hitachi, would like to travel with it, and affordable! Good sites? Lovehoney.eu?

It feels strange to buy as a guy! But I figure sex toys are like vitimans, you need them in your life.

Next question..

I am a single male but dabbles in and out of polyamourous relations, is it best to use a condom over the toy with different partners? With cleaning it as well of course.

Best magic wand..? and is it OK to share with multiple partners?


I (F18) am looking to buy my first sex toy now that I have a paying job, and don't know whether I should get a vibrator or a dildo first. Technically, I could get both, but I'm not really looking to splurge and would rather keep it discreet because I still live with my parents and don't want to have a whole collection haha. I'm thinking of buying from Lovehoney.

Does anyone have any recommendations of good toys, and have any idea what I should do?

Should I Buy A Vibrator or a Dildo For My First Sex Toy?


Posted here yesterday lmao but I ended up ordering and choosing the one day shipping and I haven't gotten a email saying that it's been shipped yet. The only email I got was them saying they received my order. I ordered from them early in the day on a guest account (I made one after I bought it) and I'm confused on how tf it works

how do lovehoney shipments work


(24F) I've never had sex and currently not looking for a partner, and I've also never used any toys, but I want to try some.
Looking to buy online somewhere that does discreet packaging ( I live with other people)

I'm in Canada, so preferably a Canadian site. I also have a limited budget (like preferably under $50CAD with shipping)
I know there might not be much options with that budget, but I figured I'd ask for advise here since I don't know where to start looking.

I'm interested in penetrative toys, but any recommendations or advice would be appreciated.

I have previously browsed "lovehoney" but wasn't sure what options are best.

Thanks for any info!

Beginner sex toy recommendation - Canada, affordable


 I (m23) own 2 plugs, my first and smaller one ([Mine could be smaller, it is not the exact one maybe](https://www.orion.de/produkt/analplug-aus-silikon-mit-schmuckstein-05314130000)) and my bigger one ([The shape is definitely different and also the size could be different to mine, but its the most similar I found now)](https://www.lovehoney.de/sexspielzeug/analplugs/analplugs-ohne-vibration/p/b-vibe-snug-plug-5-xl-gewichteter-silikon-analplug-15-cm/a46576g83684.html)).

Wearing the smaller one is way more uncomfortable for me than the bigger one. After about 20 mins, the smaller one begins to hurt, but the bigger one is twice bigger and I can wear it for over an hour.

Is this something normal that only because some toys are smaller they may not really fitting with ur body? Should I keep this in mind when buying new toys in the future, that I should prefer a bigger one?

Another topic; I also consider buying a new dildo, is a dildo with veins and balls a plus or is there not really a difference to a normal one without these "details"?

Smaller butt plug is way more uncomfortable than my bigger butt plug


We believe we would have a much more pleasant time together if we used lube. Unfortunately all I have is [anal lube](https://www.lovehoney.ca/sex/lubricants/anal-lubes/p/lovehoney-discover-water-based-anal-lubricant-100ml/66467.html) and I want to make sure it's safe to use for vaginal sex, thank you!

Anal lube for vaginal sex?


I'm 20F, never had sex. Don't be creepy.

I own two Lovehoney toys; the basics slimline 5" anal vibrator (not used anally, 5" circumference but tapered), and the 7" silicone heart pounder (5" circumference).

Basically, penetration always hurts. I feel like my vagina is trying to clamp down and push out any intruders, it doesn't matter how much lube I use, what position, how relaxed/turned on I am. I've tried after hot baths, orgasming, yoga, god knows what else. I'm at a total loss.

It sometimes feels good for maybe half a movement? Then back to the tightness and pain...

The funny thing is, I've been using a menstrual cup for the first time with 0 issues. I can insert, remove, re-insert with ease- and I even had to dig around up there once and shocker, it was fine!!! Even felt a little good the first try 😳

Still, I'm so scared I'll never be able to enjoy penetration in a sexual context. It feels like a mental exam. Breathe in, breathe out, pelvic floor exercises, angles, positions, meditation, fraction by fraction. So much pain and cramping and eventual crying. Giving up. Feeling broken.

PIV sex is how I want to have sex. I want to love it and love masturbating that way, but I cant. While I understand it's INCREDIBLY unlikely I'll be able to orgasm via PIV, I just want to feel these amazing feelings people talk about and be happy.

I'm sorry for getting emotional, I guess I'm looking for advice on what to do next... I might see a doc or try dilators, but I'm a little (* VERY) apprehensive about it. Any advice is welcome, just please be gentle with me, it's hard to be so open like this.

Thank you.

Can I ENJOY penetrative sex/masturbation?


Okay besties, I have to ask because my brain will not shut up,  does anyone know any sex toy brands that have cute sex toys that ship to Australia or in Australia? I saw someone asking about the tokidoki X Lovehoney Collab and I looked it up and I've been kinda obsessing over cute sex toys like that.
Thanks besties

Cute sex toys


Looking to buy a dildo with a handle but couldn't find a good one on Adam and eve or lovehoney.

where's the best place to buy a dildo with a handle


I keep seeing this toy in many retor movies but never managed to find out what it is called or who makes it. It is sort of like a smallish bullet vibrator, mostly gold with a flat top and 2-3 smaller little bumps on the head. It is used for clitoral stimulation, not to get insterted. I think it is some sort of face massager, similar to how the magic wand came to fame. Would really appreciate if someone recognices any of those features and may be able to point me in the right direction.

Similar to this, but not as cheap
[example](https://www.lovehoney.de/sexspielzeug/vibratoren/klitoris-vibratoren/p/lovehoney-erotic-rocket-10-stufiger-minivibrator/a15359g17173.html)

Looking for specific clitoral stimulation toy as a gift


I've  recently started seeing a woman and its early days in the relationship.  We're both relatively newbies when it comes to sex and we haven't  experiment at all. I was thinking of buy her a sex toy or two as a  surprise for Christmas to spice things up when we're together as well as  when she's on her own.

Good/bad  idea? Any suggestions on what to get? My initial thoughts were a  relatively cheap bullet vibrator from lovehoney (I live in the UK) and a  blindfold. Maybe save the handcuffs/restraints for the next purchase?

Surprise first sex toy as a xmas gift?


My partner and I used to love using [Durex PlayO](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Durex-Play-Stimulation-Gel-Women/dp/B002GT3OD8). Devastatingly this was discontinued several years ago, we have tried numerous other gels since but have never found one that has worked quite so well - does anybody have any recommendations for a suitable replacement? Ideally it would provide a similarly strong sensation that lasts for a long time and does not become sticky. Thanks in advance!

The closest we have found so far:

[Durex Intense:](https://www.durex.co.uk/products/durex-intense-orgasmic-gel-lube-10ml)
Similar sensation when first applied but wears off quickly in a matter of minutes

['Tickle her pink':](https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/better-sex-for-her/better-female-orgasms/p/tickle-her-pink-clitoral-stimulating-gel-30ml/54611.html)
Less intense but lasts a lot longer.

[Durex warming gel:](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Durex-Warming-Intimate-Water-Based/dp/B08419T2M7/ref=mp_s_a_1_3_mod_primary_new?adgrpid=103651253992&gclid=CjwKCAiA1aiMBhAUEiwACw25MeNVS-E7NpGlppkW6usv76sE8kiFaHS52bOp7F5V-U4JF9RLLiGE-xoCQwwQAvD_BwE&hvadid=444501653220&hvdev=m&hvlocint=9046455&hvlocphy=9046544&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=15705664977880422722&hvtargid=kwd-5711723441&hydadcr=8018_1789585&keywords=durex+warming+gel&qid=1636458248&qsid=257-0133833-2434314&rdc=1&sbo=RZvfv%2F%2FHxDF%2BO5021pAnSA%3D%3D&sr=8-3&sres=B08419T2M7%2CB004NC7VR6%2CB06ZZDPN3D%2CB00AVVY0PE%2CB078WVPQFX%2CB083P69Q76%2CB00XI26M04%2CB01MU56C29%2CB000Q87YLE%2CB01NC02SCL%2CB007EE2GRK%2CB08419GY6S%2CB083P5VXFF%2CB08419QWSD&srpt=BODY_LUBRICANT)
Nice sensation but not as intense as the other two and becomes tacky after a while.

Alternative to Durex PlayO?


So I (M) am going to be surprising my gf with a double penetrator cock ring. She has said she wants to give the double penetration thing a go and is excited about it so it won't be a bold move when I surprise her with it.

My main question is what option should I go with, there are three (generic Lovehoney range). Two have vibrators at the top, one of which has a bunny head for the clit, and the other just some textured rubber around the vibrator housing, the last one is plain with no vibrator.

My thoughts are the bunny one is just going to be useful in one position and certain speeds/pulse which leads me to believe the one without the bunny is the best option. The one without the vibrator seems less spicy than the other options. Is there a safe option to take in this situation? Have users got any recommendations? Is there a general rule of thumb when buying something for a surprise so you aren't too bold or forward?

Surprising gf with a sex toy. Need advice on what to get.


Does anyone have recommendations for where to buy toys to be delivered in Ireland? I've ordered from lovehoney before but then had to pay extra customs when the came into the country and I'm trying to find an alternative.

Thanks in advance

Good website to buy toys from in Ireland?


Just want to say I used this nice little toy on the wife last night and what a game changer! I've never heard her scream so loud from an orgasm and that was on the low setting.

Lovehoney dream wand


Anyone ever use one of these? I just bought one for half price for my wife and I. Just wondering how good it is.

Lovehoney dream wand


My friend needs to make sure before he orders, his parents are conservative.

How discrete is Lovehoney's packaging?


It's a satisfyer brand rechargeable toy that has a magnetic recharging connector. The buttons aren't working and it's totally solid, can't take it apart. Husband is coming home soon and is going to laugh his arse off at me!

[Edit: o no my inbox 😨]

[UPDATE: Left it in another room to run itself down. Took like 5 hours in total! I don't think it was even fully charged when I got it out today! So full points to Satisfyer for battery life, if not for flawless electronics. Weirdly enough, after "running out" of charge, I can now turn it on again and it seems to be working normally, but I don't trust it not to do the same thing again some time.

Also, to all the dudes messaging me saying, "hey": hey. Great chatting. To the one dude who just wrote "Whore": I can't stop laughing so I hope that's the reaction you're after. I showed my husband and now he keeps popping his head round the door to shout "HARLOT!" or "WENCH!" at me. As we all know, that's the best way to get a lady in the mood. Oh and I emailed lovehoney, who I bought the toy from, and hopefully they'll replace it.]

Help! My vibrator won't turn off!


(new account because RL people might know of my first one)

I am 28m experimenting with anal sex toys, somewhat of a beginner.
years ago i rammed my big dildo once or twice against what i thought was an internal orifice and it turned out to be the sigmoid bend once i read about anatomy.It drew a little bit of blood, i could tell because it was on the top of the dildo.Another i tried again going very slowly.it still drew blood.
After several years i am once again trying out anal, now using smaller more comfortable toys and being less rough.I tried [these anal beads](https://www.lovehoney.eu/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/anal-beads/p/cannonballs-giant-silicone-anal-beads/a33969g60961.html) for some deep exploration, i put them in just once and very slowly, best feeling i ever had.I did feel them passing through the bend, It didn't feel more painful than stool passing through.Still drew some blood which is a massive shame.

For warming up reference i spent 30 minutes with a butt plug, 5 with a medium dildo gently, 2-3 minutes slowly inserting the beads, kept them in 10 minutes, then slowly pulled them out.I used generous water based lube.

how normal is it?Should i avoid ever trying again?Any tip for not hurting myself? Do i need more experience with that depth or a very long local warm-up ( how??).
Thanks for any answer.

Blood from deep anal play, everytime


I just got a Faye Reagan pocket pussy in the mail and I took out the box, it had no sticker sealing the tab to open it like a lot of products do and the bag the toy was in also wasn't sealed. When I took it out I turned it inside out and noticed that it has small red spots in some areas. It also has small tears inside but I assume that's just from me stretching it out. I want to make sure that its completely safe before use, I ordered it on lovehoney. Thank you if anyone could help with the situation.

I need help determining if this is safe to use


I recently purchased a couple silicone dildos from lovehoney, but I am still confused on how to actually clean and store them properly before and after use. The website & other sources say to use “sex toy cleaner”, whilst some say that warm water is fine. And no one’s actually detailed (as far as I know) where\how to store these types of dildos. Help? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

How to Clean & Store Silicone Dildos?


 I'm in the market to buy some lube, however after doing some research and stumbling across some blogs/sites that talk about ingredients to avoid, I kind of feel hesitant on buying a lube that I've always bought from my local sex shop that lasts me like 5-6 months and I always like buying bulk/big sized bottles, I like it to last long term + it saves me money.

These blogs and sites talk about propylene glycol, parabens and glycerine being the ingredients women should avoid and while the explanation behind it is logical and that I understand why people avoid it, does it apply to men as well? It's still left up in the air as to whether men should be avoiding these same ingredients and I'm very hesitant on buying lube for this reason. I don't like coconut oil as a lube so I always resort to water-based.

As long as a guy doesn't have allergies, does it really matter what ingredients (obviously without parabens) there are in a lube? I've been using Wet Stuff with Vitamin E and Lovehoney's brand of lubes and am hesitant on purchasing both of these as they both contain propylene glycol and glycerine.

Do lube ingredients matter for men when it comes to masturbation?


A friend of mine recently openly spoke to me about her sex toys and went so far as to show me where she hid them in her room. I felt really uncomfortable discussing this with her, but maybe I'm the prude. Is it usual to talk about sex toys and masturbation with your pals? I found an interesting stat from Lovehoney which says [20% Brits are comfortable doing so](https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/masturbation-month-solo-play-confessions.html) which makes me think I'm not alone feeling a bit weird about it, but why are we!

Do you talk about your sex toys with your friends?


I'm a female virgin and tried to insert the below dildo last night into my vagina but it really hurt and I couldn't get the head in. I was quite wet and used a small amount of water based lube. I was quite rushed though and didn't get all the time I needed. I can only normal fit one finger in myself but I've never properly really tried with more fingers or other forms of penetration. Is this normal? I also suffer from vulvodynia.

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/dildos/realistic-dildos/p/lovehoney-curved-silicone-suction-cup-dildo-5.5-inch/a34638g62632.html

Any advice would be appreciated. I'd feel weird going to the doctor seen as though I'm a virgin.
I'm also a lesbian but would like to use strap ons when I meet someone, I'm more of a giver but would like to take it now and again.

Thanks

Struggled to insert a dildo?


There are many threads about cowgirl on this sub but not so much about actually practicing. For eg I've seen the [Liberator Bonbon](https://www.lovehoney.com/bondage/sex-swings-machines/sex-furniture-position-enhancers/p/liberator-bonbon-toy-mount/a35052g63506.html#productReview) and Liberator Wing. They look very comfortable for this purpose (and other ones). Does anyone have experience with this type of thing or [suction cups](https://www.tantusinc.com/products/suction-cup?rfsn=600764.1d906) or other things? Any good tips?

Edit: added link

For practicing cowgirl has anyone used a sex toy-mounting pillow (Liberator for eg) or extra strong suction cup?


So I am a bit of a fan of butt play. I have a 9" Lovehoney branded suction cup dildo that the wife uses on me, or more often than not, I stick it to something, and bounce up and down on into put on a show for her. We also use an inflatable plug or stretching/pulling, and sometime latex pants with a dildo in the seat. Bhis post relates mainly to the dildo, but full disclosure and all that.

Now this is great fun, and never been a problem before. However, that last two time I have bounced up and down on the dildo (over a month apart) I have ended up with an external hemorrhoid the day after. Different location each time, and I just use a cream to make it go away.

I have never had hemorrhoids before. I suspect it has to do with the ADHD meds I started taking about 3 months back. Ever since I started, I have been dehydrated, and finding it difficult to poop.

I am working on adding more fibre to my diet and staying hydrated. The basic stuff, but I have a few questions that I thought you wonderful folks might be able to answer...

1. I get inconsistent results in my searches for Anal causing hemorrhoids. What is your experience?

2. It only seems to be when I am bouncing that they come up after. Stretching and pushing with an inflatable plug doesn't seem to do it. Does this sound right?

3. Is there anything else you would recommend other than hydration and diet?

Any constructive comments or advice is appreciated.

Hemorrhoids after Anal Play


So I posted over in SexToys, but maybe will have luck here. Hoping someone can recommend a rabbit with rotating beads and rotating/thrusting tip. In particular, trying to find one that is corded and plugs in or has a strong motor. I’m having issues with them bogging down and stopping depending on how much I'm squeezing. I've tried rabbits from Lovense, Lovehoney,  Paloqueth and a few oddball others, but having similar results even with quality lube, new batteries or full charge. Anyone have any suggestions? Any recommendations? Any other good toy related subs for advice? Thanks!

Hunting for a robust rabbit toy


Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience? The stinging/burning dies down after a couple of minutes but it kind of spoils the moment a little - and defeats the point of the lube! I am using standard lovehoney lube (condom friendly).... I also tried with YES organic lube, which is meant to be super sensitive and ph friendly. Seems like a big design flaw to me.

Seems to happen more often closer to my period, and yes I do have a sensitive vagina and sometimes I get mild thrush. BUT - the point of lube is to reduce that discomfort.... not increase it!

Any recommendations of nice, gentle, condom friendly, non-burning lube??

Why does lube sting my vagina??


So we’ve discussed using one before. I sometimes put a finger or thumb up there, and sometimes a little kick haha.

I really enjoy doing those things to her, but she says she’s unsure how she feels about it, but is willing to test it out further.

We have date night this Friday and I’ve ordered a beginner metal butt plug from lovehoney to surprise her at the end of the night. I’ve got lube and plan to use lots of it and of course I’ll put it in slow at a pace that’s comfortable to her.

What other tips do people have for anal play? Neither of us really have much experience with it but we’re excited to learn!

Planning to surprise my girlfriend with a butt plug - tips?


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Can anyone else get on lovehoney at the moment or was the website blocked for me?


I need help with figuring out how to turn on this silencer vibrator I've recently bought from lovehoney website. Things I have tried:

1. switch batteries around. I also tried replacing them to see any difference - none.
2. Twist the bottom shut and secure
3. I followed all of their website quick tips and it didn't work anyway. I pressed the button multiple times and no movement... nothing has happened.

Link to the vibrator:[https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/vibrators/classic-vibrators/p/lovehoney-silencer-whisper-quiet-classic-vibrator-7-inch/a16603g70633.html](https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/vibrators/classic-vibrators/p/lovehoney-silencer-whisper-quiet-classic-vibrator-7-inch/a16603g70633.html)

I asked their customer service what to do, so they sent me a replacement (this time properly packaged). Still nothing! I feel like I've been scammed even though I read a bunch of customer reviews and done some research (I bought a bullet vibrator along with this and it works fine idk why they keep giving me a faulty product unless I'm being super dumb).

Any help will be appreciated!

Need help with the vibrator


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Lovehoney trash


 I’m shopping for a present for my wife.

She has a basic vibrator we use at the moment, I’d like to treat her to something better. We used to have a little love egg/bullet that had a remote (and that was REALLY fun) but it didn’t last very long (or, it was cheap and broke). Nothing too intense on the clit, she can’t take too much there unless she’s in the right mood!

We’re in the UK and I’ll probably be shopping on Lovehoney but any other recommendations are welcome.

Thanks x

Recommend a vibrator?


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My gf received as a gift a lovehoney vibrator


Backstory:
Sex has gotten quite boring to me and idk what to do. When I started dating my bf (we were 15 and 17, yea it was legal) and we had our first times it was great for half a year we did it for hours on end. But after half a year when it got out and we didn’t do it in secret of our partners anymore the arousal slowly started to fade. Now 5years in the relationship I really want something to change (we’re 20 and 22).
He’s a very vanilla kinda person. Not kinky at all. He’s the type of guy to just go in, do it, and then cuddle. End. I don’t really like that. It doesn’t feel like “making love” it just feels like sex. I wanna spice things up but there’s not much options without it being not-fun for him.  I want both of us to like it.

Question:
I love sweets. We’ve gotten fruit roll ups to wrap it around his dick to make blow jobs more lasting and more fun for both.
But I want something for the body. I wanna lick him without it being weird like there’s nothing to lick but skin. I know that’s the point but he needs a “reason” if you get me. So I thought could one use honey to like drizzle it on the partner and lick it off, but maybe also to have sex and fuck while being covered in honey? I’ve tried to look it up but found nothing. Not on Google nor even on Pornhub. Tbh I thought you could find anything there but I guess not. I don’t like looking much porn it kinda disgusts me a bit so I don’t wanna search a lot on those platforms. It ruins the honey idea of it being something intimate and for us instead of “just sex” like stated above.

Does somebody have experience with actual honey and sex? Is it “possible” or should we better not do it for hygiene reasons.

Also he’s not that big of a honey fan. He doesn’t like to much sticky stuff so it should be something sticky liquidy like jelly jam or liquid honey but not dry too fast otherwise it gets uncomfortable.  alternative things to lick off would also be great.

Licking body. Experiences with honey? (The Food not the honeypacks)


Hey I'm 23M and I just bought a house with my girlfriend 23F we have been together for 3 years. We love each other very much and don't really have any problems except one. Her libido is getting Lower and lower these years. No it isn't hormonal we tested. Her stress isn't high and other causes we already explored. We are very honest with each other and talk about it a lot. She assures it doesn't have anything to do with me or the sex itself. We tried some horny making honey and some powders and stuff but nothing works. I don't really know what to do. Does anyone have some tips or have some experience in ? Before any tips yes we communicate a lot about it

My girlfriend has a low libido and we both don't know how to fix it anymore 23M and 23F


Hi,

I am asking here for answers that come from a supportive place and from a place where experience is shared to make everyone's sexual life even more enjoyable.

I am a woman with a long term relationship male partner whom I love a lot and can talk openly. I am realising that I have slowly become "boring" for him and myself in bed because I can't come up with anything new to bring change during  foreplays. I don't see sex as a pure mechanical performance but as as moment to have fun, laughter, connection and physical pleasure.

It takes me always so long to build sexual tension and I am somehow rushing "my part" in my head because I feel like I don't want my partner to wait so long for me before he can get to his part (orgasm).

I would appreciate if you could share what happens during love making with your partner that makes you feel pleasure as girls and make it enjoyable for the man at the same time. I don't necessarily mean in terms of orgasm but in terms of physical and psychological pleasure. Words, games, ways and locations of touching and exploring, ice, honey, room location, etc. whatever it is!

I would like foreplays to become fresh again, sensual and with feminine confidence again.

Thanks in advance;)

Exploring new paths to pleasure during Foreplays


(23f) I love love love having sex. My husband (28m) calls me a nympho. He’s bought royal vip honey to keep up, some straps to strap me in, but still I feel like it’s not enough. We have sex maybe 3 times a week, but if it were up to me I’d go for 3 times a day. I’m bi so I’ve been thinking about asking him for a threesome with a woman, but not sure if he’d be able to handle it or if he’d want to. Any tips?

husband can’t keep up


I 29F have a very good friend 53M that I'm ENM intimate with regularly, once every other week for the past 3 months. I'm a lover girl so I've told him I love him & am happily one-sidedly in love with him (I feel this way towards multiple friends, platonic & not), and he's not so much with the sharing emotions verbally, but I can feel how much he cares about me, more and more lately. We've had the very direct chat about how neither of us will ever want a committed relationship and don't think it would work out, but we're happy having sex, going on friend dates, helping each other, being good comrades, companions, etc.

Giving this context BC the men I've already asked about this immediately asked how much we liked each other. I only have verbal confirmation of how I feel for him and he knows he's welcome to feel however he wants for me & doesn't have to verbalize anything, doesn't change me & my feelings.

This last night together we had awesome sex like always, though we did have this unusual moment where we stopped euphorically 69ing and he leaned back on the bed, just....softly smiling at me and caressing my arms up & down. I was ready, so I said "What do you want baby?" He just kept smiling silently so I asked again and he asked if I could reach the condoms. I slipped one on and got on top and when I was getting close he came just a hair too early for me to cum too like I'm used to. We were using a condom (as always) which was coincidentally slightly thicker than our normal. We usually use trojan bareskin raw but this one was a skyn original. Tried hopping off super fast and said "Did you cum honey?" and when he said yes, I said, "Sorry, baby'" and got back on top because I was gonna use his post nut remainder erection to get off even though I know he's sensitive. I've never done that to him. Jumped back on, started fucking and he yelled "Oh god! This shouldnt be possible!" within like 30 seconds.

I slowed and he said he came again, but he knew I was close so he troopered through like a hero and grabbed me hard, gave me some good pumps to get me there & I achieved climax. He didn't let me hop off, he pulled me down hard onto his chest and held me against him still in me while I wound down. Condom was still on him when he slid out, and he said he's only ever experienced that one other time in his life. I said "happy to be in the top 2!!" And he said "no, that was number one, the other comes second."

Tried asking if it was just ejaculate or just a dry orgasm but he said no. The condom was extra full so I suppose I believe him! I just..didn't know that was possible......is this a thing? I feel like I should know this by now in my age smh

My BFFWB came twice in a row within about 30 secs - is this possible or was it likely just dry/just ejaculate??


I will start out by saying I am a freak in some ways and confess I love cum.  So, I am married, and we have been in an open relationship for 9 years and married for 10. We use condoms for safety even though I hate them.  But if a play friend is tested, it is OK for us to go raw which I love.  When it comes to sperm, I react to it where I buzz a bit from it, whether I receive it from oral or sex.  I have heard there is dopamine and serotonin in sperm.  Cum gives me a warm happy feeling of euphoria that can last for hours. Also, I crush on a guy for a day or two if I take his sperm one way or another.  In addition, my body absorbs it where if a guy cums in me, my husband can taste it when we kiss several hours later.  I am wondering if anyone experiences the same thing or familiar with this reaction.

Secondly, I take a very long time to orgasm and can only orgasm from sex.  I need my clit and g-spot stimulated at the same time which is usually from penetration.  After a long build, my orgasms are very strong, and most guys can feel the contractions and spasms on their dick. My husband can last forever and usually is the only one that can make me climax.  But occasionally, I meet a guy with the size and endurance I need to have a nice orgasm.  When this happens, I want his sperm in the worst way!  My pussy goes into overdrive with milking spasms and contractions which usually makes the guy ejaculate almost instantly. On the one hand, after a long sex session, cum feels good and soothing.  Also, from a primal standpoint, it just feels right to take his sperm if he makes me climax.  So, if a guy makes me orgasm and cums inside me, I may crush on him several for days.  If a guy is using a condom and makes me orgasm, then I crave to take his semen orally which has a similar effect. I kind of like the taste of semen and sometimes it even tastes like honey.  It is weird.  After buzzing on sperm, the fog does lift in a few days unless I see him again in a short period of time and he cums in me.  Then I crush on him all over again. Do other women crave sperm after orgasm?  I did say I am a freak but want a better understanding of this while we enjoy sex with others in the lifestyle.

I confess I have a sperm fetish


TLDR: I’m looking for ways to improve our sex life for both of us. I want to last longer so she can have more orgasms with me inside. I want her to crave me more often and much more deeply.

To preface, I(30M) love my wife(28F) deeply and I know she loves me back just as much. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with our sex life. I just want both of us to have more of it and get more out of it.

We have been together for 7 years and have two kids with a third on the way. We have sex once or twice a week. I think she is perfectly happy with once a week and I wish it was closer to 2-3 times a week but this is by far my smallest “complaint”. However, she is not overly sexual and had very little experience before we got together. I have had at least twice as much experience before we got together and a serious porn issue for over 20 years (it’s been a lot better over the last 5 years but still struggle with lust daily).

I’m also very aware of how I need to improve outside the bedroom. I’m trying to be a better husband and father and we downloaded a couples app to deepen our relationship. I’m human and old habits die hard but I’m not just throwing up my hands and giving up. I try to be better daily for my family and myself. That’s why I understand that there are some things that are simply going to take time and other things that just won’t interest one or both of us. Like, she is shy and embarrassed so she doesn’t like the lights on or saying dirty things. However, I love seeing everything and anytime she says the smallest thing, it really gets me going.

That being said, I want her to want me as badly as I want her. I want her to want my cum. We both like creampies but I wish she wanted it on her and in her mouth. In the beginning of our relationship, she would give me oral to completion on rare occasions but now hasn’t for 3-4 years. We used to do a fair bit of the 69 position during foreplay but even that has virtually stopped over the past year or so.

I want to make my wife enjoy my semen. To the point of craving it. I want her to be naughty for me and be more open. Use her hands more and be more vocal. I also want to last longer. I do my best to make sure she climaxes first and she does at least 95% of the time. This is mainly because I eat her out till she cums then we both finish together. But I can’t pound her without almost finishing within 30 seconds.

We do get a little adventurous from time to time. Lingerie, blindfolding, and anal for her. I’ve told her she can try it on me if she really wants to but I don’t think either of us would enjoy it. We’ve also considered a using rope. We’ve also considered introducing toys but haven’t yet. I think she’s too shy or embarrassed, I have no problem with it.

I’ve tried different varieties of royal honey and delay spray. The honey is fantastic when it works well but doesn’t always work. The delay spray helps me last a little longer but not a significant amount. I really want to feel her fully so if it’s going to numb me that much, I want to last way longer.

She also said she doesn’t like the texture of semen because it is similar to mucus but I’m sure the taste isn’t all that great either. She has agreed to try swallowing my semen again if I drink a lot of pineapple juice and water over the next two weeks.

Is there anything I can do to further improve taste and texture? Are there any other foods or drinks that have the same effect on taste? What should I stay away from?

Would finishing on her help her become more accustomed to it? Should I practice edging? What can I do to make her feel more comfortable? How do I word my requests so that she knows I find her sexy but still want more of her?

How can I get more out of my wife and give her more too?


Guys this is the first time ever this happened to me.

For more context, I am seeing this girl who I truly believe she’s my soul mate, we laugh so much, we communicate, trust and we are so loyal, ahhh I love her…

Seeing each other for about 4 months now, and we always have sex like a lot a lot, she’s 22 and I’m 28.

Last night I kept edging her and doing orgasm denial, and she got so wet that literally felt like I was touching honey, as it was a velvety thick consistency, oh boy that girl wanted to jump on me.

Then we tried this new position where I’m laying down; she sits on me with her legs folded and when I put it in, I put all the way in, bare in mind I don’t think my cock is big at all, it’s like 6.4 inches which is average, she has had bigger but she says mine was the best fit apparently lol

Then when it was all the way in, she told me she was gonna cum? I’m like I’ve just put it in??? Genuinely I thought she was joking or doing a fake orgasm but she came??!! I was like for real?

Then we sat down and she was telling me she never felt like that and I was like how? She goes explaining that the shape of it made it touch a spot that she’s never felt before, bear in mind my dick curves to the right and I’ve always been self-conscious about it. Then I pushed her down on her shoulders and she grabbed my hand and put on her leg and it was fully goosebumps! Like as if she was naked outside on a -20 weather.

My question is, I also felt the amzing spot but I don’t what it is??? It felt like my bellend was getting squished even more like as if there was a vagina inside her vagina? Is that normal? What is it and how come we only found out now?

Made my girlfriend cum as it went in?


Hey all! So for context I am looking to make anal lube that looks/feels like cum. Yes this is for fetish purposes, yes it is because body-safe anal lube is pricey, and *NO* I am not just shoving random chemicals up my ass to find out! I genuinely care about safety here.

**Safety Criteria:** (1) *NEEDS to be Anal-Safe,* (2) *Shouldn't include any unnatural dyes/fragrances or laxatives,* (3) *Shouldn't be an illness-risk via bacteria/mold/etc.*

**Pleasure Criteria:** (1) *Should be water-based and have a cum-like look and texture*, (2) *Preferred if it can look/smell like semen slightly,* (3) *Preferred for it to be storable or have some sort of semi-stable shelf life for batch-making.*

Consider the Bad Dragon Cum-Lube as a baseline reference: It has the ingredients of Water, Polyethylene Oxide, Titanium Dioxide, Potassium Sorbate, and Citric Acid (pH adjustment).

From what I've managed to research, an anal-safe DIY lube recipe is as simple as cornstarch and water: at cornstarch to water, stir and dissolve, bring to a boil, let simmer for 1-3 minutes, then cool in a sterile glass jar. I haven't found any scientific articles citing where bacteria risks would be aside from unclean equipment *(which can also be said of sex toys).*

The cornstarch naturally acts as the thickening agent *(fills the role of  the Polyethylene Oxide)* as well as provides a white-ish pigment *(what the Titanium Dioxide does)*. The Potassium Sorbate is used as a preservative against mold and yeast, while the Citric Acid is used to create a slightly acidic environment against bacteria- so they both act as preservatives in essence.

If there is a way to replace these preservatives at home with a DIY method that is still body-safe then that would help. Off the top of my head I can only think of pH adjusters like vinegar, lemon juice, or buying citric acid itself- but my concerns are about the body safety, potential sugars causing yeast infections, and the necessary quantities used.

Then I have additional concerns- whenever you put *any* fluid in your anus you want it to have a salinity close to your bodily salinity. For douching it's medically recommended to dissolve salt into the water you'll be using for this purpose. So, question- can I and should I put salt in this mixture to bring the salinity to the appropriate levels? Would it interact with the cornstarch negatively?

Final question- obviously *most* dyes, perfumes, and flavors in commercial lubes are *never* meant to be used internally *(fun-fact for those who didn't know)*. My question is if there is anything you can add DIY that would give some sort of flavor/smell that *IS* body-safe? I ask because commercial lubes use synthetically derived flavors in the forms of ester alcohols. I'm having difficulty what specific ingredients/compounds/methods the ingestion + anal safe lubes are using to introduce flavors.

I considered honey *(but the sugar is a yeast risk)*, extracts/flavorings *(unsafe due to being in alcohol form)*, and salt *(again for salinity, should be safe in theory)*. Flavor extracts can be made at home but either require alcohol *(NOPE),* food-grade glycerin *(a laxative)*, propylene glycol *(NOT anal safe)*, and water emulsions *(which need an emulsifier and those aren*'t *studied for this purpose).*

Soooo... that's where I'm at! I'd love to hear some chemists sound-off in the comments, might post this in a chemistry subreddit as well, but yeah!

Trying to Create DIY Fake Cum Lube?


So, I will start out by saying I am a freak in some ways.  We have been in an open relationship for 9 years and married for 10. We use condoms for safety even though I hate them.  But if a play friend is tested, it is OK for us to go raw which I love.  When it comes to sperm, I react to it where I buzz a bit from it, whether I receive it from oral or sex.  I have heard there is dopamine and serotonin in sperm.  Cum gives me a happy feeling that can last for hours. Also, I crush on a guy for a day or two if I take his sperm one way or another.  I am wondering if other women experience the same thing.

Secondly, I take a very long time to orgasm and can only orgasm from sex.  I need my clit and g-spot stimulated at the same time which is usually from sex.  After a long build, my orgasms are very strong, and most guys can feel the contractions and spasms on their dick. My husband can last forever and usually is the only one that can make me climax.  But occasionally, I meet a guy with the size and endurance I need to have a nice orgasm.  When this happens, I want his sperm in the worst way!  My pussy goes into overdrive with milking spasms and contractions which usually makes him cum almost instantly. On the one hand, after a long sex session, cum feels good and soothing.  Also, from a primal standpoint, it just feels right to take his sperm if he makes me climax.  So, if a guy makes me orgasm and cums inside me, I may crush on him several for days.  If a guy is using a condom and makes me orgasm, then I crave to take his cum orally which has a similar effect. I kind of like the taste of cum and sometimes it even tastes like honey.  It is weird.  The fog does lift unless I see him again in a short period of time.  Then I crush on him all over again. Do other women crave sperm after orgasm?  I did say I am a freak but want a better understanding of this while we enjoy sex with others in the lifestyle.

Trying to understand my sperm fetish


I am really wanting to give my honey the pleasure of what I believe the prostate does to a man. I don’t have one so I can’t tell firsthand but I know he loves fingering me and always wants to try to have anal sex and I would like to be able to explore that with him. Whether it’s rimming or milking. Using toys or strap on, etc. he has struggled with a drug problem and I think he has been with other men while on his drug of choice and I don’t want to shame him at all. I think bisexual men are hot and he knows this, but he has frequently said how he is not bisexual and only into women. He is currently incarcerated so that is not the place to have the discussion but when he gets home, I’m hoping he’ll relax and I just want him to know that no matter what he enjoys. I love him regardless

Help with how to please, the husband!


My boyfriend(22) and I (19) have sex pretty often. It every time ends up in rough and hardcore way which I don’t like. It is like my bf doesn’t stop when I ask him to and continues to keep going and even after I cry asking to get off me he just replies “ I am almost done” “ you’ll be just fine I will go slow now” “just 5 more minutes “. I let it be the first few times but he proceeds to extend 5mins to 30 mins, goes for a second round. Sometimes, he covers up my mouth and shuts me up saying “Its alright, honey. It means it is really pleasurable”. Even when I ask him for top positions like cowgirl or anything but under him, he says he wont enjoy it and I insisted him to try cowgirl, and it didn’t take 5mins for him to switch it. At the end, he just says “I’m sorry, I can’t help it. I just have an arousal to do faster and longer with you”. I am not trying to cut connections with him and I love him, but it gets to a point. I tried to talk it out but it is always I can’t help it statement that pops up. Please let me know if I am just overreacting or not. I would appreciate you reading, thank you!

Am I overthinking?


So been married 30 years. I am 52M wife is 50W I don’t post much but I have a real question. After many years of being married and having times of great sec and marriage and lows as well we are kind of on a higher point. I have never had this problem until recently. I don’t have a hard time getting it up but lately I have a hard time finishing while having intercourse. She will help me out at the end with either a bj or HJ. Which I love but I am frustrated cause I love love love finishing inside her. Essentially after 4 babies and some big babies along with just time my wife isn’t as tight anymore. And maybe I am smaller but I have never not been able to finish. She is also lately very lubricated. She almost always is done before me and it seems like I could go forever but if I want to be done I almost have to have her give me a handjob for tight feeling. I realize those isn’t a huge problem but I miss finishing at the same time as her and really trying to time it and hold out and have that control and confidence that she could say “ok I am there” and I would be able to do the same and please her and I. Even she has said she misses that so I try to mimic like I am finishing and that helps her. Any advice? Like exercises do they really work kagel or whatever or is there something I can do to feel more. A procedure to tighten it up or do something to me to be bigger. Girth wise or something.
She has told me (whether she is being kind or not) that I am on the bigger side of her past relationships and sometimes she has felt like it is too deep. But maybe I shrunk haha. Honey I string the horny or something. Accepting any and all advice.

Need advice after 30 years of marriage


My partner(M) and I (F) love to devour each other up in 69. I get incredibly turned on by it and my honey pot flows for my partner to taste. I love the way my partner holds me, the breath I can feel up my bum and back, the pauses we both take at times to just enjoy what each other is doing when we hit a nice rhythm or area. I love the angle of his cock in this position, and even peeking through between us to catch eyes. I don't cum in 69 and this surprises us - what is your experience with this? I do find my wrists get sore when I'm on top, sideways is a little awkward, and if I'm on the bottom, I get farted on.

We love 69! Its always foreplay but never a finisher..


She starts out hidden from the universe
Proud of your body, only you can choose
Knowing her intimately, is not a curse,
Covered most days, she likes to ooze

Under the  layers, she can't breathe
Cotton, thong or lace, it is your choice
I am sure she is saying cum on, please
Show her with grace, teasing the boys

I love, there is a slight view, maybe a slip
Flirting with me, while your commando
Dressing  in lace, slowly start to strip
Dancing is a sexy way to help her flow

A bit see thru, she is playing peek a boo
Long lace shirt,  with one button done
Showing your mound, that's my queue
Dancing seductively, hot like the sun

At home, she breathes, happy to be free
Slipping a finger, over a glistening mound
Stripping down, damp, just like the sea
What am I seeing?, a small drip, it’s round

Playing with me, u place her on my nose
exposing her, for she may fall on my lips
Legs on my shoulders, smells like a rose
Reaching up, trying to pinch your nips

Standing up quick, shooting me a wink
Striking a pose, shirt falls at your feet
Heart racing, thirsty, really need a drink
Long shirts, chiffon and lace is a treat

As your pearls of love drip into my mouth Creamy sauce, an explosion of flavour
Kiss your lips, will  lick my way south
You for dinner,  that's a meal I can savour

You always like, I am willing to drink
Savouring every ounce of your nectar
When you sit  on my face, can't blink
She flows like a fire hose, delectable

My tongue in deep making you quiver
Rocking your honey pot, wet, on my face
speed up or slow down, with how I flick-er
Longer we go, your keeping the pace

Taste so good when your riding my face
 I am in deep and drinking up your juice
Licking your lips, I'm leaving no trace
My tongue is ready, when you let loose

You fully enjoy that I am willing to shave
To devour every ounce of your wetness
Savouring your love, am always craving
Don't have to worry, you always impress

Reaching down to hold my head in place
Getting a chance to firmly hold your hips
Grinding your hips, slowly, using my face
You squeal with pleasure, biting your lips

Flicking my tongue, your about to burst
Tensing up, you shake, and vibrate
You fill my mouth, quenching my thirst
Always giving me your cherry in your cake

My favourite meal.


Ive always had this weird desire that when it comes to me and my girl having sex or just have our time i always wanted to try to pour out honey or some whipped cream or milk....etc. It would look hot for some reasson and making it sweeter could be even hotter. But i would love to know if it could be dangerous cuz im not sure if girls can actually put something in there cuz as i know its pretty sensitive to everything thats not supposed to be there. And also i wonder can i do it same without harming him? Cuz why not doing it both of us then :D Thanks for advices )

Can i do this without harming her?


I'm looking to make a to-do list for my wife. She is very organized, loves lists, and will constantly make me honey-do lists for things to get done around the house. I also have started doing this for myself, wanting to anticipate what she wants done, but also just needing to get my own things done. I've been trying to come up with ways for us to spice things up that don't necessarily involve sex and came up with the idea of making her a naughty to do list. Not really a bucket list type thing, but tasks she can perform by herself. Im trying to come up with ideas that would take less then 10 minutes and don't require too much planning or are too involved. Things like sending a naughty text or making a wishlist of sex toys or writing out fantasies or kinks. I'd love some suggestions i can add to the list I've got going.

Naughty "To-do List"


I (27F) am able to have orgasms fairly easily, but they've always been very... Underwhelming.

I've never tried sex toys, but thought they might be worth a shot. However, I just had a look on Love Honey and got a bit overwhelmed by the amount of choice.

I don't want to waste money on something that isn't going to work very well for me, so I thought I'd ask for some feedback from those more experienced with this kind of thing.

Some relevant points:
- I have never orgasmed from penetration. Every orgasm I have ever had has been through clitoral stimulation so, realistically, that's probably what's going to work for me in a sex toy.
- I'm interested in the idea of the 'clit sucker' toys, but not sure which one would be best to go for, so I'm open to recommendations here.
- I'm also interested in some kind of G spot stimulation toy as I really would like to see if it is at all possible for me to experience a penetrative orgasm with toys. I do kind of suspect that it's not though.
- It seems that the 'rabbit' style toys stimulate both the the clit and G spot, so I am potentially interested in those. But again, there was a lot of choice so any recommendations would be appreciated.

And just in general if you have any other recommendations, please make them. Or, if there is anything you think would be useful for someone who has never tried sex toys before to know, I'd be glad to hear it.

Sex toys for a beginner


My wife and I have recently(ish) introduced a pussy pump into our sex life, and so far have put it to good use a few times. I absolutely love ... LOVE the results and as of recent, she has certainly realised its effect/potential. The plumpness, sensation and feeling all round....amazing!

However, she has found it to be a little uncomfortable on her pelvis. The model we have is just a mid range? Love Honey Supreme Sensation 4", but I was wondering if anyone could recommend an alternative model that might provide better comfort?

Thanks in advance!

Pussy Pump - Recommendations Needed


Hi, firstly sorry English is not my first language.

I have a girlfriend(F18) and we have spoken about this and my girlfriend does not mind me experimenting with toys, but she does not want to participate, so I would be using toys for solo masturbation purposes.

I have used my fingers on myself, and I would like to branch out into prostate sex toys. I am interested in vibrating prostate massagers, as well as traditional dildos. I would want to start out on the latter. Are there any recommendations? I am based in Australia so I would like to use the love honey website.

Thankyou for your understanding.

Beginner Male Prostate toys ?


21f looking for glass/clear dildos or any toys in general that anyone uses. Trying to stray away from clit stimulation since that’s all I’ve done majority of my life. Would love some new toys to try as I experiment more. I want to grow more comfortable with using dildos any advice would be great. I’ve been looking at a few stores I got my first from love honey but it’s just not the right size and I want to venture out to any other good places I’m missing out on.

What to buy/ what store to buy from?


Hey everyone, I 29 year old female have been with my amazing boyfriend 30 for 2 years. I can confidently say that we have a loving healthy relationship. We currently don’t live together as he lives with his family and i live with mine . We’ve always had a healthy sex life in the sense that we care about each others needs, desires, satisfaction.
 We’re both open to trying new things, positions , etc .
Now of course i know that the beginning of a relationship is always more exiting and the honey moon phase. I can say we are both always affectionate with each other, miss each other when we’re away. I can’t be as spontaneous with sex as i would like because the only time we can have sex is when his family is asleep at night which is fine!

Ive seen many posts asking about suggestions on how a woman can initiate sex better and so many of the responses are things like , just get naked , rub his crotch , tell him you want him, start kissing him and touching him, wear lingerie . Which i agree all sounds great and direct , but that’s more when ur initiating to do it at that moment .

I wanted to know specifically for the men if there’s anything a woman has done or ur partner that will get u fantasizing & anticipating sex awhile before it happens . Now i know some of you will say to just ask him , but i love the element of surprise . If i do ask him what will get him excited before hand he will know it’s coming and we are the type to try new things first and decide after if we like it or not .

I regularly send him nudes on days we don’t se each other. But usually on the days we do see each other we will go out for the day to eat, do activities, etc and then end our nights cuddling and watching movies . I’m wondering if there’s anything a woman can do hours before sex to really get a man anticipating the night .

Initiating sex in relationship


Eventually she got used to me smelling it profusely before actually starting to kiss and lick it and now she'll just say :"it's cause I'm a bee". But she used to be a bit embarrassed by the fact that I'd just beg her to let me go down on her so that I could stick my nose on her lady bits...
So what makes it smell like honey? Am I the only one here finding this out?
I've heard people call it a honey pot so I assume this couldn't be a simple coincidence could it?
That's also why I prefer it when my SO hasn't freshly showered before. It kinda ruins it for me. I'd rather smell honey then intimate soap 🙄.
I know every woman is different but does anyone agree with me on that?
Hers isn't the only one I was lucky enough to get close to but I've been with her for so long to remember what my previous partners' love box used to smell like.

My wife's pussy smells like honey and it has without a doubt become my absolute favourite smell in the world.


Hey everyone
I recently bought a small bullet vibe off love honey, I’ve used it on my own and I LOVE it, I have told my bf about it & he was very interested but a bit confused. He always makes me come etc and it’s got nothing to do with his ability!! It’s just something I’ve always want to try….
So my question is! When do you start using a vibe during foreplay ? Piv? And how do I ASK him to use it on me…
I mostly use it for clit stimulation :)
TIA!

Bought my first vibrator! How do i introduce it into sex?


My husband (30M) and I (28F)used to have a very adventurous and exciting sex life. We were always all over each other and liked to explore new things.

Recently our sex life has taken a turn and it feels mechanical. I'm still just as interested in him as ever but he has noticeably become less interested in me.

Everything we have sex now is on his terms and is in the same position. If I try to initiate at all he says he's tired or he just wants to relax and goes to sleep. I would ve fine with his li idol being lower and him being stressed but teething is he's still getting aroused often and then just doesn't want me to touch him.

Sex lately has been him waking me up (which I used to love)in the night to just get off. But I doeanteven feel like he wants me necessarily. It just kind of feels like he's mastrubating inside me.

This is especially hurtful because ever since we met I've reiterated how important sexual intimacy is for me. I am a giver and really enjoy making him feel good even without any returner sexual acts from him. I really can't help but feel rejected and unwanted.

Seeing him get hard and obviously honey only to have him tell me to get off him or not to touch him is awful. I love him and want to be with him, I actually enjoy being with him physical a lot. I just don't think he love me anymore, he says he does, it just feels fake now though. I'm a chore or at best a sex doll at this point and everything he does only makes that more clear. Yet over and over he says he loves me, I don't get why he doesn't just leave me.

 Neither of us are happy anymore and I finally am coming to terms with the idea that he will never lookatme the same as he did before. I dont want that for my life. We're both too young to be living in a loveless sexless marriage and that is what I see coming.

I just can't take it anymore. Hearing how he sounds telling me not to touch him, it's like I disgust him. And I'd honestly rather not be just a wet hole when he gets to horny to handle his interest in whoever else he's thinking about. It isn't me that he wants and he's doing a very poor job of hiding it.

I don't know how to do this. I didn't want to be with anyone else.

My partner doesn't think sex is relaxing anymore, and I'm feeling rejected


I am finally having the best sex of my life!

I was married previously for 10 years, together off & on since mid teens. Have great kids from it, but I am not divorced. A few years later, I am now engaged to an amazing man! And honey, this is the best sex of my life!!!

My fiancé is a giver, but I love to please him too! Coming from a marriage that was very selfish sexually, I never thought I’d get to the point of actually enjoying my partner, craving him & not just being desperate to cum for once. With my fiancé, I can’t stop and it feels unreal.

My body is feeling sensations that I only thought were in books & movies.

I used to have very vanilla sex with my ex husband & he wasn’t much into doing much else besides the 1,2 & usual positions.

When my fiancé puts his hands around my next while he’s inside of me, I lose my natural born mind! It’s intense and so damn seductive. The way he looks at me when we make love, makes me melt & feel like I’m a Goddess.

Never did I think I’d have an all around great relationship. I stopped caring about sex.

Grateful!

I am having the best sex of my life!


I am 26F and my boyfriend is 48M (please save the age criticism, he is super hot with an incredible body and the best thing that ever happen to me) So I have been with him for a month.  I was totally and utterly obsessed with him for the last 3 years and finally got the courage to basically throw myself at him and attack him at his house.  Since then he has been like a drug to me!  I guess I had no idea what a real orgasm was until we slept together and WOW!!!  I mean WOW!!!  I am totally in love with this guy and he really has his hooks in me so to speak.  He is a retired pro soccer player and so gorgeous.  He owns a bar that I use to work at and on Sunday nights we go in so I can talk with the girls I use to work with and he can do ordering and schedule stuff.  The last month of my life has been the happiest month of my life, and filled with a lot of sex that I never dreamed possible.  Fast forward to last night and we went into the bar.

I was visiting with all the girls that I use to work with and my BFF call her Rachel.  We were having a little girl talk at the end of the bar and I was making all of them jealous by telling them how great our sex life is at this point.  Basically all the girls in the bar have major crushes on my boyfriend and my friend Rachel has worked for him since she was 16 years old for the last 10 years and all the girls love him.  Basically the line forms to the left of me on females that want to F him.  So we are joking around be typical women talking about the orgasms that my boyfriend has been giving me and the whore that he has turned me into for his cock as they put it.  When all of a sudden Rachel points out to me that I better go down to the end of the bar and pee on my boyfriend because some bitch is flirting with him. I look down and there is this pretty woman touching my boyfriend and laughing it up at everything he says and then I see her pick his phone up and appear to type her # into his phone and this was after he pointed to me at the end of the bar as his girlfriend.  I walk over to him and say "Who was that bitch?"  He chuckled and said just someone I went to highschool with that graduated a couple years behind me.  I picked up his phone because we have an open phone policy between us (my idea and he was fine with it) and I see that she called her phone, and then edited the contact to say Trisha Horny Housewife.  I was pissed!  I showed him and he chuckled and said you can delete it if you want to.  I looked over at her at the table she was at and she was looking right back at me and gave me this look of "thats right bitch I want to F your boyfriend"  so I decided I was going to my version of peeing on my boyfriend and I made a scene of grabbing his arm and saying come with me, and he lightly tugged back saying he had to do the schedule to which I just said c'mon this wont take long.  I dragged him out into the back room of the bar and locked the door behind me and knelt down in front of him and pulled his sweat pants down to which he said what are you doing.  I told him what do you think I want to suck your dick.  He put up a tiny resistence and then said why I am fighting this exactly to himself Lol.  So I took about 7 mins I would say and sucked his dick in the back room.  I never let any guy pop in my mouth but my boyfriend I let finish wherever he wants.  In my mouth, on me, on my face, anywhere he wants because he just brings it out in me.  He is like a drug I am addicted to.  I have never felt this type of attraction and WOW IS HE GOOD!!!  He let me know that he was going to go and I finished him off in my mouth.  To which he said Omg,,,, good girl,,, thank you... Wow.  I was so turned on by the good girl comment and was quite proud of myself for marking my territory.  We returned out to the bar and my best friend Rachel said my god you have become a little whore for him havent you!?  What happened to the little conservative sex girl I use to know?  I just smiled and said look at him.  Rachel just sighed and said yeah I know he is so dreamy in a joking manner to make fun of me.  I took some more teasing from the other girls who jokingly called me a back room slut and I didnt mind because they all knew it was him that did this to me and that it was not something I was known for.... Unlike some of the other girls at the bar.

So I continued to talk to the girls about him and how he had been spoiling me by taking me on trips and how he spent almost 5k on me taking me shopping and paid my rent for 6 moths in advance so I could go back to school.  I was just trying to make all of them jealous because I was happy for the first time in a very very long time after having abusive past relationships.  As I was talking to them I glanced down the bar at him and he looked up from his paperwork and smiled at me and winked at me.  I swear it made me wet when we he did that.  I looked at Rachel and said I am in so much trouble girl.  I am so in love with him.  To which she hugged me and said good honey, and then I heard her uh oh.  I look up and there is that bitch "Trisha Horny Housewife" back down at the end of the bar again touching him and actually taking her hand and putting it up inside his shirt to feel how hard and flat his stomach is (and it is! I almost dont blame her for wanting to touch his stomach)  I was so pissed at this point though that I did something very very dumb!  I walked over and said Rachel is getting out early tonight so I am going to go out for a few drinks with her.  He looked at me and said (with her standing right beside him) wait you arent staying over tonight?  I said no going out with her and gave a backwards wave to him over the shoulder as I walked away and said c'mon Rach lets go.  We got to the bar up the street and it hit me what a bitch I just was.  Rachel was like wtf are you doing???  So I said I had his cock in my mouth 5 mins ago and he is talking to some F ing bitch putting her hands all over him!  Rachel reminded me, he owns the bar!  He cant say F off bitch my girlfriend owns this cock!  You were just totally ridiculous back there, and he broke up with his last girlfriend for being a possessive jealous nut job.  Wtf is wrong with you!  He didnt do anything wrong and you just really hurt his feelings back there I think.  I said hurt his feelings?  She said he looked crushed when you walked off and gave your little bye wave there you stupid bitch!  My stomach turned and it hit me.  Omg I just acted like a total immature little brat and I did it right in front of a bunch of people probably embarrassing him with a woman that wants to F him standing right next to him.  Rachel said to me just imagine what she is saying to him right now about you!  I looked at her and burst into tears and said shut up!  So I text Danielle who was still at the bar bartending to ask if he was still there?  She wrote back no he left about 15 mins after "your little piece of theatre" and after that woman rubbed his back and told him to forget about you more than once.  I tried to defend you and he just put his hand up to say stop politely.  I wrote back to her OMG I F'd up bad didnt I?  And she said I am sorry honey,,,, but yeah you did.

The only other time I acted like a brat I wokeup to flowers the next morning with a note that said "missed you last night".  No flowers today :(    I sent a text to him at 3am that said I am so sorry I am such a bitch that woman just got under my skin.  I havent slept and cried all night and its 9 hours later and no response to the text.  How bad is this?  I have to do something to makeup for this!  But what!????  HELP ME PLEASE!  I cant lose this man!  I love him and I just had a mini freak out because I do love him so much.  Do I just tell him that???

How bad did I screw up


Long story but I’ll try to squeeze everything min.

I was 28 at the time, I previously dated Jackson* in the final year of high school until the nearly twenties, we both wanted different things in life and I moved interstate for a work opportunity.

After a few years interstate and a failed engagement of my own, I moved back home, by this time, Jackson * was doing quiet well with himself, I would always look at his socials and notice the lavish lifestyle he was living, traveling the world, buying new cars etc etc, we still had a lot of mutuals and close friends from high school and I was told that he co-owned a successful crypto business with another guy we grew up with.

Anyway, one night after a few too many drinks, I followed him on instagram, I immediately regretted it and unfollowed a few minutes later but he must’ve seen the request because when I woke up the previous morning I had a message from him asking how I was doing, he had heard that I was back and he’d love to see me. I thought this was strange at the time because I did notice a girl on his instagram, maybe they were just friends?

A few days later we organised to meet at a bar in the city, I was a few minutes late and nervous as all hell when I walked in and noticed him sitting at a table on the balcony with a girl, he saw me and waved to come over, I didn’t know what to think, I was a bit annoyed and perplexed as to why he didn’t think to let me know beforehand, he introduced us both and told me they were engaged and had the wedding planned for early next year, I remember being intimidated by Chloe* at first, she was stunning, if I remember correctly she was Polish or definitely Eastern European, she kept only using pet names for me like honey, darling etc which made me a bit uncomfortable initially, the night went without drama and Jackson * booked me an Uber home. Deep down I was jealous, I was thinking of what could’ve been, I was also half expecting them to invite me back to their house so part of me was also left wandering and confused as to why he reached out and what the point of dinner and bringing his fiancé along was.

I wasn’t working at the time and Jackson* jokingly (well I thought anyway) offered me a job being their housekeeper, I previously had a 6 figure salary, diploma and owned my own home, I wasn’t going to be cleaning… especially the house or my ex boyfriend and his new girl!

A few days later he texted again on instagram and said how lovely it was to see me, that he missed me and still cared about me, he wanted to meet for a coffee privately the next morning, I asked him if Chloe* knew about it and he said yes she’ll be fine.

It was at this coffee when everything changed and within 2 weeks I was living with both them in a BDSM arrangement, it lasted for 6 months and I was able to get myself out of some financial troubles, I did enjoy parts of it and other parts made me feel a bit vulnerable and emotionally, I wouldn’t change my experience but I am happy to have moved on, I blocked both of them on all socials and haven’t had any contact since.

AMA, I was a live in BDSM sex slave to my ex boyfriend and his fiancé


I opened up to my wife last night that I would like to give pegging a go and she was surprisingly enthusiastic about it (which was nice). I’ve done penetrative butt stuff on my own before (I’ve just got a new njoy wand and am enjoying it a lot!) but would appreciate any pointers on equipment.

I usually shop of love honey where it seems you  can chose between strapless and strapped version and (for want of a better term) penisy and non penisy styles. So does anyone experience have any guidance as to what works, and feels, best? Any other thoughts or tips?

Equipment choices and tips for pegging


My husband of 2 years cums in minutes.  It didn't begin this way,  if course.  We used to enjoy great, passionate love making.  After six months into the relationship, he has began pausing during sex [for maybe 3 seconds] after 5 or 6 strokes; Now I can't enjoy it. He will pause several times in an approximate 8-minute session. It's not enough and he knows it.  I have to pretend it's okay in the moment so that he doesn't throw a pity party for himself, as he notoriously does. He will then go days in bliss without any concern for my needs. Later in week, I try to talk to him about how unsatisfied I am and how I often lose sleep and he will agree that he's wrong but saying that doesn't solve anything. Until I threaten to replace him, he makes no real effort. I tell him, "I'm not used to this."  I think he's being selfish. "I will find someone that will fuck me better." Then and only then does he return with a vengeance and prove himself a worthy advocate.  I have done this all of maybe 3 times because it the only method that works 🤷🏾♀. Sometimes he buys the honey packets and rhinos, but why do I have to go through these motions to encourage him do this?
Now, we are working in separate states and throwing a fit doesn't matter because he cannot drive to me.  The last time we hooked up,  he pulled another one-sided act and he knows it.  I don't think I can carry on another year being faithful in this marriage.  I've expressed this to him. The toys aren't enough anymore and my patience is worn thin.  He does not want an open relationship, but I do. Any suggestions?

I'm struggling