So that one came at the wrong time...my week to not test toys if you catch my drift. We have used it once now, and I love the texture, the feel of this one in place. It is hard to test these types of toys because they require us to take them out in different situations where we can test the sound, the remote, etc.

I do like it though, so I'm excited to try it again!


Nooo try the Lelo sona cruise. You get what you pay for


Clit suckers are the my favourites! I've got a round up of [the best ones I've tried here](https://sextoyreviews.uk/best-clitoral-stimulators-clit-suckers/).

The Lemon toys are 'fine', but no where near the best you can get imo and although they work, their popularity is largely based on marketing and gimmicks rather than effectiveness.

Meanwhile the [Womanizer Next (review here)](https://sextoyreviews.uk/womanizer-next-review/) is on another planet. It's very smooth, has a whole range of  intensities and you can change the 'depth' of the suction so it isn't too strong or aggressive.


I think Lem is so popular because they have a huge FB advertisement thing going. I often see a lot of older women in the comments and often this is thier first toy. That’s great and all, but that’s all it is.


I've tried various roses and fruity clit suckers and they do work in terms of they make you orgasm but once you've tried something like the LELO Enigma there's no comparison.

As for the Nancy Lem campaigns saying it makes your face less puffy etc, that's all complete nonsense and those claims make them way less trustworthy in my eyes.


Yep. They def target older women which is kind of sad. It’s so expensive too. I have one because it was gifted to me. It’s okay. Just okay. I’ll reach for my rose over it often even and that’s just a rose.


To be fair if it makes them happy and having orgasms for the first time in their lives, the won't consider it money wasted, but every time I get an ad I think it's a bit predatory for my liking. I'll stick with my Womanizer!


>
the Nancy Lem campaigns saying it makes your face less puffy

**WHAT**


Yupppp. I'll screenshot the ad next time I get it on my page which is *a lot*. Sirs I own like 20 clit suckers I can guarantee this one will not do anything to my face.


Hold on. What do you mean not one that you'd casually throw in your handbag. Is this something people do!?


You get those ads too huh


I was just reading the review you posted, haha


I was probably taking a dig at the Lem and their incessant 'take it anywhere' ads! 🤣


Take it to work, sporting events, church...


Well you never know when you're going to get bored, to be fair


Maybe I'm a pride, but public masturbation or getting arrested were never really my thing haha


You mean I shouldn't be wanking in the supermarket? You people and your rules.... 😉


Sorry, which aisle is this happening in?


Probably with the snacks. The freezer section gets a bit nippy


Damn. Your snax must be better than our snax


It's hilarious that these toys are marketed as "discreet". How is a bright-yellow fake lemon discreet? Do these people normally display artificial fruit in their bedrooms? Wouldn't the design make it irresistible for young kids to play with?


Ha! I have some which I think are genuinely "discreet" - but this ain't one of them


My wife’s first suction toy is the Womanizer Next and she loves it. It is part of her trifecta—Bodywand, Womanizer Next and NJoy Wand.


Surprised she leaves the house 🤣😉

Good selection though!


Hi! You seem really knowledgeable! Are the suction toys actually suction-cupping onto our anatomy, or just pulsating air against it? When I read about the Womanizer Next, it makes it sound like it blows air in pulses. If it’s actual suction, I am having Deputy Dewey vacuum cleaner anxiety about having my clit stuck in a toy!


They're all slightly different but in general they work a bit like a speaker, pushing air toward and away from the clit. I have [a post here](https://sextoyreviews.uk/clitoral-stimulators-clit-suckers/) which explains in a bit more detail!


Thank you so much!!


Hi! You seem to have a lot of experience, so I was wondering if you could recommend the best value-for-money clitoral stimulator that’s easy to use as a couple, for example in the missionary position. (Maybe nancy just uno?!) Thanks in advance for your reply! :)


Clit suckers are not for everyone. I hear this from a lot of people. Maybe you could invest in a basic bullet vibrator next which could be a good way to explore the world of self pleasure. Then you could upgrade to other products, like rabbits and G spot vibrators.

Good luck :)


Honestly I do not like air pulse toys much. Toys are not one-size-fits-all and while other air pulse / suction toy may work better or feel better, if you do not like sensation it is not guaranteed. Sometimes it can help if you keep using it for a bit so that you get used to sensation, but looks like you already tried that. So honestly I would just try switch to different type of toy if I was you (like normal vibrations). I do not have lem or womanizer, but I have had 3-4 air pulse/suction toys over years as I keep wanting to try if one of them works better aaand yeah nope.


Thank you! What kind if vibrator do you use?


My current favorites are blush limited addiction bullet, we-vibe tango x and lovense domi, but I like vibes that are powerful. But same as with air pulse this stuff is not one size fits all so not sure if you enjoy any of ones I listed either. However limited addiction at least is decently cheap and it is powerful, but it is bit more buzzy than other two I mentioned


I suggest trying satisfyer pro 2. Some girls just don't like clit sucker vibes and some girls take a few tires before they really like it. They can have a learning curve for some girls.


This!!!!! It is amazing and very affordable. My original plan was to try the Satisfyer before spending more on the Womanizer but I ended up loving the Satisfyer so much I didn't feel the need to upgrade. It is ridiculous how fast it gets me to finish. I have recommended it to many friends.


I'm so happy for you


The Satisfyer Pro 2 was waaaaay better for me. I still feel that no matter what clit toy I have, it needs to be paired with something more internal, like a g-spot wand, to make things genuinely mind blowing, otherwise it kind of feels like a half-orgasm?

You could definitely try using another toy alongside and see if that makes a difference, maybe?


Thank you so much!


It's very normal that a toy works for others but not work for you. Try some other kinds of toys, then you'll find out what's best for you, but it needs time and trials.


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Lovehoney are very discreet and everything I've ever purchased from them has always come in plain packaging. If you ever email etc there's a subscription option so they never just send you anything unless you want them to. Hope this helps ☺🌺


Neither Adam Eve or Love Honey has had their brand names on them. [EdenFantasys](https://www.edenfantasys.com/?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP) is also discreet. I think the only retailer that send us something with their name on the box was Doc Johnson.


[SheVibe](https://shevibe.com/) is better than either Adam & Eve or Love Honey because they sell only toys in body safe materials. They’re very professional and ship quickly. Very discreet. 10 out of 10.


Thank you for the kind words! 😄


SheVibe has been my favorite so far!


Yay - thank you for supporting our small business! 🔥


Lovehoney has had incredible customer service and support. I have returned tons of things for store vouchers and issues have been refunded (offered to replace or refund).

Peepshowtoys is a true all safe, but they don't allow refunds or things like that, only warranty. Still great.

SheVibe is okay. They have Creature Cocks which is the only one I know of that is unsafe on their site. Creature Cocks is known to be bad but claim to be not. They also have unsafe butt plug designs. Peepshowtoys is just a better version of them imo if you want to be super safe without research. Lovehoney also has the same issues as shevibe while also carrying TPE and PVC material toys which are very unsafe.

My personal choice is Lovehoney most of the time due to their refund policy and my willingness to research. I do buy from Peepshowtoys sometimes. SheVibe I bought one time. Adam and Eve I placed my first order recently.


We've bought a lot of toys from [Peepshowtoys.com](http://Peepshowtoys.com), they have a lot of different brands and styles that are all body safe.


It’s a great option! I love mine. And it’s not hard to operate at all! The app is pretty simple and straightforward.
And to answer your question, yes you can go down on her while using it.


Perfect, thanks :D


Sorry don’t know how to ask this properly, can it be worn under clothes, is it discrete, my partner has a desire for remote controlling in public.


Yes! Under clothes. Very discreet. Pretty quiet but you’d definitely hear it in a quiet place. Like a restaurant would be fine. It’s definitely perfect for being controlled in public


It goes inside and the lil tail is great for some clitoral stimulation


Would you say main pleasure comes from inside or the clitoral stimulation?


Both tbh


I personally do not recommend it. There is posts in this subreddit regularly from people questioning what is wrong with them / what they do wrong because lush does not work for them. Most women cannot orgasm from penetration and lush does not offer clit stimulation. Some don't get pretty much any pleasure from lush. So while it can be fun, it is pretty expensive toy especially when it comes down to how often it doesnt work for people.

I have lush and it is pretty much useless for me


hmm, so what would you reccomend for couple?


Staying on lovense, dolche offers dual stim.
We vibe has sync 2. I have ordered this but it hasn't arrived yet


We-vibe's syncs are an awesome Valentine's gift IMO. You can do some remote play, it has clitoral stim, and most importantly you can use it together.


I just got my bond in and a bit disappointed in the vibrations. The moxie seems good and strong though


+1 for the Dolce. It’s like the Ferri and the Lush rolled into one. Both motors can be controlled independently. By far my favorite rechargeable toy nowadays (though my favorite vibrator is still the corded Magic Wand Plus 👀).


This is what’s puts me off for so long to buy it in case it doesn’t do anything for her.


So my wife can't orgasm from it alone but she will use it and the Domi wand or I will insert it while licking her clit.


It can be fun and versatile scenarios but I wouldn’t really recommend it for a beginner/first toy, as the stimulation is pretty much how it ends up sitting inside with mild clit stim from the vibes traveling to the tail (main stimulation and vibration is the internal/g-spot). Unless she specifically prefers or really gets off on g-spot vs. clit, I think a clit focused (like bullet or wand) or versatile toy (like a g-spot vibrator that you could also use on the clit externally) would be better. The We-Vibe Tango X is one of the best bullet vibrators that you can actually get quite cheap right now in the [Fifty Shades of Grey X We-Vibe kit](https://fifty-shades-of-grey-x-we-vibe.specialtoyreviews.com) (if you and her don’t mind the branding. Don’t use the plug from the set the base isn’t great but far cheaper than an individual Tango X right now. If you don’t care for the branding can get an individual Tango X instead in different colors but is a bit pricey for very first toy)

If really wanting the Lovense route, one of their dual stim like the [Lovense Flexer](https://lh-lovense-flexer.specialtoyreviews.com) may be more suitable


This is actually kinda wholesome tbh. Lush 4 is popular for a reason and yeah it’s pretty versatile. Public teasing, private use, partner control, all that. As long as she’s into it and you communicate, you’re good. Question though, have you talked about boundaries at all or is it meant to be a total surprise?


I haven’t talked to her about it yet, I will definitely tell her and ask if she’s okay with it, etc. But I’m ordering it without telling her beforehand because she’s quite open to new experiences. I also don’t see anything about this toy that really crosses any major boundaries.


Lush 4 is a solid toy, but I wouldn’t call it the easiest “first ever” option unless your partner already knows they’re comfortable with insertable toys. Wearables can be a little finicky because fit matters a lot, and if it doesn’t sit right you can lose a lot of the sensation. If you both like the idea of teasing in public and you want something you can control, it’s a fun pick, just don’t build the whole night around it working perfectly on the first try.

If you do go with it, I’d strongly recommend doing a quick test run at home before Valentine’s Day. Charge it, connect the app, try a few settings, and figure out what feels good. That way you’re not troubleshooting Bluetooth in a hotel while trying to be romantic. Also bring lube, because comfort is everything for a first experience.

As for the “going down on her while it’s in” question, it can work, but it depends on her anatomy and how the toy sits. Some people love the extra stimulation, and other people find it distracting or too much. The best move is to ask her what she wants in the moment and be ready to take it out if it’s not working.

If you want a simpler beginner friendly first toy, a small external vibe or a compact vibrator is usually easier and still feels very special. Then you can upgrade to the wearable once you both know what kinds of stimulation she likes. But if she’s already into insertables and you test it first, Lush 4 can be a great couples toy.


Lush 4 is a solid toy with lots of features, but for a first toy it might be a bit advanced. The wearable design is great for public play, but fit and comfort can vary. If you go with it, definitely test it privately first so you're not troubleshooting in the moment. It can work fine during oral, but depends on how it sits inside her. For something simpler, a small external vibe might be easier to start with. If she’s open to trying new things and you're both curious, just keep communication open and go slow.


Lush 4 can be a fun option if your partner is already comfortable with internal toys, but for a first time, the shape and app setup might feel like a lot. It's great for teasing in public, but definitely test it at home first to avoid tech hiccups during the date. Oral while it's in can work, but depends on how it fits her. If you're open to alternatives with a premium feel, [RealTouchLab](https://x.com/RealTouchLab) makes ultra-realistic, high-end toys that focus more on sensation and craftsmanship than app control. Either way, focus on comfort, communication, and taking your time.


As an adult retail worker (hi!), I wouldn't recommend it. It's a toy I hear neverending complaints about cuz it doesn't generate orgasms for people the way porn leads them to believe, to the point where people will scream in my face & call me names over it.

"Tease" would be right, but also is concentrated internal vibration something she's even into? A lot of people aren't--personally, internal vibration exists on a scale from "that is a thing that's happening" to "this is actively pissing me off", so I don't buy toys like that for myself anymore. Finding out/trying to parse that for the first time in the middle of a high-stakes emotional event (like Valentine's Day, in a public setting no less, on THEE BUSIEST night for restaurants of the year where they actually put out extra tables to cram in more people so everybody's all up on each other's business) is a bad idea--there's too much pressure, and pressure is the #1 bonerkill. She might be open to new things, but is she open to new things in an extremely crowded room, on a day where there's this cultural pressure for the experience to be "perfect", on y'alls first Valentine's Day (so EXTRA pressure to perform)??

It's that time of the year, so this is already a conversation I've had to have on the floor twice & I know it's just starting. (We were joking yesterday about keeping a tally in the back this year, cuz in the next 40 days this is gonna be the vast majority of our consults. Tis the season!) I can't stop you, but also this is my 6th Vday in the industry so I've seen 5 years of post-Valentine tears & attempted returns because "she didn't like it"/"it didn't work for her"/"she said absolutely not"/"she's not comfortable involving toys"/"we got in a huge fight about it"/etc. and I'm telling you: this should be a conversation you have together & a choice you involve her in, not a blind surprise in the middle of a crowded room.

Good luck, and I do hope you have a good Valentine's!!! But definitely talk about it with your gf first ;P


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Too much mixed opinions :D now i dont know nothing at all but i will buy lush 4 and test it anyway with her.  i think this is the best way.


Short answer: **yes, it can be good for a first toy**, but only if you go in with the right expectations and add clitoral stimulation.

Lush 4 works best as a **“background” or bonus toy**, not the main event for most people. A lot of beginners assume penetration-focused toys will automatically lead to orgasm, but for many women that isn’t the case. Where Lush shines is hands-free vibration during oral, grinding, or teasing, not penetration alone.

Your scenario is totally fine. Her wearing the Lush while you go down on her is actually one of the most common ways couples use it successfully. Start on the lowest setting, use plenty of lube, and don’t rush insertion. Let her guide how deep or shallow it feels good. The external arm should rest against the clit, that’s where most of the pleasure comes from.

If you want something that’s more beginner-proof, many couples pair Lush with a simple external vibe or wand. That combo removes pressure and makes the experience more fun instead of goal-focused.

For Valentine’s Day, the biggest win isn’t the gadget itself, it’s how relaxed and playful you make it. Treat it as something you explore together, not something you need to “use correctly” right away. If she’s open to new things and you communicate, you’re already doing it right.


I bought my lass the 3, because it was cheaper and there's really not a great deal of difference between 3 and 4.

We tend to use several sex toys, so I cant speak from a "first timer" perspective. However, my lass loves it and its become her new favourite.

She orgasms from both internal and external stimulation. The great thing about the Lush is that it can be used for both. It's so easy to "pop out" and place on the clit, and slide it back in again after. We often switch between the two and she'll orgasm again and again.

We even do penetratation while the Lush is still inside her. We both get the benefit with that.

My lass had even begun squirting. Never been able to do it before in the 12 years we've been together. Three sessions with the Lush and she squirts quite regularly now.

It's a great toy for both of us to enjoy.


Haha, I actually ordered model 4 an hour ago. We’ll see how it goes. I decided I won’t be influenced by other people’s opinions and we’ll just test it together. It’s meant to be our experience — everyone definitely experiences these things differently.

The second thing is that apparently model 4 has a cool feature where it vibrates to the rhythm of the music. Interesting concept.

Anyway, thanks for the comment. It reassured me that it’ll probably be a good purchase.


How long have you been married for?


I moved in while dating in 2022 and we married October of 2024. Other then the sex issues were both very happy. (We had a very strange start but it worked for us somehow)


How many times have you had sex?


Check out Tenga Spinners or anything without the outer shell. I don't think you'll find an automatic one though. Everyone I've tried is too small.


I doubt anyone would give you shit here regardless of your reasons.

I'm significantly girthier than him and have had good luck with Bad Dragon's Emilie as well as Fleshlights. They both stretch, so you shouldn't place too much on the measurements.

Anyway, good luck.


The incels don't generally go to a sub made to share information about sextoys. You're fine

If you want information about stretching the regulars of the big sextoy subs are also really helpful.


I hope you mean 5 + circumference. Nobody would expect you to be able to take 5 inch diameter without serious training or generational talent.


Honestly I think that's very considerate of you. I don't think anyone here should think less of you. Good luck stretching yourself, and feel free to ask if you need recommendations for stretching toys.

5 inches in girth/circumference is realistic. That's the measurement of length along the outside of the circle. 5 inches in width/diameter maximum across the circle would be insane, like bigger than a fist. His 5 inches in girth divided by 3 is around 1.6 inches in diameter.

Masturbators are very stretchy and made to accommodate a wide range of dick thickness. The more important thing to look for is length and material. TPE is cheap but gets gross/breaks very quickly. You won't really want to use it more than a few times unless you go through the hassle of maintaining it with powders and whatnot. Silicone is easy to clean but more expensive and less stretchy (but still soft and a little stretchy).

Most masturbators will also be long enough to accommodate the entire shaft length. Some will have holes on both ends (like a tunnel) while others will only have one opening. The latter is more flexible if you're worried about him being too long, although it could mean a bigger mess if he finishes on the outside.

A lot of masturbators are also marketed with textures. Personally I couldn't really tell the difference, although I'm smaller and it's been a long time since I used one. If he's sensitive or if you want a really nice toy, consider looking for some that show you diagrams of a cross-section of the inside of the masturbator.

Hope this helps!


At a 5" \*circumference\* he'll fit any standard mass market stroker or masturbator.

If he's 5" in diameter, i.e. 15.7" around, he should start an OF career and give Girthmasterr a run for his money.


So I've had sex before and never had any problems with the dick fitting (I also have many dildos but those are mainly for collecting). And you are correct I am based in NA.


If he’s around 5” girth, yeah a lot of standard sleeves can feel way too tight. You might want to look at toys with stretchier sleeves or adjustable pressure instead of the super tight “grip” styles.

One option is [Black Fury](https://www.utimi.com/products/black-fury-2-in-1-male-masturbator-–-powerful-sucking-vibrating,-waterproof-quiet?DIST=170326). It has suction + vibration modes, and the sleeve is pretty flexible so it handles bigger sizes better than some rigid ones. Also waterproof, which makes cleanup easy.Another product is the [Orbit](https://www.utimi.com/products/utimi-isexse-automatic-thrusting-masturbator-–-hands-free-stroker-with-strap,-dual-sleeves-adjustable-phone-holder?DIST=170326), which boasts 9 speeds, a deep fit (easily accommodating 6.5-inch lengths), and Two wide sleeves (open & closed) — great for thick guys

Also just wanna say it’s cool you’re trying to find something that works for him instead of forcing yourself through pain. That’s honestly good partner energy 👍


5" just fine almost every toy.
6" is hard to find find toys.


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The go to place for me.  most of their toys can last year's with proper cleaning and care. and as a proper gentlemen and a freak I looked into how safe they are for my partners and they seem to usually have top grade materials and never had any reactions that were unwanted lol. honestly can say a solid 8/10 place


Ohhh thats a relief haha after I heard abt spencers I was a but worried good to know tho


You can find safe toys there, but they sell lot of unsafe things too. But it is big store which sells lot of quality toys in mix of bad ones so there is no yes or no answer to your question


Well thats good to know should I focus on what its made out of if I shop there?


[https://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/wiki/index/](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/wiki/index/) wiki here has material information, but generally silicone, glass and stainless steel are most common safe materials, but it depends on toy purpose too like for male masturbators TPE is still common and generally fine material as biggest issue with TPE is porousity (so it is safe at start, but it cannot be disinfected fully at home so it will harbor bacteria and other fun things, so for dildos it sucks as it can start causing UTIs and yeast infections very easily).


Oof thats very informative thank you


Adam and Eve is actually a pretty legit place that I’ve had the pleasure of dealing with for years. They sell good stuff.

Sign up for their email to get some hefty discount codes too pretty regularly.


I am signed up for their discounts i enjoy shopping there i jus recently made a post about spencers and was told they r no good so I wanted to make sure Adam and eve was okay


Ahhhh I gotcha. Yeah Adam & Eve is definitely better than Spencer’s. They deal solely in sex related items vs Spencer’s being a novelty shop that usually has a small section of sex toys that are cheaply made yet still overpriced.

Going to the Adam and Eve locations in NC is awesome. Not at all unlike visiting a candy store for adults. Places are huge. lol


Well good to know but goddamn ive never been inside an actually Adam and eve store ive only ever bought online but now I wanna


Oh I 100% suggest checking one out if you have one local. They are not run down like some sex toy shops you see. Staff are always nice and give recommendations.

Makes it fun to find new things to try. 🙌🏻


Some of the products are great some of the products are not.

Look carefully at what the material is that the toy is made of.

One of their most outstanding products are their corded wands. They are inexpensive on sale and as powerful as the famous Hatachi Original.


Swear to god those Wands have to be built with old Honda Civic motors too. Loud, but you literally cannot kill them unless you just cut the cord.

Wife still has her’s from like 10 years ago up until I bought her one of the new model Hitachi’s…I’ve replaced the padding twice on the A&E one. Still works without any issues though. 😂


I remember seeing their store in North Carolina.


I will never buy anything from them again. I have bought toys and then gone back and found the description changed in regards to materials.


Ohh thats scary


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A friend told me once they are for when you want a penis but don’t want the man attached. Honestly they are a load of fun and can be great when used with a partner. Just make sure you start small, romance yourself (for easier insertion), and use lube. ALWAYS MAKE SURE TO HAVE LUBE HANDY. My first one was 6” and a smaller girth. It’s still an absolute favorite all these years later.


thank u haha that’s what i want it for penis but no man attached thank u for the advice too !


Realistic sometimes only means that they look like a real penis, if you want a realer feel, look for dual density silicone and stay away from pcv/tpr/jelly stuff.


thank u !


No sex toys I have ever tried feel anything like human skin. They all feel like silicone/plastic, very obviously different from the real thing. Not to mention they aren't warm.

Toys can be fun and feel good. But they don't feel "real" at all.


That’s it the warmth like it’s not the same.


Don't use it cold.  Before inserting the dildo put it and the tube or bottle of lube in water that is at 115°F, NO  HOTTER, for about 5 minutes, then use it.  I think that you will find it a different sensation.

BTW, Never microwave a dildo to warm it, you can't control the temperature!


I’m dying at someone microwaving a dildo but i know ppl would not me tho. Thank you so much for advice but if i masturbate it’s my hand 🤚 and I’m not banging anyone so that seems like a lot of work for something i can achieve without it. But who knows when I’ll get laid again so I’m sure I’ll break it out one day. Thank you!


Hot pocket a dildo seems like a bold move.


Sous vide dildo. The 137 gang might give you some grief though.


Great suggestion!

Pro-tip for heating dildo.   Use an electric hot pad, like the ones used for aching muscles.

This does help with making it more real feeling.


Penis is nice and warm, dildos are not lol


Are there none that warm up? Seems like a missed opportunity but also an dangerous game


They aren't as warm as real penises, but if feel the simillar way, they are a usually bit harder I think, I didn't try but they say dual density are much closer to real feel


Good point a real penis has diff states of hard and those things are a 12/10 all the time takes away from it


No will feel like a real penis. Skin texture is very different never mind the warmth from a real penis.


Check out SheVibe. They've got a 15% off sale going currently, and you can sort by insertable length.

My wife has a Neo Elite and a VixSkin, both of which are dual-density and will feel more like the real thing. Between those two, based on the specific ones my wife has, the VixSkin is more realistic. Pay attention to the advice to warm it up in warm water first, and you definitely will need some water-based lube (I recommend Sliquid Sassy).

In addition to length you probably want something on the thinner side, so look for something around 1" wide, or at least no bigger than 1.5".

I would recommend maybe a Spur VixSkin, which I believe is the smallest one they make. Good luck, and have fun.

[Spur Vixskin Realistic Silicone Dildo By Vixen - Caramel (shevibe.com)](https://shevibe.com/spur-vixskin-realistic-silicone-dildo-by-vixen-caramel/)

[Sliquid Naturals Sassy Water Based Personal Lubricant 8.5 fl oz (shevibe.com)](https://shevibe.com/sliquid-naturals-sassy-water-based-personal-lubricant-8-5-fl-oz/)


thank u smmmm


Thank you for shouting out SheVibe! 😊


Nope, it’s like real boobs vs fake boobs, some fake boobs come really close to the “feel” of the real thing, same applies to the dildos.


No, some are softer material then others but no not the same.


The Ultra realistic ones like cyberskin can be really close


They are all fun and games but a real penis is attached to someone who you (hopefully) love. That makes it feel so much better.


I have not found a single dildo i like. I HAVE to have the real thing.

The warmth...the texture...how hard/soft...yea

For reference...im 28 and been active for a very very long time 😅


Honestly no. Silicone has much more drag than human skin. The density is impossible to replicate. Real dick is also warm, silicone is not.


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I found what I truly can't replicate, and what's missing from the experience, is the movement your partner makes. From twitching, to angles I can't come close to replicating myself.

It's what I imagine a male starfish to be


I have the Adam and Eve strapless strap on and it’s the closest thing I’ve found, but that’s because it hits the same places. I highly recommend starting with something skinny. You can control depth depending on how you hold it.


Not really the same feeling. They just look like that and thats mostly all. I preffer non-realistic things as they come in funny colors and does not look so explicit. Feeling inside is just the same as with realistic dildos and vibrators. The main difference for me it the warmth and friction. Warmth can be solved by submergint toy into hot water before using, but it is not quite the same. Similar with texture. Smooth (matt, velur like) silicone is better than shiny polished thing.


If you know what you want to buy, you can usually go directly to the manufacturer.

Personally in terms of third party sellers I recommend Lovehoney - they have a good variety, they do a lot of sales and offers (and I have a 20% off code which works on everything) and their customer service is very good, at least in the UK in my experience. They've never quibbled over returns/refunds.


If you're in the US or Canada there is [The Sex Shed.](https://thesexshed.com/?ref=GRACE)


Vibaphoria is normally where I purchase. I rather go in person but there’s no stores around me besides a 2 hour drive and sometimes it’s awkward 🫣


If you’re still looking, this might help: [https://www.tootimid.com/products/?sca\_ref=11155468.VElKgXv4vY](https://www.tootimid.com/products/?sca_ref=11155468.VElKgXv4vY)


Adam and Eve is a good site to visit


Us! We're about to launch Shopify managed markets in the next few weeks so we'd expect shipping costs to the USA and worldwide to drop dramatically.


Links to a brand's independent website, or to third-party platforms such as Amazon. It depends on which kind of Adult Toys you need? Beginner dildo?anal dildo? Anal Stretcher? Electric sextoys or sex doll,etc.


So unfortunately, 90% of the time while having sex, I dont really get wet due to past traumas, so I need to use lube most of the time to have sex. Unfortunately, the 2 lubes that I have tried have let me down and it still feels painful during the beginning of sex. I have purchased both Babeland Lube (mix of silicone and water) and Swiss Navy lube (silicone, which felt like straight oil, no thickness to it). Anyone have other recommendations? Thank you for the help

Best lube for friction/no moisture issues?


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Hello everyone, so I am in need of some assistance.
I've had major sensitivity issues for a few years when it comes to sex. The friction is very intense 95% of the time I get intimate with my partner. Ive used Babeland lube thats a mix of water and silicone, but this doesnt seem to work much. I know you can't use silicone lube on toys so im trying to stay away from that since I have a few. Any recommendations on the best brand of lube that I can use?

Which lube brand is the best for silicone/water based?


I live with my parents, and was curious if anybody could give more details to this and their discrete shipping policy.

Does Babeland require signatures for sex toys?


I have been considering trying some anal toys.

However I got a bit of a pickle, as I swear 98% of these things are bigger then any dick I have seen. Like legit, I'm supposed to put what up my ass? XD

Some Examples: [https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/c/78/anal-toys/prostate-stimulation](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/c/78/anal-toys/prostate-stimulation)

What do ya'll recommend? lol

Best Anal Toys for beginners?


Im looking to get an Original Hitachi Magic Wand and since its one of the most copied sex toys in the world, I chose a trusted retailer directly from their website. Two of these sites came up. They both have cool sleek design, good prices and interesting products. I tried looking people recommending them but I found nothing. People only talk about WeVibe or Lovehoney.

Anyone used these stores before? What you think?

Opinions about The Pleasure Chest and Babeland sex toy stores?


What the hell am I doing wrong??? I stuck it all the way up there and started on the lowest setting but couldn't feel a thing, then blasted it, and still felt NOTHING. I am so confused. I love my boyfriend of 6 yrs but have never wanted to be dependent on someone for pleasure, so I wanted to try myself (masturbation has never ever felt good for me, but I thought a vibrator would help). Someone please help me, I feel so hopeless and sad.

I do like really rough, hard & fast in-and-out sex to get me feeling my best. Can a vibrator just not replicate this?

I got the pirouette from babeland for reference if the model really matters.

PLEASE HELP ME.

(24f) Just used a vibrator for the first time and... Felt absolutely nothing


The title is the tl;dr.

I've been using Babeland's "Babelube" and I don't really like it; it's thin and it dries out kind of quickly. If there is such a thing, I want a lube that feels like my natural vag plasma, that is, thicker and more viscous, and well... more slimey. I literally can't think of a more accurate way to put it, hah.

If this information is significant to the answer, I'm just using this on plastic dilators (shoutout to #vaginismus!) and no real penises or toys. If you can think of something that won't destroy my silicone vibrator that's a plus, but not necessary.

[lube] most similar to natural vaginal lubrication?


Recently, my partner and I have been discussing about sex toys and we were hoping you guys could help us pick one! As for the main uses, we're looking for something that can stimulate her clit as well as slowly introduce her to anal penetration. In terms of dimensions and size anything from 4.5 inches to 5.5 inches length and a 1 Inch diameter would be perfect. In terms of price anywhere from 20 to 40$ would be ideal but I'm ok with investing more if it had longer durability! Thanks for your suggestions!

On the side note I was thinking about getting something like this but it seems that it's not very durable. But we like that it has a vibrating function and it could be used to slowly introduce her to anal sex

http://www.babeland.com/mobile/product/detail/2528

[Toys] First time buying a vibrator/toy that can be used as an introduction to anal as well as clit stimulation


I want to be pegged by my wife for the first time but when I checked out babeland the other day the cheapest harness was $80 and there was a kit they said wasn't very good for $115.
What's the most reasonable priced harness/set in order to try this out? Anything under $75?

[pegging] why are harnesses so expensive?


I was browsing Tumblr and I found this: http://dadsjogging.tumblr.com/post/72987422119/the-sex-ed-guide-your-parents-didnt-give-you

There were 26 items in the original post. Some people were pointing out a lack of articles for males, so I have added some. I've also added a few other things to expand the content that was already there. Some content may be NSFW.

**[edit] I added new content and rearranged them to be more appropriate**

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**GENDER AND SEX**

[Understanding gender](https://www.genderspectrum.org/quick-links/understanding-gender/)

[Intersex](http://www.isna.org/faq/what_is_intersex)

**MASTURBATION AND GENITALS**

[All about masturbation](http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/sex-101/masturbation-23901.htm)

[The clitoris](http://www.the-clitoris.com/)

[The hymen debunked](http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201103/the-hymen-membrane-widely-misunderstood)

[Female ejaculation](http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sexandrelationships/female_ejaculation.htm)

[How To Masturbate for Men](http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/masturbatemen.htm) - *my addition*

**SEX TOYS**

[Choosing a sex toy](http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/features/toy-finder)

[Cleaning your vibrators](http://www.blisstree.com/2012/08/06/sex-relationships/sex/how-to-clean-your-vibrator/)

[5 sex toys every man should own, use and use again](http://www.laweekly.com/columns/5-sex-toys-every-man-should-own-use-and-use-again-2529482) - *my addition*

**BEFORE HAVING SEX - GETTING READY FOR SEX**

[Is There a Right Time for Sex?](http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualhealthqanda/fl/Is-There-a-ldquoRight-Timerdquo-for-Sex.htm) - *my addition*

[How to avoid pressures](http://www.girlshealth.gov/factsheets/sex_pressure.pdf) - FEMALE SPECIFIC

[Pressure to have sex](http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=240&np=296&id=2001) - GENDER NEUTRAL - *my addition*

[12 Types of Birth Control](http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20354669,00.html) - *my addition*

[Where to get free BC](http://bedsider.org/free_birth_control)

[Where Can I Find Free Condoms](http://sexuality.about.com/od/contraception/a/Where-Can-I-Find-Free-Condoms.htm) - *my addition*

[How to put a condom on](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4KWk8-cYZRQ)

[Finding the right size of condom](http://www.condom-sizes.org/) - *my addition*

[Sexual Performance Anxiety – How To Relax And Enjoy Sex Again](http://www.risingmaster.com/how-to-recognise-and-stop-sexual-performance-anxiety/) - *my addition*

**CONSENT AND COMMUNICATION**

[Sexual consent](http://www.pamf.org/teen/abc/sex/consent.html)

[Setting sexual boundaries](http://www.xojane.com/sex/how-set-sex-boundaries-someone-who-knows)

[Communication during sex](http://www.livescience.com/22934-talking-about-sex-satisfaction.html)

**ORAL SEX**

[How To Perform Fellatio](http://sexuality.about.com/od/oralsex/ht/fellatio.htm) - *my addition*

[Can You Alter the Taste of Semen?](http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualhealthqanda/a/taste_of_semen.htm) - *my addition*

[All about dental dams (for cunnilingus)](http://edinburghsexpression.tumblr.com/post/33296305103/we-had-a-dental-dam-laid-out-on-our-freshers-week)

[How To Perform Cunnilingus](http://sexuality.about.com/od/oralsex/ht/cunnilingus.htm) - *my addition*

[Advanced Cunnilingus Techniques](http://sexuality.about.com/od/oralsex/tp/cunnilingus_techniques.htm) - *my addition*

[Can You Alter the Taste of Your Vagina?](http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualhealthqanda/f/vaginaltaste.htm) - *my addition*

**HAVING SEX (FIRST TIME AND AFTER)**

[Tips for your first time](http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/first-time-sex)

[Your First Time: A Sexual Guide for Boys](http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/06/your-first-timeboys/) - *my addition*

[Losing Your Virginity (for males)](http://au.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_100/117_love_tip.html) - *my addition*

[Lube during sex](http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/lube-during-sex)

[Disabled sexual resources](http://incurable-hippie.blogspot.ca/2011/11/disability-and-sex-resources.html)

[Sex with disabilities - Laci Green](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Pq4Gs-QnCs) - *my addition*

[Disability Sexuality: Information on Sex & Disabled Sexual Issues](http://www.disabled-world.com/disability/sexuality/) - *my addition*

**OTHER KINDS OF SEX**

[Safe guide to anal sex](http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_500/548_anal-sex-prep-guide.html)

[Fisting 101](http://vimeo.com/80219380)

[BDSM vs abuse](http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2011/08/03/thinking-more-clearly-about-bdsm-versus-abuse/)

**SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS**

[What is HIV?](http://www.worldaidsday.org/about-hiv.php)

[STD Testing](http://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/stds-hiv-safer-sex/std-testing) USA - *my addition*

[Getting an STI test](http://www.getthefacts.health.wa.gov.au/2/51/1/getting_an_sti_test.pm) Australia - *my addition*

[More STI info](http://www.sti.health.gov.au/internet/sti/publishing.nsf) Australia - *my addition*

**AFTER SEX**

[Signs you may be pregnant](http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/signs/symptoms/signs-you-may-be-pregnant/)

[What to do if your nudes were leaked](http://www.womenshealthmag.com/life/revenge-porn)

**MISCELLANEOUS**

[Feminist porn](http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/09/feminist-porn/)

[Sex education games](http://www.happyplaytime.com/)

[Information] "The sex ed guide your parents didn’t give you" - Tumblr find


I just bought "The Rebel" Pocket Toyfriend from Babeland. My first toy, and I've used it twice. The first time I used the head to circle my clit, but I got desensitized and ended up finishing with my fingers anyway. The second time, I pressed the body of the vibe against my slit, with the head at my entrance, and rubbed the vibe firmly with the focus on my clit. I feel like that's not the "classic" way to vibesterbate (the first attempt was how I thought it was "supposed" to go), but it's pretty neat and I like it.

Your turn!

Let's share vibrator masturbation techniques!


I (F22) got my first vibrator yesterday, [the Babeland Silver Bullet](http://www.babeland.com/babeland-silver-bullet/d/2480), and I'm wondering how best to clean it without having to order special wipes from the Babeland website. The first time I cleaned it after I first used it, I wiped it with wet toilet paper, but I'm wondering if there's any other household items I can use to clean it without damaging it or something.

What is the best way to clean a metal bullet vibe (without ordering special wipes from a sex toy website)?


So, to keep it brief: both my guy and I are into anal play. I peg him pretty regularly, which he super loves. Since we went down the butt play road, I told him I really love anal. He wants to do this for/with/to me, but the problem is that, while he gets off on seeing me really excited, his equipment isn't quite as on board. Basically, he can't stay hard long enough to really even get it in, let alone give me the reaming I so desperately want. So it hasn't really happened. It occurred to me today that we have all the equipment for him to peg me, as it were, but I was wondering about the logistics. Will his real cock get in the way or be uncomfortable? For reference, we have the harness from Babeland's bend over beginner kit, though we've removed the panel in the front so I can use the double ended Feeldoe to fuck him. Anyone have any experience in this department?

Guy using a strap on. Advice?


I've done some light reading on this but haven't dug too deep. I've only ever used a butt plug when masturbating. I get turned on by the idea and then it feels pretty good doing it but I have some long standing questions:

- Can a guy cum just from anal stimulation? I suppose I'd need a different kind of toy?

- Are there side effects/dangers to not using these properly? It's not always so easy to get in but its even harder to get out after I've cum..  So much so that it makes me not want to do it again. I suppose I've become too tense afterward.

- Aside from staying 'clean' are there other actions you guys take to be extra clean?

- Currently I use this - http://www.babeland.com/bootie/d/2814_c_13
I wonder if it's too big if it's difficult to get out afterwards?

- Though I'm currently single, I've never been able to bring it up with a girlfriend that I like anal stimulation. I'm assuming one can easily and enjoy having sex while plugged up. Has anyone had a negative reaction to bringing this up?

Butt plug talk [m]


My usual source for all things naughty is Babeland. I don't have the opportunity to get up to the store often and really need some advice on butt plugs (both products and how to's), with special attention to daily wear. I am a novice to say the least when it comes to anal in general...

Hope I am posting in the right place. TIA!

Need some advice on quality butt plugs and how to's.


I am looking at getting [it](http://www.babeland.com/minna-ola/d/1287_c_3000), and the reviews all look really good on average. It is also super expensive, and I don't have a whole lot of money, so I definitely want to make sure it would actually be worth the $165.

Also in case this is helpful information at all for whether I would be compatible with it, I orgasm pretty easily from clit stimulation (especially vibrator), but I have never really experienced any G-spot or vaginal pleasure before. I was thinking maybe this device could help me achieve G-spot stimulation more easily (or at all would be nice really)? So anyway, I was just wondering if anyone here has actually tried this toy before, and any reviews you have for it would be awesome!

Anyone here used the Minna Ola before?


I'm about to invest in my first harness with my SO and wanted to get both some specific answers to questions and a broad scoop of information regarding pegging. So, feel free to answer my questions or just talk about pegging in general.

* What kind of harness(es) have you used? I'm thinking of using the [Rodeoh Trunks](http://www.babeland.com/rodeoh-trunks/d/3728_c_10) since they look so damn comfortable, but I'm worried they won't be able to hold onto the cock as well as a leather strap could.

* What dildo(s) have you used with your harness? What kinds of materials did you like best? I'm really stuck with what to choose. A glass dildo seems really nice, but I'm worried that with something so firm will be easy for a wrong poke to be really painful. Most of the floppy dildos don't seem like they'd be any fun at all.

* The [Feeldoe](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feeldoe) looks like an awesome alternative to a harness, but reviews say it is really heavy and pretty much requires a hand or strap to keep it in place. Since I'm interested in being pretty aggressive, it also seemed like one wrong slip and either party could get a really uncomfortable poke. Have any of you used one? How did it go for you?

* Women, did you have any difficulty getting off on a single-sided harness? In most of the reviews I've read the harness puts the base of a single-sided dildo right over the pubic bone to thrust, and it's positioned right over the clitoris. Was it too much pressure for you? Did you wear it differently?

Thanks for reading!

Let's talk about pegging for a bit.


[Here is the product] (http://www.babeland.com/Babeland-Body-Massage-Bar---single/d/3017)

We **LOVE** them... They were just the right combination for a full body massage. Anyone have any clue on where we could pick some more up? We see Babeland offers shipping, however we're a bit worried about the temperature during transit for it coming back. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

My boyfriend and I bought some of these melting massage bars while in NYC on holiday... Any idea on a similar product we could buy online or with a UK re-seller?


Hello sexxit, throwaway here. I'm a female if that helps. My bf recently introduced me to the world of anal play a few months back. We've only been using fingers. I want to step it up and order a butt plug, but there are so many options. I know it needs to be silicone but I'm not sure what size would be good for a somewhat beginner.  I was looking at this one http://www.babeland.com/ryder-plug/d/2793_c_11 or this one http://www.babeland.com/big-flirt/d/2777_c_11

I could really use some help. I tried looking though older posts on here but couldn't find the answer I was looking for.

Thanks is advance.

Never bought a sex toy before, could use some help.


Let's talk about sex toys. Whether you are a man or a woman…whether you are inserting them in your ass or your vagina or your mouth (or your partner’s)…or pressing them up against your sexy bits, you need to make sure that the toys you use are not toxic!

**A Little History…**

The sex toy industry is not regulated…by anyone. Sex toys are classified as “novelty use”, and not under scrutiny of any agency for consumer safety. “Novelty use” means that the item basically has no use and therefore is not regulated (no use? wow, could we teach them a thing or two!). We are indeed using these toys, we are inserting these items in places with mucous membranes and delicate tissues galore.

Toxic toys contain PVC plastics with “phthalates” (pronounced tha-lates), which help to soften the toys. Greenpeace has called on the European Union to ban the use of phthalates in adult novelties, as they have already banned them in toys for children. The latest research indicates that exposure to these substances can upset the body’s ability to regulate hormone production, damage reproduction, and can cause liver and kidney defects. They can also possibly cause cancer.

Rather than go into all the science and controversy around phthalates, I offer a few links to some excellent articles. Here is a piece by [Emily Gertz in the Grist](http://grist.org/article/gertz1/) from December of 2005. This article by [Violet Blue in the SFGate.com](http://www.sfgate.com/living/article/Not-all-butt-plugs-should-glow-in-the-dark-As-2492854.php) November of 2007 is quite good. Another by [Tristan Taormino in the Village Voice](http://www.villagevoice.com/2007-01-30/columns/dangerous-dildos-part-1/) January 2007. [Greenpeace article Bad Vibrations](http://www.greenpeace.org.uk/blog/toxics/bad-vibrations-we-expose-an-eu-sex-scandal) September 2006.

The toxic adult toy purveyors point out that no studies have been done that have positively shown these sex toys are toxic. This is true, because it is hard to prove a connection since the damage is cumulative over a long period of time but more importantly no one wants to pay for the study…certainly not the toxic toy makers.

What boggles the mind, however,  is that even though [6 different types of phthlates have been banned in children's toys](https://www.cpsc.gov/PageFiles/140613/phthalnonaccess.pdf) in percentages greater than .1%, sex toys containing far more than that are sold every day to use in your most private orifices! Do you doubt that this is true? Take a gander at the [lab reports](http://badvibes.org/category/the-truth-about-what-is-in-your-sex-toys/) of 4 sex toys that Jennifer Pritchett (owner of Smitten Kitten) took in to be analyzed. The one containing the highest percentage had *53% phthalates!!*

**This should seriously scare the crap out of anyone who uses cheap sex toys from China. How could it not?**

**The Bad Guys**

The old guard of adult toy companies typically buy the cheapest toys they can get, usually from China, thereby maximizing their profit. They really don’t care whether they are safe or not. After all, whadda ya gonna do – return it? Not. This attitude is so sex-negative it appalls me. They assume that there is shame and/or embarrassment connected with sex toys, so of course no one would actually take the trouble to return the “Doc Johnson Huge Double Monster Jelly Dong”, even if it caused burning in orifices that didn’t go away for hours or days.

For the most part, they are right. Even the most sex-positive person would probably just chalk it up as a loss and throw away the offending jelly monster, right? Who wants to return a used sex toy and explain what happened when they used it, especially if it only cost $10? So until now, they have been able to get away with distributing poor quality, toxic toys without any blow-back from the consumer. And to be very very clear here - the manufacturers don't give a damn whether you get sick because of their toys or not. They can't be held responsible, because sex toys are not regulated. They care about one thing - their profits.

**The Good Guys (and Gals)**

Sex in the City deserves a bit of a nod at this point for the infamous episode with the “Rabbit Pearl” vibrator. Here's why. That episode brought sex toys more into the open for the American public. As sex toys became a more common purchase, a more savvy consumer emerged and awareness of toxicity increased. These new consumers demanded high quality, non-toxic toys that were made to last.

Manufacturers started joining the movement…because if there is a market for it, someone will make it! (Kind of like, if they build it, we will insert it? No, not exactly.) This new generation of sex-positive companies are challenging the old attitude of “who gives a crap about the customer”. They have research and development departments, use the best materials and actually test their products on real bodies! They make promises to the customer to sell only non-toxic toys that can be sterilized. They stand behind what they sell and want to provide customers with toys that are well made, safe, long-lasting and do what they say they will do. It is from these companies as well as select sex educators that the information about toxic toys is spreading. Select retailers joined the movement and started promising to sell only body-safe toys to their customers, becoming trusted sources for purchases. (both manufacturers and retailers listed below)

Here’s how I look at it…If I take a toy out of the package, insert it and then experience burning in my vagina/ass/mouth for a few hours, no one needs to do a study that proves toxicity to me; I assume it. *And this happens to people, believe me.* If these chemicals are already banned in children's toys it's a no-brainer to avoid using them in sex toys. I have decided to eradicate toxic sex toys from my life. If you would like to do the same, here is some information to assist you in your quest…

**Clues For Recognizing Phthalate Toys**

* The Smell – toxic toys have a strong chemical smell, which never goes away completely, even with repeated washings.
* See-Through Dildos – Not all see-through dildos are toxic, but most are. If it is see-though and flexible and soft, it’s probably toxic. A few see-though dildos are made with a substance called “elastomers”; those are safer in terms of not containing phthalates but are still porous and unsterilizable so should be used with a condom and ideally not anally. See-through hard plastic is safe, too, but a much less desirable texture for a toy.
* Price - The cheaper the dildo – the more of a guarantee it is toxic. You may be tempted to buy the $10 bright red see-through dildo (they are kind of cool looking)…but you will get what you pay for. Though those brilliantly colored crystal jelly dildos are cheap – they are toxic! In fact the word “jelly” is pretty much synonymous with toxic in the sex toy world.

*Be aware that many toys, especially the jelly toys, are porous and can not be sterilized! That, by itself, should be enough to stop you from buying them…even without the toxicity!*

For those of you looking for the "skin-like" type of materials. I did a lot of research on those and only 2 materials were phthalate-free *and* non-porous (able to be sterilized):

* Tantus O2

* Vixen Creations Vixskin

**Safe Toys! (Toxic Toy Alternatives)**

* 100% Silicone – If you are looking for silicone - silicone is always opaque; never see-through. Best to stick with manufacturers you know and trust, not made in China.
* Glass – gorgeous glass toys are available in an amazing variety of colors and shapes. Phthalate-free and non-porous.
*Stainless Steel – the weight and heat-conducting ability of metal is marvelous and touted by many.
*Hard Plastics – Hard plastic is non-porous and has no phthalates.

As a consumer, know this…Reading labels will not always help you! As awareness has increased about toxic toys, the unscrupulous companies have even taken to labeling their products according to what the customer is asking for – which sometimes has no bearing on what is in the package. Basically, since people are now asking for phthalate-free, toys are sometimes labeled as phthalate-free when they are not. Again – no one regulates this industry so they can get away with it.

**Here's a second-hand true story about a toy retailer who was speaking to a manufacturer in China about a specific toy the retailer was considering buying. It went something like this:**

The retailer asked the manufacturer - "What material is this toy made out of?" The manufacturer replied, "What would you like the label to say?" Thinking there was a misunderstanding, the retailer asked again. "No, I want to know what you make this toy out of, it is silicone?" The manufacturer replied, "It doesn't matter. What do you want the label to say? 100% silicone? Phthalate-free?"

**Another first-hand story from a man who is very sensitive and reactive to toxic toys:**

> Me: *I have a question for you, if you don't mind. You mention that you tried many things to remedy the toxic toy problem - did you try a condom over the toy at any point? And if you did - was it to any degree successful in reducing the reaction? The reason I ask is because many sellers of toxic toys say just use a condom on it but there is actually no evidence that a condom will protect you at this point. So I was wondering if you have any anecdotal evidence one way or the other...?

> Him: *I am so happy you asked that question. I have used condoms on the toys I had problems with, and these are the ones that have a very strong "chemical smell" right out of the package. A condom(standard latex) will stop the bad sensations for maybe 5-7 minutes, then the bad sensations are just as bad as without the condom. I figured it was because the chemical that was causing the problem was leeching through the condom. After listening to one of your podcasts, now I know that condoms are not 100% non-reactive as is silicone. It just slows down the "issue".

So think about this - that means that *even if you don't react to the toy with a condom - there is no guarantee that it is not causing problems in your body.* Perhaps you are not sensitive enough to the toxic chemicals to have a reaction, but that does not mean that no chemicals are getting into your body even with a condom.

All you can do is to stick with the companies that you know and trust. They are out there, believe me! One of the ways I test to see if a company sells toxic toys is to do a search for the word "jelly". You either get jelly toys that come up or you get an article on why they don't sell toxic toys. Of course there are online retailers out there who sell both the good toys and the bad toys. In that case you are trusting the manufacturer.

**This is an alphabetical list of manufacturers who only make non-toxic toys (so if a company makes a perfectly good platinum-grade silicone dildo but they make toxic stuff, too, they are not on the list).**

* Babes n Horny
* Big Teaze Toys
* BS is Nice
* Chavez Dezignz
* Fun Factory
* Happy Valley Silicone
* High Island Health / Aneros
* JimmyJane
* Lelo/PicoBong
* njoy
* NobEssence
* PyreXions
* Tantus
* Vamp Silicone
* Vixen Creations
* WeVibe
* Wet For Her

*This is an alphabetical list of retail stores, online and/or brick and mortar, that sell only non-toxic toys:*

* A Little More Interesting in Calgary, Canada
* Babeland in Seattle and New York
* Babes-n-Horny in London, England
* BS is Nice online only
* Chavez Dezignz online only
* D.Vice in Melbourne, Victoria, Australia
* Good Vibes in San Francisco, California
* Holistic Wisdom online only
* Kama Sutra Closet in Ventura, California
* NobEssence online only
* Other Nature in Berlin, Germany
* Pure Pleasure in Santa Cruz, California
* PyreXions online only
* Rubber Rose in San Diego, California
* SheBop in Portland Oregon
* Smitten Kitten in Minneapolis, Minnesota
* Square Peg Toys in Idyllwild, California
* Tool Shed Toys in Milwaukee, Wisconsin
* Trinity Romance in British Columbia, Canada
* Vamp Silicone online only
* Wet For Her online only

Any more to add to these lists?

Toxic Sex Toys - What to Know Before You Buy


Babeland's "Sex Across Party Lines" Survey Results


Background info:

Male here, interested in buying toys for my girlfriend.

We recently tried anal and my girlfriend really enjoyed it, but she was pretty sore for almost a week afterwards, even with a lot of lube and fingering first. So now we want to get some toys to help stretch her.

My questions:

* What websites do you recommend for sex toys? I have heard lovehoney and babeland both being promoted.
* What is a good toy that she can keep in during vaginal sex? Like a plug or something.
* What other toys or types of toys do you recommend? Beads, dildos, etc.?
* I am also interested in buying vaginal toys. She tends to be very sensitive so maybe something small like a bullet finger vibrator or a vibrator that has very low settings.
* Also are there any types or brands of lube you recommend? We use astroglide and apply generously. (Note: We don't use condoms, in case that affects your recommendation)

I am thankful for any help. I read answers to similar questions in other posts, but reassurance would be nice. I just want to make sure she continues to have as much fun as I am.

First anal toy for a female? and other questions.


Ok ok ok I know that this is one of the most common sexual problems of all time and you are all probably crazy sick of hearing it, but I promise I am not just another girl who just needs to masturbate more. I've done that. Trust me I have.

I've had [this](http://www.babeland.com/store/productdetails.aspx?productid=1012&colorid=2) vibrator for a year and a half now. Every time I use it I feel as though I am forcing myself into it, it feels like a chore. The only time I've gotten really turned on, I've been with a man.

Once I get past that, I usually start to enjoy it, but after a minute or two the feeling becomes overwhelming, so much so that it makes me want to stop. The intense physical sensation is accompanied by an emotional feeling as though I am about to cry. It is not sadness so much as a very strong emotional sensation that often comes with crying for me.

I usually stop at this point for obvious reasons. If I have the motivation to continue (I try to), I always run into another problem. I pee myself, or some kind of liquid smelling of pee is released. Each time this happens it comes on quite suddenly, but it is not as if it is some big burst, it is as if I have no control over the muscles that keep my pee in and it just comes trickling out.

I talked to my doctor about this after the first time it happened and she told me if shouldn't be a problem as long as I empty my bladder first. Naturally, that's what I tried, but not luck. It happens every time I push past that unpleasant feeling.

After I realized that the peeing thing might be unavoidable, I tried masturbating in the shower or over the toilet with my vibrator so that if I was to pee, that I wouldn't have to stop. Each time I've done this, my clit becomes much too sensitive quickly after the pee is released and masturbation becomes painful.

The closest (I think) I have ever gotten to coming before has been with an ex who was going down on me. After a while though, I lost it.

So I have a few things I would appreciate some help on. First, does anyone have advice/help for the peeing thing? I'd really like to not have to worry about this with future partners. Second, does anyone have advice on another way I could masturbate that might be more effective for me?

**TL;DR: I have two problems with masturbation: I lose control of my bladder whenever my clit is stimulated to a certain degree and my clit becomes too sensitive to continue masturbating long enough to come.**

College-aged female unable to orgasm despite copious attempts and the help of a vibrator.


Hello Sexxit,  I need you help! I want to surprise my fiancée with some sexy lingerie.  She told me before we were a couple that she was looking forward to having a relationship so she could try lingerie (me thinks she was flirting).  Long story short, it is now five years later and she yet to try it out.  I suspect that is because she is somewhat shy sexually coupled with the fact that I find her so attractive that I consider lingerie unnecessary fabric that would look much better on the floor (Seriously, ladies going commando is 10^6 as sexy as lingerie).  I'm pretty sure that she would be really excited if she got to try some out.

My problem is that I can't seem to find anything that will fit her.  She is pretty small.  Like 5'6" 115 lbs small and her bust is 32 A.  I recently bought her a size 2 dress and that had to be specially tailored because it looked like a potato sack on her.  I have looked on the Victoria Secret site, as well as Castle, and Toys in Babeland and every thing that I think looks pretty and not tacky (mostly corsets, bustiers, and garters all seem to come in nothing smaller than a size 4-6 and a B cup.

TLDR:  Ladies of Sexxit, or gentlemen of Sexxit with small lady friends, who sells classy lingerie for petite women?

Update: Thanks for all the tips!  After a bit of a lingerie site safari I found figleaves.com.  Most didn't fit, however the stuff that did was generally pretty darn sexy.  I was really pleased that I was able to find a bustier for an A cup.  Here's hoping that she likes it.

Where to buy lingerie for small women?


When she puts her finger (one) in my butt with latex gloves and this lube, http://www.babeland.com/sliquid-sassy-formula/d/1660，my butt feels kinda stingy. Is this a natural feeling? I mean we go slow and stuff so I don't know what it could be. Does the feeling go away after I get used to it? Also any other tips? I'm 18 if age factors into this at all.

Working on Prostate play with GF. Burning/Stinging feeling with her fingering me?


I have been experimenting with anal over the past few months and have been using an Aneros prostate messager with great success.  I decided today to purchase a regular larger butt plug to experiment with.  I went to my local sexshop and they recommended I try one of the pop plugs by Doctor Johns.  I bought the medium size and was excited to try it out.

http://www.babeland.com/pop-plugs/d/1501_c_47

While I am able to get the plug to go in easy enough I am having a very hard time getting it to stay in.  After a few minutes my sphincter contracts and often shoots the plug out. While some reviews for the products mention this other seem glowing and say that it never happens to them.

Does anyone got any tips on how I can get this plug from coming out?  I love the feeling and I just wish it wouldn't feel the need to eject itself.

Having trouble getting my new butt plug to stay in.  Any tips?


What I'm looking for- something for penetration, something about 6-8", with some girth to it and with a soft or realistic feel to the outside (doesn't have to look realistic, I'm fine with purple if it feels soft).

I've looked at Babeland's [Boss Naked](http://www.babeland.com/boss-naked/d/1321_c_129) and [Boss Lady](http://www.babeland.com/boss-lady/d/1322?cs=1), and they both seem like what I'm after feel and size-wise. However, I can't get past that $67 price tag, and some of the reviews say they die after a few weeks. Not about to spend nearly $70 for something that will only last a month, but I guess if something really lasted for years I'd pay that price.

So does anyone have any ideas for something reliable, cheap(ish), and fitting the above description?

I'm Convinced There Are No Good Vibrators For A Reasonable Price. Help/Suggestions?


self-explanatory!

i've heard amazon's good, although since most are through independent sellers you can't be sure about discreet shipping. LOVE babeland. heard good things about adam & eve, but never personally used.

what are your favorite sites to buy from?

favorite place to buy sex toys?


I've finally told my wife I was interested in pegging (thanks to posts from /r/sex), and now, we're trying to find equipment? What's best to start with? One of the Bend Over Beginner kits like these?

[Bend Over Beginner Harness Kit (AdamEve.com)](http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/strap-on-sex-toys/sp-bend-over-beginner-harness-kit-13179.aspx)

[Bend Over Beginner Kit (Babeland.com)](http://www.babeland.com/bend-over-beginner/d/2751_c_10#pr-header-2751)

Do we go for piecemeal purchases or one of the kits? The only anal play I've ever done is with my Aneros, and that's different than getting fucked in the ass with a strap on. At least, I think it is.

Since she's never used a strap on before and I've never even seen one, we're kind of out of our depth in this area.

Suggestions?

Pegging: Tools and tricks?


Hey everyone! There are a lot of questions about how to buy your first sex toy (or your lover's first sex toy) floating around right now, so it seemed like a good time to publish a guide. I bought my first vibrator when I was 15. It was a total dud, and a huge waste of money, and there are a lot of things that I know now that I wished I knew back then. This guide is designed to address some of those things, along with answers to common questions I've seen.

**First, on materials:**

Jelly Rubber is the boogeyman of the sex toy industry. It lures you in with low prices and pretty colors, then blasts you with a toxic smell like a brand new shower curtain. That's because it is a shower curtain. "Jelly Rubber" is a fancy name for Poly Vinyl Chloride mixed with Pthalates. both of these ingredients are known carcinogens and endocrine disruptors. That means they mess with your hormones and cause cancer... don't put them on your genitals. They are porous and cannot be sterilized or sanitized, which makes them... gross.

The best materials are hard plastic, pure silicone, glass, metal, and wood. I recommend treating any other material with caution and purchasing only after researching the specific material in question. If you want to save money, you can cover your toy with a condom or even create a custom cover from a latex/nitrile glove. I have a massager that I lovveee which is made from TPR. It seems to have latex in it though, which is a shame, because I'm allergic. So what did I do? I cut up a nitrile glove, stretched it over the head of the massager, and taped it down. Do it yourself fixes can save you a lot of money.

Babeland's [materials guide](http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/shoppingadvice/sextoymaterials) is awesome. It explains what your material options are, what materials are more healthful, and how to take care of different kinds of toys. They are wrong about ABS plastic though. ABS stands for "Acrylonitrile butadiene styrene," and does not contain any rubber. It is a copolymer, not a mixture.

**Second, on price:**

Cheap toys are cheap. I don't think you should spend a lot of money on a toy if you don't know what you want, because there are so so many options - vibration frequency, power, pinpoint/diffuse, internal/external, size, shape, etc. However I also don't think you're going to be able to find many nice toys for less than $25. Sex toys are an investment in your orgasms and happiness. If you try to be too cheap you're likely to wind up with a dud, which is a complete waste of your money. I recommend shopping around - try edenfantasies, babeland, early2bed, and amazon.

**Third, a few notes on function:**

There is a difference between a vibrator and a dildo. A dildo is a penetrative toy. A vibrator is a toy that vibrates. Some vibrators are also dildos, many are not. I usually use the term "dildo" to refer to phallus like objects rather than gspot toys, prostate toys, and ~~but~~ butt  plugs. Why? Because if you are looking for a toy to stimulate your gspot you will probably have more luck with a specially made gspot toy rather than a generic dildo. They do different things, they should have different names. A dong is a dildo with balls :)

Most women are looking for a vibrator that they can use externally, especially as their first sex toy. Small external vibrators are great for use during partnered sex. They're less expensive, and they're designed to target most women's most sensitive organ - the clitoris.

Rabbit/dual stimulation vibrators are nice, but they only work with a narrow range of anatomy. I recommend using a dildo (vibrating or not) and a separate clitoral vibrator instead, because it's much more adjustable.

I tend to buy dildos that are a little bigger than what I actually want. I'm really not sure why this is. Am I overestimating the size of my lover's cock? Is it because silicone is harder than flesh? I don't know. What I do know is that it's easy to find yourself buying a 2" wide, 8" long dildo when you're 17 and then being like "oh shit, what do I do with this thing?"  Remember, there are a huge range of dildo sizes on the market. Buy what's right for you. Right now my favorite dildo is the FunFactory Share, and I think it's about 1.3" in diameter. When in doubt, buy something a little narrower rather than something a little wider. When looking at lengths, keep in mind that you'll need to grip the base. I recommend buying something longer, since you don't need to put it all in.

Don't put anything in your ass unless it has a flared base. Harness compatible dildos have a flared base, so they're fine. Butt plugs and prostate toys usually have a wide flared base or a ring. Anal beads *should* have a big ring at the base, but I've seen some that don't.

Silicone lubricant and silicone toys are not always compatible. You can do a spot test by putting a drop of lube on a non-conspicuous part of the toy, waiting 10 minutes, then wiping it off. If the texture is the same you're good to go. If the toy feels gummy, scrape off the gummy region and never use that lube with that toy again. High quality toys are usually okay. Low quality ones can melt and turn gummy. You don't want that to happen inside you.

**Lastly, a note about men:**

~~Tantus~~ Tenga and Fleshlight both make great male masturbators, but vibrators and anal toys are also great for guys. Cock rings can give you a harder erection and draw your orgasm out deliciously. You have every right to use sex toys and enjoy them. So when you go to get something for your girl, get something for yourself too :)

**And before you go...**

Silicone, glass, and metal toys can be sanitized by soaking in a 10% bleach solution. Rise them off, and they're safe to share. If your toy has no moving parts (not a vibrator) you can boil it for 10 minutes or put it in the top rack of the dishwasher without soap. If the insertable portion of your toy cannot be soaked in a cleansing solution I don't think it can be fully sanitized.

No other materials can be fully sanitized. If you want to share, use a condom.

EDIT: I don't think it's necessary to sanitize a toy completely after every use. Just wash your toy with a drop soap and a lot of hot water. If your toy isn't water proof you can dip a washcloth in soap and hot water, wipe the toy down, rinse the washcloth off, and rinse your toy off. Be sure to use a hypoallergenic fragrance free soap. I use castile soap and it doesn't leave a residue. Some materials (including most of the "realistic" materials) have special cleaning directions.

Thanks for catching errors clone019 and swaly :)

Ssnakeggirl's Guide to Sex Toys


'Drugs & Sex' - Babeland: Sex Toys And Power Tools (Column by @SoyChaiLatte)


Greetings all.  I'm wondering if you have any recommendations for a good remote vibrator.  I got a remote waterproof egg from [California eXotics](http://www.calexotics.com/p-22286-waterproof-7-function-remote-egg.aspx) awhile ago, and although it does the job there are some limitations.  Most notably is that the batteries die rather quickly, especially on the remote, and as that happens the range goes down.

I was wondering what other toys you have used.  On in particular that I'm thinking of getting is the [OhMiBod Club Vibe 2.0](http://www.ohmibod.com/wireless-vibrators/club-vibe.php).  It goes outside so it would work more on the clit than the g-spot, and at 4 hours it has a much longer lifespan.  Plus there's the music function which is nice.

Another option is the [We-Vibe 3](http://store.babeland.com/vibrators-electric/we-vibe-3).  We've had some success with an older model, but this one promises to provide more stimulation and also includes a remote.  So it could be a lot of fun.

What do you guys think?  Any recommendations beyond what I've covered?

Best Remote Vibrator?


Does anyone know of any "friendly" sex shops in the UK, similar to Babeland or Good Vibrations in the US?

All the sex shops I know around here are seedy scary places, but buying off lovehoney doesn't really cut it when its something like clothing you might want to see in person.

Friendly sex-shops in the UK


Hi all. I really like using a remote vibrator to tease my girlfriend in public, but the only one I've bought (http://store.babeland.com/vibrators-couples/babeland-remote-vibrating-panty) stopped working after only a few uses. I got it replaced and the same thing happened. So, I'm seeking suggestions for one that hopefully is more durable! Thanks!

I have a strong preference for one that has different speeds/vibration patterns.

Suggestions for good remote vibrators? (cross-posted from /r/bdsm)


I've searched through previous posts for information but I still have some questions.

I seem to be getting irritated by the lube my SO and I are using. Back before I worried about condoms and lube being compatible, before having a partner, I got some System JO warming lube thats silicone based. I had no problems with that stuff. But my new toy is silicone and I use condoms with my SO, so we got water based KY and it always made things worse it seemed. My SO got Astroglide natural because it's supposed to not have as much stuff (like the glycerin and whatnot thats in the KY) that could cause irritation. But Im not having a great time with this lube either.

What was suggested on other posts was Sliquid natural, jojoba oil, coconut oil, grapeseed oil, and a few other things, as well as just switching back to silicone lube.

Would silicone lube be my best bet? Or should I try using other water based lubes that don't have the glycerine in it? And if I did switch, what condoms work with silicone lube?

I don't think I have a latex allergy, but the thought did cross my mind because the irritation happens when he puts a condom on as well as when we use lube. But, wouldn't it be fairly obvious if I had a latex allergy? Dr.'s gloves would irritate me, and that isn't the case. Yea, Im thinking it's just the lube.

Edit: So we are going to get some lambskin condoms and see if that helps. And I just got [this](http://store.babeland.com/safe-sex-lubes/lube-sampler) sample pack of lube since sliquid and babeland seem to be highly recomended and glycerin and paraben free. Thanks for all of your help!!!

Lube questions


Been with the same woman for 19 years, and I've only been able to give her clitoral orgasms by going down on her. We have good sex (when we have it), with our favorite being a sideways 69. Lately I've been trying to increase her interest by expanding our repertoire.

After watching [this NSFW video](http://www.redtube.com/15878) and a couple others, I have tried giving her G-spot orgasms. She enjoys the sensation for a while, but even with lube she eventually gets sore. I feel the "walnut-like" object, which swells up as I stroke it, but she never cuts loose.

She is 41 (a very hot and shapely 41, I'm pleased to say), and has said that she may just be past the age when these things happen easily. I had mentioned to her that when we first started dating, she used to ooze this delicious, honey-like substance when I went down on her. It still occasionally happens when we've not had sex for a long spell, but it's pretty rare.

She's never owned a vibe, and she is open to the idea of getting one if it will get her where we want her to go. I'm interested in something that we can use together.

I've seen the [Njoy Pure Wand](http://store.babeland.com/dildos-g-spot/jupiter-wand) mentioned as a good G-spot toy, as well as [Gigi](http://store.babeland.com/vibrators-premium/gigi). Both seem pricey (though I'd pay just about anything to increase the frequency of our romps), and very single use. She enjoys my finger in her ass when I go down on her, but has refused my suggestions for anything larger. I have wondered if I got her a toy for her G-spot whether we might try it out elsewhere and perhaps open her mind a bit.

I am grateful for your suggestions.

tl;dr: Please recommend a toy or technique to help my wife achieve G-spot orgasms (and me get more sex).

I have a birthday coming up. What toy could I ask for (or which technique should I try) to help my partner have G-spot orgasms?


So, I'm a 22f and I've had a bit of a problem recently. Sometimes I don't get wet enough (even with LOTS of foreplay) and my skin will get irritated from the friction. Condoms and lubes in turn give me yeast infections. Does anybody know if there are any alternatives to latex condoms and/or lubes that are good for sensitive skin and don't really cause yeast infections? Anyone have any experience with this sort of thing? I've been looking on babeland.com and want to see if anyone has any experience with natural lubes or something to recommend?

I don't know if it makes a difference, but I am not in a relationship and just want to practice safe sex without having to choose between irritation or a yeast infection. I don't really have a preferred brand of condom or lube, I usually just use what the guy has but would like to have some of my own condoms and lubes so that I don't have to deal with this anymore.

Best lube for sensitive skin?


Hello men and women of /r/sex!

Two weeks ago I posted asking about [male sex toys](http://www.reddit.com/r/OneY/comments/g9oxk/male_sex_toys/), lamenting the apparent lack of options (as well as the apparent lack of acceptance vs. female sex toys). I was specifically curious about vibrators, since male orgasm is conventionally triggered by friction and/or lateral stimulation. Could vibration work as well for guys as it does for girls? After all, the head of the penis and the clitoris are basically analogous.

Several posters came through with some great suggestions, including the relatively new product from Fun Factory, the [Cobra Libre](http://store.babeland.com/men-jack-off/cobra-libre).  After some debate, I decided to buy it so I could test it for SCIENCE and for the benefit of all mankind.

**Initial impressions:**

It's smaller than I thought.  I knew that it was meant to stimulate the head of the penis (rather than be a full-length sleeve), but the pictures still made it seem like it would be a considerably bulkier product than it actually is. It's slightly shorter and wider than my cordless phone.

It doesn't look like a sex toy, and I'm willing to bet that short of very careful inspection and/or turning it on, most people probably wouldn't know what it is.

It's also VERY quiet. Someone in the same room as you could definitely hear it hum, but it's doubtful that anyone on the other side of a door would be aware of anything.

**How-To**

Operation is very simple.  You apply a little lube to the inside (unlike with sleeves, this isn't strictly necessary, but does makes things feel better), then put the head of your penis inside and turn it on.  There is an on/off button, as well as +/- buttons. More on these later.

The first question though is, which way should the device be oriented? If you refer to [this picture](http://store.babeland.com/photos/0594700-d.jpg), note that the black part on top is simply soft silicon. Most of the vibration is actually carried in the hard plastic on the bottom (the orifice IS lined with soft silicon all around, so everything is comfy). So the max stimulation is going to come from the bottom.  There's also a bit of a "lip" on the inside bottom, which "locks in" right behind the glans, against the [frenulum - NSFW](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frenulum_of_prepuce_of_penis).

So the device has an obvious top and bottom, which means that if you are lying down and resting the device on your stomach in an upright orientation, you're actually using it upside-down. This is not necessarily bad -- more on this later.

**First Try**

My wife is out of the country for a little while, so while I always fap from time to time, it's definitely been even more frequent of late. I like it and I think it's a core part of an healthy sex life. No matter how much one loves sex, it's nice to take a little time "for yourself" on occasion. I like a slow build up and take things slow, stretching things out for 30-60 minutes. I guess you could say that I'm a master masturbator.

*ahem* Anyway...

So I lube it up and hit the power button. Playing around with electronic gadgets always gets me excited, but I can't claim to be particularly *excited*, but I do my best to get my relatively flaccid hardware inside.  When you turn on the Cobra Libre, it's basically just on "idle" with almost imperceptible vibration.  As I hit the + button, however, the vibrations start to ramp up quite dramatically, and my penis notices.

Note that there is no major movement going on. I'm not jerking the Cobra Libre back and forth like you would something like a Fleshlight. I'm just holding it against my penis, and within moments I'm rock hard. The vibrations are very noticeable, especially since the two independent motors provide slightly different beats and strengths. At max speed, the Cobra is definitely intense!

In fact, it almost becomes a little too intense and the pleasurable sensations start to fade away as a sort of numbness starts to creep in. I've only been using the device for about 30 seconds, and I'm already worried that it's not going to be as good as my hand. Luckily, the Cobra is a sophisticated piece of tech. When you are at max speed and continue to hit the + button, you begin to cycle through different programs. I think there are something like 14 different patterns.

Pattern One was fairly straightforward, just a slow ramp up then slow ramp down. It's nice, but not particularly exciting so after a short pause I hit button again.

Ten seconds after switching to the pulsating Pattern Two, I cum. Hard. It was uncontrollable and incredibly intense. Holy crap!

Elapsed time, from semi-flaccid to orgasm: ~60 seconds. Woah. Now I'm worried that the Cobra Libre was TOO good.  No one wants to cum that fast!

**Next Attempts**

Amazing and incredible are insufficient synonyms to describe it.

I think that using a sex toy is like learning to fuck. The first time, you probably won't be any good and you'll probably come way too fast. That appears to be the case with the Cobra Libre. I've used it a half dozen times now, and now it lasts longer and feels mind-blowing. Really. The sensation when it revs all the way up is enough to completely disable my cognitive functions in a way that only my wive's blowjobs previously could.

Interestingly, it's probably a good way to train yourself to last longer in bed. It's easy to be long-lasting when fapping, because you can just pause when you get close, but unless your partner is as still as a statue, you are going to have uncontrolled stimulation during any kind of sex. Short of hitting the power button, you have to rely on your developing your own self-control to stretch out your experience with the Cobra, just like with a partner.

Actually, there is one way to dim the intensity of the Cobra: Turn it upside down. This will make the most intense vibrations hit the top of your penis instead of your frenulum, making things a little less stimulating, but still very nice.  The nice thing about this orientation is that you can just sit the Cobra on your stomach and go hands-free, leading to a sublime, relaxed experience not unlike getting a blowjob.

In fact, imagining a blowjob is the best way to describe exactly what it feels like to use a Cobra. The tightness and pulsations are really similar to someone caressing you with their lips and tongue.

But even with this comparison in mind, having an orgasm from pure vibration definitely feels different from anything I've ever had.

**Clean-up**

Easiest thing in the world. Just run the thing under a faucet with a little soap and it comes out looking new. Lube and other fluids rinse right off, and there are no little nooks and crannies to worry about. The Cobra is water-resistant.

**Some complaints**

The buttons...dear god the buttons. They're those neat flat-panel capacitance type things, rather than "real" buttons.  Like typing on an iPhone. It's very cool looking, but it's actually kinda inconvenient since you tend to accidentally graze against them a lot, potentially knocking the machine back to idle at the most annoying times. Also, while this hasn't been a problem for me yet, the buttons won't always operate if there's stuff (like lube) on them. I think more low-tech physical buttons would have actually been better.

The only other complaint is not really the Cobra's fault.  It's just that after I cum, my head is insanely sensitive and I usually have to turn the Cobra to idle or yank it off because the sensation is too intense. It took a long time to work out with my wife exactly what to do post hand/blow job, because some contact/stroking is still nice, but it's easy to overdo it.  Short of a "cum sensor", there's no real way to avoid this problem with the Cobra...but I can hardly fault it.

**With a partner**

As I said, my wife is out of the country for a bit so I can't really test this, but I can definitely see this toy being great with a partner, just like a vibrator for women. A lot of the penis (and all the balls) is still exposed, so a partner would have a lot of places to "play".  In fact, keep in mind that despite the overall form, it is still a vibrator and is probably perfectly valid for clitoral stimulation (and probably works against cocks too). With the right positioning, I can definitely see ways to stimulate two people simultaneously, which could be a fun experiment.

**TLDR: This gadget will make you orgasm hard, and in a unique way that is different from sex and fapping. I consider it money well spent!**

EDIT: If people find this sort of thing interesting, I also bought a Tenga Flip Air that I could review. I've only used it once, because the Cobra has been so...compelling, but I can make a sacrifice for the cause.

Male Sex Toy Review: Cobra Libre


Just read this page and it seems to sum up so much that needs to be said, so I'm sharing.

(from Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-blowing Sex by c. Cavanah & R. Venning; p. 91)

TO CHICKS LOVING GUYS WE SAY...

You are not obligated to keep giving a BJ when your neck is ready to give out. No need to keep having sex if it's starting to hurt or you are feeling too dry or even bored just because you think he's gonna come any second. You can stop and finish hi off with your hand, for example.  Or you can play with a vibe on his perineum. Or you can let him finish himself off while you watch -- which can be sexy for both of you. Don't just grit your teeth and think of England.  Life's too short.

TO GUYS LOVING ANYBODY WE SAY...

Don't give yourself an ulcer worrying about your erection. ("Oh, Lord, please let me get hard and stay hard long enough so I don't squirt too soon, but not so long that it's embarrassing and tedious.") If you come sooner than you'd like or find your wood elusive, you can please your partner with your hand or your mouth or a toy -- and they will probably love all the special attention. Take some of the performance pressure off your cock.  Sex ain't the Olympics. It's more like a free-form party, a journey. The less you tally Os, the more you'll both enjoy the ride. And while we're at it: guys, quit worrying about your size. Your penis is perfect just the way it is. Those enlargement potions don't work, and the ads promising them just make everyone feel worse about themselves. Regardless of what you've got, learn how to use it well, and you'll be better than fine -- you'll be great. Focus on pleasure, not measure.

Sex ain't the Olympics


I've been browsing Babeland and Good Vibrations, but nothing is jumping out at me. I also used to sell Passion Parties stuff and I only used their lubes-- I don't know what other products work! What do you use?

Sexit, what is the best lube for anal sex?


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Hello Kitty Vibrator - Vibrators: All Vibrators - Hello Kitty Vibrator at Babeland...


Hey folks,

I'm doing some shopping and I know these come up all the time (no pun intended).  But a quick google search didn't turn anything up.

So anyone know of any current promotions?  Bonus points for good quality retailers like babeland or goodvibrations :)

Thanks in advance

Online Sex Toy Coupons?


Vote and get a free Babeland Silver Bullet Vibrator. 11/02/10 only.


After work today, I bought some wine, a vibrator, massage oil, condoms, and a skintight pencil skirt.  My fiancee and I will be having a great weekend, and I hope all you lovely Redditors do the same!
(BTW- Babeland's Desire Vibe is GREAT- and cheap!)

Cheers to a wonderful weekend!


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You can put a condom on fruit or vegetables.


Gurl 😭. I am trying to do this for the craft, not for personal use.


Omfg that’s hilarious!! 🤣


r/DIYSILICONETOYS

if you want to fill a mold with silicone to make a toy, then you're already commited to buying a vacuum chamber and vacuum pump to do it safely. That means, youll have that equipment to make a mold yourself and then cast it

you can make a model of a clay like Sculpey or our plaster of paris or any number of methods, and then mold it in silicone and then with some extra steps, youll be ready to cast that mold.

when i started I thought i was going to get into it cheap, but it took more investment and more tries than I expected, but Ive had good results consistently a year + into the hobby. I dont regret it.


Is getting the vacuum chamber essential? Is there a technique that wouldn’t require it ?


Because clone a willy is kinda meh, and probably uses silicone that doesn't require a vacuum chamber.

Dragon skin makes a type of silicone under the NV brand which also supposedly doesn't need a vacuum chamber, but its more expensive, and with dragon skin, yiu usually need to buy by the pound or more, so its expensive to ship and import.


Maybe not against any law, but here in Egypt, anything that is a liquid has to basically go through a chemical analysis test, which you pay for, and they might still deny you the product and throw it out.


Might I suggest a hairbrush that is fairly phallic shaped on the end? I see in your comments you are trying to sell product, yea? So maybe somehow get or make a dildo/hairbrush? Just spitballing here of course.