Peter was meant to land in an hour! We’d been apart for most of this year, given the quarantine and all the closing of borders we couldn’t really just hop onto a plane and meet up for the weekend. Long-distance relationships aren’t particularly easy, but this year has definitely brought it up to a new level.

But now that New Year’s Eve was finally here I didn’t care much because finally, he was coming home. A night that I had been looking forward to for such a long time, and I planned to make it unforgettable. Since he had to stay in quarantine, I decided on having a cosy night in. Besides, both of us needed some serious catching up, especially in the bedroom.

I’d set out all the candles, rose petals and wine – when I had a better idea. Over the months, we’d been having phone sex continuously to make up for the lack of touch. I’d touch myself, bringing myself to orgasm over and over again as I’d hear him breathe heavily at the other end, on the brink of orgasm as well.

Peter loved it when I talked dirty to him and ordered him on what to do. I’d been getting better at being dominant and was secretly loving it. So why not put that into reality? Over the months, I’d bought numerous lingerie sets, one kinkier than the other. As I traced the lace bras and silk thongs, I uncovered the black leather set Peter had sent me, with a cheeky note.

The soft leather ensemble felt wonderful over my mound as I pulled it over my smooth skin. The corset encased my torso, bringing out my curves and the cups encased my breasts pushing them up and out. The set was complete with a studded choker necklace, elbow-high gloves, fishnet stockings and thigh-high fuck-me boots. Damn, I looked good!

As I laid out a few toys I was planning to use, I got a text – Peter was on his way! I put on my trench coat and wrapped it loosely around my waist. Fluffed up my hair, and painted my lips with a deep red colour matched up with a dark eye shadow. I was ready!

A knock on the door brought me back to my senses, and I quickly flung the door open and engulfed him in a passionate kiss. My chest filled up with excitement, and my entire body was raging with energy. I moved back to have a good look at him, but all I could see where his gorgeous eyes sparkling with delight as he surveyed my outfit quizzingly. A whistle came out of his tightly pierced lips as he caught a glimpse of my boots.

“*Stop that, get inside and sit down*” I ordered. Peter’s face was now flushed with surprise at the tone of my voice, but he happily obliged.  He walked straight into the living room and sat down on the first armchair that he found. I leaned in to kiss him again, long, hard and sensual. But nothing else, I broke away and stood up straight, shrugged off my trench coat and gave him time to devour my outfit.

His eyes went straight to my breasts, appreciating the soft curves that sat high on my corset. Peter’s breathing got heavier as his eyes ached, and his boner grew larger against his tight trousers. He reached out his hand to touch me, stroking my ass and cupping it tightly in his rough hands.

Peter started to mumble but all he got out was “I missed you so much” before pressing my fingers on his lips to clamp his mouth shut.

“*I’m in charge tonight*” I growled.

I pinned his arms behind him and held them steadily in place with a pair of handcuffs. Then as Peter inhaled sharply, I strutted to face him forcing his knees open. I lowered myself to kneel in between his legs and watched as his bulge grew thicker. My hands squeezed him through the fabric and ran up and down its growing and hardening girth.

Straddling him, I ground his pelvis against my crotch, pulling his face up to mine as I kissed him slowly, biting his lip, forcing his tongue to meet mine as I pulled on his hair.  Breaking away, I heard him groan. I pressed myself harder into him, my hips pushing into his, my wet snatch insistent onto his hard boner.

Peter took his time to admire me while I wiggled myself backwards, giving him a great view of my body. I watched the hunger growing delightfully in his eyes and I reached out for the blindfold. I placed it over his eyes and wrapped it tightly behind his head, showing him whos in control. Then I stood up and made my way behind him, leaned over and felt his tensing chest through his chest.

I popped off his buttons and opened his shirt to reveal his chiselled body, lightly hairy at the chest and under his navel. I toyed with his nipples and watched him twitch and moan with a longing desire. Then as I found myself in front of him again, I took the time to kiss and lick his chest. Slowly making my way down to his abdomen planting small kisses and kicks until I could hear him whimper and pulling against the handcuffs.

My fingers kept pulling at the corset until I revealed my hard nipples. Bringing one to his face, I instructed him to suck me, nibble my nipple slowly. Blindly he engulfed my nipple, biting lightly and sucking on my taut breast. Bringing my other nipple to his mouth, he repeated his excited engorgement, licking around my nipples and sucking on them aggressively.

A soft moan escaped through my lips as he gorged my breasts. Peter’s nips sent shocks down my entire body into my core, resulting in warm wetness between my thighs. Pulling my breast away, I turned around, bent down and instructed him to worship me with his mouth, and that he did.

He started off kissing every inch of my cheeks, desperately searching for his prize. My pussy lips felt a tingle as he started licking gently. I pushed my ass into his face, and he pressed his mouth further into me, plunging his tongue inside as far as he could. My legs were shivering, but I steadied myself with the table and spread my cheeks out, enabling him to completely devour me.

The sensations of his licking and sucking melted, forming into an ultimate pleasure edging me closer to my first orgasm. And as Peter continued to nip his teeth at my clit as sense of relief came over me, moaning out an orgasm I’d been waiting for in months.

I straightened up, turning around to see his face drenched in my juices, oblivious to what I was going to do next. Kneeling down, I undid his trousers, shimmied them down his thighs, together with his boxers, revealing his magnificent boner. His head was shining, and as I took him in my mouth, I tasted his pre-cum. Peter moaned as I ran my tongue up and down his shaft, sucking lightly at his swollen head then taking him again as far as I could.

Peter moaned and thrust his hips upwards, driving his cock further into my mouth. I knew he was on the verge of cumming, wanting it so desperately, but I wanted more. Standing up, I straddled him quickly, guided his dick into me, and lowered myself onto him. Pistoning my hips up and down, I rode him, gleefully hearing his breath quickening rapidly, begging me to untie his hands. I took off his blindfold and planted a long kiss on his lips as I continued grinding him.

Directing his cock to hit me at all angles and paying attention to brush against my mound so that I could cum again. I increased my pace, unavoidably giving Peter what he needed. As I sensed his excitement, I increased my motion to a violent pace, wanting to fuck his brains out, and he soon came, shouting and moaning out as his load shot across my thigh.

Getting up, I unlocked his handcuffs, hopped onto the table and instructed him to make me cum again. Thrusting his fingers inside my soaking wet pussy, he started pumping them, making sure he did what he knew would make me come. I shuddered as his fingers pistoned inside me and felt myself ready to cum soon.

As I came, Peter knelt down as instructed and lapped up my juices, sucking at my clit and my labia, taking in every part of me. Finally, he stood up and made his way to my lips, engulfing me in a kiss.

My phone rang, an alarm declaring it was midnight. “*Happy New Year babe, and welcome home!”*

*\~ Ps. If you enjoyed reading that make sure to checkout my blog NinaLessi, there's a bunch of other stories waiting to be read <3*

*\~ Love Nina, xoxo*

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Interesting, I’ve never heard of this before but it seems like a compelling idea. Looks like it kind of grabs on to the head of your penis and does a quick push/pull motion. I can see how that would give you more internal stimulation for your prostate.

I’m also interested if anyone has some first hand experiences with this.


Bought it yesterday, and already tried it a few times. It’s actually great! On the higher speeds you can really feel it back there


thanks for the update.


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Haven’t tried it. Looks like  hyped up attachment to a massage gun


Not available in the states and only Norway it seems at the moment.  Web page leaves a lot of questions unanswered.


u/RodRowdie Yes, I saw it at Nytelse and Kondomeriet.
But they also offer it in Germany at Amorelie and in the Netherlands at Easytoys. They even talked about it on Dutch National Television XD [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JzOV-0gWmKA](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JzOV-0gWmKA)


I found one website that looks like it'll deliver it to the states but who knows if it would work or just get denied and return your money back


Per my reply to your comment on my post recently, I watch out for things that try to combine suction as well as thrust.  I have yet to find something like that which actually doesn't break it's mechanics if you try to stop the whole unit from thrusting.  Broken a thing or so that claimed these things, and some, 1st day.


Update: Friend of mine who I trust and is no bullshit bought it and said it was a 11/10 so I decided to buy it and try it out. Will update and let you know. (will not be delivered until after Christmas is over and people are back to work).


Okay so I received the Xtensity and had a chance to try it.

It does it's job as advertised. It really creates a vacuum and works well. It comes with 5 different size cups and a massage ball to use the Xstensity as a massager.

It has 7 power levels, level 1 is extremely quiet, but lvl 7 is kind of loud..

Due to circumstances, I had to be a bit discreet and only ran it at power level 1-3, but even that was enough to make me finish.

I'm happy with the product.


Hi I just ordered one so looking forward to trying it out. How are you still finding it? Do you use lube with it?


It makes me cum if i want to or not... i haven't used lube.


Did you get it already? What’s your thoughts?


Yes i got it just over a week ago. It took me a few goes to figure it out but I do like it. It’s hard to explain as it’s not like any toy I have tried before the more I have used it the better it seems to get. If you like intense vibration it’s great


Thanks for sharing!
Still sitting on the fence…


you have to keep holding it all the time which seems to reduce some fun


The internet will solve that. too many 3d printing pervs out there :)


How can i used it handsfree?


You can't, you kind of need to control it to make sure the vacuum suction stays in place.


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Got one yesterday and I would say it's very great if you want somthing new, settings 1-3 Is more of a test setting didn't really feel anything but 4 and up is where you feel the sensation and it starts to feel good. First time use took some time to get everything to fit good but when its on and running you get a euphoric feeling and just focus on the feeling.


thanks for the feedback


any after 1 month still happy?


Yep still happy with the purchase, its easy to clean and gives a great orgasm each time.


Do you used lube for the Xtensity? and it's not handsfree


I don't use it with lube


i just ordered this and tried it but im wondering, are you supposed to cum in it? theres no space for it really since its in a vacuum, when i did, i didnt come much and some of it came out of the lil ventilation thingy. Kinda makes me feel like alot of the built up cum didnt come out, which i dont think is good but idk


It’s extremely good.


How good is it compared to an arcwave ion or some other automatic masturbator?


I can't compare with an Arcwave but I have a Handy, it's just not comparible, the xtensity1 is a whole different league, while the normal masturbators like a handy feel more natural, like it's trying to replicate the real thing. The Xtensity1 feels unnatural, especially the first few times, it shakes everything including the bones and prostate like a milkshake and then the milk will shoot from the balls, it's quite intensive actually. But for me it took some time to enjoy it and getting relaxed with it.


Got one of these yesterday, Make sure the cup fits your tip tightly, instuctions say no air gaps or chaffing may occur. It has no suction motor and the only suction is provided is the cap and rubber sleeve . you push the air out using a one way valve, Its designed to clamp on to your tip firmly, but not painfull. The vibration unit is just that, It oscillates between 500 and 2400 rpm at a depth of 7 mm, Because its clamped firmly to your tip it causes vibrations all the way down your penis "bone" and deep in to your body, It has 7 levels. 1 to 3 are mild, 4 and 5 made me cum in less than 3 minutes, 5 and 6 are too much for me at the moment. The orgasm was good and feels a little like its being sucked out of you in a pleasent way. Easy to clean but makes a mess through the one way valve when you cum. only tried it once so far and was suprised how easi;y it make me cum, i have other toys such as the solace and strokers.


Any new updates from anyone?
Looks interesting


Check usage
https://www.reddit.com/r/xtensitymasturbator/s/bMDgAA3dYB


Seems like it could be just like the archwave ion... not sure if I should get it or not...


The site does not recommend using beyond 10 mins. Anyone have experience of using for prolonged periods. I’m guessing edging’s not possible?


it will be very hard to edge, maybe if you run it at low speeds, but then you don't really get the full effect. the machine makes you cum fast if you want to or not at higher speeds. I usually start at lower speeds, go to higher speeds then lower speeds again.


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Adam and Eve packaging is discreet. All sex toy packaging is discreet.


It's totally a good choice.   You will be fine.  Enjoy!


I've ordered off Amazon too.


Yes, your feelings are natural, cos they're your feelings. Just like any other part of your finances, set yourself a budget and stick to it. Save up for bigger purchases etc. There is nothing new under this moon that you can say to your therapist that will change how they feel about you. But holding back something important will make their job harder and your benefit from the sessions will deteriorate. All online sites are discreet as they wouldn't get much repeat business otherwise. They will use alternative business names for return addresses etc.


First literally any purchase I make that’s something for myself like a treat I always feel like I have to justify it or I’ll have it in my cart for months I always have anxiety when buying something for myself or some kind of guilt I think it’s from just growing up not totally poor but definitely not rich and making every dollar count.

As for therapy that’s completely up to you. If you don’t want to then don’t. Honestly a post here is a great start. If down the road you feel like you have to then absolutely. Being open and talking about sex is hard but it absolutely gets easier if that’s something you want. With what you are experiencing is experienced by many others. There’s even sex therapists out there. There’s a podcast called “sex with Emily” I’ve learned a lot from her. She has a website and social media all under that name look into her. Main thing is take it slow and easy and research.

Any website that you’d buy sex related anything is discreet. Even Amazon. It’s usually boxed up no labels never saying what is inside and then packaged in bags usually not clear. I’ve never ordered from Adam and Eve but it’s always discreet.

Hope this helps😊


3. Adam and Eve is okay. Amazon can be horrible if they decide to ship it in a poly bag. Things like Dildos are obvious. Shevibe is my go to toy store, and is very LGBTQ+ friendly and VERY discrete.


Shevibe has been my go-to for dozens of purchases. I've never been disappointed. I've bought from a ton of other places, Adam and Eve included, but keep going back to shevibe because I know I'm going to get a good price on a good product that's shipped discretely. Also, for some reason it feels less... Seedy? Buying from them because of their branding and stuff. Like it's less perverse and more sex-positive and non-judgemental.


100% agree. Also really good dildo selector. The web site is just really well throught out by people actually interested in matching toys to people.


We appreciate you! Thank you so much! ☺


We appreciate the feedback! Thank you so much for the positive comments! 🤩


No shame whatsoever! Sex toys can be lifesavers. I love lovense the most. The Flexor is my fav, but does have a portion that's inserted. But it's not in/out penetration, it just fits in/on you in a U shape and stays in place while you operate it via phone app. Super discreet packaging


You don’t have to justify buying a toy at all! Consider it an investment in your self care :)
But you can also filter pricing if that’s a concern! In regard to talking to your therapist, you can totally keep it private. But given your history, perhaps talking about it could be helpful. I hear Adam and Eve is discreet, but they have somewhat mixed reviews regarding their pricing/products I think. I recently ordered stuff from lovehoney.com and I found this random could “BBMELISSA20” for 20% off if your interested! Happy shopping wherever you buy :)


Go to the post office, setup your own PO Box, have it shipped there.  Go in and pick up and enjoy


Ive ordered many from them.  Its a white plastic mailer with no major identification on it.  They dont have the best toys..but on occasion they have good deals and sales.  They ship out of...hmm I want to say north or south Carolina.  It takes about 2 or 3 weeks to get to the west coast.

Honestly..order off Amazon.  Its easy and you can then hide your purchase or make it private.  Unless you have a fam account.  Then get a private acct..youre an adult.  Or..goto a sex toy store.  Just dont go to a creepy seedy place.  Adam and eve brick and mortar stores are classy and helpful.


a lot of female adam and eve toys are actually not safe! since this is your first time i suggest linking them so i can help you double check!


Thank you! I’ll make sure I can link em! \^\^


Dildo is unsafe. tpr is not safe for vaginal usage or anal.
I wouldnt personally buy any insertables off of Adam and eve unless I knew the brand well which is a small percentage of their dildos.


Thanks for the feedback. What are materials or products would you recommend instead for safe vaginal or anal use?


Silicone, non plated stainless steel, and proper treated glass.

I only buy silicone (softer) and try to stick to trusted brands as many just lie about the safety of their silicone or if its even silicone.


Get a po box or ship to a friends house


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Dude this is a question for the website,  not the sex sub!


sorry dude, no where else is giving an answer


You can’t just ship random things to the UPS store. I think they have a PO Box service where you’d get an address there. And also some merchants give it as an option when you’re checking out. If it’s not either of those I don’t think you can do it.


I have done this. Make sure the UPS store accepts packages like this. I entered the UPS Store's address in the shipping address section of the checkout process.

I also sent the UPS Store  to expect a package for <your name>. If the UPS Store provides this serive its like $5-10 to pickup.


R/diysiliconetoys


If there's anyone on the fence, I would urge them to take a look at other suction toys as an alternative - the way that Nancy have spent so much money on social media marketing and make marketing claims such as 'after a week your puffy face will be gone' doesn't sit right with me. They toys are fine, they're cute, but they're nothing special.


I’ve used Love Honey before. Good quality stuff at solid prices.


😆 Amazon and Adam and Eve


Maybe you should read the whole post


I've had good luck with lovehoney.

I'd recommend tantus and vixskin, definitely platinum cured silicone.


>tantus and vixskin

Brands?


Yeah, the Vixskin mustang is a fave.

Basically, there's 2 materials they can make the moulds for these dildos out of when dealing with silicone. Platinum, or Lead...


I like bellesa and wildflowersex.


What's wrong with Amazon?


You cant trust the materials they state its made out of.


You can find lots of good stuff on Amazon but since they’re not a dedicated sex shop, you really never know what you’re getting. It’s better to order from a reputable sex you vendor that can actually curate their inventory and only provide quality items.


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Bad dragons are made of really solid material while also have a great suction base. Only sex toy company i know of that lets you decide the firmness of the toy you want.

If the *cough cough* exotic options arent to your tastes they have regualer ones as well.


Hahaha.  This is what I was gonna say too.  They have normal ones I SWEAR!!  😂😂😂


You'd be surprised what Amazon has to offer in the way of sex toys.


John Thomas Toys
Mr. Harley’s toys
Peepshow toys
Allnight toys
Sinnovator


Pink Cherry is great


EdenFantasys dot com Is a very good site, very underrated. They provide lots of details about each of the products they sell including the material type, show you how big it’ll be in real life, body safeness, and even some very informative video reviews. I try to support my local sex shop but when I choose to buy online, I go here.


Nice 👍

Apparently platinum silicone matters? That's a new one to me.


Peepshow only sells body safe toys


honestly, from the product pictures on the website, I don't understand how it can be used with partner. it looks quite big and some parts, I don't understand where it goes


Hi, thanks for asking! It’s worn a bit like the front panel of a bikini, it sits over the triangle area in front. The lowest part of it is the vibrating section, which presses against the clitoris. That way the vaginal entrance below stays uncovered, so it can still be used comfortably with a partner.


I've checked the second time and I'm probably referring to dettachable egg set. And since it's named dettachable, it's probably optional, lol


Yeah, exactly, the egg part is detachable, fun for solo, totally optional with a partner.


Hands-free vibes are underrated. With the UEROS, the build-up feels natural and the orgasm hits harder since you’re not distracted by holding anything, definitely recommended


Totally. Hands-free isn’t just a perk for me (ADHD brain), it’s necessity, 😂 as my attention span is already in shambles.


I was accidentally kink shamed for liking anal play and took years before I said fuck it and added toys to an order...so glad I did!


And I'm glad for you!!! :)


Very common for males. It has to do with homophobia I think and also misogyny as it's seen as feminine to be penetrated as a man and that is seen as degrading and 'lower'. It's depressing how widespread this is.


She just didn't understand why anyone would want to have anal sex at all. Previous partners have been more open with it.


Same. So glad I got over that. Best part of my week is when I have some 420 and my Lovense edge 2 going


Damn OP, sounds like your ex did you a firm solid by sticking it to someone else, now you actually know what you were missing! Be grateful he’s gone. Use that new toy to REALLY get to know yourself, NO SHAME. Then lay back and enjoy the ride, knowing that a Goddess NEVER chases her lovers, she MAGNETIZES them to herself 🌹


💜 YES!!!!!


Thank you!! He really did me a solid by doing that, I hear that a lot these days. ;D


There's a lot of cheating nowadays, for multiple reasons I think:
\-Porn (people who watch it report twice the amount of cheating, couples who watch it together report 3x more cheating (1)).
\-Low risk of pregnancy and STDs (this is a good thing of course).
\-Dating apps, social media and the internet in general which make it super easy and give the image of endless possibilites.
\-Lack of commitment. I can't find the article, but someone analyzed dating advice on reddit over the years and the 'work through it, get couple therapy' kinda advice went down through the years and the 'break up' (after which you can find someone else) went up.
\-Normalization and justification of cheating (through porn for example, but also the discussion about it.

(1)https://fightthenewdrug.org/fast-facts


I am happy to hear you made that step! The wild thing about sex toys is that, for women, is how much variety there is. Not just speed/power, but how they work and the outer and inner parts of your pussy. Don't be afraid to explore! In about 3 - 6 months I hope you will have a new purchase of a very different type of vibe/toy and can share how you feel about that as wel!


If you are more comfortable around women try having sex with women instead of a man. Being relaxed, and confident has more to do about good sex than the idealized partner.


I swing both ways! :D But haven't been with a woman in years, because of my last relationship.


What toy was it


A rabbit, can't name the specifick brand right now off the top of my head, but I can send it later!!!


I bought this one: Lovetoy Vibrator O-Sensual Clit Duo Climax. But let me be clear that this is my first one, so there is probably better ones out there. But I did read up on how to get the best use out of one before I tried it. ;D


Your ex brought porn expectations, you brought the rabbit, and somehow you still won. 🌹 Congrats!


Wonderful way to put it! 🫶🏼


This makes me smile sooo big!! Please, always remember that there isn’t anything wrong with exploring yourself, there’s absolutely no shame in desiring to discover your own personal pleasure.
Have fun, be safe, learn who you are through experimenting. And if that means that going solo is what works, go for it! Never force yourself into anything that doesn’t feel right.
Enjoy the journey!!


Thank you! ❤


I am really happy for you. That’s freaking awesome. And, congratulations to you for working past shame to pursue what you actually want. There are thousands of moments of pleasure in your future because you did something difficult.


Which rabbit to be exact?


Congratulations, I am proud of you and now time to add more and more lol. I doll could be fun sadly expensive but fun, time to get a fucking machine maybe to so you can get railed when ever. Best of fun and plenty of orgasms to come for you


I would love to get a fucking machine that I could pass off as exercise equipment if someone comes over. Is that stupid?


Not at all


Congrats.  Just know that not all men are like that.  And plenty of men would love to have the privilege of using that rabbit (and more) on you.

Find a sexual partner that is more interested in their partners needs/wants than their own.  It makes for a much more interesting relationship, and has kept mine and my wifes happy for 15 years and counting.


Thank you!! I wish the best for you and your wife!! You are lucky to have each other!! :)


Why not share what you purchased? You sold me on this toy tbh 😂


Good on you, really happy for you. You're lucky, some people go through life without these types of discoveries.


I want to add toys but I have never ever used one and I'm so unsure and unclear what to buy what to look for. Don't know what I'm supposed to be looking for


I'm not expert, there are probably people here who would be better ar giving advice. But I kinda already had the sense of what I like in general from my previous experiences with sex, so I looked through what could satisfy those craving. I've seen a lot of advice to start with smaller things, so maybe for the beginning that would be a good starting point. You can also browse through the selections of online stores, that's what I did. You got this!!!


I unfortunately live in a country where I'm not even sure it'll be allowed to get something like that shipped from abroad. Thank you so much for your response


I shipped from a store that is in my country, however I can't speak for different countries. I know it is a lot easier to get stuff in the US, but I myself am not from there, so I only had like 3 shops to look at, which is probably more than other places have. I hope one day you get to try something!!


Absolutely, and you don't have to feel ashamed about it. Enjoy it, you only live once.
But believe me when I say there are also men who can ambarras that toy. Especially those who love cunulingus.


Exploring yourself is so much fun. You need to find someone that loves to see your eyes roll. Getting a women off is so amazing to me. I’m always trying to push or explore something they may or may not like. But when you find something specific take note.


[https://www.betterallin.com/collections/1-30%E9%80%89%E6%8E%A8%E5%93%81/products/heated-telescopic-vibrator-female-masturbation-stick-adult-products-toys-sex-products-female-masturbation](https://www.betterallin.com/collections/1-30%E9%80%89%E6%8E%A8%E5%93%81/products/heated-telescopic-vibrator-female-masturbation-stick-adult-products-toys-sex-products-female-masturbation)I've tried this, and it's great in the winter.


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Get a Post Office box for your private mail.


This is a great idea!!


What exactly would you like to order? What are your concerns?


They will spam your email but nothing physical.


When I rode my bike across America i had stuff shipped general delivery. You just go to post office and pick it up.
https://faq..com/s/article/What-is-General-Delivery


Get a P.O. Box if possible and just make sure you aren’t subscribed to anything that involves mailing to your address.


Buy from Amazon as it will arrive being from them and not AE.


Buy from Amazon and have it delivered to a locker


Don’t buy from Amazon


If getting a PO Box is not possible then consider buying it near a gift giving holiday then tell your mom that you ordered a gift for her and no peeking. Amazon also sells toys if that is an option where you live.. 🤷


Put a hold on your mail with the post office.  Then go pick up your packages


I'd give yourself a few days to heal up first. You don't get bonus points for powering through a torn up ass. Next time, take your time warming up and absolutely drown that thing in lube! Trust me, your future self will appreciate it 😅


Thanks for the tips.  You're absolutely right about giving myself time to heal.  I took it that rough because I miss fucking myself and like I said, I was used to very large toys. I'm not going to get any bigger than what I already have. 2 inch diameter is what I wasn't to stay at.


Tearing will make you less able to take large toys in the future; scar tissue doesn't stretch well. Take care of that ass. (Butt congratulations!)
Enjoy responsibly!


why would you need to get rid of it becaus eof someone else living with you...and ive never bled like that...and i take XL dildos. you have other issues going on inside if it bled that much from a dildo.


Honestly, we love our [Liberator Esse](https://www.gopjn.com/t/8-13021-208515-371668?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.liberator.com%2Fproducts%2Fesse-tantric-chair), which we've had for like four or five years now. I'm 5'4, and he's quite a bit taller, and we've made great use of this chair. The cover has been removed, washed, and put back on many times.

[We also have a Flip Ramp](https://www.pntrs.com/t/8-13021-208515-371668?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.liberator.com%2Fproducts%2Fflip-ramp-with-removable-cover), and it's held up nicely, though we added that about two years ago. This has been great for sex on the edge of the bed, when he's standing. Doggy style with this is great too. This one, due to the angles we're both at, has contributed to me squirting on a few occasions...and again we've removed the cover, washed it, and put it back on without any issue.

The Tantra Chair looks very nice, though I'm not sure how much better it's going to be than some of the Liberators I've used and seen.

Have you used a pillow before?


We have not used a wedge or pillow before. Definitely something looking into. I was hoping to put the chair in our office since we have little kids always seems one of them is in the bed with us 😂

It’s good to hear from someone that has used one.
Just seems really hard to find reviews on these chairs


We've been able to keep our Esse covered. I'm handy with a sewing machine, so I created a cover that, with the other pillows we have, makes it look like a footstool-like bench. It's not pretty, but it works. We have 4 of our own, so we would rather they not climb on it. Kids would find it to be fun, and we'd like to keep that kind of fun all to ourselves.

Reviews are hard to find, for sure. We never reviewed ours because it's not really something many people spend on, unlike some of the toys we've shared reviews on. This does make me want to create a review for the Flip Ramp, though. For a long time, we recommended that people get orthopedic pillows if they wanted something to use during sex, but the value in Liberator's items is real. They've held up nicely after quite a bit of use, and they clean up MUCH easier than some of the back and hip pillows we've tried for the same reason. Liberator also has better covers; they feel luxurious, whereas some of the ortho pillows we use are mealy or they're rough.


Can I recommend first reading [my post for people new to anal play](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/comments/1gs7hk1/are_you_new_to_anal_play_some_info_and_tips/). It answers many of the questions that beginners have. After reading it, if you have further questions, please don't hesitate to ask.


Thank a lot of my question have been answered. Around what price range would be a dildo you would recommend?


Prices really vary. You can find good quality dildos anywhere from around $30 to well over $100. The material that it is made of is much more important than the price. I go into further detail about that in [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/ButtplugEveryday/comments/1mwqksy/silicone_sex_toy_safety_common_misconceptions/).


Start small. Like fingers then get plugs and then smaller dildos. Max 6 inches. Some people stop there to train for real dick. Some people go further because we like the feeling. But DO NOT PUSH YOURSELF BEYOND YOUR LIMITS. IT WILL CAUSE DAMAGE.


Also. Lube. Lots of it. More than you think you need.


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the way i was able to finally finish during sex was just grinding on top. i had to play dj and get used to not always being in the same position when i do play dj and being better at different dj techniques lol


Do you face your partner or are you in reverse? And how did you grind to make it feel good for you if you don’t mind me asking 🙈


sorry it’s a long read lol. i think it’s easier to do it while facing him. also, sometimes he might need to bring his legs closer together (or maybe even spread them). ik it sounds weird but it helps so he also needs to do some adjustments. most of the time it’s easier for me when his legs are closer together so that it’s more comfortable on my hips and allow better clit stim. now with riding, i usually will have one hand on his chest and one hand on his thigh while he grips my waist with both hands helping to push back and forth. but whenever i get close i move his hands to my breast ( very sensitive and helps me). but i will also put both of my hands on his chest sometimes too.


not to be tmi…. but do you dj? i found that it’s easiest to start from there and then figure out what you like


I’ve tried but I guess I’m used to the intensity of my vibrator vs my fingers and have grown accustomed to it. My body is very like wishy washy with what sensations will feel good in the moment so I try to just follow it. I will try it your way ! Thanks for the tips


when i first started i always had to use my hand to finish even when i was with him but eventually you find what tempo and rhythm that you like and that will get you there


Very true, I’m still trying to find my tempo and find what works I just need to stop being in my head lol


Maybe take a break from using your vibrators for a bit and see whether it increases your sensitivity to other stimulation. I had a very hard time making my gf cum for years but what finally did it was really long, intense oral with a finger or two working her ass. She needs clit stim to come from penetration that she uses her fingers for.

It's different though cos she's never really been a fan of vibration and always just used her hands on herself.


Hmmm this sounds like something I might want to try ! Thanks. And yeah I’ll give my hands another try, it feels good I’ve just been used to the intensity of my vibrator, I’ll start slow and sensual


It's a weird one cos a vibrator really can be the ticket some women need to orgasm. It's way better than not being able to orgasm at all. I guess the problem comes when it's the only way you can get off and then a mouth or hands can't necessarily compete with a vibe.

You hear a lot about 'death grip' and problematic porn use when men have problems with orgasm. I'm not really likening it to that, but I would say that you've potentially become solely reliant on the intensity a vibrator can give that you may be a little desensitised to other forms of stimulation.

I will admit, as a dude it can be really difficult to feel like you're not the one that's actually able to get their partner off. You can develop a complex when it's the vibrator doing all the work so it's worth exploring other options, specifically oral.


Head over to the straightpegging, prostateplay, aneros, and mindgasm communities and ask.


This 100%!


Ja też chętnie popiszę z kimś doświadczonym, od jakiegoś czasu bawię się swoim tyłkiem poznaje swoje punkty i chciałbym się poradzić


Dm me if you want to chat about toys :)


I'm a huge fan of my [Helix Syn V](https://www.aneros.com/products/helix-syn-v?bg_ref=I0uySyCX92) simply because its so comfortable to wear for longer sessions, and I feel that the longer I have my toy in, the more pleasure I get from it. I haven't used a thrusting toy yet, but I've worn a few plugs for longer periods, and I think that's my jam. I've been playing with [Billy 2 from LELO](https://www.liberator.com/products/lelo-billy-2-prostate-massager?sca_ref=11849700.zCJOpl9hEpxWfYvm) and it's been great, but I think I like a bit of hands-free when it comes to prostate toys.

I think both Billy and Helix are available for under $100, Billy was more expensive when I picked it up, so check for sales and sign up for coupons and such before you buy anywhere to make sure you're getting the best price.

More than anything, with prostate play, I've found that time is your friend. The first time my wife gave me a blowjob with the Helix Syn V in, I'd been playing for about twenty minutes already, and then she joined me. She then started using her hand and then incorporated oral, and by the time I had a penis orgasm, I'd been riding this wave of prostate orgasms for like twenty-five minutes or so.

Hope that helps a bit, I'm not an expert by any means, but I'm a huge fan of prostate play and wish I'd found it sooner.


sounds like you're having more fun than my tits on a saturday night 😉 (snαp: charlioiserene).


En lugar de bolsas plásticas usa algún paño suave porque si lo guardas en una bolsa de plástico y no lo secas puede crear hongos.


The bags I have are cloth a sort of see through cloth I think they might be solid but they also might be mesh? Would that mess with the toy?


MRL has some TPE but mostly silicone, do you know which you bought?

I noticed my cloth bags have stained the flesh color of my TPR toy I assume it would be the same with TPE. Cloth seems fine for silicone afaik, but satin bags are easier to deal with imo, since the toy won't stick to it as easily.


I’ve check it’s a TPE material so should I buy a stain bag? Or should I look for alternative storage?


I think satin bags are fine but im not 100% sure.
My only TPE now are fleshlights and I keep them in their hard plastic case. If you can find a hard plastic box that will work. But I think a satin bag will work fine


Thanks for the advice I’ll look around and see if I have any on hand just in case. If you know what are some textures or storage items I should avoid?


soft TPE and TPR will mold to the shape of textured material overtime. When I dry my toys on a cloth towel the print will appear for a while but does go away. I imagine if you store it on a mesh or textured material it will be there when you use it.


Would. Cardboard box or gift box meds with the texture or encourage mold growth?


i think it will be fine. you should dry it proper before putting it away tho


My experience has been that moisture is your enemy. Whether it is smells or bacteria (yikes) or just grime, moisture is where it begins, so I would avoid ziplock bags unless you live in a high-humidity climate.

One material I found helpful was basketry - particularly something with a lid. The open weave allows airflow while the rigid structure avoided what u/Traditional-Crew-715 mentioned about shape. If you can find a wine basket or small picnic basket, they worked well to keep toys protected and out of sight. Just be sure to clean it periodically and avoid spills!


Sigh. Shouldn't be using TPE toys. Look it up on this sub or in the links at the top of the sub if you want to learn about the regulated sex toy market and what to look out for.


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Thank you for the DM’s. My biggest question here was around coupon codes. They’re moving away from them and doing more sales, so the 30% off for now is instead of doing 20% off and then adding another coupon after.


Love my Thunderstick from Extreme restraints!


Do you recommend the lange or small one?


Large.

https://www.extremerestraints.com/products/thunderstick-pro-silicone-wand-massager?variant=48914801230115&\_pos=2&\_sid=b3f5ea68b&\_ss=r


I have an original Hitachi wand which is wonderful, I also have a couple of smaller cordless mini wands that are very good too. I'd take a good look at the customer reviews before you commit to purchasing one that way yiu have an idea of how well it works etc. 🌺


I have a round up of the [best magic wands I've tried here](https://sextoyreviews.uk/best-magic-wand-vibrators-uk/). My favourite is the [Lovense Domi 2 (review here)](https://sextoyreviews.uk/lovense-domi-2-wand-review/) which is compact, rechargeable and very very intense with great rumbly vibrations.


Is it 1lso good to use as a couple?


Yes, that's when we use it. The vibrations travel far so either of us can drive and it won't miss the spot!


Perfect! Thanks for the good advice.


Happy to help if you have any questions 😊


Idk if you have any experience with penis sleeves (not to enlarge but to widen) been looking to get one for use but I have absolutely no club if it's worth it


I'm afraid I don't - unfortunately there are quite a few sex toys we just can't test. I'm sure somebody else will be able to help you on here though!


Okay, again thank you for all your kindjes and help :)


Corded ones are the best, we have have battery one and it would take hours to fully charge and it would turn off randomly when we forgot to charge. Recently purchased Doxy Die Cast and it is perfect


A big one with a cord


She will love Johnny. Its squishy but very filling. One of the best on the market.


**toy brand is funzze - I misspelled it! 🤦


My wife and I had fallen into a routine, so I started putting in real effort to bring back excitement and connection. Here’s what I’ve done and the positive results so far:

•  Sexy fantasy notes: Detailed, explicit erotic stories I write and leave for her. She loves them.

•  Appreciation notes: Short, sincere messages highlighting what I love about her and why I’m grateful.

•  Interactive notes: Multi-part fantasies with choose-your-own-adventure options.

•  Surprise box: Bought a vibrator and red thong, wrote a custom story featuring them, and hid everything in a box for her to find. She was excited and used it right away.

•  Babeland gift card: Gave her a gift card to the sex store so she could order more toys she wanted.

•  Weekend getaway: Planned a trip and gave her a menu of choices (location, hotel, activities, dinner). I also rented her a dress from Rent the Runway.

•  Fitness progress: Lost weight and built muscle. The confidence boost is noticeable.

•  Helping at home: Stepping up with chores to reduce her mental load.

•  Bold moments: Let her watch me shower and initiated quickie sex in the garage.

Results: She’s more flirty, receptive, and affectionate. Our sex life is hotter, and we both feel more connected. Small, consistent efforts really make a difference.

Looking for more ideas that have worked for others!

44M married 17 years to 44F - other ways to spice up?


Ferri is on my top list too. Ive read lots of reviews on Reddit


I got one… 😳


It’s a fun edging tool that can be used together or while apart. Not enough to get my wife to orgasm, but plenty good to get her juicy.


Hi there. There are many great products out there, but I really like my [Rubjoy](https://www.mysextoyguide.com/rubjoy-pleasure-robot-review/). I met the super friendly owner [at this year's AVN Expo](https://www.mysextoyguide.com/avn-expo-2026/). His presentation was so great that I crowned them best in show, and I bought Rubjoy after I came back from Las Vegas. I talked with support several times about some questions, and they always been quick to reply.

What I like: It gives the most realistic handjobs I experienced so far. It also has an excellent hands-free setup. Basically you sit on a plate and let the robot arm do all the work. What I don't like: It's a bit pricey at $300, but I do think it's worth the money.


I have a [review of Solace here if you're interested](https://www.sextoymagazine.com/lovense-solace-review/).

Still more than happy with my unit.


The Vacuglide 2 and Nimble Stroker are my favorites.


The Keon2 that just launched is probably the best on the market for what you’re paying. I did a writeup on the Keon 1 here ([Keon Review](https://rockymountaintoyreview.com/kiiroo-keon-review/)). The Keon2 is close to the same price, but it’s compatible with pretty much any sleeve or stroker you want to use.

Long term, you can add vibration, suction, and it syncs with the Meta Quest 3 directly if you want to go the VR route.


Picked up one of these and have been enjoying it, comes all apart for easy cleaning! https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0F4KHZ1YV?


What country are you in? That will affect the answers.


I always prefer official stores if possible (like I order Womanizer on their official web site and Lelo on theirs).


I don’t recommend bellesa. Search this sub for lots of reviews.

Shevibe.com and peepshowtoys.com are my favorites. Shevibe has many custom-designs with uberrime, peepshowtoys carries SquarePegToys and Solina, both amazing brands.


Re: Bellesa - I've loved their Air Vibe Pro but the thrusting one has been largely a miss for me.

Good Vibrations (goodvibes.com) has been good to me in the past, and I've looked into love honey a bit?


I’ve had good luck with Adam & Eve.  www.adameve.com
Just spend like $17 and then you get a lot of extra stuff for free and I believe like $65ish and it’s free shipping.  They also have brick and mortar stores but you get better deals online.


FWIW, I wouldn’t buy a truck load of toys


And learn what lubes are safe with what kinds of toys and condoms. No silicone based lube with silicone toys.


I know I'm late to this post but can you elaborate? I've been told oil based is better than water but Ive never heard about silicone based. Why shouldn't they mix?


Rather than recommend stores, I'm going to recommend a comic. Check out Erika Moen's Oh Joy Sex Toy. Once upon a time, it was almost exclusively toy reviews. Those are still up and not old enough to be totally useless. These days the reviews are less common, but she does have a good list of stores to buy from.

I want to echo the other poster in warning you not to buy a ton of things at once. Buy something, play with it a bit, and learn how it could be better suited to your needs. Then, find a replacement that's more to your liking.

Be prepared to "waste" a lot of money on toys you don't end up liking, especially when buying online. It's plenty common to see a toy on a store's website that looks perfect, only to discover that it's too firm or floppy or girthy or whatever. If you're _very_ lucky, there might be a quality sex toy shop near you, or at least one that sells good brands in addition to bad.


OJST is a wonderful wonderful resource for so many things, I reference it all the time, among friends or if I'm rec'ing a specific kind of toy/play/kink to someone.


Depends on the country you are in. In Australia, I have always found places like sexyland.com.au to be very good. Even the chatbot thing actually seems to go to a real person and is very helpful. Plus they offer a 2-hour shipping in most areas.


Best in AMZ


If you’re in the US, I highly recommend [Peepshow Toys](https://www.peepshowtoys.com/?rfsn=7172572.0efe01) as they only carry toys made with body safe materials - that way you know everything you’re getting is safe to use!

As far as Bellesa, I’ve read that their toys can really be hit or miss. They’re known because of their strong influencer marketing measures, and I’ve not tried any of their toys to know whether I’d recommend them or not.

If you’re interested in reading and/or watching reviews to help find toys that might be of interest, I write reviews on my [blog](https://sydneyscreams.com/category/blog/) and have video reviews on [YouTube](https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCEkgp7ue-e4VgckhwAAppCQ).


I’ve shopped from The Sex Shed couple of times now. Love the selection, there is a lot of stuff and categories but some are filled with not a lot of products which makes me think there is some thought given to selection. Customer service is also VERY good. ☝


Wow ty 🥰


I can recommend toy demon for male toys enough. NPG brand specifically is top tier and my theory on why Japanese population is dropping LOL


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i've heard good things about intimate-elegance, they seem to have a nice selection and focus on quality. also, checking out some user reviews can help you get the scoop on what's really worth it!


Hi. I would just buy a simple sleeve and go from there. They are cheap so it won't be a big investment. Arcwave is selling the [Ghost sleeve](https://www.mysextoyguide.com/arcwave-ghost-review/) for like 10 bucks. It's made of body-safe silicone and has a great texture.


I'll always recommend bad dragon toys. I have I think 9 now and they are great. I had fleshlights before these but after a few minutes they kinda feel like mush to me. I'll still use them every once in a while for a more loose stretchy feel but bad dragon makes some amazing toys. They are more into fantasy kind of stuff. If you have any questions about certain ones I can maybe help you. I wouldn't recommend sugar star tho. Wayyy to tight.


Thoughts on sizing bd toys?


What do you mean? Like how large the toys are or tightness?


Tightness


They vary a lot n there was a tightness chart that was around a few years ago that had everything in categories but I don't think it's been updated in a while. Are you looking at a specific one? I might have it. But they have loose toys all the way to black holes that will make your dick fall off haha.


Which is the least tight in your collection?


Probably dukes muzzle.


Mine was a thrust ultra pro Chloe was amazing i prefer the longer ones as im hung , but that one looks ok


My first toy was a Tori Black Fleshlight.  My collection has grown a lot since then.


I'm not going to tell you that you're wrong, overthinking, anything like that...all I can say is that they are an addition to your play. We have quite a [few Kiiroo strokers](https://offers.feeliate.com/?offer=1&uid=019bea77-dc28-72f5-b02c-758d7c321309&url=https://www.kiiroo.com/collections/strokers), and to be honest, I enjoy using them on him from time to time. They're great for when I'm on my period or when I want a little assistance during oral. They're fun, and you do get over the initial look of the toy, whether its a vagina, ass, or mouth...although those are my least favorite. They, meaning Kiiroo, have some great non-anatomic options as well. Fleshlight has a good, "mini" version called Quickshots. These are fun because [they're open-ended and ours is clear](https://www.pntra.com/t/8-9789-208515-107783?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.adameve.com%2Fadult-sex-toys%2Fmale-masturbators%2Ffleshlight%2Fsp-fleshlight-quickshot-mia-malkova-vagina-ass-109440.aspx), so I can watch him slide thru and when he comes, it's fun to toy with him. If you're not up for giving him a blowjob to get lubed up, make sure you also grab a water-based lube.

Hitachi Wands are VERY powerful if you haven't used one before, so the stroker might be a good start and then you can explore from there. Hope this helps, happy to answer any questions you might have!!


I’ve used a few strokers before. It’s a fun novelty but I would choose real pussy 100 times out of 100. I think you have nothing to worry about.

FWIW I’ve been with my wife almost 20 years. We have plenty of toys and use at least one of them almost every time we have sex. I feel like they add lots of fun and variety but I wouldn’t say we are “dependent” on them.


You will never be replaced by a stroker. A big part of partnered sex is your partner's reactions - strokers don't provide that.

Think about if your desire for your partner could be diminished by a toy. It's the same thing.


Yes it's like different experiences but nothing like actual partnered sex. And partnered sex with toys just adds/mixes different flavors in, makes things fun in different ways.


There are mini magic wands from Hitachi and others, which might be ok for you, or if it's still too intense, try indirect touch, to the side of your labia perhaps, or against your - or his - fingers to lessen the effect.

I don't think (as a guy) a stroker could ever feel better than the real thing, but you might be able to offer different sensations for him by rotating it - or sucking his balls out grinding on his face while you slide it up and down (almost a threesome sensation without another woman involved).

Going down the paranoia route here, are you worried he feels like you're "too loose and relaxed", or too wet perhaps ? Using a butt plug yourself would change the pressure for him, as well as increasing the sensation in different areas for you.


Someone on here said, "if you can be replaced by a sex toy, then the sex toy isn't the problem." and I 100% agree.


Honest that was the best comment I’ve ever read on this page lol.


This is false and used as a scare tactic to stop someone from using sex toys.


Wait, what?


Yes I said something like that on a different sub recently [https://www.reddit.com/r/womanizer/comments/1ucu27x/comment/ot9pb2v/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/womanizer/comments/1ucu27x/comment/ot9pb2v/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)

I think its a valid fear, as in, i get how someone might think that, but if you're both approaching it like adding variety and fun and spice and you already have a great relationship its actually healthy. But if one like, objectifies the other and sex is not part of a deeper relationship, maybe yes, maybe a toy can threaten that.


Have your toys replaced your bf in bed? Do you prefer your toys over your bf? Have your toys diminished the pleasure you get in bed?

Apply your concerns to sex toys you have purchased for yourself.


Toys are tools. Would you rather your vibe on your own, or your vibe with your husband? Do you really think your husband would prefer a fleshlight by himself to you doing ANYTHING with him?


As much as I like using my Fleshlights and other toys, I will choose my wife’s pussy 100% is the time. A warm pussy is better than any sex toy I’ve used.


This is essentially the same comment I was going to make. Pussy always wins. Always.


The tenga puffy series is nice for using with a partner bc you can like squish it down and use it with blowjobs or squeeze it to change up the handjob experience. I recommended it to a lot of couples when I worked in a shop


I’m happy to have an in depth chat in messages if you’d like and I can give you some tips from when I used to work in shops


Get the alien fleshlight that doesn't look real at all.


Xenocat Artifacts has some alien themes ones.

Tenga has some strokers that don't look like body parts at all.


What about those crazy vampire and zombie Fleshlights, too???


Fleshlight does have "non-anatomical" options as well, including some crazy monster/alien-looking stuff.

And the Death Star.

lolol


Pick a store to purchase a Dleshlight from and buy a gift card to that store. Let him know it’s for his Fiedhlight and let him pick it out himself and order. Give him the website Forsh Assist to help him learn more.

As far as what you like him to have and how you view it…. That’s for you to work out in therapy lol. Let him enjoy what he likes.


He meant fleshlight, fleshlight, and fleshassist


Thanks for that! Totally missed


You made a reddit post about it. Definitely overthinking it


I used to feel this same way. It's insecurity for the most part. Toys are our friends, not our enemies, BUT *anything* can be abused to the point of harming a relationship. Just depends on the person I suppose.

If it makes you feel any better, I bought my husband a pocket pussy with various parts recently. Even told him he could tuck it between my legs and watch porn and use it if he wanted lmao. He has yet to use it. I asked why recently because we've been doing a lot of stretching/fisting play, so there's times where I'm a bit gaped and I know he's not getting much sensation. He says he'd still rather be inside of me vs the toy. 🤷♀


My husband is quite sexual; his sex drive is much higher than mine. He owns quite a few different fleshlights and strokers (some  he bought, some I bought for him), and I've had conversations with him on whether he still uses them or not. He told me he does now and again; however, he 1000% prefers having sex with me over using a toy. It's one thing just inserting it into a toy and another sensation when it's someone he loves (is how he puts it).

As you stated, you only want it to enhance. Then only use sex toys for this fact. If you feel like you're using it too much and its no longer enjoyable, then voice that to him. The idea is to make sex enjoyable; who knows, you might find something you enjoy.

From what I am getting from your post, it seems like you do have personal insecurities; that's okay. None of us wants to feel inadequate or replaceable by someone we love. If you feel like you need it, therapy can help; however, I promise you, a sex toy won't ruin your sex life as long as you two have open communication about it.


"Fleshlight" has become the common word for any stroker. When most people say "Fleshlight" they mean "any sex toy you put your penis into." You could confirm if he's dead-set on that brand, but you'd probably be fine getting any nondescript stroker.


That's a good point. like Kleenex. Some phenomenal strokers out there that also aren't "strokers" in that you don't need to stroke or they don't stroke, but do suction plus vibration, or suction and vibration and heat, etc.


Girl in the most loving way it’s not that serious its a piece of silicone


I suppose it depends on the person...... i have a high sex drive compared to my wife.... and after having kids her went down significantly...... i started with fleshlights as well and on occasion she would use them on me and watch when i use them as well.. to combat not having sex as much..... started with 2 and over the yrs i built quite a collection..... but  still even though I have the those i still prefer my wife over the toys .....


Relax. I buy my fiancé bigger dildos than my dick. Huge ones. Why? Because I want to see her explode and climb the sheets. That’s my #1. She loves sex with me. Not only because of my dick but because I focus on her.

You need to change your perspective on pleasure. You’re not getting replaced, you are adding more pleasure to your sex life. Your goal should be to bring pleasure up and explore.


Just give him a handjob.


Doesn't have to be one or the other. If one isn't in the mood, they may not even be in the mood to do this, and that should be ok, so nice to have an alternative option


I've used them and they feel good. But they aren't an alternative to a person, and they are a bit awkward to use.


As you are his partner, do what makes him feel good. As a male myself, a fleshlight is easily one of the best toys I've ever used. Depending on the one you get, they can feel really good. If the female is insecure about it being like a vagina, then try and either make a clone one or find a fleshlight that is very similar to the real vagina. A lot of couples on the fleshlight thread do this and the ones with the stick tend to then prefer their partner because it feels more real.

At the end of the day, its a toy not a human being. You wouldn't get mad at a wheelchair carrying your significant other. Its aid not substitution. Thank you for your time.


I had to recheck some of the details to make sure this wasn’t about me (it’s definitely not)

My wife and I have a fairly large collection of toys that we love to use together. These are couples toys like cock rings etc. or dildos, vibrators. We have a wonder sex life playing around with these and with each other.

However, I bought a male stroker at one stage thinking it would be fun, especially when we’re apart and wanting some distance play. She fucking hates that thing!

Even she knows that it’s an unreasonable position but she struggles to get over it. I keep it around be because I think couples should have reasonable boundaries and she isn’t being rational. Although, I haven’t even been asked to get rid of it because, again, not entirely rational.

The point I’m getting to though is that I don’t bother with the stroker because the fun has been taken out of it. It was just supposed to be a bit of extra fun, not any kind of replacement for my wife. Your partner might enjoy playing with a range of toys but, if you love one and other, these toys are an additive to your sex life, not a substitute.


How big is the canal that you enter? I'm 5.5 inches girth and have issues with toys being too tight.


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Post title: A Faithful Husband’s Ode to His Wife’s Intimacy

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LOOKING AT MY WIFE'S VAGINA

"That was beautiful" his wife told him as she was catching her breath as they made love.

She had just had an orgasm. He hadn't. He was still rock solid hard.

He kissed her.

"I love you" he said.

"I love you too. I am so wet. I can't even feel my legs" she said.

He kissed her then went down on her.

"What are you doing? Please don't lick me hun. I can't take any more pleasure. I have never cum that fast" she said placing her hand on his head.

He looked up at her and said, "I am not licking you, I am looking"

"Looking?" She asked.

"Yes hun. Looking. I want to admire your vagina" he said as he spread her legs, his head leaning on his hand.

"Why are you doing that?" She asked.

"Because your vagina is beautiful. My love, you know this is the most sacred and intimate part of you. This part of your body needs special attention" he said.

He kissed her vagina.

She sighed then giggled.

"Look at her, still open. Hollow. No wonder it feels good inside you. Your sweet spot takes up all my size well" he said.

"I love your size. Nicely long. Nicely thick" she said looking down at what he was doing.

He blew at her vagina. She curled her feet.

"The Bible says Abraham knew his wife. I want to know all of you. I can't have your vagina for only me and not know and study how beautiful she looks. She looks so beautiful" he said.

He licked her there.

"Honey, I thought we agreed. No licking, at least for now. Let my sweet pot calm down" she told him.

He paused and looked at her saying, "Sorry love. She just looks so tasty. I can't get enough of her"

He faced down to look at her vagina.

"Thank you for taking care of her. For shaving her just for me. I really enjoy her" he continued.

"She enjoys you too" she said romantically.

"She enjoys me or you enjoy me?" He asked jokingly.

She giggled and said, "I enjoy what you do to her and in her"

"The vagina. God is really a great God. Look how beautiful he created the female body - your female body. I can stare at you naked all day" he said stroking her inner thighs, looking at her vagina.

"I feel so safe with you" she told him, rubbing his ear lobes.

"I feel so safe with you too. We are like Adam and Eve at the Garden of Eden, naked and unashamed" he told her.

"A man shall leave his father and mother and join his wife and the two become one flesh" she added.

"One flesh, I like that. Yours is the one vagina that I want and I desire. All your sweetness and wetness" he said then kissed her vagina.

"I love how you kiss her" she told him.

"The vagina, husbands break their homes chasing after other women's vaginas; women break their own marriages giving their vaginas to other men. Sex. It's so abused today. Men will lie, pour money, scheme just to get inside a vagina. That female spot is so mysterious" he said.

"You are so poetic. What did you eat tonight?" She asked jokingly.

He smiled and continued, "To me, no other vagina will do. It has to be your vagina and your vagina alone. It's not just a spot for pleasure but the entrance to your inner world. Making love to you is so sacred and special to me. I don't understand how a man can be unfaithful to his wife, it's not about a vagina but which woman the vagina belongs to. I will not cheapen sex; we don't have sex, we make love"

"Lick me!" she requested.

He raised his head to look at her.

"Lick me my love! Your faithfulness is turning me on. I love how you view me and love me, I surrender my body to only you" she said.

He took his head down and licked her above her vagina as he grabbed her butt.

She started to moan.

She got wet again. Minutes later he came on top of her and made love to her. This time he orgasmed.

A true husband is faithful to that one vagina, his wife's vagina.

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Well that was the weirdest thing I'll read this week.


Wish I could scroll back before this 😂


You’re gonna want that $55 back from the adult learning centre for that creative writing course you took.


If JD Vance’s face was erotica…


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Try Lovehoney. I've purchased quite a few toys from them over the years and they've always been great plus they have a pretty extensive range too.🌺


Thanks for the heads up!💫


They cash in on doing refunds all the time and sales as well as giveaways, so people love them a buy a lot, but i have 2 of their small bullets that i won. The first one started making a SUPER loud annoying sound, emailed them, sent one out immediately after i told them, and now its making the same HORRIFIC sound.


Lovense plugs are good! If you want other phone-remote ones We-Vibe has Vector as well.


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I would recommend überlube, it’s silicone based and has a neutral flavor. I’ve tried many different lubes and this is my favorite cause it’s a bit oily so you don’t need much and lasts long so no need to re-apply much!


That sounds perfect, thank you!


Fyi, silicone based lubes are not compatible with most condoms so if you use condoms then don't use this.


Thank you- what about silicon toys?


No silicone lube with silicone toys.    Water based only. Best way.


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My wife and I like Aloe Cadabra for water based lube.  It doesn't have the disgusting smell and taste of other readily available lubes.


Highly recommend Uberlube! Love that stuff. No taste. Texture is smooth as silk. My husband and I don’t need condoms so no worry there.


Try a dildo. Experiment with different toys. Find out what works for YOU. Maybe try one with a suction cup? Once you find the right one you’ll want more. One is never enough.


A lot of young women have a very intimate relation with their hair brush, sharpie pen or whatever. A silicon dildo would be more hygienic. It also seem like penetration is an acquired taste. Some need a bit of self exploration before it's pleasurable.


Mine was a small perfectly shaped lotion bottle. 🫣🫠


try one with a suction cup, because you can just stick it to a wall or the floor and bounce on it or grind


Whenever someone asks about first-time toys, I always recommend starting with a bullet vibe or a smaller vibrator. EdenFantasys makes a [great bullet called the Tickler Smoothie](https://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/bullet-vibrators/tickler-smoothie?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP), which never fails to get me off, and they have a G Spot vibe that, while on the smaller side of toys, is great for first-time G Spot play [called Ooh La-La. ](https://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/g-spot-vibrators/oohlala?utm_source=eden-partner&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=plink&utm_content=22UP&utm_term=#pcode-22UP)The reason I like bullets and smaller vibes for beginners is that it gives you a little taste of what these types of toys can do for you, and you can build on your collection and change your experience as you grow.

Hope that makes a little sense. If you have any questions, I'm happy to answer.


If you have pain or anything with finger inserts it may be too much to use a dildo but if it's just because your hands have limited functionality I'd say might as well give it a try. If you are keen to clitoral stimulus you may want an external vibrator to use beforehand to kind of loosen and prepare your vagina and pelvic muscles. I'm 21 and a virgin and I loveeee my dildos. I also struggle with the back and forth motion but I've found that for me I can just kinda hold one in there and use clit stimulation and it intensifies my orgasms a lot. There's nothing wrong with trying and then never using it again or wanting a vibrator first. You know yourself best and it can be very empowering to learn what feels the best to you.


Get a dildo to try out the sensation but don’t expect it to be a go-to or a toy you love. I personally do not find enjoyment in dildos because if I do it on my back it’s hard to get the motion right and i haven’t got the knees to be bobbing on the floor. I do enjoy anal stimulation with dildos and plenty of lube as that just feels better for me.

 I honestly prefer rumbly vibrators over buzzy vibrators (my fave is the fun factory vim from desirel.com for less than £40).

I also wouldn’t recommend a rose toy or any other air pulse as a first toy as it can be a tricky sensation to get used to and these toys are dependent on anatomy to get a good seal and remain pleasurable.


No not at all have to start somewhere and a dildo safest place to start


The Maia Nala wand is a fairly similar size and shape, if you don’t mind a sea-foam green kind of color. It’s one of the most powerful I’ve felt and I work at a sex shop, so I’ve felt quite a few. My favorite part about the Nala wand is that almost none of the vibration transfers to the handle, so your hand won’t go numb while using it lol


Additionally, you can try the Nu Sensuelle brand. We don’t carry a lot of their product in my shop due to distribution nonsense, so I can’t give an exact recommendation there, but their brand actually markets itself on having many different intensities of vibration from minimal to maximal — they have a color coded system and everything. I’ve not had any bad reviews on their products that we *have* carried, so think that’s a pretty good option as well


Sorta side note, have you looked into r/Mindgasm for learning how to have multiple prostate-based orgasms (no refractory time)? toys aren't even needed and the orgasms can be far more intense, certainly more in number in one session, even withougt any physical stimulation. Learned this a few years ago.


I've tried it with toys without luck. But for now I have to have an anal fissure repaired. I'm on my way to the surgeon now

Thank you for the suggestion.


ouch! If you're interested in trying again sometime make sure you join the discord if you hadn't before and ask questions or get someone to help with where it's not working for you; lotsa good people there. not sure if you're onboard for it or if it's possible where you are, but adding in even a very little THC can make a world of difference. Just thinking of ways you can continue enjoying orgasms with very little or no physical stimulation, im confident this will continue to work for me even if/when penile stimulation isnt.


Have you tried tingling lubes and glides? It might help heighten sensation


I'm willing to try but I don't know what they are. Thanks.


If you’re willing to go to your local toy shop that’s where you’re going to get the best deal and probably a bunch of pillow packs to try. Popular ones at the stores I work at are both Intimate Earth: Instense, Mojo Peruvian Ginseng, and Mojo Horny Goat Weed.


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No, dildos do not normally hurt.

First, make sure you are adequately lubed up. Some people produce more natural lube than others, so don't hesitate to use some extra lube if you need to. Second, make sure you're aroused first. Just ramming something inside is not going to feel good. Get in the mood, start thinking sexy thoughts, rub at your clit, take things slow.

If you've never experimented with inserting things, there is going to be at least a brief adjustment period as you get the hang of it. If it still doesn't feel good even after being careful and slow and using plenty of lube, you may want to talk to your OBGYN about the possibility of vaginismus; its a fairly common condition that can make penetration painful or difficult.


It sounds like you're just too tight for the thing. Nothing wrong with that. Dildos and other insertion toys come in various sizes. Try buying something smaller.

If you go super small and still have pain, go to a doctor. There are a number of possible issues, almost all of them easy to fix.

Good luck!


I am assuming you're just trying to be encouraging, but issues like vaginismus are not "easy to fix" and that's bad info to be giving out. It almost always takes a long term, multidisciplinary approach and is hardly ever easy. Not impossible, but not easy by any means.


You are putting words in my mouth. Please don't.


Lube, relax, take your time. Start with your finger and don't think it has to go in all the way.

FYI, often dildos do not do much for a female beyond providing a sensation of fullness

You should always wash a new toy with warm soapy water and let it sit dry if possible before trying to use it.

It is also possible for you to have an issue which requires going to see a gynecologist.

Just give yourself time and relax. Porn makes it seem effortless, it isn't. .


Using a dildo, gradually reduce its use and explore other forms of sexual pleasure, such as manual stimulation or focusing on different erogenous zones. Build intimacy through non-sexual activities and consider mindfulness or meditation to become more attuned to your body's responses.


Way to not read the post


Here is an informational r/sex post on [Experiencing Female Sexual Pain](https://www.reddit.com/user/skahammer/comments/18lnorn/rsex_faqs_experiencing_female_sexual_pain/). There’s some very good introductory information in there.


See a Pelvic floor therapist  to reduce tightness in your vagina.


Look up dilators a theorist recommended that to my ex and it helped her


Lots of lube, get yourself really turned on first so youre relaxed and ready for lack of a better description, go slowly and if its still too painful. You may need a smaller one to start.


I would suggest if you're generally new to inserting things, to get a vaginal dilator set. I bought one and it helped me out IMMENSELY! Also remember to use lots of lube and watch some porn.


How was the process like? I just got my set but nervous to start because of how painful it’s been.


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Haven't seen it mentioned here.  What is it made of, and does it have a strong chemical smell?

My wife and I brought home a toy once that gave her chemical burns like 30 seconds in.

We were excited, ignored the smell coming off the thing, and she paid the price.

Google sex toys and phthalate.  They exist, but they shouldnt.


I had the same thought. Those free toys are often made out of terrible material like jelly.


Free toys are usually crappy materials. I bought my first rabbit, and the material felt like flexible plastic. My girl parts hated it even with lube.

Silicone toys are my favorite and feel more like skin, which, in my opinion, makes them more comfortable. They usually cost more as well. The first toy i actually liked was a  g spot toy called the Harmonia by Close2you.


Isn’t a rabbit a vibrator?


It's a dildo with a vibrator that also stimulates the clitoris.


I got the same free rabbit from Adam and Eve and it’s very textured. Maybe try something more slippery and smooth like a glass one.


You most likely have a very small V…. Though your boyfriend/husband will appreciate that, it call come with some difficulty. LOTS of lube! I had an ex girlfriend who had a very small V and I have a pretty large P so it caused a lot of issues


What the fuck is this answer??? Gross and just total misinformation.


If it's searing pain, I would go to a doctor first even before trying smaller dildos.  And one person mentioned this already, but possibly ask about vaginismus.


You could consider trying dilators. See if you can get a really tight one in and try to work your way up.


If you’re bored of it then hit the gym chill on the toy idea and build your social life.

A toy is meant to enhance your life a bit not fill a void

Tengas are great products but they aren’t gonna give you a 10x, that’s just not realistic


Probably could've worded it differently. I know it's not gonna be the same as sex but just to amp me up a bit more lol

It sucks thet my libido has kind of gone down since my teens and early 20s. I used to masturbate every day but it's only better if I wait two or three weeks which is like meh


Libido decreasing a bit is natural but 1-2x a month for a guy in his late 20s isn’t

A spinner is cheap so I wouldn’t say don’t buy it but your post says to me you are actually looking for something different that can’t be bought


Tenga just don't make very durable products. Bought one before and it tore after cleaning it and ended up in the bin.

You want something which is made of silicone which would cost considerably more.


I just bought the egg just to see what it's like even if it only lasts one time, I don't expect it to be remotely the real thing but if it's better than my hand I'm happy with that.


I have one and its great if u wanna dm I can show u size and give a review if u want


I love tenga products. The flip series are my faves. A lil more money but easy to clean and they last a good while.

Tip. Make sure you let these things dry out fully before putting them away, or else you are gonna find black dots on it sooner or later (mold)


if any doubts, put a condom on it. personally, i have yet to hear the first case of cancer vag, from using any toys of any material


Try the Internet for sex toys if you're too shy to actually go to a sex shop.   I highly recommend "The Realistic Executive".  It's only 5 inches and not too thick. I had one because it looks exactly like a replica oh my cock. I had a lot of fun with it. I joked that if anyone would tell me to go fuck myself I could actually go fuck myself.


Unfortunately that dildo is made of PVC with is not body-safe. 😢


Can I recommend [my post for people new to anal play](https://www.reddit.com/r/SexToys/comments/1gs7hk1/are_you_new_to_anal_play_some_info_and_tips/). I answers many of the common questions that anal play beginners have and talks about what to look for in a first toy.


I'd start with something with 1,25" diameter or less, and platinum cured silicone. Avoid TPE materials that are not body safe.

The shop depends on your location, but avoid Amazon if you can, their products have fake descriptions. Some here likes Fukena that have plenty of choice.


Find a small size butt plug. Glass one with lube is easy for insertion. [fairy-curved-glass-wand](https://luveden.com/products/fairy-curved-glass-wand)


Personally, I recommend the [Amazon Starter](https://a.co/d/0dcavpEB) dildo


Unfortunately that dildo does not have a large enough base for safe anal play, but more importantly it is made of TPE which is not body safe for internal use. 😢


I've been using it without issue 🤷


I am genuinely glad you have not had any issues. The problem is that an individual experience does not determine whether something is safe.

TPE is porous, so bacteria and fungi accumulate within the material over time and cannot be completely cleaned away. That increases the risk of irritation and infection with repeated use. Someone might have a problem on the second use, the tenth, the hundredth, or never if they are fortunate. The fact that you have not experienced a problem yet does not mean the risk is not there.


You're supposed to use a condom when you use them. It's recommended not to use it without one


A latex condom will not make a TPE or PVC toy safe. TPE and PVC contain oils (usually mineral oil) which will degrade the condom within a few minutes. This leaves microtears in the condom (too small to be seen by the naked eye) that allow the bacteria/fungus/plasticizers to pass right through the condom as if it isn't even there.

Most polyurethane condoms will hold up to the oils but their high cost per use usually make it cheaper to just replace the non-body-safe PVC/TPE toy with a body-safe silicone one.


Their Tail Raiser (smallest is 75) is probably a little too thick for you, I haven’t worn it that long but with the 90 it seems plenty secure. You *may* have luck with a Squarepegtoys Egg plug staying in a little better than the Gapekeeper, but no guarantee if having issue with the GK staying in


I've gotten a lot of nice G-spot vibrators, but I've still been looking for my Goldilocks vibrator for years. They need to be curved, more dramatically curved than bulbous. Very firm with next to no give. Decent battery life, although... I'd always buy more if I needed to. Not shorter than 5", not narrower than 1.25", but not bigger than 1.5". Strong. And yet that's so hard to find somehow??? Like , companies have been making vibrators for so many years, and a lot of those stay on the market for years. I go to SheVibe literally once a month or more to see if any new ones meet this criteria, and if I think there's a shot they will, they go into my collection immediately, only to end up not being perfect.

My all-time FAVORRIIITTEE G-spot vibrator is the Bangin' AF vibrator by Blush. It's the perfect dimensions and beautifully, beautifully, beautifully and perfectly curved. But the issue I have with it is that it's so so so so weak there might as well be no vibrations from it at all. It can really only be used as a dildo, and what's the point? What am I supposed to do, fuck myself?? ...Ha.

I've tried the Pillowtalk Sassy, and it hurt. I've tried the Lovense Hyphy, and it's my least favorite vibrator I own, and that's REALLY saying something because I own so many. The Turbo Chroma by CalExotics is the closest to being a second favorite, but it is so so so short that it's hard to hold because there ends up being (TMI warning) no handle when I try to use it in a way that's deep enough. Those are just the ones I can think of at the top of my head, but I've easily tried 7+, and have easily sorted through hundreds.

I've searched all of the major vibrator brands that I know of - SheVibe, Spectrum Boutique, Love Honey, Peepshow Toys, etc.. I've even tried going to individual brand's websites to see if they have something there not commonly offered at the other websites. (Like, checking Biird's, Blush's, etc. websites.) And still... Nada. No goldilocks.

So ... What gives?????? Does anyone have any other sites I haven't checked?

WHY is it so hard to find the perfect G-spot vibrator!!!!


Hi there, I’m 20TF. I’ve dabbled in sex toys before but for me other than plugs they’ve either been too much work or not really stimulating enough.

So I thought about trying something new. Specifically a vibrating plug specifically for my… anatomy.

I’ve found a few on Amazon, only brands I recognise are lovense and love honey. And with the prime day sale I might be able to get a decent quality one for relatively cheap.

I think this one might be decent: https://amzn.eu/d/0ciWFhNW

Any input is appreciated.

Looking for prostate massager plugs.


Hello, I’ve been looking for a good quality ejaculating dildo for my partner. We’ve bought one from love honey and it’s broken then they sent a replacement but that one broke too. So I was wondering if you guys have any suggestions on good quality and well made ones. Thanks so much!!

Looking for a good ejaculating dildo


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Looking to get the love honey unicorn dildo


So I bought a love honey rose about 3 months ago and i think it's broken, i charge it and the light blinks like it should but the charging never ends and when I try it it works for about 3 seconds before shutting off.

 It's like 3 months old so the battery shouldn't have a problem i'm not sure what to do :( i'm thinking maybe the charger has a problem that makes the charging extremely slow? Maybe i stepped on it?

Did anyone ever have this problem? How did you fix it?

I think my love honey rose is broken :(


I have just ordered a brand new romp x love honey switch x clitoral suction stimulator I have never used a clit toy have any of you girls used one have own and could let me know your experiences. Thank you im advanced lovies xx

New toy question for the girls


I’m not new to toys but only tried one previous remote one that was no good so threw it away, my partner wanted to try something like this again and I saw a love honey 40% off one full priced toy or product and after scrolling reviews of the other we vibe products we opted for the sync go. Has anyone had good experiences with this or is there a better option from we vibe? I have a VCH piercing too so not sure if that’ll impede its function in any way as I can’t use certain toys like a rose or other suction based stims with it

I did see a small amount of reviews that it’s terrible with lube but lube is an absolute must for me I use the love honey hybrid one it’s water based but acts like silicone based - I have some autoimmune issues so my eyes, sinuses mouth and cooch get very DRY 🥲

Thanks for any useful tips or suggestions!

We Vibe Sync Go opinions/use with piercings


I’m a recently disabled woman with declining stamina and at present cannot have typical intercourse.  However I want to maintain intimacy with my partner and of course he’s keen for that too.
I’m considering what I believe is called a stroker as an entry into the sex toy market.
Seeking opinions from both of our points of view if possible, and also some specific products.
I’ve looked at Love Honey Head Honcho but am open to what I purchase.
Thank you 🙏

Beginner strokers


I bought a Satisfyor Pro a few years ago (4) from Amazon. It burned out within minutes. Suspect it was a fake. I'll buy directly from the website next time. My Love Honey pink vibrator burned out from too much use. The Hitachi was good but I threw it away before I moved one time due to not wanting to bring it with me. Just use a cheap rose toy. What is the best one?

Hitachi versus Satisfyor Pro?


Every year, I build my wife a treasure chest of goodies for our anniversary. From her favorite snacks, to clothes, makeup, jewelry, and at least one sex toy. The last few years have been various dildo's from Bad Dragon. Her favorite toy was a vibrator bunny looking thing (I don't remember what it's called) but she always used that one specifically when she would masturbate and used it almost only for clit stimulation and never really inserted it.

It died last year after like 8 years of use and so I bought her a Honey Pistil Tongue Vibrator from The Bad Peach. She likes it, but doesn't love it as she rarely uses it and definitely prefers the vibrator.

So that brings me here. The womanizer or the hitachi wand? And where's the best place to buy the hitachi? There seems to be so many variations?

Should I buy my wife the womanizer or the hitachi wand for our anniversary?


My favorite sex toys so far (and I've tried a ton) are:

the fortexa kinky finger rabbit vibrator

I love the way it taps the top of my clit.

sucking vibrator tongue toy from Amazon.

ruby rocks off it doesn't make me numb and hits the right c spot on my mound. I hate my Hitachi because it makes me numb,  and I kind of give myself forced awful annoying not satisfying orgasms with it.

sort of like, sort of dislike

the love honey squeel rotating tongues except I hate that it stops when I press against it!

mooligirl rose sex toy, nice tapping sensation but need the fortexa on top of my c spot to get off and mooli girl on u spot to get off at the same time

things I've figured out:

I used the old womanizer w100 or whatever and could sort of get off but it barely had any settings? not sure if I like air pulse toys or if I should get the womanizer premium 2 with more settings? or is it a waste of money if I like tapping and rotating toys mostly?

I tend to not love insertion and prefer external toys and oral or fingering type toys. or grinding toys.

Recommend me fingering or oral sex or grinding toys for my clit!