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Question asked: What are today's modern gender roles? how have they changed over the years? Are these changes for the better or worse?

Answer:
Gender roles today, compared to previous years, have DRASTICALLY changed and not for the better. Back in the 50's, particularly, the women was the leader of the household. She took care of household duties, raised the children, and was the motional back bone of the family. Men were the providers of the home. They went out into the world to do the nitty gritty so that their whole family could live the best life possible. Our society today, however, is trying to make men more feminine and women more manly. Equal? People dare talk of this as an issue of equality? Women and Men are different for a reason. Stereotypes exist for a reason. Since even before the 1950's, back to Adam and Eve's time, it has been proven and made evident that women are as emotionally DIFFERENT from men, as they are physically. "My name is John and I deserve to wear this skirt because I feel emotional and it's my right!" Non-sense. If my father were to have come home crying when he was a 17 year old boy, saying "Daddy, this big bully Jimmy called me a loser!" my Grandfather would have slapped his face silly and probably disowned him. And that was only the 70's. Instead, today's society encourages a reversal of the roles GOD HAS INTENDED.
I entirely agree with JINMIN when he says: " today’s society has managed to better ensure the equality of women in a legal, ethical context: it is societally accurate to state, as well as under the law, that women are equal to men with basic civil rights and opportunities (e.g. education, careers, lifestyle, beliefs, etc.)." While this true, and while I agree with this, seeing that I agree with the old version of feminism stemming from the 1930's, our society has brought women around to abusing these rights. The feminism my Grandma knew was that of Rosie the Riveter. She was LUCKY enough to grow up in a society where women worked HARD to earn the rights they deemed EQUAL. Today, our society has become more and more dependent on the government. Now, as I mentioned before, boys are expected to show emotion and cross-dress or they are the new normal. Women, are also encouraged to become scientists and still beg for the rights men are offered. While I think women getting the opportunity to bring their talents out into the world and use them for the greater good is wonderful, we are going too far. Saying that women deserve to be treated exactly how men are is like saying gays deserve to be able to alter the church's definition of marriage: unfair. While the idea of "equality" as defined by a feminist seems all "puppy dogs and rainbows", how can we seriously ask for equality if let's say today, America was in a war and 88% of women would play the "Oh no Sir, I can't be drafted…I'm a fragile, pretty woman…too weak to hold a gun." Furthermore, if it's illegal for a man to hit a woman, but a women could downright throw down a man, how can men be considered equal to us? The same thing goes for men. Men, being socially encouraged to be "emotional" and "sensitive" and "gay" (things that were entirely frowned upon in the 1950s), dare to ask the church to legalize gay marriage, while they think they can and DO have ridiculous amounts of meaningless sex on park benches, being Starbucks', and etc., while straight men are forbidden from doing the same with random women for fear of rape/pregnancy.
The bottom line is today's society has entirely DEMOLISHED the traditional, good values of the American nuclear family that came along with typical gender roles. While women can hold jobs they could not back then and be on the election ballots they were only able to write on back then, this "taking on a man's role" has entirely thrown off American family living. No one is home now. In most families nowadays, both parents work. Not because they have to, but because women do not feel it is their obligation to be the one who has to stay at home with the kids. This lifestyle has turned my generation and, more particularly, today's four and five year olds, into the nanny generation. It is now common for parents to dump their kids with some random nanny, from the time they are infants. Even better, by the time the child is a teenager and getting into massive trouble at school, the parents are totally lost as to why this is. Parents don't know their children anymore. They do not place value in the development of children's minds anymore; teaching them about real culture, not reality t.v., real love, not divorce and abuse, history and how we can learn from it, and the value of spending time with family, as opposed to the internet and collecting material objects. Today's society is disgusting and will only continue to get worse, as gender roles are continuously encouraged to flip and "become equal."

How would you rebuttle after reading this whole statement concerning gender roles back then and today from a High School Senior?


Seems like religion has been one of the main forces subjugating women throughout history.

I'm sure most of us are familiar with the Adam and Eve creation myth- how god made Adam first. From his rib- God made Eve. Eve sinned first, bringing upon the original sin...The Abrahamic religions also go on to say things like wives are to be subservient to husbands. Women are not to speak above a man in the house of worship, and all kinds of other non-sense.

Most religions places the woman as a lesser creation than man. In fact I can't think of one religion that places woman above man- I dare you to find me one.

How do religious women reconcile with this?

Any religious women in here? How do you reconcile traditional sexist views on women that exists in religion?


She has a standard small purple plastic underpowered vibrator, a small glass dildo and a fairly thick Adam's Cock (or something like that) from Adam & Eve and Hitachi Magic Wand (too powerful for her).  Knowing she wouldn't step out and treat herself to a high end vibrator, I'd like to buy her one.

What can you recommend?

What's a great vibrator or dildo to buy my SO?


I’ve seen a video of a man saying, “It’s Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve,” and everyone agreed with him. I’ve also seen a post saying, “How can you accept transgender people if they can’t even accept their true selves?” and everyone agreed with that too.

On the other hand, I’ve also seen people saying that everyone deserves respect regardless of their sexuality or gender identity, and many people agreed with that as well.

What are your honest thoughts on LGBT and can we all respect each other’s opinions without arguing or attacking people who disagree?


Holy shit!! This blew up. Wasn’t expecting that and thank you for the award.

Thank you for another award and sorry for not being able to respond to every comment.

Just a joke but, what if Mars has water on it because we used to live there and we messed up the climate so badly that we had to send an escape pod to earth with only Adam and Eve in it and the pod was the asteroid that wiped out dinosaurs?


What's the probability Adam and Eve were married?


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THE FIRST COUPLE-ADAM AND EVE


Where there are no other women/men around to choose from.

How does it feel like when you have no choice, I mean like Adam and Eve?


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Edit: Holy shit!! This blew up. Wasn’t expecting that and thank you for the award.

Edit 2: Thank you for another award and sorry for not being able to respond to every comment.


They think it's so funny. And it's been happening a lot since I've started working with the public again. I always get trapped fumbling over my words trying to say that im not dating anyone.

Guys named Adam. What do you say when you introduce yourself and someone says, "where's Eve?"


He's mentioned wanting to try one before.

I was buying a few toys over at Adam and Eve and impulse purchased [this]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/celebrity-molds/sp-belladonnas-pocket-stroker-76778.aspx?showall=1#Reviews). Now I'm having doubts. We've bought toys before together but I'm worried I'm crossing some unknown line. Am I just crazy?

Edit: probably going to delete this since he knows my reddit.

Would it be weird for you if your SO bought you a male masturbator?


Mine recently asked this and I've been looking at adam and eve for different stuff.  We've done light bondage but thats about it

What have you done to when the wifey suggest trying something new in bed?


http://www.eberhardtsmith.com/stop-saying-i-have-a-boyfriend

Edit: making summary

**Article Summary:**

>*Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another male-bodied person more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.

This amazingly puts into one sentence what I have been attempting to explain to ex-boyfriends and friends (male and female) for years, mostly unsuccessfully. The idea that a woman should only be left alone if she is “taken” or “spoken for” (terms that make my brain twitch) completely removes the level of respect that should be expected toward that woman. It completely removes the agency of the woman, her ability to speak for herself and make her own decisions regarding when and where the conversation begins or ends. It is basically a real-life example of feminist theory at work–women (along with women’s choices, desires, etc.) being considered supplemental to or secondary to men, be it the man with whom she is interacting or the man to whom she “belongs” (see the theory of Simone de Beauvoir, the story of Adam and Eve, etc.)."

Guys, what do you think of this article? (Link inside) (x/post)


Got it free with purchase from Adam and eve, used it last night now I think shed rather have it than me. Granted, this is my thinking and may not be the truth, but it scares me. She's admitted to it feeling better, and it makes me uneasy. How do I go about getting rid of it, and make it so she isn't mad? General advice?

Uncomfortable with girlfriends vibrator, break it or talk about it?


I'd like to start by listing a few important facts which were brought up in previous consent discussions.

* Consent can be withdrawn at any time, even after the fact

* A victim of sexual assault/rape is not required to attempt to communicate "no" because that apparently may put them into a dangerous situation

With that in mind, here is a hypothetical situation which occurred to me: Lets say Adam and Eve have (seemingly consensual) sex. Days/weeks/months later Eve comes out and says it was not consensual and in fact, Adam raped her. This is of course shocking to Adam, but now that he has the knowledge that Eve did not give consent... what if Adam withdraws *his* consent for the sex?

My logic behind Adam withdrawing his consent is that he is not a rapist. The idea is appalling to him (and not just in the sense that he will be labeled a sex offender and thrown in jail.) Why would he want to have sex (rape) with a girl that did not give consent? So, as soon as he had the information/knowledge that Eve did not give consent, is it possible he could "announce" he also did not give his consent?

Given the facts stated above in this hypothetical situation, since the lack of consent was not communicated during the act, and since consent can be withdrawn at any time ... it seems possible that two people could rape each other? Would such a notion be thrown out/ignored in a court? Is there some special law I don't know about that protects a victim against such a "retaliation" despite the fact Adam has the right to withdraw his consent at any time?

Continuing the consent debate with a hypothetical question


Hello everyone!  I'm looking to spice things up in the bedroom... with myself.

I've never bought a real toy before, and rather than just buy a fleshlight and hope it's the right thing for me, I thought I'd ask for recommendations!

I'm looking specifically for a "male masturbator" I guess it's called, [something like appears here](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators-c-1006.aspx).

Specific model references, or just "styles" and parts of what's good about it would be appreciated.  Any alternative suggestions are welcome, as well!

Gentlemen -- Recommend me a person sex toy, please!


Hi!

For the last month or so I have been trying to find a very high-powered vibrator to replace my Lovense Domi 2, which just doesn’t have the power I need. What??? Some of you may say, not enough power? Yeah, well the way God designed me, I need a lot of vibration plus I’m not 20 anymore so if you’re lucky enough to live past 50 you’ll know what I mean.

So anyway, with the help of ChatGPT, Google and my own brain we came up with Doxy, and after the first use, and in the middle of the second use, the silicone head fell off.

So I’m starting from scratch and I don’t know about you guys, but I can’t get 90% of my questions responded to by the various vibrator websites. They either don’t have a phone number or they don’t respond to my email or to their online web form. It’s incredible! I guess they don’t need money.

Fortunately, there is one huge exception and that’s the purpose of my post.

BABELAND! They not only get back to me really quickly but they offer other suggestions in case what I’m outlining to them doesn’t really match the vibrator that I’m asking them about - they’ll suggest something more appropriate. You know, like any reputable, professional business would do. And they have a phone number too, and they answer when you call!

In the good old days before I was retired, I had money to spend and not worry if it didn’t work out for me or I didn’t like it, but now every penny counts, and the fact that you can’t return used vibrators, I’m trying to make sure I know what I’m buying.

And even then, when I’ve done a ton of due diligence, the damned thing falls apart!

If any of you need actual support, I recommend  BABELAND.

I got an email response today from Le Wand, who either was too lazy to get me answers, or they had no business being a customer service rep, but they couldn’t answer my questions about one of their products and suggested I go to a sex shop and check out what they have that might match my needs. Can you believe it?

I have a recommendation!👏🏻👍🏻


Trans man here with a particular request.

I’ve loved the ”air pulse” sex toys ever since I was first introduced to them. The LELO Sona Cruise was a game changer. However, I very quickly “outgrew” that toy. I’ve tried several others, the best ones being from Satisfyer. At this time the Satisfyer Curvy+ 1 is the best one I’ve found.

My dick is too big for all the air pulse toys designed for cis women (it wouldn’t fit in the rose toy or any womanizer toy I tried). It’s honestly even too big for the Satisfyer - if I start while I’m soft I can make it fit, but if I’m already hard I can barely get the head in.

My dick is also too small to use the air pulse toys designed for cis men. I need something in between, and I don’t know if it exists.

Specifically looking for an air pulse toy - I found a suction toy from GenderX (https://www.babeland.com/p/BLD497118/1341691/body-kisses-suction-vibrator?lref=Srch|null|a|16|c|0|null|brand|0) (link for example) that’s about the right size but it doesn’t give me the mind-blowing orgasms I get from the air pulses.

Any leads would be great. Thanks for your help!

ISO larger air pulse toy (but not too large)


As I've shared in previous posts here on this subreddit, I'm a BIG fan of pinpoint vibrators, but that doesn't mean I'm not up for new experiences or that I've given up on toys from my past. I still love getting off with a simple bullet, love fucking myself with a dildo, and while not my favorite way to get off, I still love playing with a rabbit. The same goes for air pulse or suction toys. When I first started playing with this style of toy, it was more of a movement at the time. Every article, in every magazine or website, was trumpeting this new technology as the greatest thing since sliced bread.

Air pulse toys, those early Womanizer products and their Satisfyer cousins, were fine. They got me off a little differently than my vibrators of the day, and I certainly appreciated each orgasm they provided. Still, it was just okay. When I want the feeling of oral, my husband is always willing to provide the real thing. When I want sucking or licking, why go with an air pulse toy when he's there for me? It's the same logic I apply to dildos: why go for a replica when I can have the real thing?

I know I'm spoiled, and I know not everyone is as fortunate as I've found myself. I value honesty, though, so when I review toys, I make sure I explain why certain types of toys are more valuable to me than others. Air Pulse toys, while immensely popular, typically fail to wow me to the point of running to recommend them to anyone reading my reviews. When I recommend this style of toy, there's typically a feature found on that toy not found anywhere else. The [Pro Traveler from Satisfyer](https://www.pjatr.com/t/8-10991-208515-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fp%2FBLD454838%2F1328273%2Fsatisfyer-pro-traveler%3Flref%3DSrch%7Csatisfyer%7Ca%7C4%7Cc%7C0%7Cnull%7Csearch_page%7C0) is my all-time favorite air pulse toy because of how discreet it is. I love how it starts out slow and low, then builds up from there. It's great for first-time users and old pros. It's the perfect travel companion for any road warrior worried about TSA catching you with a sex toy.

[Jesse from Bed Nerdz](https://bednerdz.com/products/jesse-clitoral-suction-vibrator) is a fantastic air pulse toy that shines because of its build. It's small and easy to hold; it's just a few buttons, so it's incredibly beginner-friendly. Its ten suction intensities will make any user happy, and the form of the toy is ergonomically friendly to just about anyone. I love masturbating on my own, and when I find myself solo, I go with what makes me happy. Jesse made me happy. Jesse got me off to the point that I wanted to show him how quickly this vibe got me off, and obviously, he was more than willing to watch. Jesse is one of the few air pulse toys I've used that works well during partner sex, whether he's spooning me or I'm in doggy getting fucked hard.

For anyone worried about noise, Jesse is a great toy for dorms or those living at home with thin walls. The battery did need to be recharged after a few uses, and it's listed as water resistant, so a quick shower should be fine, but I don't think you want to keep Jesse submerged for lengthy bath sessions.

While not the cheapest option in the Air Pulse lineup of toys, [at $96, Jesse is a solid choice](https://bednerdz.com/products/jesse-clitoral-suction-vibrator) for anyone looking to get into Air Pulse toys, or if you're looking to get back to using air pulse toys after a time away from them.

Happy Monday y'all!

REVIEW: Jesse from Bed Nerdz


Hi all, I'm looking for a new rabbit or vibrator. My current one is [the Spark G-Spot Vibrator](https://www.babeland.com/p/BLD469551/1326419/spark-g-spot-vibrator/purple?lref=Srch|null|a|38|c|0|null|brand|0) and the tip is a little too thick for me to easily insert, so I'm looking for 1.2" or less. Ideally I'd like one that thrusts or gyrates, has a vibrating rabbit (no sucking), is not a bullet, and is rechargeable.

Budget is up to $100, I live in the US.

Slim thrusting vibrator?


This review is coming from a unique perspective, actually two. I had the pleasure of watching my husband using the [Pulse Solo Essential from Hot Octopuss](https://www.pjatr.com/t/8-10991-208515-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fp%2FBL39788%2F1300323%2Fpulse-solo-essential-stimulator%2Fblack%3Flref%3DSrch%7Chot%2Boctopuss%7Ca%7C3%7Cc%7C0%7Cnull%7Csearch_page%7C0), and he, who will chime in as well, had what looked to be an insane amount of fun using the toy.

Pulse Solo Essential is what I would describe as a taco shell for your penis. Using Hot Octopuss' patented PulsePlate technology, the toy oscillates on your cock rather than humming or vibrating on it like other toys we've had the pleasure of reviewing. The plate works best when it is placed directly below your frenulum, or that elastic bit connecting your shaft to the tip of your penis. Pulse Solo is completely waterproof so that it can be brought into the shower, a bathtub, or the hot tub for wet fun. Lube isn't necessary, but if you're using this on your own,then you might like to use it for stroking or twisting. I helped him in our testing by sucking on him and offering up a bit of my wetness but I realize that's not always an option. Here's the best part about Pulse Solo. It can be used when you're hard or soft, it doesn't matter. The PulsePlate technology was developed from the technology used to help paralyzed individuals have children. It's a unique experience, hence the title of this review.

I used the Pulse Solo in the shower with her as my "inspiration," and the sensations were incredible. The oscillations felt fantastic on the tip of my cock, unlike anything I have felt before. The toy did slide along my cock easily with some soap that my wife happily applied and stroked me with. As the toy is open and shaped like a taco shell, my orgasm shot in the direction of my wife with ferocity. The oscillating on my frenulum as I came was EPIC.

Now for a little description of my fun. I wanted to test out the claim that this toy could be used on his flaccid penis, and it definitely lived up to the hype. I specifically chose a busy weekend afternoon to corner him, making sure he wasn't expecting to get played with and that his overall stress level would be a little elevated due to "life." I asked him to help me with something on our closet shelf in our bedroom and when he entered I untied his shorts, pulled his cock out and fit the toy around his very "unprepared" penis. I kissed him and asked him to hold the toy while I locked our bedroom door. Even with the noises of a very busy house below us, the oscillation of the toy got him hard pretty quickly. I lapped at the tip of his cock and played my usual games from my knees and looked up at him as he reacted to his orgasm inching closer and closer. Having a number of things still on our plate, I moved out of the stream of his orgasm, instead choosing to kiss his neck as he shot a load across the closet at his dresser. I left him to clean up the mess we made having proved that this toy can indeed take a flaccid penis to a powerful orgasm in no time at all.

It's easy to say that the [Pulse Solo Essential from Hot Octopuss](https://www.pjatr.com/t/8-10991-208515-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fp%2FBL39788%2F1300323%2Fpulse-solo-essential-stimulator%2Fblack%3Flref%3DSrch%7Chot%2Boctopuss%7Ca%7C3%7Cc%7C0%7Cnull%7Csearch_page%7C0) is probably the most unique toy we've had the chance to test. The oscillations are distinctly different than vibrations and provide the user with an orgasm that is intense, powerful, and long-lasting.

REVIEW: A Most Unique Orgasm: Pulse Solo Essential


i am relatively new to buying toys and i found a dildo that was about 5 inches long and 1.1 inch wide, and it was perfect. however it ended up being made of an unsafe material, and i’ve been unable to find one made of silicone with texture that isn’t too wide since. every one i’ve bought that i thought was suitable wasnt, and i’m bummed out. i’ve looked at spencer’s, lovehoney, adam and eve, babeland (websites). i don’t know all the reliable shops and am treading cautiously. any advice is appreciated!!!!!!

1-1.2 width silicone dildo??


Rewording this a bit for clarification.

Throw away cause TBH I’m slightly embarrassed.

So I’m a 52 cis F with a pretty strong desire to try DP/anal stuff.

I’ve been married almost 30 years and have never really used a toy on my own or with my husband.

I tried a bit of anal play with a mini bullet vibrator once while digitally penetrating myself vaginally.  That gave me some of the strongest orgasms I’ve ever had, and seems to have unlocked a pretty strong DP fetish in me.

I’ve never been able to get my husband to do anything more anally than play around a little externally.

I think I’d like to find a toy that I or my husband can use to penetrate me anally while hopefully he penetrates me vaginally, OR something I can use to DP myself.
Or maybe something he and I can use to learn about what turns us on together.

Right now I’m looking at the Plus One dual vibrating arc and/or the Temptasia Twist kit from Babeland.
The Plus One looks better for self DP but the Twist has multiples and can size up.

I’m new so I don’t know exactly what to look for!

Would either of these be OK for a first time actual toy?  Should I get both?

I confess, I am a little confused by butt plugs and I think my husband might be more willing to help me use something sort of dildo shaped.

But should I try a butt plug first to get used to the sensation of hopefully being filled both ways?

I’m hoping eventually he will be open to trying it as well, but one step at a time.

I want something that is obviously easy to clean, that won’t be damaged by alcohol so I can maybe use it vaginally and anally.  And I guess water proof in case it’s something I have to keep for my own use.

Bonus points would be something that if I could ever get him to try would make him beg for more!

Thanks for any advice.  It’s much appreciated!

First time anal toy


Throw away cause TBH I’m slightly embarrassed.

So I’m a 52 cis F with a pretty strong DP fantasy.

I’ve been married almost 30 years but frankly, our sex life could use a jump start.  We both come from religious backgrounds and have only ever been with each other.
Plus, I very much have the higher drive and the more adventurous (in bed) spirit.

As such we’ve never used a toy together before.  I’ve stuck a few things in back there before (mainly my fingers and one of the uh mini bullet vibrators) on my own, and enjoyed it immensely, but we’ve never done anything terribly adventurous together.

I can *sometimes* get him to play around there with his fingers, but he’s never been willing to penetrate me.  From the very little bit of exploring I’ve done, I’ve discovered that it has created some of the most intense orgasms I’ve ever experienced, and I *reaaaaally* want more!

Frankly though, these days, I’m less petite and it’s more difficult to use my own fingers and I lost my bullet.

So right now I’m looking at the Plus One dual vibrating arc and/or the Temptasia Twist kit from Babeland.

Would either of these be OK for a first time actual toy?  Should I get both?

I confess, I am a little confused by butt plugs and I think my husband might be more willing to help me use something sort of dildo shaped. But should I maybe get a butt plug to use on my own? Maybe just the sensation of being filled would be exciting?

I’m hoping eventually he will be open to trying it as well, but right now since I’m the more adventurous one, I’m going to hopefully go first.

I want something that is obviously easy to clean, that won’t be damaged by alcohol in case I also want to use it vaginally, and that is waterproof so I can use it in the shower or tub.  Clitoral stimulation might also be a plus but that might be too much for one toy.

Oh and something that if I can get him to loosen up a little would make him beg for more!

Thanks for any uh input (no pun intended)!

Double penetration toy


Why are they so hard to find? I lost my wife’s Tokidoki unicorn mini bullet and since they don’t sell them anymore I’m looking for something similar. It’s her favorite toy. She’s a little so some toys I thought she might like are these:
[Tokidoki pink unicorn mini bullet](https://www.amazon.com/Tokidoki-Single-Bullet-Vibrator-Unicorn/dp/B01NCTNTZG/ref=cm_cr_arp_mb_bdcrb_top?ie=UTF8)

[I rub my duckie](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL2511/big-teaze-toys/i-rub-my-duckie)

[Squishy](https://ddlgplayground.com/collections/kinky-fun/products/squishy-dingding)

[Cartoon happy bear](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00PDUEE4K/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1)

[Unicorn jiggler](https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B08XC3X6TS?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title)

[Unicorn wand](https://www.sutravibes.com/product/x-unicorn-wand-series-3-black-white/)

Any ideas would be appreciated!

Looking for fun cute vibes similar to these.


Does anyone know of a site that ships to (or is based in) Mexico? The ones I'd found before (but still haven't dared buy from) are all down???

I found babeland, but the shipping made me hesitate if its trustworthy, especially with Mexico's national post system being not trustworthy at all

Anyone buying in Mexico?


There is a vibrator with a long straight handle, kind of like this
https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL46160/love-not-war/kama-g-spot-vibrator?lref=Srch||a|87|c|0||toy_category|0

The "handle" (think gripping it in a clenched fist needs to be maybe 10 mm or so wider in circumference for the user to be able to have a firm grasp on it due to disability. The solution would have to be very tightly attached to the toy as the user is operating the toy with a fist that can't be unclenched. Any ideas?

Ideas for modifying a toy for physical limitations


So, my boyfriend and I (both 23 ftm trans) are looking for a new harness. We've always gotten the basic [harness from Lovehoney](https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/strap-ons/strap-on-kits/p/lovehoney-full-back-strap-on-harness-/a40146g73384.html), but now we're looking for something that we can both be penetrated with. It seems impossible to find something that's body safe, made with good materials, and is adjustable for both of our bodies (I'm plus sized, he's not). We're looking for something that is essentially the [RodeOH Duo brief](https://rodeoh.com/products/duo-brief-harness-black?_pos=3&_sid=10d6f72f9&_ss=r) harness, but we don't want to support RodeOH due to their [stealing of trans creators' designs](https://www.reddit.com/r/ftm/comments/rzk831/guess_we_gotta_boycott_rodeoh/). When we checked Amazon, [this is the kind of toy we're going for as well](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09WR15VW9/ref=ox_sc_saved_title_2?smid=A3EHBP3QIL1TEG&psc=1), something we could use Vac U Loc with, but it looks like it's uncomfortable and made of cheap materials. We love the idea of the [SpareParts Deuce](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL1631/spareparts-hardwear/spareparts-deuce-harness?lref=Cat|catalog1200005_43||35|c|0|-relevance|toy_category|0), but I read in reviews that it wouldn't work for two dildos. I thought about getting a [dildo stabilizer](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL10210/spareparts-hardwear/o-stabilizer-rings) for that bottom hole that's meant for a penis and balls, but I keep realizing that it probably wouldn't work well that way due to the size of the pouch. We need a harness where the wearer can be penetrated while topping the other person, and maybe at times the person bottoming can be DP'd if we flip the dildo around. Does this make sense? I feel like I'm running in circles trying to find something for us! Any recommendations? Alternatives that folks may have found?

Advice Needed! Dual Penetration Harness???


I'm looking for a masturbation sleeve for traveling (i.e., fit in a toiletry kit in a suitcase) so looking for something compact. Ideally it doesn't look like a sex toy, in case TSA decides to inspect it.

Any thoughts? I saw this - https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL46203/arcwave/arcwave-voy-penis-stroker?lref=Cat|catalog1200005_95||2|c|0|-relevance|toy_category|0 - which looked interesting, but not sure if it's a gimmick. Thanks! Price isn't a consideration for the right toy.

Compact masturbation sleeve


My partner and I picked out a new sex toy. The “Inya Rose” it has like a sucking motion that sucks the clit in while vibrating/hitting it. Anyways, she was unsure if she was going to like it but ended up having the most mind blowing orgasm ever! Lol. She said it was something she never experienced before, like trying drugs for the first time (no I’m not exaggerating). She loves it.

Lol. Anyways, 10/10 from us. Are there similar toys that do the same thing as the rose but are more compatible for PIV sex? We’ve noticed it’s hard to use the rose during penetration due to its awkward shape.

https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BLDNSN055466/ns-novelties/inya-the-rose-clitoral-stimulator?ref=okiano&o_c_id=1487&gclid=Cj0KCQjwnNyUBhCZARIsAI9AYlF0dXlfT5m8db5V2moxo9MWTzGNRfAqpKkPGbFCezU2K7LEYpCrcfQaAte1EALw_wcB

Rose toy


Whenever I use an inserable such as a dildo (Blush neo elite dual GITD 7.5 w/balls) or curved glass wand, if I insert more than a couple inches past the prostate and angle the toy forward at all, there is significant discomfort in the rectum (as if it's stretched by a huge gas buildup or something). If I aim the toy way back toward my tailbone and bear down to make sure the deeper parts of the rectum are relaxed, I can comfortably get the toy pretty deep. Unfortunately, at that angle it's not really engaging my prostate at all.

To clarify, by "forward" I mean the tip of the toy pointed more toward the bellybutton instead of the tailbone, but not necessarily a lot — basically any angle forward of "as far back as I can" starts to cause this discomfort.

Is this normal, an anatomy issue, something that will go away with experience, a lube issue? I don't think it's lube because if I insert the toy at a comfortable angle and then change the angle while it's inside, the discomfort occurs, just the same as if I was inserting at the uncomfortable forward angle. Lube used is a combination of coconut oil and BabeLube (BabeLand's water-based).

Hoping I can figure this out, as I was under the impression that deeper thrusting play with a large enough soft toy would gently stimulate the prostate as it slides by, but I can't really angle properly to get that contact. As it is now it requires a significant bit of care to avoid the discomfort, and I assume potential damage if I'm not careful.

Thanks for any advice!

Discomfort deep in rectum depending on angle of toy


Wanted to get a recommendation of a good quality water based lubricant.
I have recently bought some nice silicone dildos.
Been using Babeland lubricant that we really like.
Thank you.

Good water based lubricant


I'm 19F wanting to get my first toy
I want something for external clit stimulation
Right now I'm stuck between:

 [Pro 2 (air pulse stimulator)](https://www.satisfyer.com/uk/products/air-pulse-technology/air-pulse-stimulators/2/pro-2)
Pros:
overall it has better reviews and sounds like it gives more strong and satisfying orgasms
Whisper mode
15 year guarantee
Company seems legit
Not that much more expensive than the other one
Cons:
more expensive
More difficult to hide
Can't be used for much more than just directly on the clit = less versatile
Less portable

[Kyss rechargable lipstick vibrator ](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL37592/pleasure-works/kyss-rechargeable-lipstick-vibrator?utm_source=pjn&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=196480&cvosrc=affiliate.pepperjam.196480&clickId=3584965078)
Pros:
The cons from the other one, easier to hide and transport and can be used on other parts of the vulva
Cheaper

Cons:
No reviews for some reason??? Can't be sure the company is legit

My first sex toy :)


Hello! My girlfriend and I are looking for a clitoral vibrator that can be held in place without hands, and activated from far away (we are in a long-distant relationship): something like the [Melt by We-Vibe](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL36352/we-vibe/melt-clitoral-stimulator-by-we-vibe?utm_source=pjn&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=196480&cvosrc=affiliate.pepperjam.196480&clickId=3474697577), (that you have to hold in place, I think) but maybe more affordable? Do you know any?

Looking for a specific type of clitoral vibrator!


I recently read a positive review of the tracy's dog pecker from girlyjuice.net, a site I like and generally trust. However, their toys are suspiciously cheap and are not sold at legit sex stores like babeland or shevibe. Does anybody know what they're actually made of/if they're body safe?

Are Tracy's dog toys body safe?


I just got a Don Juan (ugh, hate the name) prostate plug from Babeland in the mail. It’s made by pleasure works, and the box says “This product is intended for novelty use only” and “for external use only.”

From what I’ve read on other posts in this sub, those are major red flags.

I thought Pleasure Works was OK... is it not? Why does this butt plug say “for external use only?”

Is Pleasure Works not a good brand?


Aye, I just found this cock/penis ring brand called Pulse Solo by [Hot Octopus](https://www.babeland.com/brands/b/8545/hot-octopuss).

Has anyone here tried their product? What did you think?

Any Pulse Solo Reviews?


So I am not an absolute newbie to buying sex toys, but first time online shopper. I have gotten stuff at Spencer's and the Babeland in SoHo, but only in store and just stuff like lube and vibes. Since social distancing is already getting to me and I got gift cards from the company where my tax return was done ($40 total) wanna get some nipple toys cuz I know they're sensitive and it'll make me feel more good since I will have access to my vibe again in a few days. I'm not big into pain and my nipples are v sensitive so I'm a bit apprehensive about clamps, since non-vibrating and diy clamps didn't make me feel good. I tend to like licking and finger stuff with them with a person, so any reccomendations? Also stores that have discreet packaging and won't send me graphic mail cuz for the moment I am stuck with my parents and while one parent is chill about it, would still be embarrassing (first year college student). Thank you all so much!

Good Nipple Toys for basic sex toy user cuz Coronatime (and good shop?)


Are there any fan favorite toys that wouldn't freak out a newer (to us) lady on a playdate? I was thinking something small and cute to supplement what little we already have. For instance, the [Satisfyer Pro 2](https://us.satisfyer.com/us/satisfyer/1/pro-2) is about right cost-wise before we jump into something pricier. Then I'd like a cock ring, something similar to the [Je Joue Mio](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL1578/je-joue/je-joue-mio?lref=Cat|catalog1200005_50||31|c|0|-relevance|toy_category|0) but hopefully less expensive.

We have yet to bust out any toys with a 3rd but it seems fun and sexy, any advice in that area also?

Looking for recommendations for newer threesomes


I've been trying to find one for me(male) and my boyfriend. Not having much luck finding anything that's actually silicone though(not surprised, since there's just fewer options in general). Do to the physics of it, I don't think a glass or metal one would work.

The ones I was looking at are [the Ruse Double Dildo](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/p/BL34999/blush-novelties/rus-double-dildo?lref=Srch|Double|a|1|c|0|-relevance|search_page|0), or the [Dorcel Do Double Dildo](https://www.sheboptheshop.com/eldorado-do-double-dildo.html). Benefit of the second one is its closet to the size I want, and I live in Portland where the store is. But I'm not familiar with either brand.

Preferable size about 15 inches long and around 1.5 for diamator. Not to worried about cost.

I've seen some that are more designed for strap ons with a piece in a the middle, which is perfectly fine. Could be beneficial in some ways. But as long as it's not something that would get in the way.

Looking for double sided dildo for 2 men


[https://www.dnainfo.com/new-york/20170725/park-slope/babeland-sex-toys-business-sales/](https://www.dnainfo.com/new-york/20170725/park-slope/babeland-sex-toys-business-sales/)

I guess i realized a year late that babeland was bought buy good vibrations.

What do you think about this?

Isn't it kinda bad for the sex toy industry.  Just because Good Vibrations was already bought by an adult wholesaler, and now they own Good Vibrations AND babeland.

So basically it seems like these sex positive-shops are now owned by the same guys that own all the XXX-world and nasty shops.  Eventually they might put in some lingere and sleazy things that with aggressive packaging.  Or even sell jelly toys...

Babeland was bought by Good Vibrations?


Babeland was bought by Good Vibrations?


Can you share your favorite sex toy shop(site) or brand names?

Just based on the name alone, not their products or services.

My favorite is "Smitten Kitten" which is a cozy shop in Minneapolis.  It rhymes really well, smitten is a sensual word, and kitten is visual and they have a cute kitten on the sign.  It just communicates so much in an elegant way.

For manufacturers there seems to be many made up words like tantus, lelo, svakom, or lovense.  I guess they want to be shorter and easier to remember or something?  I like tantus because it kinda sounds like tantric combined with us, like tantric-us

For sex toy bloggers i liked the blog named kitten boheme, which also has the nice visual kitten thing with a sensual sounding word.

As for names i don't like.  Babeland i didn't think was that good.  It sounds like it could be a shady XXX place, and dosen't communicate what it does like "smitten kitten".  I like their shops, just not the name, but that might be just me?

What are your favorite sex toy shop names? (or brand names)


[https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/18/style/doc-johnson-sex-toys.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/18/style/doc-johnson-sex-toys.html)

im confused about who to trust on this issue.

one side has many sex toy bloggers and sex-positive shop (not chemists) on the other hand you have these companies like doc johnson with PhD chemists.

The doc johnson reply to dildology ( [http://wiki.dildology.org/view/James\_Deen](http://wiki.dildology.org/view/James_Deen) ) seem honest and they make an argument that dildology aren't PhD chemists and "don't know what they are talking about".

Not sure who to trust:/  Who are the chemists on the anti doc johnson side?  Does babeland and tantus hire PhD chemists to prove Doc Johnson is dangerous?  It seems like UR3 stuff might be safe, especially for anal toys.  Its all so confusing

This nytimes article makes Doc Johnson seem nice, but are they?


I recently [wrote about](http://vivalasexyblog.com/2017/10/viva-la-spooky-sex-toys-for-halloween/) spooky sex toys for Halloween and I wanna share them with y'all!

 * [Fleshlight Freaks](//fleshlight.sjv.io/c/335819/302851/4702?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.fleshlight.com%2Fcollections%2Ffreaks): Fleshlight has a line of masturbators and dildos based on vampires, aliens, cyborgs, and more. They're super detailed and the colors are great!

 * [Persian Palm's bat dildo](https://twitter.com/PersianPalm/status/915603134411628545): Persian Palm is a small company from Tuscany that makes beautiful hand painted ceramic toys. They are making ones with little bats all over, which reminds me of the ["Leoweenie"](http://www.pntrs.com/t/TUJGRU5ORkJGSElMSkZCRklGRU1G?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fblog%2Fthe-leoweenie-it-ll-make-you-batty), the limited edition version of the [Vixen Leo](https://shevibe.com/search.php?search_query.x=0&search_query.y=0&search_query=%22leo+silicone%22#oid=1077_1) that I sadly never got my hands on. Persian Palm does custom orders through their [website](http://www.persianpalm.com/shop/) and through [Luvoqa](https://www.luvoqa.com/ceramic/?rfsn=669819.07595).

 * [Funkit Toys](https://www.funkittoys.com/shop): Funkit has really neat silicone toys and for Halloween they have some special colors available. Some look like zombies, some like pumpkins, etc.  ~ so spoopy ~

 * [Exotic-Erotics Wraith](http://www.exotic-erotics.com/store/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=52_55&products_id=284): Exotic-Erotics makes great fantasy toys, and I think the spookiest is the Wraith. Especially because it makes me think of the Nazgul from Lord of the Rings, and in case you're not familiar, they're very scary.

 * Tentacles galore: from hentai to Lovecraftian fantasies, tentacles as a sexual object have become ubiquitous -  especially if you're entrenched in sci-fi/fantasy nerd culture like myself. And this means there's no shortage of lovely mysterious tentacle dildos these days! There are lots on Etsy, my favorite being [FckBuddies'](https://www.etsy.com/listing/531839215/wriggler-tentacle-dildo-choose-your). Icicles also makes a [pretty glass tentacle](http://www.shareasale.com/r.cfm?u=933827&b=335823&m=36326&afftrack=&urllink=https%3A%2F%2Fwww%2Elovehoney%2Ecom%2Fproduct%2Ecfm%3Fp%3D21487).

 * [Divine Interventions Grim Reaper and Devil dildos](https://divine-interventions.com/): last but certainly not least are the Devil and Grim Reaper dildos from Divine Interventions. When it comes to horror and Halloween imagery, not much else is more iconic than these two macabre figures.

Pair any of these with some paranormal erotica, like [Girls Who Bite: Lesbian Vampire Erotica](http://amzn.to/2xkx8Hk), or [Darker Edge of Desire: Gothic Tales of Romance](http://amzn.to/2gf4ySh) and you're all set for Halloween sexy times! :D

[Click here to read my full post](http://vivalasexyblog.com/2017/10/viva-la-spooky-sex-toys-for-halloween/) :)

Spooky sex toys for Halloween!


I'm a virgin [f20], looking to buy a toy, or toys. Here's kind of a description of what I'm looking for:

Price range: because it's my first time buying a toy I don't want to drop major cash, but do realize that quality has a price, so anything under $25 I'm suspicious about but don't really want to go over $75

-Still live at home so quiet and discreet shipping/packaging (must)

-Silicone

-Vibrator. Not really sure what to look for besides something that vibrates haha. Long battery life? I'd rather not have to charge it after every use and accidently leave it out for my parents to see.. Or keep having to buy batteries. Can't decide if I should get one that could be for external and internal use, like this:
https://us.funfactory.com/en/vibrators/jam/
And try and kill 2 birds with one stone, or just stick to a single function one for now..

-Looking for something for penetration. A dildo I guess, but I'm very petite and have never used more than a finger so I'm looking for something smaller in length and girth. Anything over 5 inches intimidates me a bit. And it seems like some toy's girths online are measured by circumference, and some by diameter, but I wouldn't like to stray far from 1 inch diameter-wise.

I was thinking maybe something like this:
http://www.babeland.com/silk/d/1381_c_82
Can't decide between medium or small size... Leaning toward small. And this is the only toy I've found of this size.

...Any suggestions would be awesome!

Edit: Would rather have something not too firm/hard for the dildo

Buying my first toy!


I searched around here and wasn't able to find what I was looking for.

My partner and I are into pegging, and we currently have a Feeldoe and a regular, realistic dildo and a harness that we use. He hates the Feeldoe and I hate how I can't feel anything with the regular, realistic dildo. I saw a few pictures online of people with realistic looking double dildos. They weren't colored with veins or anything, but they had a realistic shape and were skin colored instead of purple or black.

 Basically I'm looking for a long, straight but flexible, semi-realistic or realistic silicone double dildo for vaginal and anal play. Price isn't a concern, I live in the US. I've looked on Babeland, Good Vibrations, Mr S Leather, Extreme Restraints, and Eden Fantasys and wasn't able to find what I'm looking for. I think this might be my holy grail sex toy.

Any suggestions?

Realistic double ended silicone dildo - NOT feeldoe


First off, money isn't an issue. Just let me know what toy is the most effective :). I've been looking at the Hitachi Magic Wand (there's also a more expensive rechargeable version... is one that much better than the other?) because that's the only specific vibrator sex toy I've heard about to be honest.

Are there better options out there? What do you recommend? I'm looking for something that's the most effective during sex and something that's best during masturbation. If there's one product that is best for BOTH (an all-in-one), that works too.

I found this http://www.babeland.com/Magic-Wand-Gee-Whiz-Combo/d/3461 .. would something like this be the best to buy? Please help me out here, you cant exactly test try before you buy. lmao

Price- any
Noise-any
tried a 10 dollar cock ring once and it was a waste of money, wouldnt recommend it ( sort of looked like this one: http://imshopping.rediff.com/imgshop/450-450/shopping/pixs/17479/v/vibe-ring-1._premium-quality-cock-ring.jpg )

Nipple and clitoral stimulation is where it's at when me and my boyfriend have sex :D

thank you!

Best female sex toy to buy?


Hi, first time buyer of dildos here. I'm hoping to buy this dildo once it's restocked (http://www.babeland.com/first-mate-dildo/d/1343_c_92) and I wanted to know if it's possible to ride a firm silicone dildo (in general and specifically for that one). I looked up the same toy and found it also sold on Good Vibrations (http://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/13BA61/pleasure-works/first-mate-silicone-dildo).

Some of the reviews do mention riding but is it possible to not go directly up and down, and instead include some bending/flexibility? As in firm silicone dildos won't snap in half or something while I ride it right? (lol)

Silicone dildo flexibility?


I have the magic wand rechargeable, bought from babeland because I know there are some sketchy fakes out there. Over time, the body of the toy is getting darker in splotches, from a beige to slightly darker beige. It's clean, hasn't changed in functionality, there is no other noticeable difference, but it still kind of has me worried. Has anyone else had this?

My magic wand seems to have reverse vitiligo ...


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Damn you Babeland!


I'd like something similar (in size and power) to the [Blueberry Buzz](http://www.babeland.com/mobile/Product/detail/2504) but covered in soft silicone. Multi-speed controlled by turning a wheel (or has actual up and down buttons--I don't want to have to cycle through higher speeds just to get back to a lower one). Quietness isn't an issue, but price is. Ideally $50 or less, I'm afraid.

TIA

Looking for a powerful silicone vibe with a wheel-type speed control


For our anniversary this year I wanted to pick up a genuine Hitachi Magic Wand for my girlfriend, but I was struggling with finding a good deal from a place I could confirm was selling the authentic product. While browsing one of the sticky megathreads here on r/sextoys the other week I found a new vendor, HelloVibes, offering a 25% sitewide cyber monday deal. I ordered my Magic Wand which was already on sale before the 25% discount and came out to $41.24 after the discount, $8 shipping (though it seems like they've got a free shipping over $75 deal going right now).

So at this point it was just a positive experience at a great price with a newvendor. However, I quickly realized that because my Google Wallet shipping address was outdated, it had confused their system and apparently sent the Magic Wand to an address that didn't exist. As I checked the package tracking a few days later I saw those terrible words, "Returned to Sender".

I contacted them and told them that I was leaving for an anniversary trip with my girlfriend and had been really looking forward to giving this to her before we left. Their customer service responded the next morning and less than 12 hours after my package started its return trip back to them they sent out another wand with 2 day priority shipping so it would arrive before my trip, completely at their own expense.

The wand arrived and is verified genuine, and it's absolutely fantastic.

I just wanted to give a shout-out to the above and beyond customer service of this apparently new vendor. It's also a better deal on the Magic Wand than I saw at Babeland, Pleasure Chest, Drugstore.com, or Good Vibrations. If you've been putting off picking one up for you and a loved one I would definitely consider Hello Vibes

I checked with the mods and they said that posting a vendor review like this would be alright, so here's the link: http://www.hellovibes.com/products/magic-wand-original.

The site-wide coupon is 'vibeit20'. The cyber monday deal they posted here is over I believe, but it seems like they're still doing 20% off on orders over $50

Vendor Review: HelloVibes


I bought a Tenga Flip Black at Babeland and the person at the store said I should dust my toy with corn starch to keep the texture soft. I normally just wash it with soap and water. I'm wondering if anyone here has heard of this or does it with their toys.

Dust a Tenga Flip Hole with corn starch?


I'm not finding anywhere I look that [this suction cup](http://www.babeland.com/Dildo-Suction-Cup-Attachment/d/4613) will fit into [this Mistress toy.](http://www.babeland.com/Vibrating-Mistress/d/2721) Does anyone have personal experience? I want to put the Mistress on a surface to guarantee it doesn't move an inch.

Will the Tantus suction cup accessory fit this Vixen Creations Mistress toy?


I recently got to take a look at the Babeland-exclusive [Boss Lady](http://www.babeland.com/Boss-Lady/d/1322) at one of their pop-up shops. While I love the look (semi-realistic in hot pink!), the size is kind of daunting to me. Could anyone please recommend something similar but smaller? I took a look at Fun Factory's website but didn't see anything that stood out. Thanks!

Vibes like Fun Factory's Boss but smaller?


http://www.babeland.com/ooh-motor/d/4646?cs=1

Haven't seen this before, very interesting concept similar to We-Vibe's Tango accessories.

Anyone have experience with it? Curious how powerful a motor that size can be.

Je Joue “mix, match, and play”


So I received this http://carolyncollado.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/silver.jpg. Would it be safe for anal use as I doubt the connection between the cable and the egg is that strong. Would it be possible to attach a second body safe line to the egg for safety and removal?

(Question/Advice) received a babeland vibrating egg as a free gift. Is it safe for anal use or possible to make it safe?


Basically the title. I'm about to go on a toy haul. I know Shevibe is pretty popular but I just want to one-stop shop and unfortunately they don't carry some of the things that I want.

I'm mainly concerned about getting stuff like catalogs in the mail, which I've read is a problem with Adam & Eve.

Thanks!

How's your experience shopping with Babeland?


I got an email from Babeland that there's a cordless magic wand. Thought it might interest the community.

Have you heard a cordless version of the Magic Wand was released this week?


Hi there.

My girlfriend and I have been progressing in anal play, but we're interested in trying pegging. We're both really turned on by the idea of a two-headed dildo such as the feeldoe or fuze tango.

However, everything we've read says that ass muscles beat pussy muscles almost every time and they are very hard to keep in, and, if they do stay in, it really depends on the woman for if she'll get off.

The fuze tango explicitly states it works with a harness, but I haven't seen the same to be true for the feel doe. This could get by the staying-in issue, and the fuze tango has the clit ribbed nubbin for her to grind against. Combined with getting an insertable bullet vibe for the tango, and we'd be set.

Some questions:

**For my pleasure**
looking at the tango i'm worried that it lacks any shape, ribs or texture outside from the head part. Up until now we've used her jimmyjane rabbit http://www.babeland.com/Jimmyjane-Iconic-Rabbit/d/2522 (1.5") and a Nexus Revo 2 (1.24 in at thickest).

I enjoy both of those, the rabbit for in/out and the revo for leaving in. Both have some give, so the rabbit isn't like a glass 1.5". I'm open to a bigger size, but for active pegging, i'm a little nervous.

Both of those are smooth, but have more shape than the tango. Could anyone recommend some toys that have more shape or texture to them and will work with a harness, plus helping in the next point.

**For her pleasure**
My girlfriend gets off almost 100% from clitoral stimulation. She's squirted from both the jimmyjame by itself and mouth on clit and fingers on gspot, so there may be some vaginal component to those orgasms, but still featured primarily clit action.

Regardless of contributing to orgasm it still feels really good for her to be penetrated and she enjoys it. So, for something wearable, it's ideal for her to have something to grind against. Not too hard to push against, but with the strong vibes are great.

With double headed, should we worry about fatigue of her muscles before mine? if i'm dying for more, and she's feeling sore, then that could be tricky.

we're not dead set on double headed, if there's a regular tapered/harness one that would provide fantastic clitoral stimulation for her, and have some shape/texture for me then we'd love to hear about that too please!

Anywho... hopefully this information is helpful in offering advice and not just an overshare!

looking for advice for first time pegging gear!


http://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/show/manwhorepod/id/3325217

In the show notes you'll find an imgur album with all of the toys we went over and links of where to buy them. Or you can see the imgur album and listen along [here](http://imgur.com/a/YSMy1)!

Babeland gave me a private tutorial on cock rings on my podcast. Listen for suggestions!


Does the Vixen creation mustang have a suction base bottom? I've read reviews about the "babeland" exclusive having suction base, but I'm wondering if other standard colors have suction base as well.

I would prefer to buy it from amazon as it is a little cheaper but I don't mind other retailers as well.

Question about Vixen Creation Mustang


Anyone ever use a Pulse?


Hey SexToys, I need some help! I found a toy online ad should've saved a link to it because now I can't seem to find it again. I usually shop babeland or shebop and I can't find it there either unless it's hiding.

It was an external style vibrator, not a dildo shape, that was waterproof and I think may have had a suction cup on the bottom. Rechargeable. If I'm remembering correctly, it was bright orange. Help?

Trying to find a toy I saw previously


First off, I have a disability that causes sexual pain (pain upon arousal, additional pain with orgasm, additional pain if penetration is involved). I am also a cisgender woman married to a cisgender man... So while he's great about finding non-penetrative stimulation to make things better for me, there are times when we are wanting to have PIV intercourse.

Recently, I have found that some warming/arousal lubes help with this. Effectively, with some of them, I am able to become aroused and relaxed (physically -- mentally I'm good during the whole thing anyway) for what one might deem a "quickie."

Here's the issue: I also have a couple of ingredient sensitivities; plus, not all arousal gels/creams/lubes are created equal.

To date, the known issues:

* Problems with glycerin and parabens. Propylene glycol, while I understand its issues, seems to be okay for me.
* Neither menthol or peppermint are satisfactory stimulants for me. Effectively, these make it feel like I am using IcyHot on my cunt. (I have enough other experiences using IcyHot that this is not a sexual feeling for me.) I am sensitive to cinnamon/cassia/cedar but can tolerate them on various skin portions depending on concentration.

Are there best warming or arousal thingies to try?

So far, the best thing I've found seems to be [On Arousal Gel](http://www.babeland.com/on-arousal-gel/d/1794), but I've not tried it yet. Is there something I should consider in addition or beforehand?

Warming/Arousal Creams and Lubes?


So in my research to find out the compatibility of the Lelo Smart Wand Medium and Large with Vixen Creations Gee Whiz and Gee Whizzard that are designed as head coverings for Hitachi Magic Wands, I ended up contacting Lelo directly via their Contact Us>Customer Care>Make an Inquiry page. My thought was that if they are making a high end and upgrade to the Hitachi Magic Wand... I wonder if they made the head size the same size so it's compatible with Hitachi Magic Wand head covers/accessories?

I figured they of all people would know the answer to this. Much to my own surprise, considering the reputation of this company and the high prices they sell their toys for, I received a response from a person that did not have a strong comprehension of English as an obvious second language, and who also appeared to have little to no knowledge of sex toys outside of possibly their own line, if even that. This person was never able to fully understand what I was asking. And replied with answers that were useless and made no sense.

Their first response to the question was that they do not compare their products to other manufacturers products. What? I'm not looking for a comparison. I immediately realized that this person had no idea what I was asking them. So I told them the above and also said I would find the answer elsewhere.

They choose to respond again after that saying that they do not recommend this replacement. Huh? I never asked or said anything about replacing anything. Nor did I ask you to respond back to me. I could barely control my frustration and anger because of such shitty customer service that doesn't even understand the language they are trying to support all that well. And then they had the audacity to then place me on their marketing mailing list without asking me. Thanks Lelo! (pure sarcasm) Mailing list immediately un-subscribed from!

This is obviously off shored customer service. Very likely in India. I guess I shouldn't be too surprised considering Lelo is a multi-national company, and this is what most other companies of this sort have done. But here's the thing...  If you are going to have customer service that is this poor, you might as well have none. It just irritates customers and potential customers with the added possibility of losing new sales, or previous customers because of it. I can't even imagine what happens when someone contacts them for a warranty claim. Good luck with that!

I have unfortunately experienced this almost exact same issue with another company. At one point a while back I contacted T-Mobile from their web page. As a potential customer, I had questions about their service. And I had the exact same problem of the person failing to understand English enough to grasp the nature of what I was asking. And thusly giving me answers that didn't answer my questions no matter how many times I re-phrased the question. Needless to say, I have not chosen to do business with them because of that.

So here's the thing, I'm not going to tell you not to buy from Lelo. But do consider how important customer service is to you when you have pre and post sale product questions and warranty issues. This may dictate who you want to purchase from.

That being said, guess who did answer my question? It was Babeland.com. One of the better sex toy retailers that actually makes some attempt to not sell crappy toxic toys. Although still not perfect. As porous toys and seemingly safe material toys from manufacturers of ill repute are still sold there. And you know what? I didn't have to re-phrase my question multiple times or anything of that sort. I asked once and got a short, simple, and understandable response that completely answered my question. (See Lelo, it's really not that hard to provide good customer service if you don't funnel all of the profit to executives and upper management)

I can tell you from personal experience that I've had great customer service from both Aneros and Tantus. These are small companies that really try to set the bar higher than most people have expected of sex toy manufacturers. And they do it well.

So I'm curious, is my experience with Lelo customer service unique? What have you people experienced when you've contacted them?

Lelo's extremely poor English customer service


So I know that a lot people own one of these AC plug in Hitachi Magic Wands and they are well loved for the lack of expense of having to change batteries and the very strong vibrations that it makes. But you should know that the white material head on it is porous and potentially toxic. That means the head cannot be sterilized and will harbor bacteria, mold, and fungus over time which is not good for your health and can find an easier path into your body through the mucus membranes of your genitalia. In addition, I'm not convinced that common porous materials like elastomer, TPE, TPR are non-toxic. Particularly if they break down over time that has nothing to do with mechanical stress. Because in my mind some vital ingredient has to off gas for this to happen. I haven't been able to find exactly what the head material is made of, which is worrisome in itself. But I think it makes sense to take a more cautious approach to this if you value your health.

Thankfully, for those that already own a Hitachi Magic Wand, or really insist on getting one, there is one reputable sex toy manufacturer that I'm aware of that creates 100% platinum cured silicone head covers for this vibrator. [Vixen Creations](http://www.vixencreations.com/attachments.php) creates three options. The Off With Your Head actually replaces the original head cover and offers more options from it's shape. Where as the Gee Whiz and Gee Whizzard go over the original head cover, so don't throw it out. Since silicone is a stable, known body safe, and non-porous material, it can be removed, thoroughly washed and sterilized. (See the article in the side bar for a sex toy sterilization how to)

So at this point I will never recommend the Hitachi Magic Wand HV-250R or it's successor the Magic Wand Original HV-260. But their is an alternative from a reputable sex toy manufacturer. It is the Lelo [Smart Wand Medium](http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=insignia-luxe&groupName=SMART-WAND-MEDIUM) and [Smart Wand Large](http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=insignia-luxe&groupName=SMART-WAND-LARGE). These are much more high end. Made of a body safe and non-porous silicone and ABS plastic covering that is completely water proof so it can be sterilized and also used in the bath or shower. (The Hitachi is not water proof at all) In addition it is cordless, re-chargeable, offers 8 vibrations patterns and levels and you get two hours of use on a full charge. I also suspect that it's bent handle is probably a lot more ergonomic and comfortable for solo use.

See some user submitted reviews of the Lelo Smart Wand [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/comments/1uxx9i/review_lelo_smartwand/) and [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/comments/1v1wbr/lelo_large_smart_wand_review/).

Edit: I've obtained confirmation from Babeland that the Lelo Smart Large is compatible with the Vixen Creations Gee Whiz and Gee Whizzard. But not the Smart Wand Medium which is too small.

Public service announcement for Hitachi Magic Wand HV-250R and Magic Wand Original HV-260 users.


I'm a female that has just discovered the greatness of g-spot stimulation and was wondering if anyone could recommend a toy that is under $150?
 In my sex toy arsenal I currently have a hitachi magic wand and a vixskin mustang dildo, and I used to own a Boss Naked vibrator (http://www.babeland.com/boss-naked/d/1321) which is supposed to help with g-spot stimulation (However,It didn't work out for me).

Looking for a G-Spot stimulation toy


What a Great Idea! Babeland Pleasure Pack


Lovense released few weeks ago a new rabbit vibrator called [Velvo](https://pleasurevibereviews.com/reviews/velvo). Worth checking it has a 360° Rolling Bead Design


Looks interesting but I'll wait for some reviews to come out before pulling the trigger.


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Are you meaning during chastity cage (male/AMAB anatomy) and using the lush anal, or chastity belt female/AFAB anatomy?


look specifically for vibrating toys to use on my chastity cage (AMAB anatomy)


Ah thanks for clarification, a wand is usually what would do it so maybe a more powerful and/or rumbly wand than the one from adam and eve? It’s also possible vibrations won’t do it for you as they don’t get everyone off, or if you’re also open to trying from the anal/prostate side physical stimulation could get you there instead of vibrations, Aneros toys specifically (like the [Helix Syn](https://lh-aneros-helix-syn.specialtoyreviews.com)) if you wanted something more hands free, but a bit of a learning curve to focusing on those sensations and movements!


I buy from [Adam and Eve](https://www.pntra.com/t/8-9789-208515-107783?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.adameve.com%2F) and have had good experiences. I've reviewed a few of their branded items; they're okay, but nothing that's wowed me yet. I like their selection. I usually find their price on the lube we like is pretty competitive compared to others.

Would need a little more information on what specifically you mean by 'borderline over stimulated." What is this toy targeting? Any information you can drop will help!


I also buy from adam and eve same thing here everything is decent but nothing thats wowed me yet. Good to know about the lube. Im a clitorial stimulation girlie so anything in that area would be nice


Have you tried a pinpoint vibe? Fuzze has one called the [Orgasm Monster Pro](https://funzze.com/products/orgasm-monster-pro?variant=47237257232558&sca_ref=10491102.WgviMz0tEi) that I adore, but there are more out there. It has three different tips that slide over the MAIN EVENT, a harder tip surface that I can only handle for a short time. The other tips dull the sensation slightly, so if you've never used one, this is a good starting point to grow with.


I haven't tried it but damn yeah ill have to look into that thanks for the info!!


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I wasn't recommending a specific item, rather pointing out that while I buy from Adam Eve, their line hasn't yet made something worth recommending.

I will make sure to avoid this moving forward.


Monster/fantasy dildos I’d recommend the indie/made to order shops as it’s really an art form! Plus the good ones all use platinum cured silicone. Some of them have beginner friendly categories that have some the unique textures/shapes to introduce you to fantasy dildos like [Uberrime’s Phantasia](https://uberrime.com/collections/phantasia-beginner-friendly-fantasy?rfsn=8875537.5adc32) models and [Fantasy Grove’s Fundamentals](https://fantasygrove.com/collections/fundementals?sca_ref=10349701.xCDzFvtlnh)

Overstimulating toys any of the really powerful options should be able to get you there. Regular vibration wise [Magic Wand plug-in](https://lh-magic-wand-plug-in-vibrator.specialtoyreviews.com) (or cordless/rechargeable versions) or air pulse the [Womanizer Premium 2](https://lh-womanizer-premium-2.specialtoyreviews.com)

As for adam and eve they’re alright in my opinion, when I first started out exploring toys I bought form them mostly because they had in person stores but found their options quickly became limited as I was explored more and found the variety offered by other online shops. Also as is case with many toy shops need to shop smartly as they sell a lot of unsafe material stuff too


Ohhh good to know. Ive heard a lot of good thungs abt the womanizer air pulsing stuff. As for adamn and eve ive bought from them a few tiles now and its kinda mid... but I think they're decebt for begginer


You’re welcome! And yea I agree for adam and eve, just main thing is watching out for unsafe toys from them for beginners!


Ohh good to know is it the material thats not safe?


Yea for the most part! They typically label the material (at least product listings on website) fairly accurately, for the most part you want silicone. Stainless steel is also safe but they and other cheaper brands tend to call ‘metal’ toys as stainless steel when cheap ones are typically chrome plated metal which is not body safe. Glass material wise is body safe too.

Avoid TPE, TPR, jelly, PVC, ‘soft plastic’, and a lot of brand name materials like cyberskin, ultraskyn are also TPE they are trying to hide under the ‘brand name’ material. The exception are male strokers/fleshlights are still safe enough to use if made from TPE, but nothing that is being inserted like dildos or plugs can be

They do have unsafe designs as well for some toys, again the same issue for many shops, primarily butt plugs that have unsafe round bases. T-shaped bases are much safer


Saving this comment for when I do go shopping thank u so much


You’re very welcome, happy shopping!


The womanizer makes my wife spray the walls.


For monsters, I'd take a look at stuff from Mr. Hankey's. Super unique designs and the textures are generally good-to-downright-great too. Depending on the dildo.

[The Hentai](https://www.sextoymagazine.com/best-monster-dildos/#best-thick-dildo-hentai-dildo-from-mr-hankeys) is a personal favorite.


Ohhh ill check that out thanks!!


Adding onto this post what do we think about spencers toys?


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What a great review man, Might try this one out sometime I have been buying custom ones cause alot of these toys aren't made for bigger guys sometimes


Thanks man. From what I’ve heard and seen from videos of people using these dolls if you have a big dick you will be able to have a great time with it! And its amazing quality so its gonna last you years if you take good care of it.


Im usually very rough with my sextoys which intern makes them break, but if the quality of the toy is top notch then it might handle the beating


Oh yeah i think it can. Personally I’m more of a slower sensual sex enjoyer. But every now and then i fuck her as hard as i can because it feels so good.


I understand that, Im rough with my toys for long pound sessions some toys cant handle that kind of pounding so its hard to find good toys that dont break


Yeah most people are! I hope if you do buy one it does the job for you! I know shes been doing it for me! 🤤


Im hoping to I had toys in the past that couldn't hold alot of cum and it popped


I have a round up here of [remote-controlled sex toy apps](https://sextoyreviews.uk/best-app-controlled-sex-toy/); I've tried a lot and they vary wildly in quality although the general rule of thumb is that the more expensive a toy is, the better the app - the Lovense one is definitely a cut above the others in terms of stability and ease of use. If you're looking for a specific toy, happy to advise - the [Lush 4 love egg](https://sextoyreviews.uk/lovense-lush-4-review/) is popular but it's unlikely to be an orgasmic experience, the [Lovense Ferri is a panty vibrator](https://sextoyreviews.uk/lovense-ferri-review/) that is actually very strong - paired together it's quite the combination.


thank you for the advice, the lack of video chatting of the app isn’t a problem (we usually use our computers and have the phone free)

we don’t want to spend that much buying both of them (at least for now) which one do you recommend?


My personal favourite of the two is the Ferri (you can read my review, linked above) because I prefer clitoral stimulation, but it's likely she'll have a preference if you ask.

My overall favourite toy ever that has app control is the [LELO Enigma Double Sonic](https://sextoyreviews.uk/lelo-enigma-double-sonic-review/) but that is a very expensive purchase!


okey I will ask her ty, the enigma is too expensive for us, the app will work well between different countries right?


The Lovense app does, yes, and it's very responsive. The more apps that I try, the more impressed I become with it.

I know, it's mad expensive 😔 I would say it's worth every penny, but I'd struggle to justify it if mine broke!


Hi there. Remote-controlled toys are always going to be a bit pricier than traditional toys because of the technology. From experience, it's always best to stick with the trusted brands because then you will get something that will last, plus are sure they are made from body-safe material.

Lovense still has the best app ([Lovense Lush 4](https://www.mysextoyguide.com/lovense-lush-4-review/) is great), but the competition is catching up. We-Vibe, in particular, have some strong options. My favorite right now is their [Chorus Pro](https://www.mysextoyguide.com/we-vibe-chorus-pro-review/). You get both Ferri and Lush 4 in one product (it has both G-spot and clit stimulation). It's also app-compatible, features an easy-to-use remote control, is waterproof, and tucks away neatly in a storage case that doubles as a charger.

If you want something more affordable, you can grab the [We-Vibe Sync Lite](https://www.mysextoyguide.com/we-vibe-sync-lite-review/) for $99 right now. It's a scaled down version of the Chorus Pro, but still have enough features for most people.

Good luck :)


the toy you suggested is a bit expensive for us, in our range of prices what would you choose?


What's your price range? [We-Vibe Sync Lite](https://www.mysextoyguide.com/we-vibe-sync-lite-review/) is actually on sale for $79 right now. Even cheaper than what I said above. You get app-control plus both G-spot and clit stimulation in one.


Hi there, for the chorus pro - does that allow for a long distance connection without actually syncing in close proximity first? How does the long distance partner actually connect to the toy?


Lovense is the best in terms of app connectivity. It’s worth the money. I’d ice to try out the new Lelo range since they started having app control capabilities but I recently invested in a kickstarter thing which means my disposable income will be limited for a while


I think we’ll buy the lelo one


Let me know how it goes!


Have a look at the [vibrators and toys from Kiiroo. ](https://offers.feeliate.com/?offer=1&uid=019bea77-dc28-72f5-b02c-758d7c321309&url=https://www.kiiroo.com/collections/vibrators)We have toys for him and my own vibrators; [the ProWand](https://offers.feeliate.com/?offer=1&uid=019bea77-dc28-72f5-b02c-758d7c321309&url=https://www.kiiroo.com/products/prowand) is such a great toy. We live together, have been married for 20 years, but due to travel for both of our jobs we find ourselves on the road a few times every month. I will take my vibrator along, sometimes my wand, others my Pearl, and we still connect via Kiiroo's app. There are quite a few options, and a lot of them are on sale right now.

If you have any questions, feel free to DM or leave those questions here. Kiiroo is based in Amsterdam and we've taken our toys overseas, while the other is back in the states and they've worked wonderfully.

Good luck with your search!!


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I flipping HATE the whole pulsy programs they're putting on vibes these days... I need to know what DUDE (most likely) thought adding all that horseshit made any kind of sense. Vibrator: It has ONE job. Nobody needs a vibrator that's just as unpredictable and unreliable as a human. Literally by BIGGEST "modern sex toy pet peeve."

Worst is when you accidentally tap the wrong button with lubed up fingers or in the dark and then have to cycle through what feels like HUNDREDS of them to get back to the one that just... vibrates. It's in the fucking NAME, people!

At any rate, I did get one that's close, but it's more of a mini magic wand. It does have one button that will send you on a cascade of idiotic pulse programs, but if you turn it off and just hit the right button again, it goes back to vibrate.

It sounds like you are looking for more of an egg-type one, though, and the one I got is a wand-type.


I felt this lol couldn’t agree more


There are several good quality mini wands on amazon that have independent pattern and intensity controls.

The one we have has three buttons - power on/off, 10 pattern cycle, and 10 intensity settings. One of the best purchases we made. It was only like $25 bucks. Has lasted multiple years so far.

Having to click through the whole patterns thing to turn a vibe off is freaking annoying.


Check out the Aurora II by Bellesa. They regularly have 50% off sales of their branded products.


Hello as I look on internet for the autoblow,  I think the handy is way better.


If it’s the one I got it’s trash and I do not recommend it


Do you know any good ones?


There’s a twisty sucky one on teamu with this pretty nice


Also interested


Always a great time when finding a toy that surpasses your expectations! Glad it ended up being a hit for you

We tried the Womanizer Peach (sister brand but based on price point it may be exact same motor and all just different color) and were surprised how good it was, thinking it was going to be gimmicky/novelty and given the price ([my review post here](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/s/5NO6dH1Ctz) in case anyone was interested). Haven’t tried the Romp Peach but would be curious if it would have any differences or not!


I don't know about the Peach, but WOW/LHG has definitely done cross-line duplicate releases before. The 50 Shades Of Grey Rose was the Romp Rose in a different color scheme (which was a useful thing to know last year when the ROMP Roses were backordered for months).


Ooh and the model is cute too. Those roses have so many nooks and crannies it looks annoying too wash. I might just get this one. Have you tried the classic Satisfyer?


Yes the model is super cute!! I love the idea of holding a cute mini peach, 🍑 and it is very easy to clean!! (Waterproof as well 😉)

And I have never really heard of that brand. Is there anything you recommend?


Sorry I never tried the Satisfyer! It's just a pretty popular brand, competing with Womanizer, it's just more easily accessible to buy where I am. I was wondering if you have tried it so I can decide what to get next 😅


i love satisfyer! if you’re into cutesy toys, i’d definitely check them out. they make a lot
of affordable, cute toys (like they have air pulse toys shaped like a penguin, whale, ghost, seal, heart, etc) and have a very good warranty policy!


The penguin has been my fave for YEARS! I have a satisfyer pro 2 but prefer the penguin almost always.


STOPP that's too cute 😭


Rose-style suction on a fresh battery is stronger than most people expect — even level 1 is often too much for first-timers. Pro tip: use over underwear or a thin cloth for the first few tries to dial it back. Satisfyer Pro 2 has softer lower settings if the Rose ever feels like too much. One more thing worth mentioning — the rose petals trap fluids, so warm soapy water with a soft toothbrush cleans way better than a regular sponge.


Now try a Lemon 🍋🍋🍋🍋😈😈😈💦💦💦, lol!


Is the lemon soft?


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As a guy. This looks real cute. Discrete toys with such designs just feel so appealing


Move up to a Womanizer Premium 2 and you’ll never want to leave the bedroom.


If you like the Premium 2, consider giving the Next a go. It's the upgraded version. I don't understand what makes the new motor different but it feels like a much deeper, broader throb.


i've got the premium right now, is the next really worth it or a minor upgrade? They're so expensive but I'd love a new one soon


I would say that when you're properly ready to replace or upgrade, get the Next, but if you like your Premium then it's probably not imperative to switch.


Thank you! I just ordered one since there was a pretty big sale, my premium is dying lol, it refuses to charge


Thanks for the info…just in time for the weekend!


Wife's favorite by far. All the others reside in bottom drawer, rose in her nightstand.


Might have to try that… my current fav is the Honey Pistil by Bad Peach but it is kinda a hassle to keep clean. Gives me mind blowing orgasms though.


How loud is it? Some of the reviews said it was super loud so I wanted to check before I placed my order lol


I’ll say this, it’s a lot more quieter than your regular rose toy. Ofc, you’re always gonna hear your toy make sounds, but in comparison it beats the usual sound of when you turn it on.

For example, I also have the Romp Panty Party clitoral toy, and that shit is SUPER quiet too, compared to other toys I’ve owned. Romp (as a brand) so far has not disappointed me. Theyre really good, and their products are quality sooo soft.


Gotcha gotcha, thank you!


My gf only uses a Satisfyer or Womanyzer toy, can't really identify the brand yet. She said no vibrator nor dildo can make her cum.

I tried a wand style vibrator that gets ne off easily and she was only annoyed by it.

What would be a toy I should buy for her?


I have to be honest, this is very intriguing. I've never used a "Rose" vibrator. My go to is the Satisfyer.


Is it soooooooooooooooooo cute!! OMG I love it


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So I have a question my boyfriend of 18 months wants to be pegged initially it started out as a joke, but during sex, he wanted me to put a butt plug in the biggest size which was bigger than what I could handle so some red flag started to flag about me questioning his sexuality, whether he was bisexual or gay.
The other day we were on a Adam and Eve website and he was interested in the strap on and I was looking for a small size, but he was open to something really big which made me kind of freaked out. I’m very open to a lot of things sexually and I have been with quite a few partners so I’m not prude at all, but I’ve never been in a relationship with someone who wanted to be pegged so it’s kind of freaking me out. And I will say that his relationship with his friends is kind of odd where they will jokingly send pictures of their dicks or ball sacks, and I feel like he tries to impress men.
I will also add that he was in the military for 20 years, so I’m not sure if some things happen with men and he ended up liking it.
Anyways, long story short I just need advice from men or women who have been in the situation and their partner ended up gay. I just don’t want to waste more time with someone who’s using me as a front but our secretly in to men.

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Wanting to be pegged does not make you gay or bi-sexual.

He might be gay or bi-sexual, but wanting to be pegged doesn't make him that. Period.


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Not gay. Anal stimulation has nothing to do with who you’re attracted to.


He wants to have sex with you, a woman, and you’re wondering if he’s gay?


Tbf op never claimed to be female /s


I'll just nicely say that you are overreacting and I won't add anymore. 🤦


Bravo, couldn't have said that better myself 🙈


Thanks, I'm trying to be a nice person....today at least. 🤣


Unless you're a man, how would it be gay?


plot twist: OP is a man


Nothing wrong in it all. Being "gay" means an attraction to the same sex. You are overreacting 👌


pegging has 100% NOTHING to do with being gay. Prostatic orgasm is one of the most powerful ones a man can experience, and many men identifying 100% as straight guys will have a desire to explore prostatic pleasure or pegging. it's also a way to connect differently to sexuality, to our partners, to the roles and dynamics in the relationship and many other aspects.

You can decide if yes or no, you're ready to offer him this experience, and if so, look it up, make it fun together, it's playful, it doesn't define you, nor does it define him... it's very vulnerable for a man to express his desire to explore this, and him sharing this with you, is clearly a sign he feels intimate, comfortable, and can trust you...

So please... by all means, don't destroy this nor his trust or vulnerability by shaming him in any way.

If you are curious, look it up, if you don't feel like it, feel inside why, and express your comfort or discomfort, and be vulnerable too... in how you feel about it all, no shaming, no judgment... just exploring.

Sex is playful, messy, can be weird, fun, it's just another experience of something to connect together, in many more ways than none.

Have fun 😄


Are you a man?

If so, you're boyfriend is almost certainly gay.

If not, he probably just enjoys pleasure.


You're overreacting. Who you're attracted to determines if you're gay, straight or bi. Not what pleasure you enjoy

Honestly its kinda shitty that your bf opened up to you and you jump to thinking he's gay


Doesn’t make him gay, he may just like the way it feels,  have you guys done any type of anal with him before, fingers or tongue?  Only natural to try to go further if he is into it.


Any type of sex between opposite sex partners is straight sex


You're overreacting. He opened up about wanting to try something in bed with his girlfriend -- something a lot of guys are incredibly insecure about -- and you're judging him for it. Enjoying anal play doesn't make a man gay or bi, enjoying sex with another man does.


Lots of people making great points about anal play and sexuality, just want to add that jumping to big toys immediately or to soon is a bad idea. There‘s an allure that comes with the idea of taking a huge plug/dildo/strap, but the both of you should agree to buy a smaller one first or at least get multiple sizes to work through.


Its not gay if its between man and woman.  I'm male in my 30s and recently we started exploring pegging too. I'm 200% straight guy, even thinking about  having another man dick in my ass is huge turn off for me, but if its her 'cock' then 🫠


first things first, yes you're overreacting. end of story.

moreover... what would be the matter to you? if he was attracted also to men?

and even if... liking to have his ass blasted is just sexual preference: you should just want his pleasure, not worry for who he is. worrying for who he is, is a WHOOOOLE another thing.

then again, if you're not comfortable doing something in bed, you shouldn't do it, and you two should discuss it. as you should discuss with him the doubts you're having.

BUT FFS JUST CHILL!!!! :)) it's just sex!


I've always said it, theres not a single thing my wife and I can do together that can make me gay. That's not how gay works lol


You are over reacting.

 I peg my husband all of the time and it doesn't impact his desire or love for me. It's just another act we do from time to time that brings my partner immense pleasure from the male g-spot. I love giving my partner mind blowing orgasms however I can.

If he also enjoys men or male anatomy sexually, he may be bisexual...which just means he is attracted to a wider range of people but still choosing YOU to have a relationship with.


When you masturbate, does it mean you're gay because it's a female hand that pleasures you?

Unless he wants to be begged exclusively by men, he's not gay.


I'm not gay but love my girlfriend pegging me. It was her that asked and I was reluctant to begin with but I eventually let her try and wow it was amazing. The orgasms are probably the closest thing a man will have to a woman's orgasms. Now if I looked up and seen a man's face I would instantly be turned off but because its a female its hot as fuck. It's probably made us closer as I'm being so vulnerable. Saying that this is my experience and was nothing I had previously thought about until she asked so this is my experience and I'm definitely not wanting a man to do it so just because he wants it doesny make him gay. Just communicate with each other and if it's something your not willing to do you need to say and stick with it.


You are way overreacting. Anal sex doesn't mean he's gay. It means that he likes prostate played with. He very well be gay, but I'm just saying that you can't say that since he wants to be pegged by you a female that it isn't a sign that he's gay. My gay friends tell me that not all gay people like anal sex. Anal sex doesn't have to mean anything besides just wanting anal sex. Plus, being gay isn't a physical thing, it's about attraction for the same gender. If he wants to have sex with a dude, it also doesn't mean he's gay. It means he wanted sex with someone. Being gay and pegging are not the same. Plus, if he wants a girl, you to do it with him, he's obviously attracted to you.


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All of the points you mentioned. It needs to be a material which is safe and durable, whether it feels realistic or not depends on my mood, the size and shape needs to feel comfortable with my anatomy, extra features like vibration or air pulse or flicking. It definitely has to get me off


Thanks for sharing! That really helps!
I'm curious,do you have a favorite material? For example, do you prefer softer silicone or something firmer?


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If you want to try something similar to a rose, I would suggest trying a suction toy but you can probably do better than the rose - It's cheap enough but it definitely isn't the best one out there.

[I have a round up of my favourites here ](https://sextoyreviews.uk/best-clitoral-stimulators-clit-suckers/) - either the new Satisfyer 2 or the Biird Namii would be good choices, both have a vibrate function too. The Namii is a little over budget, but worth it!


ah what a big list!! I'll have to peak at all of these thank you so much. I've heard good things about the Satisfyer 2 so it's high on the list so far.


It's a good beginner one - not as refined as some of the others but not as expensive either! You don't want to spend loads then be horribly disappointed by the sensations. But if you know you like it, then invest - I use the Namii a lot more these days, it's more flexible, softer and cuter!


If you decide to replace the bullet with a better bullet, the We-Vibe Tango X is amazing. I don't know all of the American retailers but regular price is $68 on Lovehoney ($85 minus 20% discount for signing up for the mailing list, just unsubscribe immediately after receiving the code).


ooo thanks for filling me in on the discount. That's another reason I thought to post, because I'm terrible of keeping track of all the little ways to save a buck here n there. I'll have to give that a peak, as it's another one I hear raving reviews about >:)


I'm sure that the Tango X sometimes goes on sale for cheaper if you're patient or want to do some comparison shopping, but you probably want a replacement ASAP. I recommend the Tango X to anyone looking for a bullet because it's my personal favourite of the 14+ rechargeable vibrating and air-pulse toys I've owned (plus a few old-school battery-powered ones).


So I've recently rediscovered my love for bullets. If you're curious about suction or the rose toy craze, EdenFantasys has a solid option, [the Naughty Rose](https://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/rose-vibrators/naughty-rose?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP) which was fun. They also have a lovely suction toy called Breeze, which is so much fun. Then, for a steal, you can check out the [Tickler Smoothie](https://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/bullet-vibrators/tickler-smoothie?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP), a cute bullet with a tip that looks like flower petals...I love this bullet so much. We had fun with a [panty vibe called Alfresco](https://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/panty-vibrators/alfresco-panty-vibrator?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP), I'm still writing up a review but so far it's been great. It feels great against my body, has a remote that is small, and a magnet that sits outside your panties to hold the toy in place.

All the options are USB rechargeable; the remote from the Alfresco uses a car remote battery, but it should last for a long time. Hope that helps a little. Eden Fantasys has a good line of toys and they have name-brand luxury lines as well. I've had some misses but the ones I listed have been great.

Good luck with your search, happy to answer any questions you might have!


Alfresco greatly intrigues me. I may be buying an extra toy or two than I though!! @///@