So this is for my best friend. She is a virgin and is very horny. She doesn't want to have sex yet, but is very sexually frustrated. She has tried this toy (adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-satisfyer-pro-next-generation-104151.aspx?st=search) and "it feels like it's working but I didn't get far enough to tell if it was working or not. If you don't know what it feels like, how the fuck are you supposed to tell?" (Those were her words exactly) I've tried to give suggestions (I'm not a virgin and I'm a proud user of toys) but she is still struggling. What are some beginner, virgin sex toys that she can use that are non penetrative?

My (22F) best friend (20F) is struggling with masturbation with or without toys. Any suggestions?


So I'm 67 and my wife passed away (debbie downer!) but she wouldn't ever stimulate my prostate, so figured if the sex I'm gonna get is me I'd get a prostate massager , this one:https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/prostate-toys/sp-adam-eve-silicone-warming-prostate-massager-105134.aspx?CategoryID=1139

So I did it last night and it was terrific. Watched a beautiful trans get a prostate massage from a beautiful woman, had this thing up my butt and came lights out right when she/he did in the video. Great!

But then this morning I woke up with a hemo. Shit now I can't do it again for a while. How do gays and dildoers keep their sphincter from tearing? I used water based lube and started with a finger.

I assume I need a stretching before I go as big as that toy. Is this normal? How do people go about that?

New to the prostate


Hi guys!

A little background on me: I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 22 which was achieved with a beaded rabbit vibrator. I am 31 now and have never been able to orgasm without a toy. I've never had an orgasm with my fingers/hands, someone else's fingers/hands, or from oral sex. Orgasm has only ever been able to be achieved with a toy on relatively high power, wielded by me, laying on my back. I have been using the Womanizer very regularly for the last 2-3 years.

I think part of the reason I have trouble achieving orgasm is 1) my clitoris is *very* small and 2) I suspect that the distance between my vagina and clitoris is longer than average.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 1.5 years. While he had never used toys before me, he is very open to trying and using toys if it makes me feel good (but I also get the feeling he's not super into them, though he's never expressed that). I am having trouble finding one that works for me. We have [this vibrating ring](https://www.lovehoney.com/product.cfm?p=26069) but it doesn't reach my clit when his penis is inside me. I've tried taking it off of him and just using it to rub my clit but the vibration isn't strong enough.

We also have [this finger vibrator](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/finger-vibrators/sp-fingo-nubby-finger-vibrator-13900.aspx?st=finger), which feels nice, but again the vibrations just aren't powerful enough for me. I've tried using both of these toys independently to see if it was perhaps just pressure/nerves of having him around but was unsuccessful.

We have tried just having me use the Womanizer during sex since that's my tried-and-true method, but it is difficult to use when his body is slamming into mine because it shoves the toy hard onto my clitoris which is painful. Using the toy also prevents us from being able to be closely intertwined because I can't maneuver the toy with his body pressed against mine. I can't find my sweet spot with the Womanizer on my hands and knees. There is also the problem when I'm using it with him, he and I are both thinking "hopefully this is it!" which puts a lot of pressure on me.

For awhile, I really wanted to try WeVibe as it seems perfect but I worry that it either won't reach my clitoris when inside of me or the vibration won't be strong enough to do anything for me. It's a lot of money to spend on something that very well may not work.

I am feeling sad, discouraged, and kind of embarrassed. I'm worried my boyfriend blames himself which only makes matters worse, so I am coming here as a last resort for some toy suggestions. Are there any couple-friendly toys that might work for me?

Sex toy recommendations?


I [26M] as using this: https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-booty-sparks-gem-anal-plug-8667.aspx?CategoryID=1054#product-reviews

Alone because I want to train my ass hole for when i have sex with my girlfriend. She even joked about making sure I used something with a flared base.

I swear this toy almost when inside of me. I had to hook my finger underneath the base of the gem to get it out. Has anyone experienced something similar with this type of toy?

Am I being paranoid or did I almost just get an anal plug stuck inside of me?


This is my personal step by step anal primer. Anal penetration for me is a special consent/request.

I use this program to put my mind in that place to be open and prepared. Is it odd that I want to be good at something I do not want to do? I do not particularly enjoy anal sex. I do not consider it fun, but over the years I have learned how to challenge this boundary. However, I don't mind wearing a but plug now and then. If you want to toss my salad go ahead, but that mouth and tongue isn't going anywhere near me until you clean yourself.

[This is the anal trainer](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-glass-anal-training-kit-101500.aspx) my SOM purchased for me. I had a different one that was plastic but I wanted an upgrade that would be easier to clean.

I start training about a week and a half out. I use lube of course and take it out at night to sleep and when it needs to be removed for BM. I start changing my diet five days out adding more fiber and lessening carbs, and I also try to do a 48 hour water fast just before. I have considered trying an enema, but I have never tried one and I think I do enough...

This might be excessive but I want to make the men and women in my life as happy as I can and they make me

Anal My Primer


I can never get tired of the orgasms my vibrator gives me. The delicate dance I play is so worth the amazing screaming orgasm I get from this thing. $35 well worth it. I had to go old school one night and the orgasm was 1/100 as intense as with my toy. It was nice to know I could still do it but made me also happy I have this toy. I can’t get that sort of orgasm alone. And it also makes sex 200x more intense for me. Anyway I just came here to praise my vibrator. You’re doing a great job buddy and I love you.

Edit: price was wrong.

Link: https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/wand-massagers/sp-adam-eve-magic-massager-deluxe-x-99190.aspx

Use doe or Trisha to get the price I got

Edit: for those who care I got it last November

I love my wand!


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For those who shop on adameve.com


Hello, this is my first time posting on reddit so if I am not doing this in the proper forum or if this type of material not allowed here I apologize in advance.

Anywho, I am looking for a new adult toy and was hoping to get some info from someone that knows more about this kind of stuff.

I have this toy [https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/realistic-dildos/sp-adams-colossal-inch-99852.aspx](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/realistic-dildos/sp-adams-colossal-inch-99852.aspx) and would like to know what would be a good step up in terms of size and pleasure.  I am too nervous to about looking at other sites due to discretion, so what are some good sites that are reliable and discreet?

Could anybody please help me find a new adult toy?


So I recently bought new vibrators. One is a wand-style and one is a traditional jelly dildo vibe. I bought them about two months ago. I got diagnosed with gonorrhea two days ago but had been having symptoms (namely a bunch of UTIs) for a few weeks. I almost certainly used the toys while being infected with the STD. I clean them with antibacterial soap and dry them out for a day after each use. Are they safe to use again (after the ten day ban on sex obviously) or do I need to throw them out?

The jelly vibe I'm less worried about because it was like $20, but the wand is really nice and I don't want to have to throw it out. Obviously I will if I need to, though.

This is the [wand](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/wand-massagers/sp-pure-enrichment-peak-wand-massager-99482.aspx?st=search%20autocomplete%3Eproduct%3EPure%20Enrichment%20Peak%20Wand%20Massager) I have and this is the [jelly vibrator](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/realistic-vibrators/sp-adam-eve-blue-dolphin-105446.aspx) in case you need info on the materials, etc.

Edit - I am female.

I recently bought a couple vibrators and I just got diagnosed (and treated for) gonorrhea. Do I have to throw them out?


I am very self-conscious about my endurance during sex. When I masturbate I only last 5 mins tops. If I were to have sex to you think I should use [this](https://www.adameve.com/sex-lubes/male-sexual-enhancers/sp-tong-balm-116.aspx)

Should I use male sexual enhancers for my first time [M19]


Me and my SO are in need of a new butt plug. We currently have one like \[this\] ([https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-naughty-silicone-butt-plug-83701.aspx](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-naughty-silicone-butt-plug-83701.aspx)) It doesn't seem to bother her which is good. In fact she loves it. I'm not huge, but big enough that it rubs me the wrong way when we fuck. So I would love some thoughts and recommendations if you have any.

Ladies I need a recommendation on butt plugs.


**Background**
I (27 F) have been seeing my boyfriend (34 M) for a year and a half now (since November 2016).  We began hanging out as friends and developed a mutually sense of trust and companionship very readily.  (This was unusual, as I do not trust easily.  But, our connection felt very natural and comfortable.)   He is the first person I've dated and the first person I've been physically intimate with.

He has always been incredibly supportive, patient, and accepting, allowing me to explore the terrain of sex at my own pace.  He has offered suggestions or will ask if I want to try something every now and then, which has helped me extend the boundaries of my comfort zone.  (e.g. going down on me, straddling his face, intercrural sex.)  I've never felt pressured by him in any way, and he checks in with me while engaging (e.g. a kind and gentle “are you doing ok?”)

He enjoys going down on me.  A lot.  It took me a while to feel secure about it - a few months.  I was worried that he didn’t intrinsically enjoy it and was just doing it as a means to an end (i.e. getting me off.)  Especially since I bear a full bush.  We talked about all of these concerns, and he assured me that he genuinely enjoys eating me out, gets turned on by it, and that he actually digs my hairstyle (haha).  Despite having no trouble with arousal/sexual responsiveness, and him being persistent, I couldn’t reach climax.  It wasn’t til November 2017 that I came while he was downtown - and I haven’t had any trouble reaching orgasm with him ever since.

After about 6 months of dating (May 2017), I took a leap and gave BJs a shot.  It was something that I thought I would never do, much less enjoy, but I was surprisingly turned on by it.  So, oral is a regular practice for both of us… both giving and receiving are exciting and pleasurable for both of us.

**Current Focus: Penetration**
I’ve wanted to have penetrative sex with him ever since we started dating.  I’ve expressed to him that though I definitely desire this, I experience pain and fear about pain.  Though he is sexually experienced (his first-time was 15, and he was married for 6 years) and he doesn’t have experience with virgins, he is very compassionate and understanding.  He has said many times that he doesn’t want to cause any pain and it is OK if penetrative sex isn’t a thing for us… that we make each other feel good in many other ways.  And I believe him.

Every now and then, when I’m very aroused/wet, we’ve attempted PIV intercourse.  (I will initiate, guide his penis while he moves slowly. This has been done in cowgirl and missionary positions.) Even though I’m wet (and sometimes have added even more lube to the mix) I experience pain.  It feels like a burning, stretching sensation with a lot of pressure against my vaginal opening. Sometimes it’s a sharp pain.  (Note: I’ve never used tampons for this reason.  I’ve tried fingering myself or have him finger me - bones and nails are even more uncomfortable.)

There have been instances during intercrural rubbing where I get very aroused and he gets very hard.  As a result, sometimes he’ll (unintentionally) begin to slide into me.  As soon as I feel that unanticipated sharp pain, I react and he’ll withdraw.

I’ve read, listened, and watched a lot of material on the subject of sex, and especially on the the sub-topics of arousal, first-time penetration, and even vaginismus.  I do *not* have vaginismus, but I looked at (seemingly) “the worst case” scenario for pain and how women have overcome it and enjoyed intercourse.  It feels like I’ve read and understood and exhibit all the necessary ingredients to have little-to-no pain sex… open communication, trust, arousal, relaxation.  My weak spot is relaxation, as I do get tense.  But I’ve experienced pain even in my most serene and uninhibited state, it seems.

In addition to educating myself, I decided to be proactive and obtained this dilator set. (https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/sp-si-select-dilator-set-100787.aspx - I used a 50% off affiliate code from YouTube channel “sexplanations” because $100 would have been a bit much.)

After a few months of regular practice, I’ve finally have been able to comfortable insert the smallest dilator fully for a prolonged period of time.  (Kinda embarrassing because it’s sooo tiny!  But also a proud feeling for keeping up with it and making some sort of progress.) Actually, I fell asleep during a dilating session one day.  I masturbated and was meditating while dilating… so I was very relaxed… then zzzzz… lol.

Even though that’s the case, when I tried graduating to the next size,  I could only get in about 3/4" before I started feeling that burning stretching pain.  I still finished 15 minute session, but felt a bit discouraged.  Also, because I aroused and was really wanting to try it, I guided my boyfriend into me last night for a little bit.  Same thing -  all I felt was the burning, stretching pain. Neither of us could tell if he was even entering… until he withdrew.  We both felt like he had entered a small amount.  Encouraging, but I also feel down because there is just a point of tightness that neither of us can seem to overcome.

**TLDR:**  boyfriend and I have been together for 1 ½ years, have open communication, trust, and an overall healthy relationship.  Although we engage in a number of stimulating/sexual activities and partner is satisfied, I still want to have penetrative intercourse with him.  He is very accepting and supportive of whatever I am comfortable with and does not pressure me in anyway. I  Despite feeling comfortable with him, educating myself, and dilating, I’m still having trouble with stretching, burning pain with penetration.

Has anyone experienced this or a similar situation?  Any constructive thoughts, suggestions, or advice?  Appreciative for your time and feedback, guys.

Feel free to ask any questions.  I will respond and add an edit here in the original post.

(27F) eager for penetrative intercourse with partner (34M), but still attempting to overcome physical pain and fear of pain


I heard several people talking about the womanizer. And I want to try it. I heard adameve sends you catalogues and I don’t want that. I want a safe site to order sex toys. I can’t find anything online that people trust. Any input helps.

Where to buy the womanizer? Or is there a better one?f(20)


Hello, I'm new here and I was wondering where everyone shop for their sex toys? I've heard of adameve.com but it seems outdated. I'm also in a rural area without many local stores around me.

Where do you shop for sex toys?


My girlfriend has mentioned that she has a fantasy about being "immobilized." I've never done anything like that before, but thinking that something classy like a silk rope or an [under bed restraint system](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/kinky-bondage/sp-under-the-bed-restraint-system-11112.aspx) might be a nice Valentine's Day gift.

Any tips for:

* What to look for when buying a restraint system or rope
* Knots and knot safety
* Emotional safety for two first timers

Thanks!

Getting started with restraints?


I'm thinking about buying my first glass toy.  Probably something along the lines of this.

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/g-spot-dildos/sp-ae-blue-swirl-glass-way-g-12047.aspx

What do you guys think of glass toys?  Likes, dislikes, experiences good or bad are appreciated.  Thanks.

Glass [sex toys]


Hey all. About once every few days I come across posts about prostate orgasms and how great/intense they are. I got super horny the other day and broke out a toy that has been sitting our little sex draw for years that was never used. It took me about 10/15 mins to get it in and once it was in, it sort of felt like nothing. I sat and flexed on it for a bit and I could feel it a little, but nothing like I read here. I eventually cummed and to be honest, I was maybe like 80% hard. I wasn't 100% like I normally am.

Ultimately I guess my question is this: do I need a new and/or better toy or was I maybe a little too nervous and uncomfortable with the whole process being my first time that my orgasm just wasn't what it was suppose to be? It still felt good, don't get me wrong, but all in all, it was pretty anticlimactic.

I currently have this: www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-ass-gasm-penis-ring-plug-92883.aspx

I have on order a Aneros HelixSyn and from what's I've read, that's arguable the best toy for beginners. Any input would be awesome. Thanks!

I (M33) used a prostate/butt plug for the first time. Does it get better or do I need a different toy? [Prostate Orgasm]


(Reposted because it wasn't tagged the first time)

Apparently they + other companies will constantly send you promotional catalogs, etc. in the mail but that's obviously not what I want or knowingly consented to.

It's said on the internet that I'll need to uncheck a box if I don't want any promotional items but I didn't create an account, just did a guest check out thing.

I'm really scared and mortified because while I am over 18, I still live with my parents and siblings, and the thought that they would see all those catalogs made the blood literally leave my face and I instantly had that weird body feeling once I found out.

The part I'm really freaked out about is that they will sell my address to other companies. How can I stop this from happening?

I know I should've researched before I wasted $50 and bought something from a website I'm not familiar with, that's my fault and it's a lesson learned.

I frequently read that they re-sell used toys so I'm just going to throw it away once it arrives, but is there a way to cancel the order and get my money back? I feel like a huge idiot and I'm still shakey writing this, this is my first sex toy and it's going the worst way possible.

I'm willing to own up to this mistake and let my parents know in advance why there are sex magazines addressed to me in the mail, but if there's a way for me to prevent this, I'd really appreciate the help. Has anyone have anything like this happen to them?

Please let me know if this was the wrong place to post this.

Edit: Also, how would I stop the other companies from sending me their stuff? Do I contact them after they send me something and tell them to take me off the mailing list?

[shady business] Ordered toy from adameve but then I read that they will sell your address to other sex companies?


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Ordered toy from adameve but then I read that they will sell your address to other sex companies?


There's always [Amazon](https://www.amazon.com), but that can get kinda weird with sex toys now being part of your search history.  Shopping there then means that I'll have sex related ads showing up on my screen all the time.  [Adam and Eve](http://www.adameve.com) is an obvious choice, and I've used them in the past.  It's only recently, though, that I've started learning of other places, such as [Temptation Garden](https://temptationgarden.com/).

Where should I look to shop for quality adult products?  It's *really* helpful if they have product reviews from customers.  I'd prefer someplace that won't pollute my advertising stream and has discrete packaging.

Where does everybody here go to buy their ["toys"]?


I recently got a pair (http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/ben-wa-balls/sp-lia-love-balls-85500.aspx) and I'm not sure if they're right for me. These are 1.5 inches in diameter and require no effort from me to keep them in. I was under the impression if I walk around in them my muscles would naturally work themselves out, but now I'm reading I need to do kegal exercises to have the intended effect and have to focus on keeping them from falling out. So should I get a smaller size?

I don't feel much of anything from vaginal sex alone and am hoping these will help fix that and also intensify orgasms. I want to be able to orgasm from vaginal alone! Should I be "wearing" them during sex to get that effect? Cause that seems painful and honestly there doesn't seem like there'd be enough room for a penis or toy.

[BenWaBalls] Should I go down a size?


I didn't see this on the FAQ, but if I missed it, I am sorry. My SO and I recently purchased [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/realistic-dildos/sp-adams-inch-dildo-91665.aspx) dildo, and while it is nice, the lip on the head kinda ruins it. It hurts, and like, pops inside. No bueno. I was thinking about using very sharp sewing scissors to cut off that lip and make it more... aerodynamic, shall we say. I googled it, and I can't really seem to find a hard no or a hard yes. Anyone have any experience with cutting some bits off your dildos?

edit: actually helpful if I link the dildo

[Sex Toy] modification


I was just reading this thread about who to buy from and who not to (https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/184960/toxic_sex_toys_what_to_know_before_you_buy/), but it's three years old now. My partner and I want to get a beginner's strap on/dildo, but we also want to not buy something that has chemicals so bad that they're banned in children's toys. Is babeland.com still 100% safe? I noticed adameve.com wasn't on the list, is it hit or miss? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Who to buy [dildos] from? Unregulated sex toy industry is scary (chemicals and such)...


I'm a 20 y/o female looking to buy a Hitachi Magic Wand. I've had a number of vibrators before and thoroughly enjoyed them, and I'm looking for something a little higher-quality.

My problem is that I don't know how to identify a real Hitachi wand online. I saw a thread about this from a few years ago, but I figure things have probably changed since then, so I'm making this one.

I would prefer not to buy one in a store (though it would probably be easier to confirm authenticity) because of price. [This](https://www.amazon.com/Original-Magic-Wand-Essential-Massager/dp/B01DCHMIF2/ref=sr_1_2_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1468966400&sr=8-2&keywords=hitachi+magic+wand) is one I was looking at, but it seems awfully cheap. But of course the price is one of its good points. I also have an Adam & Eve account and could probably get a discount on there, but theirs is still $80. I'm assuming that [theirs](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/wand-massagers/sp-magic-wand-original-9465.aspx) is authentic?

Basically I'm just looking for the most reasonable price I can get on the real thing. Thank you all in advance. :)

Help finding/identifying real Hitachi [Magic Wand]?


After six months of dating my girlfriend she confided in me that she has never had an orgasm from penetration in her life. This was a big disappointment to me because some how I felt that I was inadequate. She has never had a problem orgasming when I eat her out, but we are both set on getting her to orgasm during sex.

We bought this vibrating cock ring thinking it would do the job (http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/penis-rings/sp-big-o-multi-stage-vibrating-penis-ring-36300.aspx).

Neither of us has ever tried toys before so we didn't know if it would work or not. Sadly it had no effect because the vibration was not powerful enough. I do not know anything about other toys and do not want to buy something that won't work.

Is there a better ring to use that would help? I was also thinking of getting some type of bullet vibrator to use on her during,  but I need help deciding what to get. Any help is needed and greatly appreciated.

[Sex toys] What toy to help my girlfriend orgasm?


...As in the strap-on will be going in her vagina, not in me. She loves being penetrated, but I don't last as long as she'd like. With a strap-on, I can go as long as she wants! I'm not set on which one to get, but was looking for one similar to this: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/strap-on-sex-toys/sp-ae-hollow-strap-on-99549.aspx

I guess I'm just looking for advice/tips or experiences on how to use one. What do they feel like compared to a real penis? Is it basically just like a dildo? My only concern is it being too rigid (the description says "Firm, yet slightly flexible where it matters most") and possibly being uncomfortable or painful. The other one I looked at was 10 inches, but I don't think she's had anything that long in her and I don't know if it would be too long.

[Toys] I [30sM] want to use a strap-on with my SO [30sF]. Any one have experience with them?


Looking to see if somebody has had experience with this. Girlfriend loves the idea of it. Any feedback back would be great!

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/penis-rings/sp-c-ringz-ultimate-couples-cage-100985.aspx

[Sex toy] c ring couples cage


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Paranoid about adameve.com sending me junk mail.


So im a guy recently got in to anal play for myself and i bought a new toy, this one
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/prostate-toys/sp-rude-boy-prostate-vibrator-12962.aspx[1]
So my problem is its a little big for me so i got a little sore the first time i used it so i was wondering what i could do to get looser?

Need help with prostate stimulation/anal play [Question]


My boyfriend's birthday is coming up, and I wanna get him something kinky. He has expressed interest in anal play(for him) before, but I have absolute no experience. I want to surprise him. I looked at a glass dildo/plug that seems to be good for butt play (http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/sp-crystal-pleaser-83921.aspx) but after browsing I'm considering getting an anal vibrator. What would be a good first butt you? Where is a good place to buy? Should I get the glass one I've looked at? I really have no idea what I'm doing.

Edit: the you in the title should be toy

[Advice] What sex you should I get for his birthday?


So a little background to start things off...

A while ago, my GF mentioned about using vibrators. She thought it would be fun and would be able to get her to achieve an orgasm. For the past 3 years that we've been together, she's never been able to come and that really bothers her. Around winter time last year, I walked in the door and said, "so, I randomly decided to go to a store and got you [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/traditional-vibrators/sp-function-classic-chic-vibrator-35844.aspx)." I presented the whole thing so badly and so goofy because that's just how I am. She thought it was cute and she liked it. However, she wasn't able to use it so much because it was fairly loud and she wasn't able to clean it easily because we were living in a college dorm with communal bathrooms. Also she wasn't able to cum.

Right now, She is studying abroad and wont be back until early August. She left early July and I'm going crazy without her and am thinking of the romantic nights that we'll have together when she gets back. I went on a little erotic online shopping spree and got [this](http://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Organics-Relaxing-Massage-Lemongrass/dp/B00A0UPMJE) and [this](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0078KISCC?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=od_aui_detailpages00)Her birthday is also later that month and so I'm thinking I'd put those 2 items in the drawer where she keeps her first toy. I'd also attach a sticky note to the package saying, "looks like you found your early birthday present. Can't wait to use these with you ;)" Is the little note a bad idea, or is the whole idea of surprising your SO with toys a bad idea? I've read that when women are buying toys for the first time, they should go into the store with their SO so they can decide what they want for themselves by actually feeling the material and whatnot.
Please comment saying yay or nay to the whole idea and perhaps tips if you've used any of these products. Any type of input would be appreciated!

Edit:Also, if you have any preferences to toys and massage oils, feel free to share!

[Question] Women of Reddit, Is it hot if your SO buys and surprises you with late night bedroom items, (vibrators and massage oils?)


Hi, I've never had a dildo before, but lately (past 5 months) I've been craving this new fetish ive somehow aquired.  I so badly want to suck and deepthroat a cock.  I doubt i'll ever have the courage to try it for real, but today I got thinking about dildos to practice on.
Here's a couple i'm interested in, id like your thoughts please.
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/realistic-dildos/sp-adams-inch-dildo-91665.aspx
and http://www.honeygifts.com/product/hg6068.html
I live in canada.  Hoping to keep this as discreet as possible.  Thanks!

[Advice]Choosing a dildo, first time.


I am looking for a dildo with a cockring & plug to stabilize it for double penetration while giving me prostate stimulation. Are there any options?

*edit. Something like a mix of [this] (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EUWXOTI/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_ff74ub1HP458K) & [this] (http://m.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/penis-rings/sp-the-double-dip-penis-ring-98657.aspx)

Are there any dildo/cockring/anal plug combinations to use for double penetration?


I have the smaller one of this, http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/anal-sex-training-kits/sp-crystal-jellies-anal-trainer-kit-91532.aspx
would it be safe to leave in overnight?

Leaving a dildo in overnight question


Hey,
So I bought a magic wand knockoff (from adameve.com)

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/wand-massagers/sp-adam-eve-magic-massager-4506.aspx

I decided to buy this one instead of the original magic wand because I was concerned I would just waste money if she didn't like it or if it was too much stimulation. She loves it it's her favorite toy. Now, I am wondering if there is a noticeable difference between the adameve knockoff and the magic wand original that would make it worth to buy. I am thinking of buying the original one, but if there is no difference between the two, then I don't think it would be worth it to switch for the same amount of stimulation. I was wondering if anyone here had experiences with both and what were the differences, if any?

Difference between Magic Wand original and knockoff (adam and eve)


My boyfriend recently got this: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/double-dildos/sp-super-jelly-realistic-double-dildo-1748.aspx  and I was wondering if it's safe to use, thanks!

So are "jelly" toys all bad?


I decided to buy a [penis sleeve](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/penis-enhancers-c-1009.aspx) because my girlfriend and I are into femdom and she wants to have sex without me being able to feel anything. In any event, I went to try the damn thing on a little bit ago, and I guess perhaps I'm too large for it- it's stretched out quite a bit and I have a difficult time pushing my entire member into the cavity. I try "jacking off" with it to see what it's like, and it pretty clearly creates a suction effect since there's no air flow.

But then, I went to take it off and now I've got several tiny dark blue/purple discolorations on my cockhead. I'm assuming this is just due to the suction drawing blood into the top of my penis, kind of like a dick-hickey. They're not really painful or anything, thankfully. But, still worrisome and not very picturesque.

How do I keep this from happening if I wear it in the future? These things aren't that uncommon, so I'm assuming a lot of users deal with side effects like this in some capacity. My idea is to poke a few holes in the top/sides to let air in and out; protection, etc aren't a problem since we use the pill and are fluid-bonded.

(M21) Penile Bruising- ouch. How can I fix it/is this dangerous?


A while back the wife and I got a lubricant from Adam & Eve with the following ingredients:

> Water Glycerin, Peg-8, Carbomer, Hydroxyethylcellulose, Potassium, Acesulfame, Sodium Hydroxide, Disodium Edta, Sodium Benzoate, Potassium Sorbate, Diazolidinyl Urea

It's one of the few, and possibly the only, lubricant with which she is comfortable.  However, in our last purchase from them we were sent a lubricant with the following:

> Purified water  (Aqua), Glycerin, Sodium Carboxymethyl, Cellulose, Methyl Paraben, Propyl Paraben

She finds this one very unpleasant.

When I placed the order I thought they had just changed the packaging.  When I e-mailed customer service I was informed "Unfortunately, I do not have a way to search items by ingredients.  However, most people are able to use water based lubricants.  Here is a link to look at those items http://www.adameve.com/search.aspx?from=homepage&st=water%20based%20lubes"

Do any of you know where I can find essentially an exact replacement of the prior?

Help us find the right lube


I'm in an LDR and looking for a nice masturbator to use. I ordered this from Adam and Eve but after reading around supposedly there are toxic chemicals that can cause some serious issues that I cannot afford to chance.

The item i'm looking at is the Sasha Grey Pocket Stroker made by DocJohnson. The DJ website advertises this as made of TPE and UR3 and its Phthalate-Free and has antibacterial Sil-A-Gel in it.

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/celebrity-molds/sp-sasha-grey-pocket-stroker-76777.aspx

Regardless, do you think this would be a safe toy to use? I need to keep my swimmers safe because i'm trying to start a family within the next 5-10 years.

If not, can you recommend a good product that I won't need to use a condom with? because from what I understand I would probably need to use one with this Sasha Grey toy and I'm not wasting time wearing condoms on something like this.

Thanks!

Is this a decent and safe sex toy for a man?


I've posted this elsewhere with no luck. My wife and I are looking for a vibrating strapon, something like this

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/strap-on-sex-toys/sp-vibrating-dual-harness-14240.aspx

Ideally, we'd prefer something silicon and something we can get before Christmas.

Looking for vibrating strapon recommendations


I recently made a purchase with Adam & Eve and there was a free toy included in my order. It's a plastic G-spot vibrator; [here's the store page](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/g-spot-vibrators/sp-ae-g-gasm-delight-g-spot-vibe-9825.aspx). The page doesn't specify that it's phthalate-free, just that it's a "durable plastic". I called customer support and they were only able to tell me what's written on the webpage. This is my first time ordering sex toys and I've heard some horror stories about plastic dildos, so I want to make sure it's safe before I insert it into my body.

If it does end up being safe, what type of lube should I use with it? I ordered [this](http://www.adameve.com/sex-lubes/water-based-lubes/sp-adam-eve-lube-90245.aspx) water-based lube, which I believe should work with anything, but I want to be sure.

Is this plastic sex toy safe?


Throwaway because some of my friends know my other account..

My girlfriend (17F) and I (18M) are trying new things and hopefully giving her more pleasure, instead of just me orgasming. When she's close to orgasming (or what we think is orgasming), she usually spasms so much that I can never fully finish her. And when she does it herself (she just started touching herself), she says that she feels like she might be orgasming but she's not sure. She says she's too sensitive to touch by herself any further after what she experiences (feels kind of cold). Is she orgasming?

Also, I'm looking to buy some ties for her so that I can finish her without her body taking over. Unfortunately, she doesn't have bed posts so I'm just thinking about ordering something like [this] (http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/kinky-bondage/sp-aes-scarlet-bound-to-surrender-cuffs-90295.aspx) to cuff her. I'm not sure how it'd work though. If she's on her back and I'm fingering her, should we have her hands tied behind her and just have her lay on them? The entire point is to hopefully restrain her a bit.

Sorry if I seem uneducated, I'm trying to figure out the best way to please my woman!

Ties?


Hey, /r/sex! I'm a female, 18, looking to buy my first sex toy. I'm pretty excited to use one for the first time, but I'm not too sure where to start in terms of online stores/manufacturers. I have a low budget right now, so I'm looking for something in the range of 25 to 30 bucks but no more than 30. (I know it's low)

I'm not sure what online store would be the best to shop at. I've heard of places such as Tootimid, Edenfantasys, Adameve and Shevibe. (I previously considered amazon but I've cut that option out because of the risk of counterfeits/unsafe materials)

Having PoV sex as of now is pretty difficult/unsafe for me, so I've been considering getting a dildo/dong to use. I don't really consider myself a 'beginner' per say in terms of inserting things into my hoo-haa, and the likes, so I think I'd fare well with a dildo.

If you guys and gals could give me any advice and good websites to purchase from, I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks! :)

EDIT: Discretion is a MUST for me. I'm living with multiple people right now, and the last thing I want is to see a package labelled "Doc Johnson 9'' Willy".

Best website for cheap (but safe!) sex toys?


[The vibrator.](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/prostate-toys/sp-adam-eve-larque-prostate-massager-92781.aspx)

There's a coupon code to get any one thing 50% off, so it'd be $50, but does anyone know if its junk or not? It's highly rated on their site, but its their product so who knows if that's fluffed or not.

I've never done any butt stuff before, so I'm open to suggestions for similarly priced (or cheaper!) prostate toys since I really don't know any.

Has anyone tried the adam and eve L'Arque prostate vibrator? Or does anyone have any suggestions for prostate toys?


I recently got a rabbit vibrator from adam and eve. http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-wild-g-spot-vibrator-11417.aspx Should I have any concerns? All of the names for the materials in sex toys confuse me. Please help!

Safe sex toys?


Hey everyone!

I've found these board games for couples built around cards, each with a different bondage or role play situation that couples read and act out... The games have differing rules, but really they seem to boil down to reading the cards and following the instructions... I'm just wondering if there are any complications of these online? I don't really want to buy the games (dice, cards, and other stuff) just to get some scenarios to act out...

My question is if anyone knows a site that has a bunch of these "cards" or scenarios I can just look at and select from?

Thanks!

P.S. These are the kinda games I'm talking about...

http://www.amazon.com/101-Nights-Great-Sex-Anticipation/dp/0962962872/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1400558832&sr=8-1&keywords=sex+101

http://www.adameve.com/sexy-extras/adult-games/sp-cosmos-naughty-nights-92915.aspx

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/kinky-bondage/sp-bondage-seductions-game-87943.aspx

Bondage/Role Play situations?


AdamEve.com coupon code


Reddit promotion for adameve.com?!


My wife likes the Eroscillator. It's great, but it's not perfect. The handle is pretty big. It's usable during missionary and cowgirl, but it does kind of get in the way and it's annoying to have to hold in place the entire time.

She likes a strong vibrator and usually starts low but likes to orgasm when it's at the highest intensity.

Ideally we would like a toy that hits the right spot, vibrates strongly, stays in place and out of the way.

We were looking at the We-Vibe, but some people say the intensity is not strong enough, which means it probably won't be strong enough for us. Also we're not crazy about the g spot stimulating part of it...some people complain about that plus a penis in their vagina is too much, and we think that might be the case with us too.

Before the eroscillator, we experimented with various smaller toys, like rings with little bullets in them, but the bullets were always too weak and I really do not enjoy the sensation of a ring of any tightness around my penis.

...

p.s. I also have a question about prostate stimulation. I'm curious about it but my longest finger is only long enough to lightly stimulate my prostate in some positions. Would something like [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/prostate-toys/sp-classix-prostate-stimulator-36204.aspx) or [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/prostate-toys/sp-male-p-spot-massager-92809.aspx) be good to try out?

Toy question, looking for a clit stimulator that's a.) really strong and b.) doesn't get in the way during sex


This was the one I (F) used for my first ever [glass dildo](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/sp-red-hearts-glass-dildo-12686.aspx) experience:

I was worried it would be too rigid and cold, but it felt absolutely fantastic! It was silky smooth and wasn't overwhelming (like vibrators can be sometimes), and it warmed up with my body heat which was lovely. It was really nice to hold and use for all kinds of stimulation, (especially while my bf sucked and licked my clit). As an added bonus the clean up was super quick and simple.

If you have never considered a glass dildo before they are now my favorite toy and deserve consideration!

If anyone else has other glass toy recommendations please feel free to share! Also is there anything particular I should know about glass toys?

Glass dildos are phenomenal!


Looking for one to use on myself as well as my gf. I'm trying to find one with a flared base because I know that's the safest way to play, but I can't seem to find a good one! The best I've found is this:

http://m.adameve.com/controller?sid=F9193E7E68A6B3BC5C6FFFA0C5626B00&R=252X

but it seems so small and even though it has that ring on the end, it worries me.

Do you guys have one you like?

Anal vibrator recommendation?


So my girlfriend and I have been looking into getting a set of Ben Wa balls for her to use on a night out on the town. We're looking for a good quality set but aren't sure what we're looking for. My question for Sexxit is has anyone used Ben Wa balls before? What's a good set that really work well? We've been looking at [this set](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/ben-wa-balls/sp-ae-duo-kegel-balls-91720.aspx) for starting out but were wanting Sexxit's advice.

Ben Wa balls. What do?


So I bought these two items from Adam and Eve: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/realistic-dildos/sp-mr-softee-dong-7613.aspx

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-crystal-jellies-anal-delight-15322.aspx

And am just hearing about how this stuff is probably toxic... -_-  Should I just go ahead and throw these out or buy condoms to wear over them?  Can anyone direct me to an online site that sells *SAFE* toys similar to these?

Toxic toys?


So I just got this toy from Adam and Eve: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-crystal-jellies-anal-delight-15322.aspx

I didn't have any lube on hand, so I put on some vaseline, used it for probably 3 minutes maximum and then immediately washed it with warm soapy water and dried it.  I understand that certain plastic/jelly toys should not be used with oil-based lube because it will start to break down the product.  If it's not in use for prolonged periods of time, though, is using vaseline alright?

Thanks!

Anal toys and lube?


Wife and I recently purchased a Hitachi Magic Wand and have been impressed by the results. We'd like to expand our repertoire with this versatile toy, especially as it pertains to, well, ME!

We ordered a silicone stroker attachment like this one: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/masturbation-sleeves/sp-hammerhead-stroker-attachment-91858.aspx

Do any of you guys have any other recommendations for us to try?

Hitachi Magic Wand Attachments For Men?


My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years now. She used to have a vibrator similar to [this,](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/bullet-eggs/sp-adam-eve-vibrating-silver-bullet-76563.aspx) but it doesn't work anymore. I was looking at getting her a new one for Valentine's day, but don't know what I should get. Does anyone have any recommendations, or should I just buy her the same one she had before?

[HELP] Looking to get my girlfriend a vibrator, but have no idea what to get.


The clit sensitivity enhancing gels that they sell, such as [this one](http://www.adameve.com/sex-lubes/supplements/womens-supplements/sp-adam-eve-make-me-cum-clit-sensitizer-90747.aspx)

Do any of them work, or are they all a waste of money? If so, which ones work best, in your experience?

Anybody experimented with clit sensitivity gels?


[This](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/anal-vibrators/sp-waterproof-prostate-massager-9080.aspx) is what I bought. It's for my "friend"-- we have begun delving into that realm (lol) and I wanted to get this as something I maybe could try on him.

My biggest concern is how large it might be, because I've only used a finger up til this point.

Also how would you take it if your fwb gave this as a gift? I've fingered him before but I guess this is kind of jumping to the next level and I didn't consult him first.

Anyone ever tried this p-massager?


My girlfriend and I are new to anal play.  I have been looking for a plug with vibrating capabilities, preferably operated by a remote control (so that I can humiliate her in public).  [This toy seems to fit the ticket.] (http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-remote-control-silicone-butt-plug-92813.aspx)  However, I have a few questions before I pull the trigger.

1. Is this toy safe?  By that, I mean is it viable to sanitize, and is the base large enough to make sure it will not get caught?  Any hazards?
2. Measurements are listed but they are nearly meaningless to me.  Is this plug small enough to use on a beginner in the near future?  If not, how long would it take to work up to this toy?
3. How long is generally safe to keep a plug in?
4. Any general warnings before we begin anal play?

Thank you!

note: crossposted with /r/BDSMcommunity

Thoughts on this remote controlled vibrating butt plug?


What's everyone's favorite place to buy sex toys? I've been using adameve.com for awhile because of the savings and free things you can get but I am having issues with their customer service so I want to switch. Anyone have some good suggestions and why?

Edit: I live in the US

Edit: Also has anyone tried out the 'hot g vibe'?

Favorite Place to Get Toys?


I am a loving husband and I am in need of some good advice.  My wife enjoys clit stimulating vibrators. She doesn't like Penetrating vibrators.  The more powerful the better.  So What is the strongest vibrator for clit stimulation we can get?  I've heard about the mystic wand but I don't know if that would work for her.  Her clit likes to stay pretty well hidden.  So I am looking for things more like [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/traditional-vibrators/sp-adam-eve-velvet-kiss-vibrator-90751.aspx).  Thanks in advance

Question to the ladies about clit vibrators


We've sort of narrowed it down to the Adam and Eve Butterfly Kiss, and the Eve's Slim Pink Pleaser vibrator found [here](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators-c-1011.aspx). She's a fan of the stimulation of all her parts that the Butterfly Kiss would give, but she likes to try different positions using them too, so it needs to be versatile, which I think the simplicity of the Pink Pleaser would provide.

I was wondering, would the Butterfly Kiss be difficult to use for a first time vibe user, and would it be as cumbersome as it seems to use in different ways? We like to get creative and the Butterfly just seems like a one trick pony (albeit a good trick) but are my intuitions correct?

**tl;dr** give me your thoughts on vibes with the special antennae and structures vs the simple vibe, with regards to inexperienced users and the opportunities for creativity that each type of vibe provide

**EDIT:** So I was alerted to the fact that the Pink Pleaser is made of that jelly material, so that's a no go. can anyone else help me find something in the $20-$30 range, that's both very safe and effective? Any other tips are very welcomed.

Help on choosing a vibe for my gf


My girlfriend currently uses [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/g-spot-vibrators/sp-g-gasm-delight-g-spot-vibrator-9825.aspx) and likes it a lot, however it's starting to die. Any females able to weigh in on what would be a good replacement? I hear lelo products get recommended a lot around here, but I am open to anything. Something less than $100 preferably.

Looking to upgrade vibrators


m/28. This has been on my mind lately, and hopefully someone here can relate and assuage my fears.

There's a certain way I've settled into masturbating ever since I was a teen: No lubrication, using only the thumb and two fingers to move the skin (I'm circumcised) of my penis up and down so that it just touches the bottom of the glands of the penis head. This 'tingle' is what creates the waves of pleasure, and is far more arousing than any other technique. I've certainly tried plenty, but other things, including using the whole hand to form a 'hole', using lubrication, etc., don't work nearly as well. In fact, I find lubricated stimulation to be equal parts overwhelming/numbing, and it's fairly difficult to achieve orgasm that way, because it tends to fizz out the arousal instead of building it.

I'm a technical virgin. I've twice received oral sex, and both times were disappointing. The feel of it just didn't do a lot for me. The first time I was concentrating so hard on it that I had no erection or orgasm difficulties, but the second time I was unable to gain or maintain an erection except for a brief moment.

Out of curiosity, I once bought a male masturbation sleeve ([this one](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/sp-the-tube-stroker-8788.aspx) if you're interested), and found that orgasm was difficult with it as well, and not as pleasurable (once again, overstimulation and numbness, and orgasm kind of like just an overwhelming spasm instead of a pleasurable moment).

At this point, I think you might know where I'm going: I'm concerned that both oral sex, and the feeling of a vagina may not stimulate me in the way I seem to need. I almost feel like I'm more excited about other things (seeing a girl naked for the first time, performing oral on her, etc.) than I am about the actual act of sex, which I'm wondering if I've built up in my head to an impossible standard.

My worst fear is that I'm not going to be able to enjoy sex in the way most men seem to, and/or that the real thing will never live up to my imagination. Am I worrying to much? Do any men have similar experiences?

tl;dr - I masturbate in a way that doesn't simulate a vagina, and I'm worried that sex will not be as enjoyable.

Concerned about masturbation vs. actual sex


I have one theses

http://m.adameve.com/controller?browseCategoryId=Butt+Plugs&sid=7F93899274407E64834B1DE1BD31A92F&R=R457

Was wondering what's the next step to move up. Will take any advice.

Thanks!

Looking for anal started kit


I know I have made several posts recently about cock rings but I am just not really comfortable just randomly buying one. Some people have suggested getting an adjustable leather one and some have said to get silicon. Is there anything wrong with one like this http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/cock-rings/sp-ringos-cock-ring-13674.aspx ? I am really struggling here haha. I cant seem to find a decent, well priced, adjustable leather one from a site I have heard of before.

Edit: what about a cock ring lasso?

Where to get a cock ring, what to look for? help?


I've wondered this for awhile, and have not been able to come up with an answer that makes any sense.

For example, if I happened to be a women, my options would include something like [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-golden-jack-rabbit-vibrator-14020.aspx) or [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/sp-ae-blue-swirl-glass-way-g-12047.aspx) but as a man it seems that I'm stuck with [options](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/sp-double-d-masturbator-81109.aspx) [like](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/realistic-mold/sp-spread-eagle-sally-88792.aspx) [*this*,](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/celebrity-molds/sp-sasha-grey-deep-throat-pocket-pal-83706.aspx)      that would make my bedroom look like I'm a serial killer.

What exactly is this all about, and are there any better options?

Why are men's sex toys so creepy?


My partner expressed to me that something he wants to try to achieve is a touch free, or a prostate stimulation only, orgasm.

So, logically, I think that one of the best ways to achieve this is with a vibrator or vibrating strap-on.

The problem that I'm running across is that most of the ones that I have come across are made of jelly. I, personally, just don't want to mess with jelly. I have run across [this toy](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/strap-on-sex-toys/sp-twist-n-shout-vibrating-strap-on-86966.aspx), but is made of PVC (can't remember if PVC is alright).

Does sexxit have any other suggestions?

Sites that carry safe and pthalate free toys.


After talking to my SO, I'm trying to encourage her to experiment more with her interests and her body by herself via alone time. She didn't have any "alone time" by herself as a teen, and hasn't ever really masturbated before besides a couple failed, poor attempts.

Anyway, we already use a Wii-Vibe during intercourse to help her achieve clitoral orgasm. I'm now looking for a "rabbit" type vibrator (see the link below) to help her to use by herself. What we've found to be the most effective way for her to become aroused or achieve/get close to orgasm is by having her clit stimulated while something is penetrating her.

Here is a "rabbit" type vibrator I am looking for. Something with this shape and design: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-pure-rabbit-vibrator-12653.aspx

Recommendations on Self-Use "Rabbit" Vibrators


I'd like to wean off of the death grip to something a little more realistic and I'd like to hear what Reddit would recommend?

I have kind of a kink for oral, and had my eye on this little device; http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/celebrity-molds/sp-sasha-grey-deep-throat-pocket-pal-83706.aspx, as it seems to have good reviews, the only thing is it's price which makes me think it might be of poor quality. I've never used anything like this so it's all new to me, first hand accounts would be very helpful!

I'd say anything up to $100 would be OK

Which sex toy would you recommend for a man?


Anyone else use them?
I recently got them and curious to know any other stories about them and/or how fast of an improvement you got.

I recently got them. Like, Yesterday got them. (sadly, I got the wrong weight but I'm still going to go through with it! Instead of two I only use one which is still a bit of a challenge. Hopefully next week I can bump up to two.)

Looking to strengthen them ASAP. I plan on leaving one in an hour each day then slowly increase the time depending how often it slips out.
Just looking for tips/suggestions with them since I keep seeing information on what they are not a whole lot on when you should bump up weight or if you start out with one. What are some exercise you do with them that seem to help you? I'm wondering if there is more to working them out besides just doing my usual stuff with a ben wa ball inside.

I prefer personal experiences/tips. Please inform me! I really want to work these muscles out!

Looking into it I should of started with [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/ben-wa-balls/sp-lelo-luna-pleasure-beads-76558.aspx)

Instead I started out with [these](http://guiltypleasureparties.com/24-karat-gold-ben-wa-balls/) Except I got them for 14.50 which is why I got them.

Ben Wa Balls


I'm looking for a butt plug and I'm trying to decide between the [Red Devil](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-red-devil-butt-plug-4937.aspx) (5" x 1.5") and the [large Mood Naughty Silicone](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-naughty-silicone-butt-plug-83701.aspx) (3" x 1") . I was concerned that the former may be too be big but the latter looks to be on the small side. I've experimented with anal play before but mainly just with my fingers and other small objects. Which of these two plugs would be most suitable? Would it be better to 'grow into' a big one rather than get bored quickly with a more modest size? I'm open to other suggestions as long as they're available on [Adam & Eve](http://www.adameve.com/).

Thanks!

Can anyone recommend a suitable [f]irst time butt plug?


I(m24) and my lady(f25) would like to order some bedroom accessories, but need subtle shipping. I know the order itself is a plain box on arrival, but post-order, is there a forever spam of catalogs or physical mail that they continue to send?

We have very conservative roommates that know our very conservative parents (both sides). It would just be easier to not have the birds&bees talk with people who last had intercourse to create us.

Any input is greatly appreciated!

How discrete is AdamEve? Any input from those who ordered would be great.


I'm 21 year old female virgin in the market for some sex toys both for enjoyment and practice/preparation for sex. I've been masturbating since I was about 13 and I figure it's about time I try to enhance the experience. I'm on a budget so I'm going to take advantage of the 50% off adamandeve.com coupon code advertised on WTF with Marc Maron and Sex Nerd Sandra. I was hoping you guys might be able to offer me some advice about what to buy.

**Vibrator** - First of all I want a dildo or penetrative vibrator because a) Putting stuff inside my vagina feels good and b) because I want to be able to prepare myself for sex, as such I’m looking for something about the size of an average penis. I also imagine it would be handy for blowjob practice. I know Lelo is supposed to be the best brand but unfortunately they seem to be the only items that the 50% off deal is not valid with.

Right now I’m leaning towards [this one](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/traditional-vibrators/sp-lamour-desire-vibrator-78128.aspx) . It has favorable reviews and is advertised as quiet which is a priority for me as I live with my parents. It would only be $30 once the discount is applied. Is it any good?

I was also looking at [this]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/g-spot-vibrators/sp-midnight-rider-vibrator-5131.aspx) and [this](http://www.adameve.com/sp-jumpin-gyrator-power-scoop-91134.aspx) but they might be a little *too* cheap:

I was considering a rabbit but I’ve read in some other threads here that they’re very anatomy dependant and don’t work for everyone. Are they still worth considering?  Here are the ones I was I looking at: [Super Rabbit]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/rabbit-vibrators/sp-function-super-rabbit-vibrator-10123.aspx), [Pure Rabbit]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-pure-rabbit-vibrator-12653.aspx)

**Butt Plug** - I’d also like to try out a butt plug. I’ve experimented with anal play many times before with my fingers and other objects. I think it’s about time I invest in a device actually intended for that purpose.

I like the look of the [Red Devil]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-red-devil-butt-plug-4937.aspx). Should I be concerned about its size? Some of the reviews say it's too large for beginners but most of the smaller ones look too small.

EDIT: The large version of [this](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-naughty-silicone-butt-plug-83701.aspx?) looks good but it's a little more expensive than the others.

[This]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-crystal-jellies-anal-stuffer-6095.aspx) has great reviews and the shape looks appealing but I’ve heard that toys made of this jelly material are poor quality. Is that true?

[‘The Plug’]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-the-plug-88441.aspx) has favorable reviews and a low price but I think it may be too big.

**Ben Wa Balls** - When I finally get around to having sex, I want to be good at it. Should I get Ben Wa Balls to strengthen my muscles or would a good kegel regimen be just as effective? I’ve been meaning to do regular kegels for years but I can never quite commit to them, maybe Ben Wa balls would be better? The good ones are around $20, everything cheaper than that looks kind of crappy. Are they worth the money? [These]( http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/ben-wa-balls/sp-ben-wa-balls-87476.aspx) are the ones I was thinking of getting.

**Lube** - I’ll be getting a free 1oz sample bottle of lube with my order. How long should that last me? Is the [Adam and Eve water based lube any good]( http://www.adameve.com/sex-lubes/water-based-sex-lubes/sp-adam-eve-lube-90245.aspx) ? Should I buy an extra 8oz bottle or just try out the sample and buy more later?

I’d really appreciate your opinion on the items I've linked to and/or any alternatives to them.

TLDR: I want to buy a vibrator, a butt plug and maybe some Ben Wa balls and lube. What do you recommend?

Thanks for your time :)

Need help picking out my first toys.


I haven't had anal sex yet, but I've been warming myself up to it with a [plug](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-crystal-jellies-medium-anal-plug-36424.aspx). I've noticed that every time I've tried using it, I get a rhoid. Ick. I've been using lots of water based lube, and I've only managed to get it in once or twice now, but I've probably tried it 10 times. Any advice from you seasoned professionals?

Hemorrhoids from anything anal.


Throwaway for reasons...

I am really interested in prostate orgasms and I am considering getting [this prostate massager](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/prostate-toys/sp-classix-prostate-stimulator-36204.aspx). My concern is that regular sex and masturbation would be pretty much ruined after experiencing such a high level of pleasure from a prostate orgasm. I was wondering if I am going to fully enjoy every other type of sex without the need of prostate stimulation to be able to achieve orgasm.

Thanks!

Effect of prostate orgasm on regular sex/masturbation?


Hey there,

My wife and I want to expand our sex toy collection. Specifically, we want a strap-on that I can use to DP her with. Bonus points for one that she could then use as well. She has a 50" waist, where-as I have a 34" waist, making it a bit tricky.

We found [one](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/strap-on-sex-toys/sp-valkyrie-mens-double-harness-87195.aspx) on Adam and Eve we like, but it doesnt come with a dildo (dong?) and we cant really figure out what it's compatible with. We'd prefer a safe material.

So... any ideas?

Sex toy advice needed, don't know where to look!


20/M, just looking for some toy ideas. So far [I've](http://tantusinc.com/catalog/Dildos/Silk-Medium) [used](http://www.tenga-global.com/products/3d/3d_zen.php#tab) [these](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/clit-vibrators/sp-velvet-kiss-ispot-vibrator-79821.aspx) [four](http://www.adammale.com/gay-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-evolved-booty-bomb-anal-vibe-5463.aspx) and wanted to know what you guys would suggest.

Also, a little off topic, but does waterproof actually mean waterproof? Both of the battery powered toys I've had stopped working after 1 or 2 times in the shower.

Anyway, input?

Toy recommendations?


My girlfriend and I are checking out different sex toys. We want to get either a dildo or a vibrator that targets the g-spot specifically. So far this is what we've decided was a solid-looking option:

http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/g-spot-dildos/sp-lelo-ella-pleasure-object-82212.aspx

I'm also curious about cock rings. I'm looking for one that will grip tightly at the base of my penis. It doesn't need to vibrate. I haven't looked at any that I've really dug yet.

Does anyone have any tips for us? Thanks!

Tips for g-spot stimulator and a cock ring (separately)?


I have two anal toys I am looking at. Fairly new to anal, but enjoy it. :)

[Number 1](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/butt-plugs/sp-little-flirt-13177.aspx)

[Number 2](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/sp-booty-call-booty-teaser-85879.aspx)

Thanks in advance!!

Sex toy advice


I am so damn giddy about this that I wanted to share with you guys, since I never would have heard about it had it not been for me being pervy and bored on the internet awhile back.

I used to use water-based lubricants ordered online from Adam & Eve and the like, however after watching [this video](http://www.redtube.com/15878)^(NSFW, Porn-ish) I decided to try out grape seed oil\*. **I am completely astonished at how much better it is than any other lube I've tried... I will never go back to other lubes.** I love it so much, I could use slip'n'sliding as my new form of transportation.

Anyway... It has virtually no odor or taste, it isn't sticky, and provides great lubrication without actually being "oily". Unlike other lubes, I am not left feeling like there's a gross leftover film down there. Natural oils don't cause vaginal irritation, either. A little goes a long way, and you can buy a big bottle for cheap that will last a long time. I bought a [16oz. bottle](http://i.imgur.com/2gBg1.jpg) from Amazon for $8. An [8oz bottle of Adam & Eve brand water-based lube](http://www.adameve.com/sex-lubes/water-based-sex-lubes/sp-adam-eve-lubricant-1995.aspx) costs more than that (which, don't get me wrong - is a decent lube for it's type).

**Ninja bonus**: You don't have to worry about accidentally leaving the bottle out when a friend randomly stops by! Your toys, on the other hand are a different matter. ;)

^(**Note: oil-based lubricants can break down latex and are not recommended for use with latex condoms.*)

It has *many* other uses as well.

* It is also a great moisturizer.  I use it after I shower and shave, and my skin is always left silky smooth. I don't have problems with irritation from shaving anymore.
* I've been using it for oiling my wooden tunnels and plugs for my stretched ear lobes, as well as lubricating my lobes.
* Shaving lubricant.
* Great for stretch marks/scars.
* Add it to your bath.
* You can even cook with it.
* Massage oil.
* Makeup remover that doesn't clog pores.
* It is full of antioxidants.
* More...

You get the idea...

^(Final Note: I'm not a doctor or a sexpert or anything in between, I'm just a person who likes to smush my tra la la against my SO's baloney pony and want it to be as slick and slippery as humanly possible. Hopefully now your smushing can be more slippery, too.)

Wanted to share my favorite lube - Grape Seed Oil


This happened a few nights ago at a party I hosted, and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. One of my close friends, Sofia, was there. We’ve been friends for years, and while we’ve always been comfortable around each other, it’s never been anything more than that.

The night started off like any other party—music, drinks, and a house full of people laughing and having a good time. At some point, I slipped away from the main crowd to my bedroom. I’d been waiting to try out this new toy I’d ordered online at [adamandeve.com](http://adamandeve.com), the Adam’s Gawk Gawk 2.0 Sucking & Vibrating Sleeve—and curiosity got the best of me. I figured, with everyone busy, I could taw minutes to myself.

I locked the door and started to explore the product, and let’s just say, it didn’t disappoint. I completely lost track of time, unaware that Sofia had noticed I was missing. She must’ve knocked at some point, but I didn’t hear it over the music at the party.

Next thing I know, I hear a faint “Hey, you in there?” followed by the door handle jiggling. My heart jumped—apparently, I hadn’t locked the door properly. Before I could respond, Sofia stepped in, probably thinking something was wrong. Her eyes widened as she took in the scene.

I froze, feeling my face heat up, but Sofia was just as stunned. “Oh, wow—uh, sorry!” he stammered, turning to leave. But instead of panicking, I surprised myself by laughing. “Well, this is awkward,” I said, trying to lighten the moment.

She hesitated, still halfway out the door, and then chuckled nervously. “I didn’t mean to barge in. I just…noticed you were gone for a while.”

Instead of asking her to leave, I said, “It’s fine. You can stay if you want. I was just…testing something out.” I held up the toy, making a joke out of it to ease the tension. To my surprise, Sofia stayed. She leaned against the wall, clearly trying to keep things casual, but there was an undeniable shift in the air.

She watched me finish and we ended up fucking the whole night. It was an amazing experience.

Oh, and for the record? The Adam’s Gawk Gawk 2.0 definitely lived up to the hype. And if you’re curious, don’t forget to use that code—HEYSEXY—for 50% off and free gifts. Trust me, it’s worth it.

I Let My Friend Watch Me Masturbate


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Just got an email from AdamandEve.com addressed to my mom?


I want to make a "christmas list" of toys for my partner to pick from.  So im looking for places that have a selection of unique toys. Something similar to Bad Dragon,  and more than just the basic vibes and strokers from adamandeve.

Any advice is appreciated!  I'm not sure where to even begin looking.

Where can I purchase adult fantasy toys that are both safe and reliable?


I’m trying to buy a new vibrator but my dad has access to my purchases. are there any that don’t have an obnoxious title on the bank statement sheet? i don’t want it to say like adamandeve or anything

Discreet places to buy sex toys online?


My husband(31M) and I(29F) really want to get this but we can't find it or anything really like it in the US.  We've searched on TooTimid, AdamandEve, Lovehoney, etc.

IDK why it took me like 15 minutes to finally remember I could ask you folks :)

Any help or suggestions are appreciated, of course.

Also, I don't like the pillow dildo holders.  I want the freedom and versatility of the LoveArc.  It's amazing and I want it now.

Where Can I Find the LoveArc in the US?


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I want it to be non-porous. My bf is about 6 1/2 - 7 inches long. Preferably a suction cup one? I was looking on Adamandeve but I don't trust them to be safe.

Any help is appreciated!

Need a good dildo to practice deep throat. Recommendations?


Never thought this day would cum! ... ;) So recently my s.o. and I had a small dry spell (3 weeks long). I know that's not extremely long for some people, but as a sex crazed gal that I am, it was for me. So I decided to do some sex toy shopping to spice up our sex life and my alone time. Anyway I browsed o. Adam and Eve, bought a good ole trusty wand and this satisfyer 1 "next generation".

I received the package a few days ago and I was so excited for my first toys! I brought them over to my boyfriend's place and was very intrigued with this rose gold friend (Satisfyer 1). My boyfriend told me to play with it, I was quite timid at first. But once I realized how fucking good it felt, that timid shit went out the window. I told him to come fuck me. It was such an overwhelming feeling of him going so deep inside me and this sucking/vibration, not only did I cum once, but fucking 10 times in a span of 15 minutes.

I guess I forgot to mention that I cried because of how astonishing my first experience was with a sex toy. I can say without a doubt that was the best sex I have ever had. It was so passionate, communicative, and overall I see why he is my person. Hearing him say how hot I was while playing with myself and how much I enjoyed myself, made me realize that I am fucking hot and worthy of such ecstatic enjoyment. I'm going to sleep fantastic tonight.

What I've learned from this experience?
1. Buy a damn sex toy asap.
2. Communicate and just fuckin' do it!
3. Masturbating in front of your partner is such a vulnerable yet wonderful experience.
4. It's good to cry during sex.
5. Know your damn worth peeps!
6. Put yourself first bc you deserve it.
7. You're hot af.
8. Lastly, use code CUT or TRISHA for 50% from adamandeve.

TLDR: Had a mini dry spell with partner. Bought sex toys, cried bc sex toy exceeded my expectations and dick too bomb. Found my self worth and damn am I sexy.

Why is sex so wonderful? (First sex toy experience)


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Adamandeve.com or in store


I just made an Adam and Eve order and found some articles saying that people have been receiving snail mail that is NOT discrete. I used the iChat with Adam and Eve and they said I am not on their mailing list. Does anyone have experience with this? Could I still receive mail that is not discrete?

[adamandeve]


I saw an add on tv with a promo code so i decided to take a look. I decided to buy a pair of crotch less panties, and Adam and eve brand lube.

First question how discreet is the packaging? Is it obvious I'm buying things from a sex webdite?

Second how good are their panties?

Last how good is their brand of lube?

A few questions about Adamandeve.com [Sex websites]


A few questions about Adamandeve.com


I'm trying to find a decent place to order sex toys etc, but the whole surprise will be ruined if a certain party sees "Big Dick Rick's Sex Boutique" showing up on the bank statement. I've heard that AdamandEve is fairly legitimate and makes discreet dileveries, but I can't find out if the charge will be obvious when it goes through. It doesn't have to be perfect, just general enough to ward off suspicion.

[Advice] Is there an online sex shop that won't give itself away on a credit card statement?


So I ordered a few things from adamandeve.com. I got a great deal on a lot of stuff, but I have stumbled across some things about not so discreet junk mail that they send and that they sell your address to other companies. I opted out of their mailing option on the website, will that be good enough? The problem is that the billing address on my debit card is my parents address, as I am renting a house in a different city while I go to college. I do not want them to get mail like that with my name on it because that would be mortifying, wouldn't it? Haha. I don't really care if mail like that gets sent to my shipping address but I'm really worried they send it to my billing address, any thoughts??

Ordering from Adam and Eve? Anybody have any experience with getting spam mail from them??


Does anyone have any good suggestions for online lingerie or sex shops? I usually order my toys and lingerie from adamandeve.com or hustlerhollywood.com and I just want more options that aren't horrendously expensive since I'm in college and there aren't any stores nearby.

Online sex shops/lingerie stores?


So let me just preface this with some information.  I'm 20 and just got married two months ago, and we were both virgins before marriage.  (I'm also extremely shy about this stuff so my anonymity is the only thing letting me do this :P) He's well above average sized and my gyno told me I'm extremely small.

We've been working on different things, but so far I've only been able to orgasm from a bullet vibrator on my clit.  It used to work super well, like as soon as he turned the speed all the way up, I was a goner.  This past week and a half I haven't been able to finish from it.  I'm trying my best not to let it stress me out, and I relax and focus on the feeling in the moment, and then it starts and I get so relieved because I think it's happening, and then instead of that push off the edge amazing feeling that makes me scream obscenities,  I start contracting it in and out over and over again, and the feeling goes away entirely.  It actually get's a little uncomfortable.  I'm getting really frustrated and would like any advice?

I did just order a new better vibrator from adamandeve.com, so we'll see if that makes a difference. Thanks :(

Trouble orgasming :/ Help please?


Tip: Groupon is running "After Dark" deals for Valentine's Day. Deals include vouchers at AdamandEve.com, lingerie discounts, body paint, books, etc...


I'm currently deployed in Afghanistan and me and my girlfriend have been experimenting over Skype with toys for her.  We are very open about masturbation and I want to buy her a dildo or vibrator.

My issue is Adamandeve.com is blocked and I can't Google out here.

What other sex toy/outfit websites are out there?

Help! Online Sex Stores?


Like the title says... What is your experience with purchasing sex toys and accessories from Amazon? I purchased the Lelo Soraya and returned it for fear that it was fake, but then I recently purchased the Lelo Luna kegal balls b/c of the many, many positive reviews on Amazon... Details below.

I purchased a Lelo Soraya a while back. When it arrived, the box that it's packaged in had some greasy fingerprints on them, it freaked me out... I couldn't help but think "lube fingers!" But, I opened the box anyways to find the beautiful Soraya. Then I noticed a little bit of lent or something on her and I also noticed that the charging port was metal looking and not covered by the silicone. I immediately got on Amazon fearful that I wouldn't be able to return it. But... I was. It was weird. So I also contacted Lelo to let them know of my suspicious pleasure object. I had the package out on the front porch waiting to be picked up by the mailman when I noticed a response email from Lelo. They told me that the charging port had changed and it was supposed to look the way I had described mine. I ran outside to grab my sweet Soraya only to see the ups guy driving away with her. I figured Lelo would have mentioned to not purchase from Amazon if that was a mistake on my part, but they didn't.  But right then I vowed to never again purchase something I'd be putting into my body from Amazon.

Welp... Dum dum me... I want the Lelo Luna Beads... the price is the same on Amazon as on Adamandeve.com, but then the price is knocked down on Amazon one day so I buy 'em.

I read *every single review* on Amazon and figure that if they were knock offs, someone, somewhere would have said they felt that way or were suspicious on the Amazon reviews. Well no one did, so I purchased. (I realize that many people review things on Amazon that they haven't actually purchased on Amazon, but I know many people also review the items they've purchased directly from there.)

Anyways, they arrived in the mail. And I've actually worn them a couple of times. But now I'm worried I'm making a horrible mistake and there's no guarantee they are definitely real Lelo beads...

So what's the deal with purchasing sex toys from Amazon? Why does Amazon allow returns on these objects? When I chatted with an Amazon rep she told me for sure that the Lelo objects were genuine Lelo... I'm pretty new to Amazon purchasing so any insight on how it all works and what risks I may or may not be taking by purchasing sex objects there would be great to know!

Thanks you wonderful people! <3 YOU!

**TLDR:** What is your experience with purchasing sex toys on Amazon? Is it safe? Are some brands safe and others not? Why does Amazon allow returns on these objects?

What's the deal with purchasing sex toys on Amazon? Is it safe? Are they most likely fakes?


Hey guys, HUGE discount code from adamandeve.com, courtesy of The Animal House Show!


I'm a 20 year old female virgin. I recently started hooking up with a guy and he mentioned that I'm unusually tight and I became somewhat self conscious about it. I've always known that it was tight, and I was nervous when we last hooked up. But now I'm determined to deal with this insecurity. I want to buy a dildo or vibrator to help stretch myself out. Does anyone have any suggestions about anything? Size, brand, material? Anything you would like to add I would really appreciate.
Edit: I've been browsing websites such as adamandeve and babeland which WARGARBEEES suggested. There are good reviews and bad reviews and just so many friggin kinds! I don't know how to choose, I've never used one before, and I don't want to throw away money on a bad toy.

Users of vibrators! I need your advice!


50% off and free shipping with coupon code CLIP6 on adamandeve.com. Figured I'd share.


I use adamandeve.com and the code "sexy19" which will get you 50% off of almost any item as well as free shipping to anywhere in the US and Canada.  It also comes with 3 porno DVD's and a poster.  You can use different e-mails when you order and order as a guest to continue to get the deal.  If you sign up with them they'll send you a TON of spam though, but you do have the option to get other discounts this way as well.

TL;DR adamandeve.com "sexy19" 50% off, free shipping, 3 free DVD's, free poster.

Reddit, I want more sex toys but don't want to pay full price!  Can we start a list of websites and coupon codes to use?  Or sex shops and where to get coupons?


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The one time I used a silicone Adam and eve butt plug the little purple ones you get for free....


So I have severe bi polar disorder and I've been in a horrible place since I lost my best friend in a car accident a year and a half ago and I haven't been able to get into my sub space for my husband/Master at all....like I'm broken. I got drunk on mothers day and ordered 200 dollars worth of stuff off Adam and Eve so I know it's down in there somewhere I just don't know how to pull it back out if that makes any kind of sense. We've had sex and all during this episode if you will bit neither of us has had the release we need. Any tricks to get me out of my head would be amazing.

Yes I do talk to someone Professional for my mental health

has anyone ever been so stressed out they can't get into sub space


I've tried 5 or 6 different cuffs from 5 or 6 different places. Obviously the ones from Adam and Eve or your local adult store broke first use. Either the leather ripped or the metal rings broke. I need some legit recommendations on where to get sturdy and strong, long lasting cuffs. Im thinking about doing all metal now. But a softer, vegan type of restraint (for putting my sub in a cross or spreader bar) would be nice.

I need legit recommendations for metal or vegan ankle and wrist cuffs


I was looking on Amazon because they normally have the best deals (even though they aren't the highest quality) but couldn't find one. I might go down to Adam and Eve to see what they have, but I was curious, where online would be a good place to purchase from?

Good place to buy a spreader bar from?


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Hey I need help finding this. Butt butt plug. I've looked all over amazon, Adam and Eve, etc and ant find it. It looks like its maybe plastic and a little taller than a coke can.


I went to look for plugs for me and my sub to use, but Adam and Eve was incredibly spendy for what the product is...I looked on Amazon, but they don't have any reviews, and I'm nervous to trust something from the internet, especially with the price different. A&E had them for almost $40 for one plug, but Amazon had 3 plugs for $20. Does anyone have some links or something to places where I can get them at a decent price? Thanks!

Where to get plugs that aren't overpriced?


I've looked on Adam and Eve, but that just seems so low quality. A bunch of other sites look sketchy as hell honestly. Specifically, I'm looking for nice rope, but I'll need to get more than just that eventually, so gimme some links or suggestions for shops carrying all kinds of fun things please!

Where do you all get your sex toys?


I've been wondering this for a while. Whenever I go to Adam and eve, I've noticed that prices seem to be absurdly high. Especially compared to online. A pair of leather handcuffs is $125, while a pair that APPEARS to be identical is $30 online. And lingerie as well seems to be four to five times more expensive there. The upside is, we get to know exactly what we're getting at the cost of a higher price and smaller selection. We were just curious what other people's purchasing habits were and maybe get some feedback on what our best options are for future purchases, because those yandy babydolls sure look nice... But is it worth it? Thanks in advance!

Online vs in store?


So what awesome kinky/sexy things are people picking up on crazy sales this weekend?

Tell us about the awesome stuff you are buying.

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A List of cool sites with deals I know of so far, I will try to keep updating as people add to it:

Kink Toy sites:

* Agreeable Agony:  http://www.agreeableagony.com/deals
* StockRoom: http://male.stockroom.com/black-friday-c753.aspx
* Extreme Restraints: http://www.extremerestraints.com/information/guide/black-friday-special.html
* UberKinky:  http://www.uberkinky.co.uk/?gclid=CjwKEAiA1-CjBRDOhIr_-vPDvQYSJAB48SmEIT55h3v7ziEy4HMqxFMfLdqyxL7mBXDlZNxtYKQh5hoC2MLw_wcB
* http://store.fetishfactory.com/ (20% off deal)

Vibrator + Other toy shops:

* Bad Dragon: http://bad-dragon.com/sales/blackfriday2014
* Babeland:  http://www.babeland.com/  (25% off jimmyjane)
* Shevibe: http://www.shevibe.com/ (10-20% off depending on purchases)
* Goodvibes: http://www.goodvibes.com/  (25% off site-wide)
* Adam and eve & Eden Fantasy<--- I recommend buying from the friendly women-owned vibe shops above, rather than these folks. Use your own judgement

BDSM/Kink Gear Sales for Black Friday/Cyber Monday etc? (x-post to /bdsmcommunity)


I really enjoy classy BDSM porn. Whereby women serve their Masters with dignity and pride

Films like:
- The Surrender of O
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- O the Power of Submission
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- The Perfect Secretary Training
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I'm really looking for someone to suggest other such high quality classy movies I (and other members) would enjoy!

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I have the whip in the link.. It's the only one I've ever had used on me but it just doesn't hurt even close to what I am wanting. I want one that hurts and leaves marks on me.. If anyone knows of any good websites I can buy something more heavy duty or has any recommendations for me, I would really appreciate it.

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Need help finding a flogger or whip that really hurts..


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quarantine fatigue or less desirable because of herpes?

i already posted this on /r/herpes but i did not get enough responses, so i decided to come here.

\*this is also a psa that herpes is not included in 95% of "full" std panels because the cdc advises against testing for it unless someone is showing symptoms or was potentially exposed to someone who is positive. the inaccuracy of standard herpes testing and mental repercussions of being asymptomatic then finding out is more traumatizing than the actual lifelong virus being spread at alarming rates. bullshit.\*

plz refer to the /r/herpes wiki to learn more about the most common oral virus and std in the world.: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Herpes/wiki/index](https://www.reddit.com/r/Herpes/wiki/index)

thank you for reading. i have been in an open relationship with my boyfriend on and off for almost 3 years and mostly exclusively for the last year.

we have always had great chemistry with sex, but since i found out about my hsv2 last october, it has been rocky for us. he tested negative.

i have been quarantining with him since march, and for the first couple of months we were having sex every other day or so. since june, it has become less and less (but at least once a week) and i feel myself getting very frustrated. he has always known the risks of female to male transmission (<2% with antivirals and/or condoms).

we were waiting for my western blot results (gold standard of testing and only available at the university of washington) because i am asymptomatic and i still had hope that i had a false positive result in october. i received the western blot positive results in june and i realised i contracted it when i was sexually assaulted in may 2019. i have a whole other thread of dealing with this and i won't get into it here.

i have been going through all the motions, and i don't think he really knows how to deal with it all. he generally doesn't like talking about emotions/feelings but he is one of the sweetest people i have ever met and i love how tender he can be with me.

he did an 8 day fast starting july 13th but we haven't had sex since the first week of july. i can't remember, honestly.

i know it might have to do with quarantine fatigue and he did the fast so he can reset his quarantine binging/indulging. he wants to be very productive and figure out his next steps (he is well off but wants to start a new business), so i give him space. he's mostly in his office the whole day and we have breakfast and dinner together.

i can't help but feel the lack of sex has a lot to do with the herp. i also ofc understand that no one would ever want to get this virus, and maybe he is distancing himself so i will get tired of him.

i am on daily antivirals and we use condoms cuz he is not comfortable going raw (even tho he didn't catch it when we were going raw last june-october until i found out), so i am feeling sensitive. i have a [womanizer](https://www.adameve.com/search.aspx?st=womanizer) which is honestly a lifesaver, but i miss the intimacy so damn much. he doesn't even make out with me, just cute lip pecks sometimes.

i appreciate the advice of maybe trying to spice things up a little bit, but lingerie is expensive (and i have a flat chest), he's not really into surprises, and he says he has no sex drive right now. i suspect he is texting with another woman, but i know he wouldn't actually date around cuz of covid.

i also realise my sex drive is simply much higher (plus he has made his rounds) and we have known each other for a while now. ofc, it won't be as passionate as the beginning, but i need to figure out how to at least sustain desire and talk to him about our needs.

i mean... he doesn't even always take on my offer for blowjobs. i honestly love doing it, so i feel sad and confused. i thought all men love blowjobs?

i will probably delete this, but i have to get my feelings out. how do you deal with a sexless relationship with or without hsv?

**tl;dr** my boyfriend (hsv negative) isn't having sex with me (ghsv2+) and i don't know how to talk to him about it or sustain desire.

my [32f] boyfriend [38m] stopped having sex with me


 Hi Reddit,

Looking for some advice.

I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 2 years. I love him dearly and he has always treated me very well. The first sex happened before he went to Canada for PhD.  And the relationship has been long distance.

Now his b-day is coming, I am wondering if a cute sex toy will be a good present. ( will that be wired? will it be better to bought him a vr headset or something else?)

I've bought myself a vibrator before, but don't know much about masturbator.

Considering these two : First one come from a online website called [Secrexy](https://www.secrexy.com/masturbators/p_1264933.html?utm_source=seo&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=ja+rt&utm_content=hyc),  saw it from an ads. The price is really surprising, but little concerned about the quality. Another one is from [adameve](https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/male-masturbators/fleshlight/sp-fleshlight-go-surge-100644.aspx), looks a bit, well..wild?

Which one will be better?

I am[F25] planing to buy my boyfriend[M28] a masturbator as his b-day present.


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What if Mars has water on it because we used to live there and we messed up the climate so badly that we had to send an escape pod to earth with only Adam and Eve in it and the pod was the asteroid that wiped out dinosaurs?


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Posted this on r/askmen. Just a joke but, what if Mars has water on it because we used to live there and we messed up the climate so badly that we had to send an escape pod to earth with only Adam and Eve in it and the pod was the asteroid that wiped out dinosaurs?


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Do females naturally think males are inferior? Take Adam and Eve for example.


http://www.eberhardtsmith.com/stop-saying-i-have-a-boyfriend

**Article Summary:**

>*Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another male-bodied person more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.

"This amazingly puts into one sentence what I have been attempting to explain to ex-boyfriends and friends (male and female) for years, mostly unsuccessfully. The idea that a woman should only be left alone if she is “taken” or “spoken for” (terms that make my brain twitch) completely removes the level of respect that should be expected toward that woman. It completely removes the agency of the woman, her ability to speak for herself and make her own decisions regarding when and where the conversation begins or ends. It is basically a real-life example of feminist theory at work–women (along with women’s choices, desires, etc.) being considered supplemental to or secondary to men, be it the man with whom she is interacting or the man to whom she “belongs” (see the theory of Simone de Beauvoir, the story of Adam and Eve, etc.)."

Ladies, What do you think of this article? "Stop Saying 'I have a boyfriend'"