Its been a while since that conversation but it rly bothers me and won't leave my head. How do I approach him with his topic? I don't want to seem dramatic.
Few months ago I asked my bf of 2 years if I give him the best blow jobs ever, I expected him for compliments because when we started dating at the first time I gave him a blow job (it was my first ever sexual relationship and I was completely inexperienced), he reacted so enthusiasticly like he couldnt believe how good I was and kept on talking about it and complimenting me. He told me that was the best blow job he ever received. I was rly happy and throughout our relationship I give him LOTS of blowjobs. I give my absolutely all to pleasure him. I put so much energy, passion and love in it, even if sometimes it gets too much for me I don't stop because I care about him. I know he loves them, this is why u love them so much too.
I dont quite remember why I asked that, I remember I opened this topic because I wanted to know if there was a way I could improve and to communicate with him and also in kind of a boasting way of expecting compliments after I gave him one. I didnt expect that reaction at all and it made me feel uncomfortable and kinda hurt as well. Even if he thinks this way, why would he express that to me? Why would he compare me? I prefer him to lie.
He's my first everything, first love and bf. We are in a serious relationship and have very active sex life.
I know he has a long past, he's older than me and had lots of gfs and sexuals relationships from a very young age.
Even if I'm not the best.. I want to feel special. I just wanted to get appreciation and compliments from him. I didnt rly ask because I felt like it was obvious I'm the best since he already told me that the first time I gave him one.
He told me how he had a sexual relationship with some woman and how crazy she was in bad and had crazy high libido and that she gave crazy blow jobs and went all insane on him.. and he was like ur great honey but she was just amazing and the best I had if I'm being honest. I didnt know how to react and pretended to laugh along and act casual and lighthearted.
It wasn't the first time he had a comment on my blow jobs. He told me couple of times before that sometimes my blow jobs rly suck and are lame and that I barely give any effort or acts like I want to do that. Now that I process that again, it rly hurts me.
Sometimes I chock a lot and gag and find it hard to breathe, sometimes it takes him a long time to finish and I keep on going because I care about his orgasm and pleasure and I would get tired. Like I would give him a good one hour blow job, it's not easy and he has a big one has well. So that hurt me, because I feel like I'm taken for granted.
I know that's rly silly and I'm probably just being dramatic, like its just giving head. He does express his pleasure to me, he would moan and playfully call me a "good girl" which I love it all but on a serious matter I feel quite hurt and not appreciated enough.
Also, for context, I don't want to bring him in a bad light because we're very inlove and he's rly a good guy Also, I think it's mostly a matter on me having to communicate my needs with him and I just find it hard to bring this topic up to him but he never goes down on me, never. Maybe once or twice in our entire relationship and it lasted maybe a couple of minutes and always leaded up to sex. While I do blow job him as foreplay it's 95% him who'll initiate penetration after and when he doesn't, I go on till he orgasms and let him have his moment with my full attention and energy.
And yes, I know we have a big age gap. Please don't take this to a bad place, it's hard, it's challenging.. but I do love him. And he love me. We met by chance and he didn't know my age and we just fell hard for each other after getting to know each other and I made the first move.

My (20f) bf (31m) said an ex gave him better blow jobs than me


Ok a have bit of weird question around domination which I guess delves into BDSM.

I (29M) love being tied and gf sits on my face smothers me etc

Anyway, so most would view this is domination and maybe BDSM.

Thing is I don’t like a gf being dominant. It’s hard to explain but I like them to tie me in a caring way and explain they are going to sit on my face but that they’ll try to make it as easy as they can for me but they explain I can’t change my mind now it’s too late. But they say it in an empathetic way. Like they are soothing me and feel sorry for me but also have their own guilty pleasure doing it to me.

And when they are sitting on my face and smothering me they might say “shhh just accept it honey. I’ll try to make it as easy as I can for you.”

Is this common ? Not the smothering aspect (I know that’s semi common) but in wanting to get overpowered but with empathy mixed in.

It’s the firmness that they are forcing me but how they mix in that they care for me that turns me on the most.

Example one gf said, ok honey you’re all tied now,  I’m going to sit on your face now. Sorry honey but I’m not going to let you breathe for a while. I know its going to be hard for you but I love suffocating you so much. You already agreed to this before I tied you. Sorry but you can’t change your mind now.

That’s the general drift of it and I love it. Mixing empathy and care with intentionally causing me distress (which I like) and for her pleasure also.

Domination / BDSM


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Honey love is to love me the way I'm, available for fun?


Ok back on my incognito account 😁

Anyone tried it, my (29M) longest is over 3 minutes

I know there would be plenty of guys who like this but any girls who truly enjoy sitting on a man’s face and enjoying knowing he can’t breathe ?

Most of my x’s did enjoy this kink side of it but in a nice way like “shhh just accept it honey, I know it’s hard for you, but I just love feeling you suffocate in my ass, I’ll try to make it as easy as I can for you”.

That’s totally very close to quote from one of my x’s

Either that or they were just trying to make me happy

Facesitting - what do people feel about the smothering aspect


Chapter 1: A Sweet Surprise

It was a typical morning in the suburban household of Me and my wife, Emma. With two young kids to look after, their days were filled with the chaos of parenthood. But one mundane morning, a package arrived that would change everything.

Emma and Jake had decided to spice up their love life and ordered a mysterious libido booster honey [online](https://naturalhealth-world.com). Little did they know, this innocent decision would lead to immense pleasure but also a lot of problems.

Chapter 2: The Unexpected Encounter

As fate would have it, the day of the honey's arrival coincided with Emma's planned trip away with her friends. Left alone to manage the kids, Jake welcomed the help of Emma's best friend, Sarah.

Unaware of the honey's purpose, Sarah stumbled upon the package and, out of curiosity, tasted a spoonful. Little did she know, the honey held potent effects.

When Jake returned home, he found Sarah in his bedroom, her presence igniting a spark of temptation. With the honey coursing through their veins, inhibitions were lost, and desire took over.

Chapter 3: A Forbidden Romance

In the throes of passion, Jake and Sarah embarked on a clandestine affair, fueled by the potent effects of the libido booster honey. With each encounter, their connection deepened, shrouded in secrecy and guilt.

Months passed, and their forbidden romance thrived in the shadows, hidden from Emma and the unsuspecting children. Their rendezvous became a ritual, a forbidden indulgence they couldn't resist.

Chapter 4: The Sweet Taste of Deception

As the affair persisted, Jake found himself torn between his loyalty to Emma and the intoxicating allure of Sarah. The honey had become their shared secret, binding them together in a web of deceit.

Yet, beneath the surface, guilt gnawed at Jake's conscience, threatening to unravel their carefully constructed facade. With each stolen moment, the risk of discovery loomed larger, casting a shadow over their illicit love.

Chapter 5: The Bitter Aftertaste

Inevitably, the truth emerged, shattering the fragile illusion of happiness Jake and Sarah had created. Confronted with the consequences of their actions, they were forced to confront the wreckage of their betrayal.

As Emma learned of the affair, the pain and betrayal cut deep, leaving scars that would take time to heal. For Jake and Sarah, the sweetness of their forbidden romance soured, leaving behind a bitter aftertaste of regret and remorse.

Epilogue: Lessons Learned

In the aftermath of their affair, Jake and Sarah were left to pick up the pieces of their shattered lives. Though their relationship had been built on deception, they were forced to confront the truth and the consequences of their actions.

As time passed, wounds healed, and lessons were learned. For Jake, it was a painful reminder of the importance of honesty and fidelity in love. And for Sarah, it was a sobering lesson in the dangers of temptation and desire.

In the end, they emerged wiser and stronger, determined to rebuild their lives with honesty and integrity, using the libido booster honey for their own pleasure, husband to wife.

The Honey Affair (Short Story)


In terms of packaging and what it comes up as on your bank statement.

I still live at home and my parents access to my bank account. They're not too nosy and won't open any packages, but I don't want to receive a dildo shaped package for example. My mum will probably look at my bank and ask what that fee was too. She won't press if I just say clothes, but if it's says Love Honey she will know.

How discreet is Love Honey UK?


For context my wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for two of them, are both under 30, we were also high school sweethearts and moved in before we got married. She is one of my best friends and I love her very much and she loves me too. I literally love every other aspect of our relationship but it all a couple months before our marriage. In our younger years we would have sex every other day or even multiple times a day. Fast forward to before the marriage and it would be every few days but once the marriage became a couple months away it became harder to catch her in the right mood which I thought was because of the stress of the wedding. I didn’t think anything about it but then we had our honey moon and she kept saying no to sex and after a two week long vacation I think we maybe had sex twice. Really ever since she is very flippant about it, says no most times, and generally does not seem to care about it. It went on like this for a few months of occasional sex maybe once a week if I catch her in the right mood and then she dropped a bomb. She came to me in tears one night saying she thinks she’s asexual and has not been wanting to tell me and has been faking being okay with sex these past months. She says she doesn’t think about sex, she doesn’t get turned on anymore, and maybe masturbated once a month at this point. She says she feels terrible about it because she knows I love sex and value it in a relationship. But with that in mind she does not want to do anything she feels goes against what she wants for her body and I agree but she said specifically she could go the rest of her life without sex and only will do it to make me happy which is a really shitty position to put me in. This was at the beginning of the year and Last week we went on a vacation and I get a nice hotel for us for a night away from family and we went out with friends and had dinner and drinks and when I asked if she would like to have sex it was a hard no, and a hard no for the rest of the trip.we got back and after a few days she comes to me head lowered and clearly upset saying “well I guess we should have sex” and obviously I say no because she clearly doesn’t want this. So the next day she comes to me upset and said she wants to talk, she lays out that she still loves being my wife and what we have and then put out a lot of limitations on how we are going to have sex now and mainly only when she wants it and how she wants it and if she wants to stop we stop even if I’m not finished. Also no dirty talk, no touching, don’t look at her too much. She also does not want to give handjobs or blowjobs or even let me jerk off to her because she is still involved in a way. I appreciate that she is willing to try for me but I can’t help but think this is still unbalanced, unhealthy, and I hate putting her in a position she doesn’t want to be in. For context I do most of the chores, cook all our food, get groceries, and take care of all the bills as well. I try and take her out to eat and movies and fun stuff but none of it seems to matter. Also when we do have sex I know she orgasms most times even now and we don’t take more than twenty minutes and it’s nothing taboo. It sucks because I love her so much and would do anything for her but I can’t say she’s would do the same for me at least sexually. So my question is how do I feel better about where our sex life is at? I feel like I shouldn’t feel bad asking my wife if she’d like to have sex but she makes me feel bad for it. Is she just sticking around because I provide for us? Where do we go from here?

Wife is now asexual and I am not


Throwaway because anonymity.

Basically the title. I am asexually unfulfilled and don't know how to fix it.

My wife (28F) and I (28M) have been together for nearly 10 years. When we started out there was fire. The "honey moon period" lasted years, until we decided to start a family. After my son was born the fire seemed to die for her.

We went from being intimate and having sex multiple times a week to maybe once a month overnight. It was difficult but I learned to adapt. Better to jack it and keep my family, than whinge about a lack of sex and potentially lose it, I thought.

Over the years we've added another member to the family, and things picked up a bit. Never reaching what they were before but kids add stress so I was understanding.

A few years ago we had a talk. I wanted to get that intimacy back, and communicating is usually the way to go about it. We discovered kinks we never knew we had and had a fun time exploring all of that, but it was temporary.

These days I'm lucky to get a kiss goodnight. And that's if I initiate it. I don't feel wanted any more. I don't feel like she needs me to be anything other than her support, financially and emotionally.

When things do get to happening in the bedroom, it's entirely focused on her and her pleasure. She's a one and done kind of lady, so when she cums sex is over. Not really an issue, but it feels like my pleasure just isn't considered. All the kinks we partake in are the ones she brought up. She takes no initiative. If I finish (which is rare) it is from penetration. She does not do anything with me as a focus. And I enjoy giving her pleasure, but it would be nice to be the focus sometimes.

I've tried communicating. I've suggested couples therapy. Everytime she says she does want me. She is attracted to me. She says all the right things, but the actions aren't there to back it up. I just feel unwanted. Like I am here to provide, and its not to be reciprocated.

Sorry for the ramble. I find it hard to put my feelings into words. I realise she sounds horrible in this. She's not, she's wonderful. An amazing mum and partner in all ways, bar intimacy. I love her. I don't want this to break us.

How to fix feeling Unfulfilled


We have been dating for about 6 months, the beginning of our relationship our sex life was amazing, both matching high libidos, anywhere anytime it was always good, a lot of passion and easy to initiate. After a few months it went to shit. I know this is probably because we are out of the honey moon phase but i still have a high sex drive and im really attracted to him, i would still do it all the time if he wanted to. I know we probably will never go back to how we were in the beginning, but we just dont really have sex anymore. He lacks passion. We dont makeout ever,the sex is usually pretty quick. I dont come quickly, and in the beginning we would go multiple rounds, we even had a joke about it that we wait 5 minutes and hes ready. Wed go at it a least 2 rounds and sometimes too many to even keep track of. He really made an effort and wanted to make sure i came. Now its always one and done, and quick and honestly i usually dont come. Weve talked about this in the past bc it makes me feel insecure when im always initiating and getting turned down. He just claimed its not true. I will literally try to makeout and he wont want to for some reason like he didnt shower today or he didnt brush his teeth. I get it if its here and there but its every time. I try to initiate and touch him and he just pushes me away. So we only have sex when he initiates bc i just make myself in the mood and its the only chance ill get. I even say really sexual things to him and we flirt and it goes nowhere.
The times ive talked to him about this i get nowhere. I told him i never had an issue initiating in the beginning of our relationship and the last few months its always an issue.

I know we are a new relationship, but we have been through a lot, long distance, traveling together, and now living together. Weve had a lot of ups and downs. I really love him and want to be with him, hes made it clear many times he loves me and wants to be with me too. I think the lack of passion and feeling unwanted and taken for granted is really getting to me.
I just dont know what to do anymore.
I want to feel wanted and desired again.

TL;DR: a once passionate relationship with high sex drives between my boyfriend (30m) and i(23f) has gone to shit. I dont feel desired even after multiple arguments about this issue. Should i break up with him?

I (24f) dont know if I should break up with my (30m) boyfriend over our sex life


I love great sex. Hell, I’d say that good sex is the minimum. Something about making my seeing my partner squirm, moan and orgasm is a delight that not too many things can overtake for me. I’ve been recently having a problem. I just relocated to a new city, and I’ve taken on dating to meet new people. A few casual hangs at first but no one really stood out except this one woman. She’s drop dead gorgeous, we have a fun time when we’re out, there’s witty banter, good conversation, flirty looks, and passionate kissing. One night after a good date, things got hot and heavy and we went to a nearby park. It’d be our first time and it’s kinky so I’m down. We’re kissing, feeling each other up, and dirty talking and I’m hard as a rock. As soon as I pull out my dick and put on a condom, I go soft. Like, all the way soft. My mind immediately goes 1000 ways because this doesn’t happen to me. I’m a solid looking guy, with a high libido, I’m a giving partner, and I’ve gotten enough validation from past partners to boost my head for a lifetime. I’m used to going all night with women but for some reason I couldn’t even start. She understood and didn’t make me feel like shit. A few days later, she invites me over and we have hours of crazy, passionate sex and I feel like myself again as I connect and thoroughly satisfy my partner. Afterwards, she’s sending multiple texts gushing how it’s the best she’s ever had. Yesterday, we went on a date and had a good time hanging out, drinking, flirting, etc. We head back to her place, get to kissing, touching, and dirty talking. I pull out my dick to get things started and, what the hell, I’m all the way soft again. I have a mini panic attack. It’s just like the first time, and it’s not stiffening up. I’ve got a beautiful, hot and ready woman right next to me, and I can’t satisfy her. I felt like shit but had a honey pack in my car (for emergencies after last time) so I went to take it and came back. We had ok sex but it felt like I was cheating and I couldn’t really get into it. Although we have a great time, I can’t shake this feeling that she’ll kick me to the curb because of this problem and I don’t know what to do. The whole situation isn’t like me.

Tl,dr: I started dating this gorgeous woman but when we have sex, I have problems getting it up.

Help! My guy is playing possum


Hi, i've been trying with a girl that is on love with me 3 times, all failed so far, my bat won't hold a strong erection enough for penetration. I'll have what i feel will be the last chance, all or nothing, since she said that is discouraged from that and i completely understand. I've grabbed from the gas station a thing called "VIP Royal Honey" and also another called "Rhino 69" of course i'll not mix both i need to pick which one i'll use this weekend, i think i'll go for the Rhino 69, but im confused that there's a lot of versions of that pill that i don't know if all work the same of if there's one specifically are the best choice, help me save this lol. Description of myself i'm a 30yo dude strong i do weights and stuff but i suffer from PERFORMANCE ANXIETY and that is the issue, i overthink like crazy and that triggers my ED. Thanks!!

Last try with my girl, All or Nothing


Hey! Looking to buy some lingerie to suprise my partner with. Where are the best places to shop from? I’m a student so needs to be budget friendly :) I have a few pieces from love honey and Ann summers but wasn’t sure if there’s anywhere else? Thanks!

Best place to buy outfits? (UK)


This will be a little long but I need your help, please.

Im stuck in a loop where I dont feel like im manly, i get shameful and then since my relationship is currently so bad between me and my girlfriend because of me and my mental health issues, I feel even more shame for how pitiful of a man I am. Im an extremely anxious, jealous, and dramatic person, Im very emotional and introverted. Im also bad at showing love to my girlfriend, and anytime we try to have sex I get too far in my head and I lose my erection, she told she doesnt even want to imagine me sexually anymore because shes constantly disappointed with not being able to have sex after getting so worked up expecting it.

Im also just really anxious, like whenever we have the opportunity to do it, we are almost always in some public space, secluded in some manner? yes, but I dont feel comfortable because of where we are, I get extra anxiety since Im a very home-body person, I need it to be in a house or something, somewhere comforting and safe, at least for the first few good times. However we are teenagers and are very restricted by parents. I just want one good and comfortable experience so I can get used to it and get comfortable with the world of sex I have yet to really get into. Because I feel alot of shame, FOMO, anxiety about the whole world of sex im left out on, I had a few encounters with my current girlfriend, however I could not keep my erection with PIV and I was too anxiety ridden to enjoy it.

Im not really anxious about anything that would particularly make sense, like its nothing to do with my size or how well Im gonna perform, its more just feeling left out on something so "big" and I make it a bigger deal than it really is, idk its really weird and annoying. Like its something I didnt really care about before I had a girlfriend, of course I want it and I would see posts about it and stuff all the time and I wouldnt have FOMO or shame or anything but now that I have my girlfriend, with her having only one partner of two years experience, its like im just super left out and I feel so unfulfilled with my life, shes a polar opposite of me, I really only have one thing going for me and that im fairly attractive, other than that Im kinda a loser, and im not happy with my life, have nothing really going for me, im very introverted and have undiagnosed mental health issues that Im very aware are there, Im not normal mentally, and Im aware of that.

Im putting myself in a self-fufilling prophecy of anxiety and FOMO about not having experience with sex, but then getting so shameful and anxiety ridden to the point that I ruin my opportunities for sex, leaving me with so much shame, and my girlfriend disappointed, I feel horribly emasculated then the shame from not having sex and leaving my girlfriend disappointed just adds even more pressure to it and makes the cycle even worse. How could I break this cycle of shame? *maybe just use the pill/honey packet just a few times so I can break through?* My desire is to get into the world of sex but I want just one or a couple good experiences with my girlfriend (Where I can get hard) so I can just step my foot in and feel fufilled with finally being not left out. But im just confused. I need help, please what should I do to break this?

tl;dr: Very anxious, jealous, unfulfilled, and emotional person, i put sex on a pedestal and put myself in a self-fufilling prophecy of anxiety and FOMO about not having experience with sex, but then getting so shameful and anxiety ridden to the point that I ruin my opportunities for sex, leaving me with so much shame, and my girlfriend disappointed, I feel horribly emasculated then the shame from not having sex and leaving my girlfriend disappointed just adds even more pressure to it and makes the cycle even worse.

Self fulfilling prophecy of shame.


I (M19) have a 9" suction cup dildo for love honey, as well as a few of their plugs. In the last couple weeks I hadn't used any of them, and last night I was really horny and wanted to squat fuck the dildo. It hurt a little but not too bad, but this morning when I woke up it hurts when I do a bowel movement or clench. I was a bit worried so I had a look and I can see a small purple lump inside past my sphincter if I spread a bit. Now I've been doing some googling and I'm stressed. I'm thinking I'll wait a couple weeks without any anal play and hope for the best?

Over ambitious with anal masturbation, need help


I just can’t wrap my mind around why women have to accept that porn/insta models/thirst traps/etc. are a reality in a monogamous relationship with their husbands. Because “men are visual” and if we get upset about it we are “insecure” and how dare we try to dictate what they do with their own bodies (NOTE: I am not anti-masturbation at all!).

How would you explain this to your daughter? “Well, honey, it doesn’t matter how pretty you are, how smart or talented you are, how great your personality is, or how much you love your husband. He will lust after other women even if you are perfect. And you just need to learn to live with that because… men are visual.”

I don’t think that is dramatic. I see time and again and again men (on Reddit tbf) defending theirs actions as biological and inconsequential and harmless and the only monsters are the women feeling otherwise who are labeled as insecure and told to get therapy 🙄

Do other women in relationships struggle with this? How do you rationalize inviting naked strangers into your home and relationship (albeit virtually)?

I struggle with the idea of porn


So I have recently entered into a relationship where I feel very lucky to express myself sexually in a way I haven't ever before. I've bought some light bondage things, a wig, cute lingerie, plugs, vibrators, fun body stockings, lube and the gamut really.

That said, we have been playing with toys and lingerie for some time, and I'm starting to find the usual suspects such as Love Honey and stag shop kinda meh for lingerie or interesting ideas. Not that they are bad, but they can be kind of repetitive and basic. I guess I'm wondering if there's some sites that are amazing for this type of thing that aren't your first results on google?

(PS! I am in Canada, but most US stuff works for me)

I'm looking for better lingerie, sex toy etc. shopping sites


Basically just wondering is anyone has any recommendations for adult toy companies that are UK based (due to shipping fees) other than Love Honey.

I’ve bought from them before, and am now hoping to find more toys but they don’t have what I’m looking for.

So yeah, any companies y’all recommend?

And if it helps, I currently have a toy with a 4.5-5 inch circumference and have been trying to find something (a little) girthier but can’t find anything.
Will also take recommendations for quiet vibrators, since I have a bullet but it’s a little disappointing and can be a bit loud (Then again, maybe vibes aren’t for me?) and maybe suction toys, since I’ve heard those are apparently good.

But that’s extra stuff, and going a bit beyond the question.

UK Sex Toy Stores?


Oh my goodness…

These past 4 days have been nothing but sex for my partner and I. My asshole is destroyed (in a good way, definitely sore) but it is worth it. My bf had that Royal Honey and it has made a big difference in his performance. He stays hard longer and easy aroused!! We bought a rabbit vibrator and he got some ring cocks and I just feel in love with him all over again. The sex is dirtier too like he spits in my mouth and slaps me while he rails my asshole ughhh I CANNOT stop thinking about him.

I know this post was all over the place sorry lol I just needed to share my excitement somewhere. I cannot share this to anyone in my life 🤣😂

Finally brought sex toys to the bed and its intensified things


So I ordered the Love Honey Remote Massager, one that vibrates and rotates. I finally had the chance to try it and it was good. I was hoping for great, and hoping for hands-free organs. Had a shower, got hard first, and took my time to work it in as it was bigger than anything I had used before. By the time it was in, I was just laying there like “oh my god” cause it felt really good just being inside. I could feel my ass contracting with it just sitting inside. I turned it on and started to fiddle around with the remote. The vibrations felt good, but with it being so big it fell out pretty easily. Once I turn on the rotations too, it started to feel really good. I could my p-spot and it felt like a ball being massaged. It got pretty intense but and I thought I could feel it building, but unfortunately I had to finish with jerking off. It was good, but any tips on better ways to make it great?

Comment if you have some things to try. Thanks!

21M tried a prostate massager - need advice to make it better


I wanted to get the lush 3 to use it with anal penetration and also as a tease when going out.

My main worry is that the size and shape may be too much for me. I have a few pretty standard 6/7inch dildos and a vibrator with a similar looking end to the lush 3. They all seem to be too big for me if I’m not fully turned on and I’m having issues inserting them or even moving them around once they’re in. I would like to use the lush mainly as a tease and a tool to get me to that heated point so I’m worried it might be too and uncomfortable.

Also I have a very cheap version of an egg from love honey (their own brand I think) and it doesn’t really do much for me other then getting me slightly turned on, but not much real pleasure other than that. I can’t really even feel it or it’s vibrations when I’m walking around and even though I know lush 3 is much more powerful I’m worried it won’t do much for me while wearing it out and not sitting in place

Has anyone have any experiences with lush 3 and can help me figure out if it’s the right thing for what I want? It is a bit spenny for me at the moment and I would rather invest in another toy if lush 3 may not be for me

Is lush 3 good for me or should I look into alternatives


As the title says, my husband doesn’t always “finish” sometimes I can feel him losing his erection. We have been together for 3 years. This has happened since the beginning but he would make excuses for it “my balls hurt, not feeling good, etc.” - then he stopped watching porn and masturbating and it improved. I know 100% he’s not masturbating, but this still happens from time to time.
It also doesn’t help that I have body dysmorphia and bulimia so I take the fact that he doesn’t come as me being unattractive or not being tight enough. Today we were having sex and he was hard as a rock. We started doing doggy and he started to go soft in me and said he wouldn’t be able to finish. I have gotten really upset at him and made it all about me being unattractive in the past that it’s created this toxic pressure. I know I’m objectively attractive- I’m thin (5’7 and 120) with big boobs and a pretty face. Not to be cocky, but I get hit on a lot. Then there’s this part of me that just feels hideous or that I have a broken vagina.
Today when he went soft I hugged him and reassured him I didn’t mind if he didn’t finish and I just love having sex. We are on our honey moon right now. We got married on 10/28 so it’s been stressful and I’m trying to change making it all about me to make him feel safe. Do you think this will help? For reference here is our sex life this month in October (the not finishing was particularly bad this month - almost 50% but also noteworthy we fought a lot this month and we’re extremely stressed with planning a giant wedding on 10/28)

Didn’t finish
10/1
10/6
10/14
10/30
10/31

Finished
10/12
10/19
10/23
10/25
10/28
10/29

We just got married a few days ago and haven’t lived together either. This will be our first time living in the same house. We are used to seeing each other 4-5 times a week but having to sneak around to have sex. I wonder if this problem will improve by just living together? He said he feels pressure because of my body dysmorphia and my reaction to him not cumming. He also said that it could be from masturbating in the past but he hasn’t done it that much.

Either way, it just kind of sucks and I don’t know what to do. When he starts to go soft in me I just feel awful and like the grossest fattest ugliest person in the world.

What should we do?

Husband doesn’t finish 30-40% of the time


I am 27(F) & am in a very happy relationship of 6 years with my honey (28M) and still have no sexual drive. I used to love having sex and being an object of sexual desire but for the past several months I just want to curl up into a ball and not ever have sex. I used to self pleasure almost every night in my teens and early twenties and have no idea what happened to my libido. Sex is something I just want to get over with now. Even when giving feedback to my partner I feel like I’m in my head the whole time because I feel bad that I can’t get to a place of pleasure so we can both enjoy the experience. Im not even sure what turns me on at this point and talking about it is gross to me (another note is that I feel like I have a lot of internalized shame around sex and feel like it’s dirty to talk about desires or watch porn with my partner). I’ve also been on oral contraception for 8 years and am wondering if my hormones have been off because I’ve heard it could affect a woman’s ability to produce testosterone and lower sex drive as a result. Anyways, I have a lot of thoughts on this but I’m not sure what happened or what the solution is. Any advice would be appreciated.

No sex drive


Soo, I'm 23F and this is my first relationship/contact with a man, and I've been dating him for almost 3 years now. But lately he started making comments about my sister (17F) during sex, like how he'd like to be with both of us or comments about her and her body (very explicit to write down here, but, I guess you can imagine). So I told him that I didn't like that, not because I'm jealous or something, but because it's my f**** little sister, I raised her, the dirty talk he does makes me wanna throw up, I find him repulsive when he stars talking, I want him to shut the fuck up. His defence? He thought I'd like that because of my body response... So, should i keep trying to make him understand my position? If the situation were the other way around... his responde wouldn't be AT ALL "ayy, honey... what you said about my brother made me uncomfortable, can we talk abou it? 👉🏻👈🏻" Maybe I'm too chill, I don't know, I can't really talk about this with anyone, so I seek for your guidance... Needless to say I love him, but this situation breaks my heart... apart from the disgusting of the situation, it also makes me think he's capable of doing it with my little sister, or that he's thinking about other women while being with me... I don't know, I know I'm not ugly.. but he makes me feel so ... undesirable. I think it shouldn't be this way... I'm really sorry to the admins if this post breaks any guidelines! I think it doesn't, but still. I'm sorry.

AITA for complaining about the comments my Bf (26M) makes during sex?


Holy mother of, my title looks bad. I’m sorry.
My first language isn’t English, so grammar and spelling, will not be perfect.

I was 13 when my nephew was born, and my sister lived with our parents a lot, when he was little, and when she didn’t, I stayed with her a lot. She had my baby nephew, so I was always there. I saw him so much, that I started seeing him as a little brother and to this day, still do. I have other nephews and a niece, and I love them all, but I grew up with this kid, and this is about him.

Before I ask the question, I have to give background info. I’m not looking for advice on other things, but this one subject. Thanks in advance.

I (29F) is the youngest of 3 siblings (34F)(36M). I was the baby of the family, and I think my sister holds a grudge towards me sometimes for this. She’s been very abusive towards me, throughout my life, which I didn’t realise till a few years ago, so I can’t go to her about this, despite it being about her son. We grew up in a very open family, where your body and sex wasn’t a bad thing. We weren’t naked around each other or anything bad, we just knew that it was normal, and we could always ask. We were never shamed for anything, and we always knew about periods, sex, hormones and all that.
My sister gets pregnant at 19, with her boyfriend, and everyone is excited. She gives birth to the most beautiful baby boy (I’m so biased lol), and he is my best friend. I would die for that baby. He turns two, and my sister keeps saying that he’ll turn gay, she’s got a gay son, she’s so happy her baby is gay… (I’m not against gay people, hell I’m bisexual, but… The kids two?! You don’t know, just let him be a kid) She says this most of his life. She has sex toys out on display in her living room. He got a pack of condoms at the age of 10. He learned to put a condom on a glass dildo at the age of 12. She talks about her sex lives, with her kids, since they were small. She embarrases them in front of their friends, talking about their genitals, cause it’s soooo funny. She’s not like what we grew up with, she’s shoving sex (metaphorically) down her sons throats. I can’t mention every example, there’s so many, and I’m writing this on my phone, and making this post makes it really slow for some reason.

Which brings me to this.
My nephew, now 15, is over at my house, and he has to ask me something, (I feel horrible for sharing it online, but I have to ask for advice, I don’t have anyone else to talk to, but my boyfriend, who doesn’t know what else to do either)
Nephew: I can’t ask mom about this, and please don’t tell her
Me: absolutely not, I never would.
N: It’s just, mom always says that sex and masturbation is normal for my age, and everything. But I just… Am I weird, for not wanting to do any of that? I just…
M: No! No no no! Honey, that’s absolutely fine. That doesn’t make you weird. When you’re ready, you do it, and if you’re not, you don’t. And that’s so okay. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise
N: I just feel like I’m weird, cause everyone at school wants that and I just don’t have any wants and needs for it
M: i get that, but it’s perfectly normal.
And that was the conversation. I get it, he got his answer, it’s embarrassing to continue lol.

Now my question. I spoke with my boyfriend, if maybe it could be asexuality? Something like that? Either way, I just kinda want to talk to him, just him and I, and tell him, and ask, cause he (nephew) 100% will have no clue what that is. But I think that maybe knowing that there’s other people out there, who feels the same as him, would make him feel better. I just want to be supportive, but I don’t know how to approach the subject. Please help, I just want to do right by him.
How do I approach this? What do I say? Do I say anything to his mom? (Dads not in the picture)

How do I (29F) approach my nephew (15M) about his sexuality?


This is not an advice post, I just wanted to brag. Maybe give a hopeshot to anyone struggling with DB alongside someone they love.

Me (32F) and my husband (33M) have been together for roughly 12 years, living together for most of them. Sex had always been a big part of our lives. I mean, he fucked my ass in the shower and came on my face the first time we hung out, so it was pretty much woven into the foundation of our eventual marriage.

Due to life doing its life bullshit, things went from being hot and heavy to pretty damn rough and just really heavy. As a result, we went the last two years practically not touching each other beyond a compassionate hug, on occasion.

However, some things fell into place and as of a month ago, shits gotten wild. We're fuckin' back, and we're fucking back-to-back! Well, more like front-to-back, front-to-front.. Yeeah, you get the idea!

He has been doing things to me that are indescribable on so many levels, and getting reactions from me that I didn't think I was capable of giving. The previous intensity of our lives has now translated into absolute coital bliss. We know each other so well, inside and out, have seen the very worst of each other and are now getting to experience the very best parts of ourselves together and it's fucking intense man! I don't understand how we went multiple years without wanting to touch or be touched to now being unable to keep our hands off each other.

My lifelong insecurities are being chipped away at by my husband calling me his fucking Goddess, worshipping my ass and making me come five times, all before the sun is even up. He told me that I gave him the best head of his life, only for me to follow that up with the best edging handjob and most intense orgasm he's ever had the very next night. I can hardly contain my enthusiasm for him, all of him, nor him for me. He is constantly filling my head with the most amazingly, filthy, flattering, lustful, honey-tongued images and praises. I want nothing more than to spend every waking minute with him inside of. So, to say things are mind-blowing is an understatement.

There is a little bit of trepidation from us both that this is just a phase and that suddenly things are going to revert back to the way they had been. However, I don't see things ever getting as bad as they were, simply because even if this is just a fleeting moment of bliss in our anticipated long life together, this deeper level of connection that we have forged will not disappear and I really believe, and hope, there's no way in hell we're coming back from this period the same couple we were before it started. And even if there is a chance of that happening, I can say with certainty that the thought of my husband and the memories of this time with him will keep me soaking fucking wet for a very long time to come.

Thanks for reading. :)

We survived a dead bedroom (and came out better for it on the other side!)


Me and my girl have been dating and or sleeping together (fwb and splitting up) for like 9 years.

When we first started hooking up we were doing it like 2-4x a day (honey moon lust phase) then it obviously tapered off to about 3x a week.

We spent the last 2 years doing it like 1-2x every two weeks. I have a stupid high sex drive so this was a bit frustrating but I dealt with it.

Well suddenly, with literally nothing really changing we have been doing it almost 2-3x a day every single day without fail. Sometimes we'll finish I'll get my clothes back on and she'll suddenly start talking about how she wants me to "fuck me (her) from the back really hard" and obviously just the sentence has me ready to go again before I even went fully soft.

I'm just confused. I'm not a total idiot about anatomy but I don't know of any hormonal shifts that occur around 27-29.

I know it's not infidelity issues because we spent a whole year working from home and other times where we never even had a waking moment apart and she wasn't suddenly ready to go like this. I'm not complaining but my scientific brain would LOVE to know what could have sparked this sudden shift.

Is there any hormonal changes in women around 28? (More details inside)


I wrote once before about my (M61) partners (F53) best friend (F46) who comes to visit us about 5 times a year.  Sometimes she is here for a week or maybe just a few days.  We just happen to live near Disney World and so she flies down from Maryland.
One evening we were leaving the park and I made the comment that I was gonna take my belt of and spank her... Her comment to only me was, "only if we filmed it'.... My mouth dropped open.... And she just grinned ..
The following day, I stayed behind because I wasn't feeling well.  After they left ... She texted me that she left me a present on her bathroom counter.... And to please return them before they got home..... 6 hours later... Needless to say, it was a wet, soaked pair of panties.... I had not gotten that HARD in years...
I smelled them... Sucked them completely clean... I couldn't get enough of her scent... Even her ass smelled amazing and I could only imagine being on my knees behind her... She has not been with a man in all the years I have known her now...(going on 11).  I filled said panties with load... After load...after load... (only the first one had any real substance ... And left them back where I found them.
The ladies got back... She hugged me and whispered in my ear that my face smelled like her .. and disappeared into her room.  She sent me a picture of her sucking on those same panties....
This happens at least twice every time she stays with us...  I long for her taste ... I have fantasies in-between her stays...
We are never handsy in public, never carry on like anything ever happens as it does... EVER....  until yesterday. My partner was feeling sick so I took "Karen"  to Disney Springs before taking her to the airport.  We would walk and she would touch my hand...
Everytime she did, my cock jumped...
We went to lunch...our conversation turned completely sexual... I confessed my lust for her scent, her taste...She said she loved sucking my  on cum,  knowing it was there because of her... She would suck on them and masturbate with them... Imagining me cumming in and on her....
We agreed that it will never go any further than it has.  It would destroy my partner.... and we both love her too much to do that, regardless of how we feel.
Anyway..... After lunch, hitting a few stores and getting back to the car, she handed me a small ziplock bag with a very used pair of panties.  She said she wanted to see them each time I came into them.... And I agreed.  I thought how sweet of her and how much I was going to keep my prostate drained between visits... And we drove the 20 miles to the airport in silence... My cock throbbing in my shorts... And this woman, out of the blue... Slides her hand down her shorts, pulls it out and sticks her wet dripping fingers into my mouth .. again and again....
She tasted like salted honey... Then without warning, I get this musty, sorta sweaty sweet smell taste of her ass off 2 of her fingers along with that salted honey .... And then I pulled into the departures lane at the airport.
I got out of the car and unloaded her baggage for her.  She hugged me, noticed my cock pressed into her leg and we kissed ... She left ..  and life is back to normal for a month or so...
Except for when I open that ziplock...

I know this is perverted... But


Okay so context my (33M) gf (30F) have been dating for about a year and a half. She had a severely traumatic relationship before me where the guy was narcissistic, manipulative, and used sex as a form of control.  She got out of that relationship a few months before she met me. She also has BPD among other things, but she just got a good psychiatrist who gave her some meds that have finally been helping her depression and anxiety and mood disregulation.

Despite all that we have had a pretty healthy sex life up until the past six months. Now, we have sex maybe once a week, compared to the 3 to 6 times before. When we do have sex, it's 90% of the time usually when she's drunk, and she can't even cum when she's drunk so she gets super frustrated after about a couple of hours and we go to bed. In the rare occasion shes not, its good, we both cum but again its rare. Besides that the sex life, fooling around, etc is non existent, and not through a lack of me trying. I've tried talking to her about it, and it's not that she's not attracted to me, it's just she just isn't in the mood, or she's tired from the day (she works and does stage acting rehearsals at night), and even though we had a pretty active sex life in our early relationship, she likes that sex is something we can do once in a while after our "honey moon stage"and not something I expect every night or use it as a control method like her abusive ex. I totally understand that. She also expressed her biggest fear is she knows I have a super high sex drive and she doesn't and that I will find it somewhere else. She's an amazing girl, and our relationship, despite the ups and downs from the BPD, is great.

Now enters the part where I feel like the asshole. I still am craving sex...alot. I am jerking off 1 to 2 times a day, and when we lay in bed, I keep thinking about how much I want to have sex. I'm extremely attracted to her, and we'll it's frustrating. My attempts to get her in the mood are usually met with no, I'm not in the mood, and she even says those are the things that get her going she's just not in the mood..

I'm extremely sexually frustrated and jerking off is getting harder to placate me. I'm finding myself fantasizing about other women just for random hookups, sex, and I know that's wrong. I love this girl and our relationship is great... I'm just sexually at my wits end. Anyone have any tips to curb my sex drive, or am I just an asshole, or experiencing something similar?

Sex Drive Help At My Wits End.....


TMI WARNING:

So I’ve been with a good amount of women in the time that I’ve dated and I also have a very strong sense of smell. I love and hate smells with a passion. I’ve grown to realize I LOVE going down on women, if they are the right one. The first woman I ever went down on had an unfortunate smell and I gagged, it was a bit disease like (BV or something else). Others had either a cooked beefy sort of smell.

I met one woman that I realized I could go down on forever, it was just a hookup, but it smelled amazing. I’m not good with making smells so I’ll say it was a subtle sweet smell. I really can’t describe it but it’s similar to what I smell when I take off my underwear after a sweaty session and it just smells, Uhm, nice. I’ll be honest I love my own smell. My armpits smell like weed and honey and I love it. My groin has my favorite of all but I’ll save that for later, and yeah, my underwear sweat smells like this girls and I couldn’t stop thinking about it.

(I might have been a dog In my past life)

Then came my ex. Great girl, without getting too deep, we were a perfect fit for sex. I’ve never had as much sex in my life as I did with this girl. We parted ways due to a difference in where we were in life, it ended meh but we’re good now. The most striking thing was I could go down for hours on this girl. She loved it and said no one has ever done what I did. I even took the time to learn different techniques to please her because I was there for so long just making her crazy whenever I can.

She smelled EXACTLY like my groin. I mean, that whenever I scratched the part where my penis met my pubic area, I would smell it (for curiosity) and it was addicting. I don’t know what it was, but I only ever met another girl who had that smell.

Now I’m with my current girl, it’s been a bit and things are great. We have sex normally but we are very emotionally compatible. The problem is, I don’t go down on her as long as my ex. She has either no smell (which is good) or a slight urine/acid/lemon smell? Personally I don’t like it. It’s not horrible or bad but just makes me feel a bit icky. Sex with her is great but tbh I’m not that into her vagina smell. It’s exactly what people usually describe: coppery/uriny?

I heard online that it had to do with pheromones. And usually I would call bullshit but it does explain why I notice so many categories of vagina smells. I’m wondering if I should settle with someone who doesn’t have that thing that makes me go crazy for them yknow? Especially if it means that our immune systems or genes aren’t pushing us to be together. I like her normal smell, in that she doesn’t smell at all on the rest of her body (I hate how most people smell tbh), but what can I do?

Maybe it’s diet? We’re both on protein heavy diets (shakes and chicken) since we’re working out together often. Or could it be she has a little thicker thighs that accumulate smells?

Idk. Sorry if this is weird. I just hope it’s not a genetic incompatibility or something

I feel stupid for asking this, but if I don’t like the smell of the vagina of a girl I’m seeing but loved my exes, does that mean we’re not “genetically”compatible and I should keep looking?


Throwaway for reasons.

So I’ve been going out with Sophie for about 9 months. I’ve only had 1 other sex partner before her, and Sophie has had 5. So she’s very experienced and has a pretty high sex drive. We’ll, we both do. She’s very loving and has been patient with me on how to be a good lover because pretty much all I know is from porn. She asked that we wait 3 months before having sex because her last boyfriend was abusive. So okay no problem. I had anxiety anyways about not being up to par.

But once we started having sex, it was really good. She really knows what she’s doing and I was eager to please her. It was pretty vanilla overall except that we’d try deifferent positions and some dirty talk.

Okay so about 3 months ago is when she started doing different things. So she started calling me “honey” and “sweetie” during sex. Mind you, she only calls me “babe” or my first name when we’re not having sex. And it’s always honey or sweetie during sex. Like “lick my pussy sweetie” or whatever. It weirded me out a bit at first but I’ve grown to like it because it feels like a treat. And it feels special that she only says it during sex. And I feel like it’s more endearing or loving instead of babe.

And the second thing is that a month ago, after we finish fucking, she’ll go to clean up and she insists we take a nap together. A short one. I usually like to turn on the tv and relax but she wants us to nap. But as far as I can tell, I’m the only one napping. She stays awake. But we turn off the lights and just lay down on the bed. Sometimes I nap for 20 minutes, sometimes longer. And she’ll sing while I’m falling asleep. She has a very pretty voice and I love hearing it. She’ll sing a few songs but I only know this one song by avicii. She sings it very gently and it’s very nice. And she’ll scratch my head gently and it helps me fall asleep.

Once I wake up, it’s like everything is back to normal and I do whatever I want. I’ve grown to really enjoy what we do during and after sex. We’ve talked about fetishes and kinks and she’s said multiple times that she doesn’t really have any. I feel like she’s lying or she’s embarassed. Or I feel like I’m wrong about thinking it’s a mommy fetish. Because I’ve told her how much I like what we do, and she’ll say something like “oh yeah, it’s pretty silly” and she kinda just brushes it off. And I wanna ask her directly but what if I’m totally wrong? What if I misread the situation or something.

She’s pretty bossy and stuff but I like it because I’m a tutor and a manager at a restaurant so it’s nice just doing what I’m told at home. Especially because I struggle with anxiety because I feel like if I don’t do a good job, she’ll miss her ex boyfriends. I just wanna take it a step further but don’t know how to or if I should.

Thanks for any advice

TL;DR- gf seems to have a mommy kink but won’t come out and say it or admit it

I (M22) maybe think my gf (F24) has a mommy fetish


Any recommendations?

I've recently got my first stoker from Love honey which im enjoying, but up for some new things too,

I use my wifes bullet on my balls sometimes too, but looking to branch out

Sex toys for guys?


I (33M) have had a weird relationship with sex, as I’ve had mainly casual encounters. But for the most part I watched a lot of porn, masturbated a lot, but was generally very honey. Recently I had a FWB and one time I think PE came into play during a 3rd round of sex and things haven’t been the same for me. I went 3 weeks without porn, although masturbated a bit because I was receiving nudes from someone. Then the PE hit AGAIN the next time I saw the FWB. Went 2 weeks without masturbating after this. FWB cut me off in the middle of this. So one day I decided to just masturbate a few times cuz I was bored at home and I wanted to feel good. Naturally this ends up being a day I randomly take a girl home and we have sex. I was drunk and relaxed but my dick didn’t really work for more than a few min. Now, I’m fine doing everything else, I love oral, kissing, holding, caressing, being rough, etc. The girl seemed to enjoy herself but I’m here in my head beating myself up over not being able to really fuck, and my ego is BRUISED. It feels like I’m going through the motions in sex, I know what I’m doing and I’m good at being responsive to a girl’s reactions, but I’m still here just worried about my dick working. And I’m not even enjoying masturbating so much anymore because it almost feels like me just checking to see if my dick works and I’m thinking more about the strength of the erection than just enjoying myself. Sex almost feels like this daunting chore because this is all about my ego.

Anyone else go through this? I feel like I just need to take a break from sleeping with people but that also just sounds scary and extreme, idk.

I don’t think I’m having fun with sex anymore, help


I (21M) have faced some sexual problems lately. I'm not sure why but I feel like I've had a lot of difficulty with my erections with her. When the idea of anal play arises, it's much easier for me, otherwise I feel that I kind of struggle. Another thing I noticed is that when I've watched porn, I generally don't struggle to get an erection, but ejaculation also just comes so easily (with my gf too). I've stopped watching porn since and I think that's helped, does anyone have any advice as to what I should do? I love having sex with her and I just want to feel like I can do more with my penis than resorting to Hard Honey. Any advice on how I could actually last longer or get more horny?

Need advice about erections


I am a Virgin and also she is my first gf
We meet each other in a trip to another state (she lives 6hrs far from my house) so it is a long distance relationship.

We were just friends when we meet, but after a while of texting/discord calls/watching movies and playing games we became partners.
I will see her again febraury 17 and we have been really horny this last month, we acorded to have sex.

We've been sexting and make each other cum like 5 times, we have an strong desire for each other.
She is my first sexual experience ever.
Today we escalate things further and she wanted to make me cum via videocall, she did everything i Asked her to do and told me no not worry about her, she wanted me to enjoy myself.

So I did, I cummed in about 7 minutes after telling her to show me everything and touch herself.
After that she ended really wet, and told me to help her like she did I told her "gimme a minute so I can get hard again" she was so wet and beg me to start helping her even if I wasn't hard, so I did, I started good, making her feel good, telling her all the nasty things I would do to her and showing her my muscular body.

But I needed to focus on giving her pleasure so I couldn't focus on getting an erection again, and I was so nervous,  that was my first time showing my body, so after a while when she asked me to show my dick, I couldn't do it, it wasn't hard, I asked her to show me her body but she had the webcam off and didn't want to turn it on, I couldn't focus on getting the erection, after that I sent her a pic of my penis that i took before we started having virtual sex.

She really liked it and thinks its pretty big, but she was turned off by the fact that I couldn't get an erection and that I couldn't show her my dick and keep the sex call.
She told me not to feel bad, after all this is my first ever sexual experiencie and I did what i could.
But I just feel anxious and I cant sleep, specially because she tell me "good night" with my name instead of using "love or honey"

I am afraid that she will lost attraction in me, especially because she is somewhat experiencied with sex and maybe she has higher expectations after all the things I said we would do while we were sexting.

What can I do or how I should feel about this?
I did apologyze and show some insecurities but after seeing negative responses through my anxious text i decided to let it flow and see how we do tomorrow without touching the subject.
She is sleeping rn

I feel bad after dissapointing my gf


My partner and I lost our virginities to each other and since we started dating have never been super sexual. We mess around, sure, but it never really leads to penetrative sex. This was always fine because we lived with our parents and never had anywhere private to do it so it never bothered me. But he's moved out now and I came to visit him for two weeks and he would masturbate every day (which I don't particularly think is abnormal or excessive) which was fine except every time I tried initiating anything he would go 'sorry honey I already masturbated today'. I feel like the excuses went from not having anywhere to go it comfortably and privately to he can't stop masturbating for a few days just so we can have sex for the first time in like 3 months (we're long distance). I don't need to have sex every day or even weekly but I can't help feel a little unwanted because it feels like he picks porn over me.

The second part of why this hurts even more is because he has a fat kink where he likes it when small girls eat a lot and become fat. I've tried indulging in his kink even though I had very severe body issues when I was younger. Initially it was actually quite nice to stop focusing on being skinny and letting myself get a bit bloated and a little muffin top. But as I did that more I feel like it had less of an effect on him because the porn he watches is like people gain 40kg in a month or something crazy like that and I am just naturally and genetically a very skinny person. So not only does him kind of picking porn over me hurt, it hurts to know that the porn he picks over me is of someone I will never be. I'll never be super big (and I also don't want to be, not even because of body issues anymore but because it's unhealthy). It might not be the case but when I incentivise him with me eating more or drinking a lot of carbonated drinks to get bloated then he'll want to have sex and we generally will but any other situation and he finds some reason not to.

He says he's not a very sexual person which is fine but I just find it confusing that someone who claims to not be very sexual is masturbating once a day and sometimes even multiple times a day. But maybe there's something I don't quite understand between the urge to masturbate and the urge to be sexual with someone because for me it's similar and obviously doing it with someone you love is better.

I've talked to him about both of these issues and he's assured me that it's not me and that he's just not very sexual etc. But I just can't help feel unwanted. Especially when he asks me to do all these things related to his kink for me and dress up in lingerie whereas he just comes and goes and it feels like it's always dependent on what he wants and when he wants it.

I'm not really sure what my question is, I guess I just wanna hear other people's opinions because I just can't seem to let this issue go and I am a big over thinker so maybe I'm blowing it out of proportion?

I (f20) feel like my partners (m21) masturbation habits and fat kink are ruining our relationship?


I’ve (20F) been dating my boyfriend (22M) for 3 months. Before we had sex for the first time we spoke about our preferences and we both agreed we were a little bit kinky and love to try new things in bed. I have a high sex drive so that was fab. The first time we had sex we we’re drunk and it was amazing, really passionate and loving. We had another really good session where he dominated me and introduced me to anal, but ever since then it’s like all passion is lost. I’ve tried to initiate sex by wearing nice lingerie or buying a cock ring for us to try. However he never seemed too excited or turned on. That’s when he told me he thinks he has erectile dysfunction and he struggles to keep it up.

When I found out I was extremely accepting and supportive, I asked if he wants me to carry on initiating sex and he said yes (but he may not be able to keep it up all the time). In my eyes that’s absolutely fine, it happens and it’s completely normal. The issue is that he never initiates sex. He never seems to want it when I initiate. I understand that he may have some insecurities that are preventing him from getting turned on but it feels so shit to be rejected time and time again especially when I’ve put nice lingerie on or made myself look pretty.

When we do have sex there’s barely any kissing or foreplay, we jump straight into sex - it’s like he wants to get it over and done with. So when we do actually have sex it’s not even that enjoyable for me because I haven’t been turned on enough cuz there’s been no fore play. I can’t remember the last time I’ve got head because he doesn’t think about it unless I ask him to do it. If he does lose his erection he will finger me a bit but never enough for me to cum and it always seems like it’s a chore for him to do it. He admitted himself that it’s an afterthought because he is so focused on his erection.

Whenever I make any sexual comments or jokes about having sex outside or something a bit kinky he brushes me of and just says it’s weird. He just doesn’t think about sex at all, he doesn’t randomly get hard during the day and it’s rare that he will have morning wood.

I just don’t know how to handle the situation, I’ve spoken to him about it and told him how I feel. He said “how do you want me to turn you on, what foreplay do you like” and I’ve explained and showed him many times but he still just keeps jumping into sex. It just feels shit when you don’t feel wanted. My love language has always been sex. I value it highly and think it’s one of the most passionate and romantic things in a relationship. I’ve always been used the guy getting an erection during cuddling or wanting to touch me and have sex multiple times but with my current boyfriend it’s like sex doesn’t even cross his mind. We are only 5 months in and I do hope something changes because it’s not something I would even consider breaking up over. However this early on in a relationship you should be in the honey moon stage and can’t keep your hands off each other.

The first two times we had sex were great. I don’t know what’s changed or if they were just a fluke. It’s a shame because we genuinely love each other and most of our disagreements are about not having enough sex or me nagging for some foreplay.

Please let me know how to deal with this, any opinions or suggestions would be highly appreciated.

*Before anyone suggests I start masturbating to help with my high sex drive -I already do.

My boyfriend’s low libido is impacting our sex life.


Fellow wives, help me understand if I am overanalyzing.

For context, my wife is a very selfless person as am I or I at least try to be. When we actually become intimate I hold off until she finishes a majority of the time, even if she asks me to focus on myself. Its a habit I picked up cause I love seeing my partner satisfied before myself.

Well a few nights ago she approached me saying "I am in a half mood, so please, focus on yourself honey". Normally that means 'she and I can have sex but she isn't really in a mood where she thinks she can get off'. So I tried doing that, and what is normally a 45 minute to hour activity turned into a mere 20 minute thing.

Afterwards she kept saying how cute I was and had this prideful glow about her. I asked if she was just happy that she made me finish so quickly and she got giggly and said 'Yis'.

Is that a thing? Do women sometimes take pride in helping their partners finish so quickly? Is it taken as a compliment in some regard?

I am genuinely curious as Ive always seen it as when you finish quickly its shameful for men.

Wife being giddy and proud?


Hi, so this is a problem I’ve never dealt with before-I was relieved when googling the issue and discovering it’s a fairly common discrepancy-however, nothing I read felt like it particularly pertained to my situation or demeanor, so I thought it might help to vent a little and see if I can’t get any personalized suggestions as to how to deal with this…
Please believe me when I earnestly proclaim I am no prude-I love sex and have been known to let my vocals get a bit wild as well-but, speaking of which-“the payback method” isn’t going to work in my situation because we have a 9 year old and, if anyone is modest it’s my husband-when he does excite me to that point, he smiles and hardens, but will also gently cover my mouth and/or stifle his own moans into a pillow…so, needless to say, he’s no help 🙄.

I can tell he also is becoming annoyed with the problem, but simply responds “I don’t know dear, I don’t care what they do, and I don’t want to get in their business” in his defense, the neighbors we had prior were absolutely terrible. We live in the lower level of a 2 apartment duplex, and when we did hear them it was abusive fighting…the couple had two young boys around the same age as our son, and it was hard to explain to him why they’d be playing outside wearing the same pajamas for days in a row and constantly missing school/not going to the bus stop. The father was open in admitting he hadn’t worked in years-and when he did take the kids out, he’d have a drink in his hand as early as 8 in the morning…the mother would fall out on a monthly basis-one time my husband found her completely unconscious/unresponsive in the back yard at 3am-Paramedics had to use Narcan to bring her back, so I’m pretty sure of what the issue there was…Anyway, I think my husband is in the mindset of our new neighbors being wayyyy better and easier to interact with, so why rock the boat?

And I completely understand why he feels this way-the new couple upstairs are fun to talk to; wonderfully helpful and hardworking-their only “child” is a bulldog whom is incredibly sweet and became fast friends with our pet corgi. That’s partly why it’s so difficult for me to find a solution-because outside of this ‘problem’-they’re awesome housemates…

But…when I say there’s a problem…trust me, it’s a problem. Thankfully, it would seem they only partake in lovemaking the average 3 to 4 times a week, but yes, I would know their frequency because when they do get it on-it lasts for hours-and it sounds like they’re moving furniture around. One time I could tell-without wanting to trust me-that he was pounding her so fast and hard our walls started shaking and my son ran out of his room thinking we were in the midsts of a god damn earthquake(!) So far, my hubby and I have diffused his questions & concerns by telling him they’re still getting renovations done and must have their tv’s volume up loud-but, he’s already had to undergo a bit of “the talk” because his dad and I are currently expecting (I’m 6 months along)-not to mention our boy is far from oblivious…eventually I know these excuses are going to run thin and lord only knows what a 4th grader’s reaction is going to be then…

The lady’s screams are also…for lack of a better word…obnoxious to say the least…like, she’ll be straight screaming or moaning so loud you’d think she was dying from some debilitating disease…plus, speaking of my previous Google search, I read somewhere a recommendation to not feel embarrassed if your neighbors’ sounds turn you on, and I’m over here like-“I wish”….she “talks” so much during its almost like she has to speak up to keep him going at it…and, I’m sorry if it sounds judgey a.f., but it just sounds like she’s faking it to me….the other night, I was actually taking a little extra time in the shower preparing for a potentially horny husband to return from the store, but when overheard them starting to go at it, I actually felt bad for her…like thinking “oh honey, if he needs all that, tell him to go fuck Coach Carter and get yourself a vibrator…” Still, kinda pissed me off because it killed my mood and didn’t have any motivation to have my own socks rocked when my man got back…

So, Of course I want to thank anyone who has read my relentless rant this far in, and again-I truly do appreciate our new neighbors-I can’t stress enough that the first couple times I thought it was just kinda cute and funny and could totally appreciate the idealism of the possible “honeymoon phase” and “properly christening” a new place…but this has been continuing for a few months now and it’s like they’re only getting wilder up there…and, again…my son literally thought we were having an earthquake one evening…like, come on now…that’s a little much….

Any and all recommendations as to how we can possibly approach this without causing some sort of feud or the most awkward living situation ever would be beyond appreciated-thanks again for reading!!!

HELP! My neighbors get it on ridiculously loud…


I'm going through a lot of mental anguish trying to decipher my thoughts and feelings on what's to follow. It makes me sick to my stomach with sadness. I've typed and re typed this so many times.

 I (f24) meet a nice guy (m27) and we have been having a great time getting to know one another. We met at work and I asked him out for drinks one night and things kinda took off from there. We've only been together about 5 months. Nothing solid to a lot out there but from my point of view it's been one of the healthiest relationships I've been in yet.

The first two months we had an incredibly lustful sex life. Which I realize is normal and considered the "honey moon" phase in a relationship but I feel like he lost that spark somewhere with me. I'm his first relationship after a failed marriage, something we connected on because I got married right out of high school but we divorced in 2018 and I went on a dating spree shortly after. Many unhealthy abusive partners and not-so-consensual hook-ups. I did a year of celibacy for my own mental health while I went to therapy and continued to work on myself. I met my current partner when I wasn't looking for a relationship and fell very hard for him.

Two months into our relationship, after the rose colored glasses had slid down my face a little, I realized we'd never been on an actual date. We had gotten food a few times but everything felt so casual. I was okay with this because I really did feel like I had known him for a long time and wanted to just continue being happy with where I was. I asked him to take me out on dates and he'd simply tell me he sucked at planning things. So I tried to plan things for him and it became stressful because he really and truly just enjoys staying home and playing video games. A true home body. I accepted this and moved on from the idea. I even expressed major interest in gaming and bought a PC so I could game with him and have fun doing gaming together. So that's what we do when we hang out. I sit in my apartment and he sits at his and we talk on discord while playing video games.

Suddenly sex started to feel like a chore to him. Or at least that's how I perceived it. He started sneaking away to masturbate while I was at his place to hang out. He'd deny sex any time I asked or initiated and began to physically push me away or laugh nervously when I complimented or touched him. It made me feel very creepy. I backed all the way off and stopped touching or complimenting him and he just never brought it up again. (We would still cuddle and kiss one another if he was at my place for the night or if he was at his but I'm referring to sexual touching here\^)

When we do have sex it's usually when he wakes me up for sex after I've stayed the night and while I enjoy it, it also makes me sad because I feel like when he wakes me up for sex my mind still feels so sluggish and out of it. I still enjoy it because it's really the only time he seems to be interested in sex. The other issue is that he can't finish from PIV. Every time we have sex is always ends with us lying next to one another while he jerks himself off to finish. In the five months we've been together he has only ever finished from PIV twice. Once after a two hour sex session that was becoming so painful I was wishing for it to end and another time when I nearly collapsed from exhaustion from riding him for an hour straight without stopping.

I turned to this sub and read posts of similar situations and found he may have "death grip" syndrome and I brought this up to him after a week of feeling guilty for wanting to talk to him about this. When I told him about it he listened to me and we worked out a situation where he would refrain from jerking off for a week to help "reset" his sensation. On day three I asked him how he was feeling and he told me it was easy and that he "can actually control his urges unlike some people". The next day at work I asked him if he jerked off and he told me he did it because he was having horrible insomnia and was trying everything to fall asleep. I was hurt at first but understood and then we worked on another compromise where he would only jerk off once a week. This "agreement" was made three weeks ago and we have had sex only once since then... Three minutes into us having sex he stopped and said he was too tired to continue but kept reassuring me that this wasn't because of me and that he didn't want me to feel like it was my fault or any other thing. This was three days ago and we haven't spoken about it.

On top of me freaking out about us nearing a dead bedroom situation so early into our relationship I keep feeling like we probably don't belong together. I've tried so many things to connect him deeper with me and vice versa but our sense of humor is very different. We come from very different backgrounds. I was okay with this while getting to know him but I don't think we have a common ground. I see us better as friends sometimes and that hurts me to my core because aside form the sex stuff he has helped me a lot mentally and given me a new match to light my confidence with. He's understanding with me and I'm so thankful to have him in my life but I'm feeling very lost... I'm an incredibly passionate and emotional person and this is something he truly just doesn't understand about people. Slight disconnect. Like I said earlier, this really has been the healthiest relationship I've ever been in and I love him so much. My mind just keeps gravitating to the idea that I need to end things and I don't know how to handle or cope with these feelings.

Any advice is very welcome, thanks for reading all this <3

Fearful of a future "dead bedroom" relationship with new partner


Looking for some lube recommendations, my girlfreind usually uses Love Honey water based lube for handjobs but weve ran out and I'd like something for this weekend (don't wanna pay extra for next day delivery) so something I can pick up in a high street pharmacy like Boots would be great!

For those in the UK: What's your go-to Lube?


Backstory:- Couple weeks ago, my girlfriend basically confessed to me she was thinking about sleeping with other dudes. Initially I was hesitant but we agreed at 1 condition. She wouldn’t bring anyone at my place for sex or anything like that. She hasn't had sex with me or even gave me any blowjob or anything for that entire time. I'm quite okay with it cuz I was a little busy the entire time and masturbated every now and then.

"You wanna hear how today's session was!",  she said with a sort of seductive tone and smile. I knew she wasn’t in the best state of her mind and I was tired after a day of work but even then I said, "Yeah, sure."

And then she would go on to tell me her sexual experience in explicit details including how it felt inside her, the size of the other man's penis, how sex with him was different from sex with me, at what moment of sex and at which position she felt the greatest ecstasy etc.

All of that went on for several weeks and almost everyday she would tell me those stories. Sometimes romantic, sometimes rough, sometimes super passionate. Most of the days she would fall asleep before finishing a story, I'd carry her to bed and let her sleep. Sometimes we'd both fall asleep in the couch.

Now every night I returned home, I never saw her. She would arrive later but that night, she was home from the beginning AND SHE WAS MAKING DINNER.

I thought she was making dinner for somebody else because she never really made dinner for me in our entire time together. So I said in a calm but direct tone, "Honey! I told you... You can't invite them at my place if that's what you're doing."

"What? NO! It's for you. Come here. It's almost ready.", she gave me a kiss as she said.

After dinner, I sat down on my laptop to check some email.

"Do you love me?"

I thought that was a very odd question from her.

"Of course I do...what's up!", I genuinely smiled as I said that.

She pulled me closer and started kissing deeply. She hasn't done anything like that for a long time but that day I wasn't quite feeling it. So I gently pushed her back. She tried to kiss again..... and again until I said,
"Honey! I'm not in the mood today. Please!"

"What the fuck does that even mean?", she said. "Just go to bed, okay?  I'll be late." I said as I had some work related stuff.

By the time I went to bed, it was almost 2:00 AM but she was awake the whole time.

I was changing my underwear and preparing for bed and my face was at the opposite of the bed. When I turn around, she was right infront of me.

"Why are you ignoring me? Am I not the same person I used to be?", it seemed she was about to cry.

"Come here!", I hugged her tightly and kissed on her forehead.Idk why but I felt little bad for her but again I was too tired that night.

"What's wrong?  Why can't we just have some fun?", she insisted.

This time I felt a little impatient like she couldn’t understand I was tired af but kept wanting sex amyway.

"Do you even listen to what I say? Don't I deserve some rest? What do you want? What can I possibly give you? Romantic experience? affection? rough and hard? " I asked her a bit loudly but with a genuine intent. "What do you want?"

"Ok. Just tell me. I'll do my best.", I told her. If she wanted me to go down on her, I would even though I personally wouldn't enjoy that.

She gave a deep hug and invited me to cuddle in the bed. I followed her.

3 minutes in...out of nowhere she basically explodes with rage and starts punching me non-stop.

"What the fuck is wrong?", I say as I catch her hands. I see mild tears at the corner of her eyes but honestly I've no idea what wrong I've done.

I get up to go to the bathroom. She sprints infront of me and basically stares at me.

"You're gonna get someone hurt.", I say with a slightly concerned tone.

"YOU SELFISH ASSHOLE!", she screamed so hard I think it made the neighbours wake up as she landed that slap on my face.

It's been about 3 days since she's left my place and I haven't got any text reply from her. She isn't picking up the phone either. I don't care whatever the hell she's doing, I just hope she hasn't crashed her car or anything like that.

Girlfriend slapped me and called me a "Selfish Asshole" and basically left.


Alright, background for all this. Some time ago, the GF and I were in kind of a rough spot in our relationship. She was depressed and I couldn't really seem to help in any meaningful way, suffering from chronic pain, spent all of our time where we would be together sleeping instead, and when we would do something together, something miniscule (I asked where something was in the kitchen) would make her have a total meltdown, just crying nonstop for quite some time.

So no hobbies, no connections, and no quality time, which I think is my biggest need in a relationship.

Later, the GF has to go out of town for a week or so for work. At the same time, Andrew Fakenameington, a friend from one of my hobbies who also works in the same field as I do (one I am very passionate about), is having a rough spot in his relationship.

We hang out a few times, we do our hobby together, and he confides in me about his relationship basically falling apart. I comfort him like a good friend but I start to feel really attracted to him. Really really attracted to him.

I'm in a (except for this one spot) very happy relationship with a wonderful woman, and he at that point was also in a relationship so I do what I thought was the rational thing and keep my feelings to myself to wait for them to go away.

The GF arrives back from her trip, and I just wear my heart on my sleeve, I can't help it, so she knows something is wrong. She keeps asking over the course of a few days and I always say it's nothing, I'm just in a bad mood.

Finally she confronts me and knows I'm hiding something so I tell her I have feelings for Andrew and didn't know what to do about them. She was like "Oh, that's it? You could have just told me. You didn't have to hide it. As long as you don't want to leave me, we're good."

What an amazing woman. I go on as normal and keep waiting for my crush to go away, and it is still stressing me out after a while, so I decide to confess to Andrew. He is, of course, in a relationship, and lets me down gently. I never wanted to leave the beautiful relationship I have, I was just struggling with these feelings.

Fast forward a while and the GF is healing, we do things together now, and we both feel very connected to each other.

Enter once again Andrew. His girlfriend breaks up with him and kicks him out and now he's actually homeless, since my gf and I aren't horrible people, we offer to let him crash at our place while he looks for a new spot.

He spends the first while absolutely miserable so we make sure he's eating and drinking water, and let him confide in us.

Which apparently...worked pretty well? Cause he bounced back and became his usual upbeat self pretty quickly.

Which is when he started telling us about his Tinder exploits.

Discussing this in private, my GF and I decide, well, I think he's hot and haven't been with a man since my surgery (I'm trans), GF thinks he's hot and hasn't been with a man ever (she's cis). Why not offer to have sex with him in a safe environment with people he already trusts, rather than having to deal with strangers?

*Alright here's where the fun stuff starts*

We all got home from work last night and I initiated what was ostensibly a platonic cuddle pile. We move the cuddle pile to the bedroom, and he kisses me, and we're off to the races. GF is enjoying it, I'm enjoying it, he's in absolute heaven. Fun stuff.

Weird stuff: GF and I discussed that she wanted to see what being penetrated by a dick was like, for which we agreed we would need a condom. We did not have one, and Andrew is all riled up and starting to get it in there.

I try to remind them without killing the mood, I'm being funny about it, they're still going for it. I tell her "Be responsible" in the sexiest way possible (god I'm insufferable), they're still going for it. I remind her, pointedly this time "Honey, we talked about this." To which she responds "Just do it." And they keep going to town.

In Andrew's defense, he did put his dick inside me for a bit, but I was nervous and I've had a lot of revising surgery on my lady bits because the first one didn't go well, so it hurt and I needed him to go slow, which he couldn't do and hey, I know how testosterone is so it's whatever.

Anyway, he and my GF have a great time, he pulls out and finishes, GF hasn't yet, so I take over and do the rest for her.

So Andrew has had an orgasm, my GF has had an orgasm, so now it's my turn, except I still feel weird and out of the mood because of the lack of condom. Even worse my tummy is kind of upset so I didn't really want any penetration.

What I did want was some attention from Andrew. He wasn't like, ignoring me, and he repeatedly told me he thinks I'm beautiful, he was just fully occupied with having sex with my GF. But now since he's spent, he says he's absolutely done for the night. As soon as he has an orgasm, he can't do any more sexy things.

So I'm a little disappointed. My GF is an amazing woman and offers to finish me off but I decline cause by this point I was just in a weird mood.

I tell my GF that because she didn't listen to me and wait to have him inside her until we had a condom, she'll need emergency contraception. She agrees but wants *me* to go get it! I didn't even get to have an orgasm! Why do I have to go get it because *you* were irresponsible about it?!

And that's pretty much how the night ended. Overall, it was fun to get to be intimate with Andrew, but I was disappointed that my GF decided to have sex unprotected with him and that after he came, he wasn't interested in making me orgasm at all. I told them that I'd love to do this again (which we unanimously agreed on), but next time I want more attention from Andrew.

So to summarize, here are the weird feelings I'm left with:

I didn't get as much attention as I wanted

My GF had sex unprotected, even though we discussed beforehand that we would have him use a condom

My GF wants me to run out and get the emergency contraception even though I didn't even get to have an orgasm that night

And finally Andrew didn't seem at all interested in making me have an orgasm after he came

Sorry for the long post. Just needed to get that out. Definitely receptive to advice if you have any.

My GF and I (we're both women) had a threesome for the first time and I just have a lot of weird feelings about it


Our sex life has been really declining the last few years. It's now once every two weeks because of how disappointing it is and due to that gap my husband only last a few seconds. He doesnt do any self care on his own. It's like a viscous cycle of it being unsatisfying then not wanting it and it being unsatisfying again because of the gap.

The last time I initiated and he was playing with me, started rubbing outside of it, but was getting rough and it was becoming painful. I said "go inside" with his fingers to get him to stop with the rubbing and he thought I said to stop so he fully stopped touching and moved on to penetration.

He kept telling me things like "come on baby" to get me to orgasm but I had so much on my mind about if I didn't hurry up and fake it I knew what would happen. I didn't know he had already went and he was grunting in pain and growing soft trying to continue so I said "it's not going to happen, there's too much pressure, I'm sorry" and had him stop.

Then he did what I was fearing, he sat there and started rubbing his face when he's overthinking and said he can no longer please his wife, hes a failure, he doesnt know how to last longer (maybe condoms he said), he thinks I find him unattractive.. I tried explaining it was the pressure to hurry because he can't last long that did it for me. I should have faked it so he wouldn't feel this way. He always gets very self defeating about it. Sometimes he will ask what he can do better and I explain but it doesn't change.

We've had talk after talk that his hands can do it or his mouth but he wishes only his penis was the thing to do it. I've tried explaining penetration is hard to orgasm from unless you do it at the right angle, speed, there's a lot of factors. I've explain where the clitoris is and how important it is.. We've discussed using toys but he doesn't want me to have to depend on something everytime and something that can replace him because he can't vibrate and he feels he's small so I don't buy toys.

It makes me not even want to go through with it anymore. I love him but I hate this. This pressure to perform for him. It's either him making me try to have an orgasm or him not even trying and then saying "sorry you didn't get anything out of this" and never helping me fix it but then telling me days later "you think you would want to try again because you didn't get yours?" when I had already taken care of it solo..Usually I feel like he's waiting for me to say "its ok honey".

We've had talks about his immature way of asking for sex, how when he talks like a baby or child it turns me off because we have kids and that being romantic or into the kinky stuff I like has proven to work and that I respond to it.

Last night, same thing, it has been almost 2 weeks again and this is how he asked: He was spooning me and rubbed my hip a bit, then he rolled over on his back and said "everything hurts, my arms, back, legs, and penis" I stayed silent and went to sleep.

Advice for a 11 year married couple?


I love my wife a lot, but our views about sex are rather different.

She has LL and is fine doing it once or twice a week (this I can live with), but she also wants it to stay very simple and always the same: I massage her clit a little bit to start off, then condom on, missionary (while I keep touching her) and done (also, she's super quiet while climaxing). However she tells me she really enjoy it and is often her to start (I am more and more on the wait side, since every attempt by me never works).

Every time I try to kiss her during sex she stops me. After sex we never cuddle, she just run to the bathroom. She says she likes when I give her oral (and I love doing it!), but then I can't kiss her not even on the cheek and she often stops me anyway. Also, she hates giving oral, so the only two BJ I've ever received were 10/15 seconds max and with zero effort by her side. Any other position either she says no, or I can't physically do that while still using one hand to massage the clit (she won't do it by herself). She doesn't like cum either, so even handjobs are very rare and I can only end in the condom. Also, I can recover decently fast, when I finish earlier than her I become hard again in 1/2 minutes, but she would never go for a second round.

No sex in the morning during working days, no sex before going to bed because she's tired, no sex outside of bedroom (tried once in the shower during honey moon, didn't work at first, and she gave up), no sex in the middle of the day either because it's too hot now (or too cold in winter).

Sorry for the rant. Just, sometimes I would like her to be more passionate in bed.

I love my wife, but she's not passionate


This is a repost from r/sextoys but  i  thought  this  way  i  could  get  multiple  opinions  thank you!

Hi,

I really love when my girlfriend likes playing with herself so wanted to treat her, or at least help her buy rather than surprising her, a new sex toy. She has shown she’d be interested in getting a new one but we’re both a bit clueless about these things and I thought to come here to ask for your advice about different types of sex toys and what you would recommend. We are UK and pretty new to the world of sex toys - so far all she has is a small and quite cheap (£15) bullet from love honey.

A bit about our sex life: we are both students, aged 21 and dating around 3 years, so often in the holidays go a long time apart. When she is at home, she is often worried her parents might be able to hear her, but graduating this year she will be moving into her own house so that might not be an issue. When together, we are very good to each other; we both enjoy when I use my bullet on her and she really enjoys when I rub her g spot, though admittedly I think she has only cum once like that because she often says it makes her feel like she needs to pee and it makes her a bit uncomfortable (bonus: any tips on what I might be doing wrong here so she doesn’t need to pee?) We usually do PIV too, which she really enjoys, though I’m not the best at lasting a while (again, any tips?).

She has said in the past that she’d consider looking at a g spot vibrator - I’ve looked online and some people here recommend dildos or more curved things that don’t vibrate for better g spot stimulus. Alternatively, as her bullet is quite cheap I have wondered if she’d like a better vibrator for her clit - however, I reckon she’d rather have two toys that do different things while we’re still in quite an experimental and young phase. We’re both fairly vanilla so nothing too out there would appeal to us (or her in particular) really.

Out of interest, as students we are both fairly frugal and love good bang for your buck. She in particular likes saving, though I am happy to contribute some of the cost or all of it so hopefully as long as the toy is not too expensive it should be ok.

Sorry, I believe this has gotten a bit rambley. Essentially, I am stuck between whether to get:

* A better vibrator
* a g spot vibrator
* a realistic dildo (least likely as she said she’d rather just use my penis haha)
* a non realistic dildo (that reaches the g spot)
* something else

Importantly, this needs to be something she can use by herself to masturbate or with me to keep it exciting!

As I say, I am really new to this so if you might be able to help or have any questions, any advice is massively massively appreciated. I just want to make sure she gets to have as much fun in the bedroom as I do!!

Thank you so much in advance

Advice for a sex toy for my girlfriend to use alone and with me


i love giving head but i don’t wanna do it for super long and i usually don’t let him cum. in my eyes its kind of a foreplay warm up thing. but a lot of men want me to do it for sooooo long and let them cum in my mouth. like honey you can’t even find my clit and you give up after 5 mins why should i put my heart and soul into this when you’re gonna be inside me soon.

don’t get me wrong, i loveee giving head and i enjoy it i just don’t wanna do it for super long but i feel as if thats what men expect from me. i got a sensitive gag reflex so i can’t do it for too long without it being uncomfortable. am i overthinking? lol. just lmk.

do men except long bjs everytime?